When
it comes to choosing a sex toy for her, chances are you’re
gonna need help no matter how well you think you know her. Don’t
get me wrong; there are some guys who are totally in tune with their
partners and really know what they want—inside and out. So what
makes me think that you’re in need of some coaching? Well, the
fact that the words ‘sex toy’ immediately followed by
“doghouse’ seemed to get your attention makes it a dead
giveaway!
Choosing
a sex toy for your girlfriend or spouse requires more thought than
something like a sweater. Think about it; this is going to be inside
of her—you wouldn’t put just anything in there, would
you?? Don’t sweat it my boy because I am going to give you the
tips you need to help you choose a sex toy for your gal that she will
not only love but thank you for over and over and over again!
Things
to Consider BEFORE You Shop
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Have
you ever seen one of those episodes of the Flintstones or any other
show that revolves around a husband and wife where the husband buys
the wife a gift like a bowling ball or something that is obviously
for his own benefit and not hers? Well this is a common mistake that
guys make when shopping for a naughty surprise; choosing something
that turns them on as opposed to thinking of her wants first. You
really do need to think of her and her tastes when you’re
choosing an intimate surprise because the look of surprise that
you’re after is one of pleasant surprise that is followed by a
naughty gleam in the eye as opposed to the look of terrified
surprise that is followed by slap across your smug-ass face. So my
first tip to remember: Just
because YOU find it sexy doesn’t mean she will and it ain’t
about you anyway!
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If you’re not sure—ask! There is no better way to confirm
what she likes than to ask her. If you want to keep the whole thing
as much of a surprise as possible, then you don’t need to go
into too many specifics but rather approach the subject of sex toys
in a roundabout sort of way. For instance, check out some of our
products with her and gage her reaction. If the sight of a big pink
Rabbit
vibe make her eyes light up like a kid who has just seen Santa, then
it’s pretty safe to bet that she’d be up for trying it
or one similar to it. On the other hand if she starts screeching
obscenities at you at the mere mention of a vibrator, then you may
need to consider something a tad more toned down like the I
Rub My Duckie
or some other cute and non-threatening toy.
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Start
small. In case there is any doubt, I really am talking about the
actual size of the toy when it comes to vibrators or dildos. If this
is her first experience with sex toys, you may want to avoid
starting off with anything too intimidating or downright awkward.
Unless she has specifically stressed interest in being penetrated by
a monster cock; I would recommend steering clear of anything that is
referred to as “jumbo”
or “supersize” or “mammoth”!
You want to turn her on, not scare her off.
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What’s
her style? Is she someone who gravitates to pretty, frilly, girlie
things and dots her ‘i’s with hearts? Is she open-minded
sexually and up for anything? Is she very low-key? These are all
clues that can help you choose a sex toy that she’ll actually
use. For the girlie-girl, consider one of the many pretty toys that
come in pinks and pearls, etc. If she’s very timid and shy,
then you might want to go with a clitoral stimulator, something
small and discreet. The LAYAspot
by Fun Factory
is gentle, non-threatening, and ergonomic to boot! It’s
absolutely user-friendly, featuring eight different levels of
vibration, making it possibly the quintessential clitoral stimulator
on the market today. If you think she’d like something even
more tactful, if not wholly discreet, then the Incognito
Lipstick Vibe
is where discretion and delight converge. She won’t even know
that it’s a vibrator – well, not until she turns it on,
and it in turn turns her on!
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If
shyness and experience aren’t a concern, surprise her with a
Pure
Wand by
Njoy. This stainless steel Wand’s pure pleasure, promising an
intense exploration of her g-spot like she’s never experienced
before. But if she’s not a heavy-metal kind of girl, maybe her
g-spot would better prefer something with a little vroom to it –
like a Gigi
G-Spot Vibrator
by LELO. The Gigi’s got more user options than a buffet table
– but this is one buffet she’ll never lose her appetite
for! The Galan
G-Spot Vibrator
on the other hand doesn’t necessarily require a programmer’s
degree to operate, but it’ll sate her inner geek’s
g-spot all day and night!
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And
if she’s bold enough to enjoy a little anal play, there are
plenty of options. Vivid’s
Acrylic Pleasure Wand by
Doc Johnson is a set of acrylic anal beads, with an easy-to-grasp
handle base that you’ll both find plenty of uses for. The
Little
Flirt Butt Plug
by Tantus is perfect for beginner’s anal play. Made of
silicone, it’s completely safe, phthalate-free, and endowed
with a long, flat base, giving her plenty of options if she wants to
play solo. The Pure
Butt Plug
by Njoy, on the other hand, is a stainless steel marvel of anal play
– it’s a little more advanced, with more heft, and a
subtle ergonomic angling, designed to massage her happy place just
so!
And
while we’re talking about anal...this is NOT the type of toy
that you want to just spring on someone unless she has made it very
clear that she wants to try some backdoor play. It doesn’t
matter how much you long to try anal, you need to be sure that SHE
wants to. Capice??
And
while I’m lecturing you, I may as well mention that this rule
also goes applies to BDSM-related
toys as
well. You really do need to tread carefully as it is when choosing a
sex toy for your wife or girlfriend, but when it comes to toys that
can inflict pain or cross certain boundaries, then you really need to
use caution and caring. Not all women enjoy anal sex is and not all
women are going to be comfortable with being dominated or humiliated
or have pain inflicted on them in the name of sex. Know her limits
before you shop and don’t try to force your way past them.
Period. If you’re ABSOLUTELY SURE that she’d be up for
some mild
BDSM play, you could try something like the Vanilla
Bondage Kit
or the Barely
Bonds Kit.
Some
Final Advice
While
this is about learning how to choose a sex toy for your wife or
girlfriend, there is no reason why you shouldn’t get to have
some fine, right? I mean, you were just selfless enough to take the
time to read this article all in the name of her pleasure after all!
If you find that you’re still kinda stumped on what type of toy
she would love, then why not go the route of something made for both
of you? It’s a lot less selfish than buying something like
Chasey
Lane Signature Vagina
and trying to pass it off as a gift for her! Though you should
totally buy one for yourself for those nights when she’s away
on business or just not speaking to you after your latest infraction
against womanity. But you didn’t hear that from me! *wink*)
Things like vibrating
love rings
and other toys
for couples
are made to give her maximum pleasure while you use it on her and
yes, they even throw in a little good vibration for the penis.
Because it’s always nice for your bone to be thrown a bone,
right?
Choosing
a sex
toy for couples
may even be the best option when you’re dealing with a woman
who has never used sex toys before because it may be a little more
comforting trying it out with the help of her great, giving, sexual
philanthropist of a partner! So get out there and get shopping! Your
toe-curling, sheet-twisting thank you for being so sexually selfless
is only a click away!
