New comers strap-on kit - beginner harness and dildo set discontinued by Sportsheets - review by Morgana Moon

Morgana’s Review

I put on the black straps, slipped them up onto my thighs and hips and adjusted them accordingly. The bottom pieces remained a little loose, but the overall feel was comfortable and easily worn. I had worn the strap-on around the house just for fun before we decided to give it a go, and I can’t lie, I enjoyed wearing it, but was timid about using it in a sex act.

 Finally after days of kidding about me fucking David in the ass, we resolved to try it. “Use lots of lube,” David told me, and that was my plan. We started with our usual routine, kissing, fondling, and rubbing each other down like chicken legs ready for basting. During our foreplay, I remained on top, with my own purple penis matching the upright position of his skin toned one. Soon it went into sex, where I still remained on top, and there I stayed. It was as if I was in control, every move was up to me, how fast, how slow. It was as if I was the man in charge. Was it the penis? Was it the positioning? Was it the mood? Of all these questions, I can only answer in the fact that because I was feeling like I had another power between my legs, it became my sex, my power, my night to come.

So I must admit that we have yet to actually use the little strap-on anally, I will say that I enjoyed the feeling of being in control. If it takes a penis to have that feeling, then I would recommend wearing one to any woman who feels like she is the underdog in bed.

David’s review

 I think the lesson of New comers strap-on kit is that, at least while with one you love, it is difficult to separate the psychological from the physical. I don’t know of many straight guys that would be openly enthusiastic about having a penis-shaped object inserted into his anus in a manner reminiscent of gay sex. So as you may guess, our receipt of this toy presented some challenges. Talk about taking one for the team! I approached this toy with an open mind though. If you can get past the false assumptions of homosexual tendencies that are often associated with male anal-stimulation, this may be the toy for you. Let’s face it. You can add cock rings, vibrators, whips and restraints to a relationship, which may all make it somewhat different and exciting, but there are few things you can add to a sexual relationship that may actually make it challenging. Introducing a toy like a strap-on may introduce issues like role-reversal, penis envy, aspects of domination and submission, sadomasochism, feminization and emasculation, amongst others.

 As open-minded and sexually adventurous as a couple that I truly believe we are, inviting a toy like this presented inhibitions of the mind that we were not prepared for at the moment. To me at least, it showed that even though we may try to present ourselves sexually with a certain amount of confidence and adventurism, there are always underlying psychological foundations to our displays of sexuality. Perhaps we can easily dismiss what we do with a one-night stand or for another whom we may not have a certain amount of respect. Perhaps we do it, and the experience stays with us like an oil stain on the floor of a garage. Something that is always there and visible if we pay attention, but we become accustom to and ignore due to its everyday presence. Perhaps you have agreed to an open-relationship with your significant other, but find that jealousy or questions arise with interactions outside of your commitment. Perhaps you enjoy pursuing the naughty and taboo with your loved one of many years, but find certain activities raise questions regarding your perceptions of each other as individuals and as a couple, maybe even representing something greater than just the sexual interaction that you share together.

 I’m not saying that all these issues sprouted from our receipt of a strap-on. But it did make it clear that the sexual relationship that Morgana and I share goes beyond the physical. When you have a relationship that not only shares a physical plane, but an emotional and psychological one as well, it will be ever more impossible to separate those planes. Our sexuality is forever an expression of something deeper, in one way or another. It may be of benefit to a relationship too not only acknowledge at least as much, but to work with it.

 On a purely practical note, I will say that I did not find the toy itself intimidating as the male counterpart. If you were going to try such play, I think this is an excellent starter kit. The dildo part is not intimidating in size, and outside of shape avoids resembling an actual penis, which may be of comfort to many men. In theory, I give this toy four stars. After addressing some of the thoughts that came to use along with this toy, we may just give it a try one day. Nevertheless, kudos to any sex toy that can provoke that type of reflection.