Has a sex toy purchase ever caused drama in your love life?

bellaapple23 bellaapple23
Have you all ever had a partner get upset because you had or wanted to purchase a sex toy? What was your experience, and how did you resolve the situation?
09/24/2013
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Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by bellaapple23
Have you all ever had a partner get upset because you had or wanted to purchase a sex toy? What was your experience, and how did you resolve the situation?
Honestly, never. I bought a few toys, a zillion years ago, when the choices were either a white, hard plastic, two "C" cell vibe with ribs and a single speed, or a single speed, hard white plastic, two "C" cell vibe...oh, with ribs!!! It was not till we were married that a choice of toys became an option, and we always shopped together (unless for a surprise) and thus we both look forward to our "fun" arriving. It's all been great.
09/24/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Never. They have all been cool about toys, but my man is by far the most toy enthusiastic partner I've been with. .
09/24/2013
Lioncub Lioncub
Nope we purchase most together unless one of us is getting a surprise for the other.
09/24/2013
cmm cmm
Quote:
Originally posted by bellaapple23
Have you all ever had a partner get upset because you had or wanted to purchase a sex toy? What was your experience, and how did you resolve the situation?
Thankfully, all of my partners have been very open towards toys. That might be a dealbreaker if someone ever got upset because I wanted to spice up the sex a little bit.
09/24/2013
C&K0143 C&K0143
My wife has always enjoyed toys and we’ve never had issues with using or purchasing them. - C
09/24/2013
~*Damia*~ ~*Damia*~
My ex Didnt want me using toys becuase he was the old fashion Thats my territory and nothing else will penetrate said orifice! probaly why we didnt last but five years...
09/25/2013
shorejen9 shorejen9
No. My Husband and I place the orders together. We look forward to our new toys arriving and trying them out!
09/25/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Bought the Cone for my sweetie after reading all the reviews. She was upset when she saw it and said " How can that possibly do anything." When she found out how much I paid was in the doghouse every time she saw it. Hid it in a dresser for few yrs now. Recently just sold it for next to nothing.
10/18/2013
konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by bellaapple23
Have you all ever had a partner get upset because you had or wanted to purchase a sex toy? What was your experience, and how did you resolve the situation?
The very first time I surprised her with it. It still took a few months for her to try it...
10/18/2013
BareNaked BareNaked
Not upset, just grossed out. Bought a stroker, and she didn't like the texture, though I did.
11/27/2013
Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
No issues with us. We usually order online so we shop naked and get turned on and that leads to some hot sex. We both using toys on each other so it's a win win for us!!
Jan 8, 10:35 am
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Closest I ever came was a guy I dated briefly. He made mention of how sex toys were utterly wrong and had no place in a relationship. He also viewed female masturbation and filthy and a sign that either her partner couldn't please her or that she was some sex obsessed freak (his words, not mine) That was last date I went out on with him. He had so many insecurities that I knew furthering the relationship was useless.

My current partner is very laid back when it comes to toys. He doesn't even mind if I have toys that are strictly for private use only. He knows that I have a few kinks and fantasys that he not comfortable with (DP to name one)so he lets it be.

