Would it be a dealbreaker if your partner preferred you not to use toys?

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Would it be a dealbreaker if your partner preferred you not to use toys?

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Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
For me, it absolutely would be. I don't find that sexy. I love open minds and playfulness.

How about you?
03/03/2012
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Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
If a partner didn't want to use toys in our partnered sex, that wouldn't be the end of the world for me. I prefer organic sex, though if they were absolutely dead set against strap-ons and unwilling to be swayed at all, it would definitely give me pause because it's one of my favorite things but in general, I can live without toys in partnered sex. If a partner wanted to forbid me from using toys at all, even for my personal masturbation, that'd be a deal breaker for sure!
03/03/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
Before, I would have said no. But before, I didn't use toys. Lol. Now, I would say that yes, it's a deal-breaker. There is no reason not to accept toys into your life, no matter what they may be (cock rings, vibrators, blindfolds, etc.). They can spice up any relationship.
03/03/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Yep, that would never fly with me.
03/03/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
If he insists that I cannot have my collection, I'd simply tell him, I forbid him from masturbating. At all. For me, my toys are not a replacement, but an addition to sex and to my hands and fingers.

I'd even question our relationship, for usually men (in my experience) do not like toys because they are insecure of them. I am not keen on being with a man who is insecure because of toys.
03/03/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Total deal breaker for me. I have a lot of money tied up in my collection! Plus, to me, saying that one can't use toys shows an insecurity in the bedroom. I prefer my men to be confident in their abilities.
03/03/2012
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
Yea, that wouldn't work out for me... like, at ALL! He would kick rocks before I'd stop using toys!
03/03/2012
Contributor: pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
I like toys for foreplay, a lot. So it would suck pretty bad, but I might be about to deal
03/03/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
I would compromise...none during couple sex but all I want for solo.
03/03/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
It would be a deal breaker for me.
03/03/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
For me, it absolutely would be. I don't find that sexy. I love open minds and playfulness.

How about you?
It would be decidedly odd and very much a deal breaker...I have drawers full of toys and a closet full of lingerie so any guy telling me I need to stop using them would get laughed out of the room. My guys like the fact that I can handle my huge sex drive without them if I need to. That and sometimes they just aren't interested in PIV sex and a toy saves the day!
03/03/2012
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
Definite dealbreaker.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
In partnered sex, it wouldn't be a deal-breaker, though I'd at least make the appeal that it could make things more interesting and fun for both parties.

If a guy told me not to use toys even by myself... That right there is telling me how to masturbate. It's controlling and potentially abusive. I would not tolerate behavior like that.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Nissa Nissa Nissa Nissa
Deal breaker because it could also be a pre-cursor for him being super controlling.
03/04/2012