Ladies, how do you feel when your guy loses his erection?

edeneve edeneve 03/05/2013

I'm wondering what ladies feel when their guy loses his erection.

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edeneve edeneve
I'm wondering what ladies feel when their guy loses his erection.
03/05/2013
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rihanne rihanne
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
I'm wondering what ladies feel when their guy loses his erection.
that he's bored.
03/05/2013
Carlie2010 Carlie2010
That he's not interested/ bored
03/05/2013
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by edeneve
I'm wondering what ladies feel when their guy loses his erection.
Bummed out.
03/05/2013
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
disappointed
03/06/2013
funluvinmama funluvinmama
depends on the situation. If it is after sex, I am disappointed that we won't be able to keep going or go again because he will go to sleep.
If it is during, then I am pissed that he doesn't care enough to make sure that I get pleasure from sex also.
03/06/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
This is happening to me more often (I'm 58+). At first she was a very worried - but I assured her that it is age related and has nothing to do with my desire or her desirability. I'm sure she doesn't like it - but she doesn't worry any more.
03/06/2013
ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
Hasn't happened. But I wouldn't feel weird, we'd just cuddle.
03/06/2013
solitudinarian solitudinarian
Eh, it happens. I usually try to help him get it back.
03/06/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I've had 1 bf that would lose his.. I was IRRITATED!
03/06/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
When it happened to me, I just thought, oh well, & took care of myself right in front of him & low & behold, he revived. But that was with a younger partner and we'd already done it several times when it happened.

But I'm sure if it happened again, I'd just have us do other things that don't require an erection for me to get off. Maybe that's because I've been with women & we had to make due without an erection, so I'm well versed in alternatives. As long as he still showed interest in continuing, I'd be happy.

Hey, it's not like men are robots. Things happen that aren't in their control. If it's the first time this has happened with that person, sure I would start to doubt his interest & be disappointed, especially if it signaled the end of the fun. But I'd certainly try & figure out why it's happening.

As you get older, you learn to expect there are times this will happen. And as Gunsmoke said, it's not necessarily because he's not interested. So you learn some tricks to work around it. If he assures me that he's still there mentally & tries other ways to stay in the game, then I would be happy with that.

Just look at all the tools like penis pumps & cock rings you can use from EF, not to mention all the dildos & vibrators. Along with hands & mouths, there are so many other avenues to pleasure each other, occasional loss of an erection is not the big deal it's sometimes made out to be.
03/06/2013
KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
I think the only time it happened was in front of a camera. He is apparently camera shy.
03/06/2013
783883877299373783 783883877299373783
Depends on the situation, he rarely does and when it happens it's because he is tired or we have been interrupted.
03/06/2013
TheirPet TheirPet
That he's bored, tired, or just a little too tipsy.
03/06/2013
Nurse Katie Nurse Katie
Depends on how often it occurs. But I give the guy the benefit of the doubt if its not all the time and shrug it off
03/08/2013
PeppermintFuntimes PeppermintFuntimes
I think he's bored, nervous, or not interested in what I'm doing. Almost all of the above makes me feel inadequate when it happens(only twice in my life).
03/08/2013
Tibby Tibby
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Originally posted by edeneve
I'm wondering what ladies feel when their guy loses his erection.
Ive only had this happen to me with one person. he told me he had ed when we were dating. but still every time it happen I was mad, irritated, or just disappointed. it also was made worst by the fact he wouldnt finish me off. kinda if i dont get off niether do u thing. wtf. it was a deal breaker
03/08/2013
bog bog
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Originally posted by edeneve
I'm wondering what ladies feel when their guy loses his erection.
I feel personally responsible, even when I know it's whiskey-dick, haha.
03/09/2013
ashboo32 ashboo32
I feel like its my fault
04/02/2013
Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
It happens, whatev.
04/02/2013
bratcat bratcat
Quote:
Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
When it happened to me, I just thought, oh well, & took care of myself right in front of him & low & behold, he revived. But that was with a younger partner and we'd already done it several times when it happened.

