I totally know what you mean about them getting in the way. We really use my toys more before sex, a forplay little thing, but I love wearing the strap on clit vibe! So far I've wasted a load of money on ones that were poorly made, but I got one I think was called Jenna's devillish fantasies? It's a pink sting ray and it works like magic! Stays out of the way and the wings can kind of hold apart the labia and feel amazing! You can wear it during sex and need no hands! That's what I love about that one. Most of the strap ons would move without holding them there and even worse the one's I got from cal exotic would stick straight out instead of lying on your crotch. Ugh! I went through heck to find a good one.
That's about the only one that really is possible to use during sex