The comment I ever heard from him involved the amount of Dildos I have my collection, he kinda laughed and said "you weren't kidding when you said you craved variety."
Jan 22, 12:00 pm
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
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Originally posted by SaucyxGirl
Closest I ever came was a guy I dated briefly. He made mention of how sex toys were utterly wrong and had no place in a relationship. He also viewed female masturbation and filthy and a sign that either her partner couldn't please her or that she ... More
With the first guy, you made a wise decision.
Jan 25, 10:00 pm
smalltalkingbit smalltalkingbit
I only recently picked up my first toy, and my partner was enthusiastic about it. I've used it with him and on my own. I found out later that he would have just bought it for me but wanted to make sure I felt comfortable about it.
Jan 26, 12:09 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Oriental husband and wife
Bought the Cone for my sweetie after reading all the reviews. She was upset when she saw it and said " How can that possibly do anything." When she found out how much I paid was in the doghouse every time she saw it. Hid it in a dresser for ... More
This post is too funny. My hubby bought me the Cone when it first came out. It looked like nothing I wanted to "sit" on. Looked painful. He too was kind of "in the doghouse" for that idea. One day, as I was bent over the bed taking him anally, he said, "mind if we try that cone thing on your clit"..."it might reach right"? I said "sure" (I didn't expect much), but oh my, oh my...after about ten explosive orgasms that toy entered our play life in a big way. It is now one of my "front line" toys, and lives in my nightstand, right at reach. I place it on the bed when I want to bend over and do oral on hubby and it stays in place, perfect, as I lean back against it (either on my knees or laying down) to get some powerful clit action. (It can even be hard to concentrate on "giving", while I am "getting" that good)!!!
I wish she had given it a chance. It looks mega strange, but really is an amazing toy, if applied right. I have even gone a bit advanced with it and gently squatted over it...inserting the tip in my anus, then leaned back and had hubby take me vaginally while this pulsed in my anus (it doesn't go in very far, of course) and it is an interesting feeling too. I feel bad for you, and your wife. This could have been an A+ member of your toy collection , had you given it a chance.
Jan 26, 12:55 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Husband and Wife
No issues with us. We usually order online so we shop naked and get turned on and that leads to some hot sex. We both using toys on each other so it's a win win for us!!
Hey, you sound like us. Just take it to the next level. If he is using the keyboard, I will kneel in front of him and give him some oral. Sometimes he stands me up, bends me over the keyboard and takes me, vaginally or anally from behind, and just last night, we spend an hour online, no kidding, doing banking, with me sitting in his lap, and his rigid cock (how he kept it that way paying car and house notes is beyond me) totally up my tush to the hilt!!! What a better way to play online (or pay the bills)? It makes the time fly by. Oh, and when shopping for toys together like this, the anticipation of them arriving is just one huge, long foreplay session!!!
Jan 26, 12:59 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by ~*Damia*~
My ex Didnt want me using toys becuase he was the old fashion Thats my territory and nothing else will penetrate said orifice! probaly why we didnt last but five years...
My hubby just read that and said, "oh, for me it's the attitude that "It's my territory and anything that can make it more talented and professional...go for it". Why settle for a casual swimmer if you have a partner who is willing to use the best training technology and tools and become an Olympic swimmer??? Know what I mean?
Jan 26, 1:01 pm
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by SaucyxGirl
Closest I ever came was a guy I dated briefly. He made mention of how sex toys were utterly wrong and had no place in a relationship. He also viewed female masturbation and filthy and a sign that either her partner couldn't please her or that she ... More
Had that first dude been dating me when he said all that, he'd have been sat down for a very long, very frank talk, possibly with a computer present so I could search for academic articles on the topic. If he didn't shift at least slightly after that I'd have told him that, with his attitude, I wouldn't touch his cock with gloves on for $100 million. I can tolerate someone being uncomfortable with toys, but not a fully anti-toy stance, and certainly not an anti-female masturbation stance.

Long story short: folks like that piss me off, and you made a good decision to break up with him.

