Do you ever want to have kids?

hmb12 hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at some point in life. What are your feelings, eden community? Please explain your answers in comments.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have kids, don't want more.
24  (17%)
I have kids, and want more.
7  (5%)
I want kids someday, but not now.
48  (34%)
I am currently trying to concieve.
3  (2%)
I don't want kids, but I'm open to changing my mind in the future.
21  (15%)
I don't want kids ever. Period.
32  (22%)
Other (please explain).
8  (6%)
Total votes: 143
Poll is closed
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I want kids now, but know that I should wait
01/11/2013
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
Maybe
01/11/2013
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
I might want kids someday, but not now.
01/11/2013
BlooJay BlooJay
Maybe one day. Not any time soon.
01/11/2013
meitman meitman
I have three amazing kids and we're both ready to be done. They're definitely a handful, but I couldn't imagine my life without them.
01/11/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Wow, first to click "don't want ever".

Seriously, I'm carrying some fucked up genetic problems that I don't want to saddle a kid with and I don't have a maternal instinct. You know those women who shouldn't have children because they're such lousy mothers with no interest in their kids and you just want to slap them? Yeah, that's what "not having a maternal instinct" is about.

Since I don't have one, I don't miss it as much as people think I should. A biological truism is not going to dictate my life, nor am I going to let society's comfort and expectations of normal ruin a child's life by having me as its mother.

For the record, I was hit with baby-crack twice - both times lasted less than a week. This is not a sign that I really want children in my life if my desire to have them has lasted less than ten days in my whole life.

Anyway, I've taken care of it permanently - I had a tubal back in October, 2011. I took responsibility and removed myself from the gene pool. (Although my boyfriend considers this a great loss, as he had decided way back when we were in high school that he wanted me to be the mother of his children someday. )
01/11/2013
Major Panda Major Panda
Yeah eventually.
01/11/2013
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
I don't want kids, but I'm open to changing my mind in the future.
01/11/2013
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Wow, first to click "don't want ever".

Seriously, I'm carrying some fucked up genetic problems that I don't want to saddle a kid with and I don't have a maternal instinct. You know those women who shouldn't have ... More
If I didn't already have a child, I would have clicked "don't want ever" as well. I'm the one who picked "other."

I'm going to be honest here, and hopefully I don't get harassed too much for my feelings on the matter. I didn't want children, but my husband and I ended up pregnant and reluctantly decided to follow through. I love my son very much, but there are sure days when I feel awful that this poor kid got stuck with me for a mother.

I faked enthusiasm as I told people I was pregnant, hoping in part that the enthusiasm would become real as time went on. My son is 4 years old now, and sometimes I feel like I'm still waiting for that enthusiasm to become real. I love my son. He's a good kid, and I really do want what's best for him. We have good days and bad days, and for better or worse I know I'm his Mommy and I do my best to care for him and live up to the title. He deserves it.

If I had the chance to do it all again, I know deep down one of the things I'd change would be to stay child free. I hate myself for feeling that way, but I can't change it. I've tried.

Not every woman is cut out for motherhood, but I'm going to keep faking it until it becomes the truth.

(It should go without saying that I don't plan to have any more.)
01/11/2013
leilani leilani
Quote:
Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
i love my babies
01/11/2013
brevado brevado
Nada
01/12/2013
xGOLDx xGOLDx
I have none, and want to keep it that way. I want my tubes tied as soon as I qualify. I love kids, just as long as I can give them back to their parents after. Never have had that desire.
01/12/2013
libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
not for me
01/12/2013
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
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Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
If I didn't already have a child, I would have clicked "don't want ever" as well. I'm the one who picked "other."

I'm going to be honest here, and hopefully I don't get harassed too much for my feelings ... More
I really appreciate your honesty. I'm sure a lot of women feel that way but don't want to admit it.
01/12/2013
sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
I'm grossed out by pregnancy and I don't really like the idea of having weird little people being dependent on me for 18 years, but I really dislike the idea of never having kids and my bf who I'd really like to marry someday really wants to be a father, so I probably will end up having some.
01/12/2013
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I honestly don't want to ever have children. I've felt that way my whole life and I'm 25 now. I'm sure that feeling isn't going to change.
01/12/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I do eventually want children. I'm really excited to one day raise a child or two with my partner.
01/12/2013
butts butts
I don't like kids, I don't want kids, but MAYBE in 10 years I'll change my mind. Right now though, I can't see it happening.
01/12/2013
ARPKasso ARPKasso
I want to have kids in the future, but right now is not the best time for that.
01/12/2013
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
I do not want children. Ever. That is such a huge responsibility that I don't think I could handle.
01/12/2013
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
Nope.
01/12/2013
Gdom Gdom
My SO and I aren't interested in having kids, but there's some chance that might change in the future.
01/12/2013
GONE! GONE!
I don't want any of my own. I like kids, but I want to help them from afar aka in my future career or something. I don't want any poor sucker to end up with my health issues or with me as their full-time caretaker.
01/12/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
As of right now, i don't want kids.. but maybe in the future... but i kindve doubt it.
01/12/2013
Cat E. Cat E.
I've never ever wanted children and will never have them.
01/12/2013
1001 Pleasures 1001 Pleasures
I don't have kids and can't imagine I'd change my mind about having them.
01/12/2013
Kiss Kiss
I DO want to have a family, I'm just waiting for us to get married and be a little more stable, money-wise...

BUT there ARE people out there that have no maternal feelings, which is FINE: many people (mostly women) are chastised if they don't want kids, people treat them like there's something wrong with it!
There is NOTHING WRONG!

If a woman doesn't want to be a mother, there's nothing evil or crazy about that...nor does it mean that she is unloving...it just takes a certain person to be a good parent...
01/12/2013
Lioncub Lioncub
I have 4, I'm also at the point that you couldn't pay me to have any more. The youngest is 14 and there's no way I want to start over.
01/12/2013
Vanille Vanille
Quote:
Originally posted by hmb12
I have friends that don't want kids ever in their lives. Either because they are afraid of pregnancy, or just don't like kids at all. I've seen people say things like this on eden too, but I always thought it was normal to want kids at ... More
I like kids, but I like it better when I can give them back to their parents when I've had enough.
01/12/2013
Total posts: 112
Unique posters: 104