This may seem odd, but this seemed like a good place to get peoples opinions. The other day I saw a little girl say something funny in a store and I said oh how cute. My boyfriend raised the point that if he had said something similar it would be weird since he was a man calling a little girl cute. I said as long as he did not imply it in a bad way it would be fine. I was wondering what everyone thought of this and what other situations people could think of where this happens. I realized it seems okay for women to do many things that it seems wrong for men to do.
Okay for women but not men?
07/09/2011
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Like you said, it really depends on how he says it. I think that in this situation it would be fine. If I think that a little girl is cute, I say so and have never had any trouble.
07/10/2011
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If he said the girl was cute in a pervy way then yeah it's odd. When my boyfriend and I see a little girl and she does or says something cute he'll say "awww how cute" It's not a big deal to me. I know he likes kids and he'd make a great father someday. That's how I see it.
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This may seem odd, but this seemed like a good place to get peoples opinions. The other day I saw a little girl say something funny in a store and I said oh how cute. My boyfriend raised the point that if he had said something similar it would be
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This may seem odd, but this seemed like a good place to get peoples opinions. The other day I saw a little girl say something funny in a store and I said oh how cute. My boyfriend raised the point that if he had said something similar it would be weird since he was a man calling a little girl cute. I said as long as he did not imply it in a bad way it would be fine. I was wondering what everyone thought of this and what other situations people could think of where this happens. I realized it seems okay for women to do many things that it seems wrong for men to do.
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07/10/2011
Life is full of double standards.
A man is called a stud if he has sex with lots of women, a woman is called something nastier. It's perfectly ok for a woman to expect a man to pay on a first date, but if he does the same, he would called something much nastier than the aforementioned woman. When a man does something old fashioned for a woman, say open doors, it's called chivalry. When a woman refuses to cook for a man, she is refusing to be oppressed by the gender stereotype.
Lots and lots of double standards everywhere. But hey, all things considered, I'm waaay too fortunate to live in a free country where I'm rich and healthy enough to talk about sex toys on the internet to complain about anything.
I probably still have relatives that go to bed hungry at night because they have nothing to eat.
A man is called a stud if he has sex with lots of women, a woman is called something nastier. It's perfectly ok for a woman to expect a man to pay on a first date, but if he does the same, he would called something much nastier than the aforementioned woman. When a man does something old fashioned for a woman, say open doors, it's called chivalry. When a woman refuses to cook for a man, she is refusing to be oppressed by the gender stereotype.
Lots and lots of double standards everywhere. But hey, all things considered, I'm waaay too fortunate to live in a free country where I'm rich and healthy enough to talk about sex toys on the internet to complain about anything.
I probably still have relatives that go to bed hungry at night because they have nothing to eat.
07/11/2011
I don't really believe in double standards like that. If there's any kind of pervertedness behind it, for either gender, that's disturbing, to me. Otherwise what the hell? o.O
07/11/2011
My hubby is afraid to even look in direction of other little girls since especially when we see lots of little 10 n up ones walking round with womenly bodies and in little string bikinis he watches what he says also since he does want people to think him that way. but i know i am guilty of feeling this way being a mother of 2 small boys when im in the store and women stop and talk and touch them im no as nervous or clingy to them as when a man does these things. i almost always think they want my lil boys for this...but this may have to do with my person trust issues with men at all and children since i was sexually abused.
07/11/2011
My Man and I have 3 children. He has always loved kids and for some reason kids are drawn to him. Babies and toddlers point and smile at him in stores, little kids come up to him an talk to him. (For some reason, we were at the Field Museum, a little boy, urged by his parents, came up to My Man and said, "Sir, thank you, sir, I wanted to thank you for...making this museum." I thought I was going to bust a gut trying not to laugh. My Man patted him on the head and said, "Thank you, kid. Come back anytime." I guess he has a paleontologist look to him?)
Anyway, he has told me he sometimes feels funny responding to small kids when I'm not with him. He doesn't want the kids' parents to think he's a creep or something.
I look at, smile at and even gently (with permission) touch babies and small children all the time (both of us are baby-magnets) and it has never occurred to me that anyone would be offended. But, I look like a nice little (although slightly edgy) Mommy type.
It doesn't seem fair that he has to hold back when little kids want to look at him and obviously like him and want a response.
Anyway, he has told me he sometimes feels funny responding to small kids when I'm not with him. He doesn't want the kids' parents to think he's a creep or something.
I look at, smile at and even gently (with permission) touch babies and small children all the time (both of us are baby-magnets) and it has never occurred to me that anyone would be offended. But, I look like a nice little (although slightly edgy) Mommy type.
It doesn't seem fair that he has to hold back when little kids want to look at him and obviously like him and want a response.
07/12/2011
My husband will say that a little kid is cute when they do something cute, especially now that we have 2 babies, anytime we see a little kid doing something cute or funny, the daddy comes out in him and I find him so sexy like that... Its all about the way the man says it, and how he looks when he says it. And there are just as many things that are ok for men to do that are not ok for women...maybe even more
07/13/2011
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