But I'm ... More
This is all great info actually. There's no reason for anyone to get upset with their partner because they have trouble keeping an erection, as it may be for a number of reasons. Trying other ways to get off that still include your partner is a good idea and may even help to get them hard again like Wahine stated.
I know when my partner starts to go flaccid its because he's too tried/worn out physically and by that time i usually am too and have already come.
04/02/2013
kaylajoy89 kaylajoy89
i feel disappointed, but i know it's not his fault. it just happens sometimes.
04/08/2013
Missy27 Missy27
I get frustrated and annoyed..Probably not the best response but it's the truth.
08/25/2013
LAndJ LAndJ
It's only happened once or twice, but it's frustrating when you are ready to go and he's not.
08/25/2013
Rossie Rossie
It's my fault -- he's still sleepy...I have a habit of waking him up from his sleep.
08/25/2013
bellaapple23 bellaapple23
I usually feel worried that I did something wrong, or that there is something unattractive about me. I also worry about him, and whether it's a one time "I'm nervous" thing or if there is a serious dysfunction going on.
09/24/2013
tattgirl848 tattgirl848
Eh, it happens. We usually laugh about it and use it as an excuse to cuddle and enjoy each other again. It's not disheartening, it just means we have an excuse to spend more time alone together when our roommates want to hang out.
09/30/2013
Ash1141 Ash1141
I feel like I did something wrong or he's not attracted to me
09/30/2013
Glinteye Glinteye
It depends on the situation.
10/21/2013
CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
in the times that it's happened I felt okay since I'm not too sure I like sex yet, but I do feel a bit sad just cuz he'll look disappointed that it happened.
10/23/2013
Bubba29 Bubba29
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Originally posted by funluvinmama
depends on the situation. If it is after sex, I am disappointed that we won't be able to keep going or go again because he will go to sleep.
If it is during, then I am pissed that he doesn't care enough to make sure that I get pleasure ... More
"...I am pissed that he doesn't care enough to make sure that I get pleasure from sex also."

you talk as if a man would choose to not have an erection. this is like saying if your pussy is dry then you don't care about your man's pleasure. like you can turn that on or off whenever you want.
10/23/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
I'm wondering what ladies feel when their guy loses his erection.
It doesn't happen often. If it does, it is usually because he is totally exhausted from work or has a lot of other things on his mind. I respect that he has a lot on his plate and at our age, one mellows about such things. He feels worse about it then me. He is a super great lover, so one erection loss once in a while is simply no big deal. Period.
10/23/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by tattgirl848
Eh, it happens. We usually laugh about it and use it as an excuse to cuddle and enjoy each other again. It's not disheartening, it just means we have an excuse to spend more time alone together when our roommates want to hang out.
Very well said!
10/23/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Cosmonaut
It happens, whatev.
Exactly. Why make something big out of literally nothing?
10/23/2013
hmb12 hmb12
hmm... this happened with one guy, who admitted he was nervous (first time, poor thing). Now that some time has passed, I believe he was serious, but I quietly thought to myself that I had done something wrong and let it be.

My current partner and I have been together for 3 years, and he will usually just tell me if he doesn't feel up for it. I do the same to him sometimes, so I try not to take it wrong. He and I don't generally have problems once we start though.
12/14/2013
Aesenthia Aesenthia
It has happened a few times with my current partner and if I have to be honest, I feel like it is a huge blow to my ego. I feel like he's losing interest or it doesn't feel good or something. I always feel like it is a reflection of how I am doing in bed so yeah my ego gets a bit bruised and usually my arousal will wane as well at that point. I know he feels bad about it. One time I actually started crying because I never want to have sex when I am on my period, but one time he made me so incredibly horny that I asked if we could and he said he didn't care about the blood, but while we were going at it I think the sensation just wasn't what either of us wanted.
Oct 8, 11:06 am
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