One of the issues couples bring up most frequently in sex therapy, and one we also hear about often, is that they're having a hard time with finding and/or stimulating the elusive G-spot. Admittedly, it can seem more complicated than activating a shuttle launch sequence at first. In fact, the misguided notion that a woman can only achieve an orgasm via the clitoris persisted all the way up to the 1950's (gasp!) Fortunately, the Dark Ages are far behind us, and today we know infinitely more about the nature of our sexuality. So don't panic, because unlocking the secret of the G-spot is really quite simple when you know the right code; and that's exactly what you'll find below. This guide is intended to explain everything you need to know about the G-spot as simply and clearly as possible. So without further ado, let's jump right in.
What and where is the G-spot?
Clinically speaking, the G-spot is a lima bean sized spongy mass of tissue that comprises uterine glands wrapped around the urethra. Because of it's proximity to the bladder, many women report an urge to urinate during the first moments of G-spot stimulation.
Though the G-spot's location varies slightly from person to person, it's generally located about two-finger-joints length into the vagina on the side facing your tummy. You might not be able to find it immediately, but don't worry; it's there. The G-spot is actually behind, and not on, the anterior (front) vaginal wall, so you'll need to apply firm pressure to stimulate it.
For the most part, the G-spot remains concealed in its unstimulated state, but once aroused, it begins to swell from increased blood flow. It will also be distinguishable by its firm and lightly ridged texture. That's just one reason to warm things up with a little foreplay before heading for the G-spot; another is that simultaneous clitoral and G-spot orgasms, which we'll discuss in further detail ahead, can deliver a much more gratifying experience together than separately.