my sons are starting to get curious and I think it might be time to be on the safe side rather than sorry.. would you give a condom to your teen kid?
Would you give a condom to your teen kid?
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Of course. They're more than likely going to be having sex whether you suspect it or not. I'd rather my kids be safe than have a paranoid parent who is too scared to talk to their kids about safe sex.
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
my sons are starting to get curious and I think it might be time to be on the safe side rather than sorry.. would you give a condom to your teen kid?
05/12/2012
So far I haven't. However, we have had several talks about safe sex. We have discussed condoms as well as other types of birth control and how to obtain them and when they are appropriate. I also have been in the grocery store and pointed out where they are on the shelf! They know! I also have said that I believe sex is an adult activity and that if you are adult enough to be in a sexual relationship then be a man and buy ahead of time! (if I had girls I would say be a woman and be prepared yourself!) I am also positive that they have the financial and transportation resources needed to make those purchases! I feel like my job is to give them information, and provoke thought. Their job is to make their own choices. I have tried to set things up so that making wise choices is the natural choice.
05/12/2012
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I don't know what I would do if my kids told me they'd be having a kid. So safe is good. But then I don't want to encourage it?
Originally posted by
chantalgiardina
my sons are starting to get curious and I think it might be time to be on the safe side rather than sorry.. would you give a condom to your teen kid?
05/12/2012
I would definitely sit them down and have a talk, not just hand them a pack of condoms: "Here ya go" lol.. (I doubt that's what you meant.) MY belief is that sex is best saved for marriage. But I also know that my future kids are going to make their own decisions, and if they decide to have sex before they marry, I'd much rather them be protected than to end up pregnant/get a girl pregnant, or contract STD's.
05/13/2012
Yes, although I think ze would probably be quite capable of finding zir own condoms (I know I was). I would be sure at the time to have an open dialogue about sex/intimacy going; I can't really see having, adopting, or potentially even fostering one without that. (Other things, like age and the maturity of the teen, would come into it as well--that would have to be included in the conversation. But I'm not sure I would ever out-right refuse, out of thinking that would be detrimental, I would no longer be an ally, and it'd still be pretty easy for the teen to get zir hands on a condom.)
05/13/2012
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I think that's like saying birth control pills encourage sexual promiscuity.
Originally posted by
deltalima
I don't know what I would do if my kids told me they'd be having a kid. So safe is good. But then I don't want to encourage it?
Of course is give my (future) children access to condoms, or even other forms of birth control. But we'd have to discuss it first.
05/13/2012
