Masturbating by Hand

In my entire life, I've probably orgasmed manually (by myself or with others) less than 5 times. I rock out with my vibe out, and that is currently the only way I masturbate. It's quite normal for lots of women; promise! Reply

From male prospective this sound abnormal:) May I ask you, do you fantasize while masturbating? If you do, than it might all be in your head. You have to let all the outside worries go first. Reply

...Not abnormal, it's all about preference. :) I frequently masturbate by hand and it's often more powerful of an orgasm than those produced by toying. The key to successful manual masturbation is relaxation. Find a comfortable environment where you feel you can, in essence, leave your inhibitions at the door.

Find a good position, generally lying down, and just let your mind wander. Think about anything you care to; think about things that you find arousing. Most often times women feel that manual masturbation is "forbidden" "shameful" or "taboo"; all of which can't be further from the truth!

Exploring your body is 100% natural. The question really shouldn't be about if it’s normal or abnormal. If it's something you don't feel comfortable with, then simply avoid it. But I think if you take some time and explore yourself in an environment where you feel comfortable; you're sexy girl, so do it! I think if you remember that whether you're with a mate or mono y' manual -you'll find that you're capable of achieving incredible orgasms by your own hands. ;) Now...Get to playing! Reply

It's not odd in the least! I used to have trouble having an orgasm, I realized it was more of a mental block than a physical one. When I first started having sex I had trouble with getting comfortable, I wasn't in touch with my body, and frankly, I didn't know what I liked. If you can ONLY cum with a vibrator, stop using them for a while. Your clitoris may be so desensitized from high powered vibrations that your fingers aren't enough to get the job done. My advice is just to try touching, not with the intent to orgasm. Just rub your clitoris, hard, fast, slow, soft... do whatever it takes until you find what touches you enjoy.. and just keep touching. If you don't have an orgasm, you don't have an orgasm but you'll have fun in the process. Don't go at it like a job, just look at the whole situation as an exploration without a purpose. Watch some porn while you're doing it or use toys that stimulate your nipples and heighten your sense of arousal- such as massagers on areas like your neck, thighs, head, etc. It took until I started dating my husband that I was able to have an orgasm from manual stimulation alone. Reply

As stated, nothing abnormal here. Just a thought- using a little lube when masturbating manually might add to the sensation. Reply

You are NOT odd. Maybe HE'S never encountered a woman that can't orgasm with manual stimulation (or they've faked it for him), but I can't get off with just a hand either. I need a good, strong vibe on my clit. The majority of women out there are like this, so don't feel bad at all!! :) ((hugz)) Reply

You're perfectly normal, everyone is unique! I do agree with cock wrangler about using a little lube! When my clit isn't wet, it isn't as much fun so, maybe give that little tip a try! It couldn't hurt! ;) Reply

I think this is pretty normal. Lots of people still seem to be under the impression that its not important for women to orgasm period. I still get so pissed when I read something that says this. My husband knows how important it is for me to finish. If I don't, then neither does he. Yeah...that was rambling, sorry about that. I can't seem to masturbate myself, although I can orgasm if someone else does it for me. I think for me its a mental thing, you know how its dirty and I shouldn't touch myself. I don't know why that still gets to me, but it does. I think men aren't thankful enough for just how easy it is for them to reach their cock. I must say that as far as rubbing my clit, it does tend to make my arm sore, and I just can't finger myself. My fingers are too short as is my arm, and I have a long torso to make matters worse. I find it too cumbersome to bother with most of the time, so I either borrow my husband's hand, or I use a toy. Reply

I don't think it is abnormal at all! It is actually very difficult for me to orgasm by stimulation from my hands. Since I was a kid, I always achieved very easy orgasm by lying on my stomach and rocking my hips back and forth over a pillow or something similar. This would build the sensation in my clit. This also explains that the only way I can orgasm from sex is being on top and riding. Different people like different things and NOTHING is abnormal when it comes to this kind of stuff! Reply

It's definitely not abnormal not to orgasm using your hand. I agree that it help to be relaxed (and nice and turned on) when you masturbate. I can't orgasm by hand unless I'm super horny, but with a vibrator I don't need to be into it at all and I still orgasm. And it is true (at least for me) that using a vibrator all the time can temporarily desensitize you so it can be harder to orgasm with your hands. But like everyone else has said, everyone is different. And you're not abnormal at all. :) Reply

I thought I was the only one. I also find it very difficult to orgasm by hand. I could never get myself off vaginally until I got my first vibrator. I am the same way, I usually roll up a blanket, towel or something and do the rocking motion with my hips. I find it very easy to orgasm this way and always have. Sometimes this method is easier for me than getting out my toys. Reply

I don't think you're abnormal, but I wonder if changing your technique would help. I don't use my hand directly on myself. Its just too sensitive and too easily can become painful. It feels better to have a layer of something thin, like underwear, between my hand and myself. It sounds so stupid, but its what works for me. I'm wondering if that would help you. Maybe you're ultrasensitive like me.

Also, if you feel any anxiety about it, you're sure to not succeed. Its always harder for women to come. Women need to focus and will it to happen. Men seem to only need to not be focusing on something else. Survival of the species depends only on male orgasms. Reply

If it makes you feel any better -- I was always convinced that most girls couldn't get off with their fingers alone, and needed toys. On my sex-ed communities, I would frequently see posts like yours, with many many comments about the normality of the situation, but I rarely saw posts of people like me, who got off far stronger with their own fingers but not so much with sex toys. I don't even need to be relaxed, happy, and sexual to get off with my fingers, but I *do* need to be relaxed, happy, and sexual to get off using sex toys.

My general feeling is, that most sex-education sites are trying to reinforce that 'normal' isn't even normal, thatat getting off in general is good, and that what you like is simply that -- what you like.

I love seal meat. <3 I love gin and tonic. I love getting off by my hands and my toys.

I actually don't much like sexual intercourse with another person, and I never could get over movie theatre popcorn.

Don't let him make you feel too weird about it. :D Reply

I had to! I don't really need to anymore because for some reason my clitoris isn't as overly sensitive as it was. It's like as soon as I had my son I didn't have to anymore. Isn't that odd?

I still enjoy masturbating with panties on though, that's something that hasn't changed.. maybe they're my comfort or whenever I think underwear I think of getting off. Reply

Of course, from the male perspective, many things completely typical for females sound abnormal. ;)

Just wanted to second what everyone has said. If it gets you off, who cares what is normal? But, yes, manual masturbation doesn't work for many females. Reply