My own dating experience is very limited, though thankfully I haven't yet run into any trouble concerning my toy usage. Given how very open I am when it comes to talking about sex and toys, hopefully any problems I'll have with the gents will pop up early on rather than later.
Jan 26, 3:36 pm
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
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Originally posted by Bignuf
This post is too funny. My hubby bought me the Cone when it first came out. It looked like nothing I wanted to "sit" on. Looked painful. He too was kind of "in the doghouse" for that idea. One day, as I was bent over the bed ... More
Well, it has a happy home now. The person I sold it to says she enjoys it. We did try some of the positions you mentioned. She said all it did was shake her thighs. I guess she is one of those that are harder to please. She also does not like the Jopen Intensity or the Pure Wand. She is willing to give them a chance though. I think she is a clit person. She loves my Billy and her Hitachi on her clit.
Jan 26, 7:12 pm
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Oriental husband and wife
Well, it has a happy home now. The person I sold it to says she enjoys it. We did try some of the positions you mentioned. She said all it did was shake her thighs. I guess she is one of those that are harder to please. She also does not like the ... More
I'm the one who bought that Cone and I am VERY happy with it. So yes, it has a good home! In fact, I am looking at it right now on the floor next to my bed...gotta go
Jan 27, 12:14 pm
EastCoast36 EastCoast36
In general, most sex toys I buy are intended for use by or on my wife, so she will usually question the need to buy something new and when I am shopping. Shopping isn't exactly a fantasy for me... well, it kind of is. It would be nice if she had a little more excitement towards toys. She says she likes the way I feel better.

The only recent drama has been over one of the few toys I have for me. When I first bought a Fleshlight, she seemed intrigued and actually used it on me. I brought it out to play with the other night while we watched porn. As usual, the viewing did not turn into the masturbation show I imagined, so it did not get used. After we finished, she saw it and acted mildly disgusted by it.
Jan 27, 12:43 pm
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Had that first dude been dating me when he said all that, he'd have been sat down for a very long, very frank talk, possibly with a computer present so I could search for academic articles on the topic. If he didn't shift at least slightly ... More
His stance was so weird. Like he got pissed off at the thought of female masturbation. None of it seemed to be linked to a religious upbringing. He pretty much was an ass and really saw females as the males property.

I pretty much have all male friends so his behavior sent all sorts of red flags up for me. They taught me about the waitress trick (see how your date treats your waiter/waitress or cashier) They told me to be weary of any guy who said exactly what I wanted to hear etc.

I had also heard many of my male friends talk about using toys on their girls and they would also recommend toys for me sometimes lol If your wondering I was sorta one of the guys but only I have the whole vagina thing
Feb 1, 12:39 am
Mr Happy1948 Mr Happy1948
Quote:
Originally posted by bellaapple23
Have you all ever had a partner get upset because you had or wanted to purchase a sex toy? What was your experience, and how did you resolve the situation?
I'm the male of the couple and I buy 99% of the toys for her. The only remarks I get are quit spending so much money on sex toys ! In our relationship I wouldn't feel threatened by anything she could buy unless it was a huge strap-on!
Mar 6, 3:53 pm
ud328 ud328
Sure they've caused drama, but the good kind! She would like another toy, something g-spot oriented, and every time she starts to browse we end up naked and the sheets are a mess. Still hasn't gotten one though...
Mar 21, 9:54 am
PadoruLover PadoruLover
No it never has. Probably because we both had toys of our own when we met.
Mar 21, 11:09 am
Castielskitten Castielskitten
We had a bit of one when I first brought up using toys in our sex life, along with costumes and lingerie. He was all for two costumes (a nurse and maid) but nothing else. He was scared that I would replace him with a toy, but in the end I managed to tell him that I would never replace him, and after we tried one toy, we're constantly on the look out for more!

I think I turned him into a sex toy addict xD he's the one asking for the toys now!
Mar 22, 11:26 am
Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
Has a sex toy purchase ever caused drama in your love life?

No real drama for us, none at all. Actually the opposite. Sex toys have enabled us to explore and expand our sexual relationship. They have brought us closer together. We have explored and shared each other's deepest secrets and fantasies. We were lucky to find each other.
Mar 22, 11:50 am
edeneve edeneve
I never thought I'd have this issue. but yup, I did, a couple months ago. I was so blown away by his reaction.
Mar 22, 3:27 pm
PadoruLover PadoruLover
Quote:
Originally posted by ~*Damia*~
My ex Didnt want me using toys becuase he was the old fashion Thats my territory and nothing else will penetrate said orifice! probaly why we didnt last but five years...
Sounds a little over possessive to me.
Mar 22, 10:39 pm
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