Bend over beginner harness kit by Tantus

The idea of penetrating your man may seem a little weird, but once you get comfortable with the idea, this is the kit to start with. It comes with everything you will need to experiment a little and find out if you will enjoy this type of experience without a huge investment (you could spend well over $100 if you bought everything separately). I love the fact that the straps go around your legs which is much more comfortable than a thong style harness; it also allows your vaginal area to be open for penetration or play without taking the harness off. You should try the harness on before hand so that you can adjust it and cut the straps if you wish. When adjusting the harness make sure it isn't too tight as this will cut into your legs and push the vibrator against your clitoris too hard (believe me, I ended up with a bruise right above my clitoris). You do need to play around with this harness some to make sure that it is placed in the right position (which could be lower or higher depending one the person).

When I first took this toy out of the package I was amazed at the quality of the different pieces. The bend over harness kit is very sturdy and I love that it comes with an extra o-ring in a different size so you can buy other dildos to use with the harness. The dildos are extremely smooth and soft with just enough flimsiness to make it comfortable for the guy. They are made of silicone so you should use water based lube with this toy for safety purposes; I recommend Liquid Silk's Maximus lube which is perfect for anal sex and is bio-static so it helps prevent the spread of bacteria and yucky stuff like that (which is a big concern with anal sex). The mini-vibe is great (especially since it comes with the batteries) and really packs a punch for being so small. It is also waterproof so you can take it to the bathtub or shower with you.

Throughout your experience with this, try to remain relaxed and open with communication (which is extremely important in this situation). You will probably have to get creative with positions though. I first attempted to have sex with my man he was lying on his back which is an extremely intimate position but it does make it difficult; you can't really see what you are doing so I kept slipping out without knowing it. One thing you can do to fix this is to prop him up with a pillow or two under his lower back or use a sex sling if he's up for it. This position is great for starting out but if it's not working I would switch to him on all fours and you behind him. One word of advice though, start off slow and work him up to using a dildo. Start by using one finger and then two; after that he should be ready for the smaller dildo. It's all about using lots of lube and taking things slow so you don't injure him.