Do you pick out your toys together or alone?

Sammi Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
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I pick my toys out myself
243
We each pick out the toys we will be using alone
24
My partner picks out my toys for me
23
We decide together which toys to get
201
Other
44
Total votes: 535 (407 voters)
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03/30/2009
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Goodkittygnbad Goodkittygnbad
I had to choose other. I choose mine...he chooses his...and sometimes I choose his for him. LOL
03/30/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I love picking out assignments with my partner, but we usually need two different computers to do it. He'll inevitably lean towards the big, macho vibrating monsters while I'll be ogling the lingerie. We frequently poke each other and share our search results. It's fun, but the sessions, when done in person (long distance means that we do a lot of our shopping together, apart), last only about 30 minutes to an hour before we get so worked up by all the cool things we see that we go and "test" all of our old toys again.
03/30/2009
Sammi Sammi
The funny thing for us is he doesn't have any. There are some we share, like the floggers, but otherwise he uses them on me. He has some preferences which I take into account when I order, but otherwise I usually pick. Tonight was interesting though - we were exploring floggers and paddles
03/30/2009
Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
While I usually pick my toys out myself, we'll sometimes have a lot of fun picking them out together. Like Miss Cinnamon, we often have to go play with what we have after a while, especially if we're looking at a kind of toy we haven't explored yet in person. I often help him pick out his toys, because I know more about material safety than he does, and am more familiar with EF, so I can help him find a toy that does what he's looking for. For the toys we use together, we pick them out together. Sometimes as a surprise I'll go back and buy something we looked at, but decided we too expensive to buy right then. (most recently, this was the Fluffy Flogger)
03/31/2009
Firemeup Firemeup
I like shopping for toys more than he does, so I do most of the shopping, but he helps pick or at least signs off on new purchases (since we share finances, I try to let him know about big purchases in general.) Free toys (like toys I get to review) I generally pick on my own.
03/31/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
I picked "other," sort of as an "all of the above" choice. When I was with a partner, we would pick toys on our own for ourselves or buy things for each other, and we'd also get together and decide on things be both liked.
04/04/2009
Sharp Kiss Sharp Kiss
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
Generally, we like to surprise each other with new toy, and try them out together. We log onto this site, compile 2 wish lists and then compare notes to decide what to get.
04/05/2009
NuMe NuMe
I picked other since there was no "all of the above" option. We do love to go to "Lovers Lane" together to find something fun for the evening. But I'm finding them to be rather limited and expensive after joining here.
05/27/2009
Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
I have my parents drop me off at an adult store then pick me up an hour later.

Not really, but that would be funny
05/28/2009
Rose Unlocked Rose Unlocked
yeah I had to go with other some times I pick them out for both of us, some times we pick them out together, and other times she picks out her own.
06/10/2009
Juliettia Juliettia
It honestly depends, there are times when I pick out toys alone, and times when I'm spamming his e-mail with links or asking him what he thinks while I'm browsing. Sometimes he'll make a suggestion and say, "Would you mind getting this?"
06/10/2009
Sir Sir
I'm usually the one getting things, or I'll ask for approval from my partner on certain things (usually lingerie, to make sure that she likes it). Aside from that though, I'm the one choosing the toys. I don't have toys that are used on me (I personally don't enjoy that), but I choose the toys that I use on her or that I tell her to use on herself.
06/15/2009
Valyn Valyn
Quote:
Originally posted by Goodkittygnbad
I had to choose other. I choose mine...he chooses his...and sometimes I choose his for him. LOL
I do this too. There have been toys we've picked out together, and now that I'm reviewing, I pick most of the toys I want. He's shown interest in a couple of toys, and I'm helping him decide.
07/04/2009
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Usually we pick out toys that we'd like to try together, but there are times when one of us will surprise the other with something out of the blue. The funny thing is, Alan will shop online for these things all day, but if I take him into a local toy shop, he'll stand there and act like he's never used a toy in his life. LOL! I wind up doing all the choosing then.

