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New comers strap-on kit review

On a purely practical note, I will say that I did not find the toy itself intimidating as the male counterpart. If you were going to try such play, I think this is an excellent starter kit. The dildo part is not intimidating in size, and outside of shape avoids resembling an actual penis, which may be of comfort to many men.... kudos to any sex toy that can provoke that type of reflection.
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Morgana’s Review

I put on the black straps, slipped them up onto my thighs and hips and adjusted them accordingly. The bottom pieces remained a little loose, but the overall feel was comfortable and easily worn. I had worn the strap-on around the house just for fun before we decided to give it a go, and I can’t lie, I enjoyed wearing it, but was timid about using it in a sex act.

 Finally after days of kidding about me fucking David in the ass, we resolved to try it. “Use lots of lube,” David told me, and that was my plan. We started with our usual routine, kissing, fondling, and rubbing each other down like chicken legs ready for basting. During our foreplay, I remained on top, with my own purple penis matching the upright position of his skin toned one. Soon it went into sex, where I still remained on top, and there I stayed. It was as if I was in control, every move was up to me, how fast, how slow. It was as if I was the man in charge. Was it the penis? Was it the positioning? Was it the mood? Of all these questions, I can only answer in the fact that because I was feeling like I had another power between my legs, it became my sex, my power, my night to come.

So I must admit that we have yet to actually use the little strap-on anally, I will say that I enjoyed the feeling of being in control. If it takes a penis to have that feeling, then I would recommend wearing one to any woman who feels like she is the underdog in bed.

David’s review

 I think the lesson of New comers strap-on kit is that, at least while with one you love, it is difficult to separate the psychological from the physical. I don’t know of many straight guys that would be openly enthusiastic about having a penis-shaped object inserted into his anus in a manner reminiscent of gay sex. So as you may guess, our receipt of this toy presented some challenges. Talk about taking one for the team! I approached this toy with an open mind though. If you can get past the false assumptions of homosexual tendencies that are often associated with male anal-stimulation, this may be the toy for you. Let’s face it. You can add cock rings, vibrators, whips and restraints to a relationship, which may all make it somewhat different and exciting, but there are few things you can add to a sexual relationship that may actually make it challenging. Introducing a toy like a strap-on may introduce issues like role-reversal, penis envy, aspects of domination and submission, sadomasochism, feminization and emasculation, amongst others.

 As open-minded and sexually adventurous as a couple that I truly believe we are, inviting a toy like this presented inhibitions of the mind that we were not prepared for at the moment. To me at least, it showed that even though we may try to present ourselves sexually with a certain amount of confidence and adventurism, there are always underlying psychological foundations to our displays of sexuality. Perhaps we can easily dismiss what we do with a one-night stand or for another whom we may not have a certain amount of respect. Perhaps we do it, and the experience stays with us like an oil stain on the floor of a garage. Something that is always there and visible if we pay attention, but we become accustom to and ignore due to its everyday presence. Perhaps you have agreed to an open-relationship with your significant other, but find that jealousy or questions arise with interactions outside of your commitment. Perhaps you enjoy pursuing the naughty and taboo with your loved one of many years, but find certain activities raise questions regarding your perceptions of each other as individuals and as a couple, maybe even representing something greater than just the sexual interaction that you share together.

 I’m not saying that all these issues sprouted from our receipt of a strap-on. But it did make it clear that the sexual relationship that Morgana and I share goes beyond the physical. When you have a relationship that not only shares a physical plane, but an emotional and psychological one as well, it will be ever more impossible to separate those planes. Our sexuality is forever an expression of something deeper, in one way or another. It may be of benefit to a relationship too not only acknowledge at least as much, but to work with it.

 On a purely practical note, I will say that I did not find the toy itself intimidating as the male counterpart. If you were going to try such play, I think this is an excellent starter kit. The dildo part is not intimidating in size, and outside of shape avoids resembling an actual penis, which may be of comfort to many men. In theory, I give this toy four stars. After addressing some of the thoughts that came to use along with this toy, we may just give it a try one day. Nevertheless, kudos to any sex toy that can provoke that type of reflection.
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  • ewz
    This is definitely a different kind of review from all the others. It is interesting, David, that you chose to say what you did; but also refreshing.

    The taboo of "anal sex is for gays" still seems to run strong; which is unfortunate for the straight men out there that have not tried it and are scared to do so. I used to be like that, but after lots of discussion with my partner found that she had always wanted to try a strap on and was interested in anal sex as well. It took a while for me to get over the taboo thoughts but once I did it has opened the door to so many more pleasures that I would not have imagined before.

    I think the "always trying something at least once" saying is a perfect example here. Be open with your partner, discuss, research, discuss, and if you are still willing to try it give it a shot. There is a vast amount of literature out there for anal sex on both men and women of all sexual orientations, many of them are here on eden. (Don't forget "The good vibrations guide to sex"   :-p)

    Thanks for opening up to us and for the review. 
  • Sleeping Dreamer
    David, you hit the nail on the head- what a fabulous perspective! I look forward to your future reviews, you've instantly become one of my favorite contributors here and this review makes you a great asset to the EF community! Kudos David!
  • ToyingCouple
    ToyingCouple  
    An absolutely wonderful review folks and very refreshing to see some important issues raised in your write up.  There's such a double standard for men and women who enjoy this type of play.  Men certainly don't bring up the fact that they were pegged by their partner as part of locker room chat because of the stigma society associates with it.  But we know from our own experience that behind closed bedroom doors there are plenty of heterosexual couples who practice play of this sort!  Keep up the great reviews!
  • SerpentLibertine
    SerpentLibertine  
    David, you shouldn't assume that strap-on sex is just for gay men. A lot of straight men enjoy this activity, but because of the assumption that anal sex for men, is just for gays, are afraid to admit it. This is something I was just talking to Tristan Taormino about the other day and she's doing an "anal sex for men" series just because of it. I've known a lot of men who enjoy anal sex and are completely straight, so that's why these strap-ons exist.
  • strapon fantasy
    I have had a fantasy about my girlfriend strapping one on and doing me for quite a while now, but am not sure how to bring it up.  Any suggestions?
  • queertastic
    queertastic  
    Wow. What an amazing review! Thanks for all the insights into so much more than just the strapon. My boyfriend and I are considering anal play with a harness and we're going to sit down and read this review when he comes over this weekend.

    Thanks so much!

    Strapon Fantasy -- I beleive that the best way to facilitate communication is to ask her about one of her secret fantasies and then you telling her about yours. You never know -- she might want the same thing!
  • married and adding spice
    married and adding spice  
    My husband and I have been married for six years now and he has a fantasy about strap-ons. We have used a few different anal stimulators for him and he always enjoys it. My question is for Morgana. My husband and I are very open and willing to try anything, but how did you overcome the fears of role reversal.
  • kcordie
    kcordie  
    great review!
  • lemony
    lemony  
    I would have liked to have read about the actual experience or aspects of the strap-on.
  • eri86
    eri86  
    Thanks for sharing.
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