I have an issue: ever since I was a little girl, I always masturbated with my clothes, on my stomach, hand between panties and jeans, pressing hard. Of course, I didn't realize it was masturbation until I hit middle school, but it gives you a frame of reference as to how long I've been doing this.
Until I went to college, I never even tried masturbating any other way. It just never occurred to me! So we're talking at LEAST 15 years of me doing the same thing every time.
Here's the issue: I still prefer to be on my stomach with pressure when I masturbate. At least 90% of the time, without even thinking about it, I will flip on to my stomach and finish up that way. It's frustrating, because I feel like I'm really limiting myself, but I am DEFINITELY a creature of habit and routine (OCD), so it's tough for me to break out.
What I'm really asking is this: I always hear people say, "You'll get acclimated to masturbating one way and you'll have to fix it," but they never say how to fix it!!!
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^ Also, I should add that this also kind of alters my sex life with my partners: I get rather annoyed if, say, I'm in missionary with a man and he's not putting a lot of weight on me, or if I'm performing oral on a woman while I'm lying on my back.
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2 months ago
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Wow. I've had a rather similar experience, except it never even occurred to be to touch my genitals. I simply humped stuff. Only in the last few years have messed around with my vagina.
Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
I have an issue: ever since I was a little girl, I always masturbated with my clothes, on my stomach, hand between panties and jeans, pressing hard. Of course, I didn't realize it was masturbation until I hit middle school, but it gives you a frame...
I still find my self humping a hard carpet floor at times (ZOMGTMI!). Oddly, I enjoy pressing my clitoral area on the floor/bed really hard. I can't imagine that's healthy, but it's satisfies me for some reason.
I think, simply, you just have to keep practicing alternative ways of masturbation. Even if you don't get off, try manual stimulation. So, basically, I'm no help at all. You're not alone, though. Reply
2 months ago
I was also of the humping school of masturbating. I think you just need to try it other ways until you find something else that works for you, too. Practice makes perfect. Truthfully, when I masturbate with toys I tend to do more grinding than thrusting or relying on vibrators, maybe that helps?
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2 months ago
I love my fingers. I don't get why -- it's not as romantic and as slow, or sensuous, or 'self love' as some people write it is, for me, but I love it. For me, it's my 'get it done!' move. So, for me, anything involving sex toys or other people is a huge step beyond my boundries.
My whole experiment is Eden-wide. I didn't much care for toys when I started here, but I was curious about them. Slowly, after much unfortunate money spendage, and trial, and error, I figured out a way to get off that did not simply involve rubbing myself off several times a day.
I don't know, for me, my battle plan was "try everything!" :/ enjoy some. I had to spend big bucks to figure out what worked, for me. I'm envious of people who don't have to spend hundreds of dollars to figure out what makes them come. It's just so..... *frugal*. Reply
My whole experiment is Eden-wide. I didn't much care for toys when I started here, but I was curious about them. Slowly, after much unfortunate money spendage, and trial, and error, I figured out a way to get off that did not simply involve rubbing myself off several times a day.
I don't know, for me, my battle plan was "try everything!" :/ enjoy some. I had to spend big bucks to figure out what worked, for me. I'm envious of people who don't have to spend hundreds of dollars to figure out what makes them come. It's just so..... *frugal*. Reply
2 months ago
I just wish I could make myself stop doing it without realizing it. Toys are great, and I can get off with them, but a lot of the time, I will stop RIGHT before my orgasm, flip over, and do it the old fashioned way. I might try throwing a sheet on the floor and trying that, or sitting in a chair, because I don't want to get too acclimated to the bed, either!
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2 months ago
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I use my hands as well. I know what works. I know what works fast. I still haven't found my perfect sex toy. I am also quickly discovering I really don't like (only) penetration with sex toys..... :(
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Originally posted by Spiking Glue
I love my fingers. I don't get why -- it's not as romantic and as slow, or sensuous, or 'self love' as some people write it is, for me, but I love it. For me, it's my 'get it done!' move. So, for me, anything involving sex toys or other people is a...
2 months ago
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Trying to change behaviour that you don't realize can be very difficult. All I can do is wish you luck. You'll have to try to reprogram your habits, so to speak.
Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
I just wish I could make myself stop doing it without realizing it. Toys are great, and I can get off with them, but a lot of the time, I will stop RIGHT before my orgasm, flip over, and do it the old fashioned way. I might try throwing a sheet on...
But, there is nothing wrong with how you masturbate. Reply
2 months ago
If you got a pair of handcuffs, try cuffing one arm to the bed. That way you can't flip over. At less for me, I kind of discover that I masturbate the same way. With toys I'll try new stuff but well being a guy, not a whole lot of options haha
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2 months ago
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