Michele
07/04/2009
spicywife spicywife
I pick them out but I always ask him what he thinks. I usually don't go into much detail, because overall I like it to be a surprise.
07/05/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
Seems most of these polls are by women - in this case I pick out the toys for my wife - she's too shy. At least she doesn't complain about the results - we just stick to the ones she refers - at the moment - it changes almost daily. That's the reason you need a wide variety of fun toys.
07/27/2009
Owl Identified Owl Identified
With any toy I'm getting, whether it's on EF for review or just a purchase I'm making, I have a pretty consistent protocol. I bookmark the toy(s) I'm thinking about getting, go back and check them out a few times with fresh eyes to see if it's still something I want to invest in. When I'm sure I would be willing to review/purchase it, I show it to my boyfriend.

Usually I show him more out of excitement, because I know he will rarely disapprove. Still, every now and again he surprises me. Recently I was thinking of buying a wooden plug for him and he expressed that he found the material very unsexy. Who woulda known!
09/27/2009
Red Red
I pick them out.

I am a control freak in many respects, and toys is one of them. They're my toys, and I figure out how to use them on myself and others. I have a seriously hard time accepting that someone else is driving the toy correctly. I'm also very independent.

Additionally, my husband is just sort of "Meh" when it comes to what toys I get because he knows I choose well. I always run what I'm getting by him, all that said, and occasionally he has a good reason for me to rethink my choice.
09/27/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I usually pick them out but, of course, my collection is generally for me with fewer couples toys. My husband doesn't really know where to start. I think he's a bit intimated so I suggest the things we could use together to see how he feels. Even then, it's still my realm. He never gets as excited as I do.
09/27/2009
BrokeNHorny BrokeNHorny
For the most part, I pick them out, and I try desperately to get feedback from my partner before buying them. Usually, it just boils down to me picking what I think she'll enjoy, and she just enjoys them.
09/27/2009
Rossie Rossie
I also pick them out myself. My hubby used to be very reluctant using dildos on me. I've finally had him warm-up to the idea of toys the past few months and now he has no problem sticking a plug into my ass. BUT, he's still not interested in checking out toy websites.
09/27/2009
sandman sandman
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
We browse both separately and together. For buying purposes it definitely a joint venture.
09/28/2009
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
We do both actually, sometimes I'll pick out what I'd like to try and then run it by both guys (I love the raised eyebrows and gleam in the eyes LOL) and sometimes they will suggest a toy they'd like to try. I'm usualy the one browsing the site and I'll suggest toys based on what they have told me they are interested in.
09/28/2009
EffinSara EffinSara
I might discuss it with him occasionally, but he doesn't really take a whole lot of interest in toys in general. I'm fine with that because he also is totally fine with the idea of using toys with and on me
11/09/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
I've tried many times to get my wife to shop around with me - or just surprise me. The only thing that worked was a couple of times I made her a powerpoint presentation with options and asked her to rank them. It was fun to create and she got a kick out of it as well.
11/10/2009
DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
What we actually buy gets purchased together. We also do some shopping together and we both will shop alone sometimes and add stuff to the wish lists.
11/10/2009
~miss.heather~ ~miss.heather~
I chose other, because it depends. He has no interest in masturbation sleeves, even though I have tried buying him one. I pick out toys for me, and us ie.. cock rings, our share etc...but I love just pulling up EF and having him browse and pick out a toy for me that he thinks I will enjoy. He actually was the one that picked my Lelo Gigi for me.
11/21/2009
~miss.heather~ ~miss.heather~
Quote:
Originally posted by ~miss.heather~
I chose other, because it depends. He has no interest in masturbation sleeves, even though I have tried buying him one. I pick out toys for me, and us ie.. cock rings, our share etc...but I love just pulling up EF and having him browse and pick out a ... More
Ooopps....I also meant to add that we have spent hours together picking out toys to buy.
11/21/2009
Fyreflye Fyreflye
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
We pick together, especially now. My husband used to be a big homophobe before he got with me (bisexual) and wouldn.t even let me slap his ass(which I love) or anywhere near his ass for that matter. One night we partied and got so fucked up and started the 69 position with him on top and my head between his legs and i just started rubbing around his gooch and ass and after that he has been exploring his anal side ever since. It really turns me on and I made him cum by doing it but he said it fealt really good but he didnt know he was cumming lol.
12/13/2009
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