Share - double-ended dildo by Fun Factory - review by fymenfolk

This toy can be used by any couple who wants to share penetration, and is especially useful when one partner has a vagina (be they a ciswoman or a transman). The shaft end of the Share is satisfying enough to use the toy for masturbation: the bulb end makes a decent handle in a pinch.

My personal experience with the Share is with pegging (female on male penetrative sex, I being the male), which I think it is just perfect for. I recommend Maximus or a similar thick lube. This should be added generously to the shaft. I recommend using a condom to ease clean-up, but the 100% silicone does not make sterilization hard. The bulb end also may need a little lube too, as it may be on the large size for some women. A thick lube is useful here too, unlike for most vaginal applications, since you don't want much movement. A harness with a ring (but no back) can be used. We don't have one, although I can see how it would help to keep the toy from occasionally falling out.

I won't give a full introduction to pegging here (the Bend Over Boyfriend series is a good resource), but these are the basics. Use a lubed finger (finger condoms can be invaluable here) to both lubricate and lightly clean the inside of the anus. Be generous on the foreplay, especially if you haven't had much in your ass before. Then get in a position you feel comfortable in. Many men find that squatting on top while their partner is lying on their back is a good place to start. Personally, I find being on all fours to feel the most natural.

Be aware that it will probably take a bit of patience to get the shaft in for the first time. The end is rather blunt. Your partner should press it only lightly against your ass. Do most of the moving at first by yourself. Push gently back/down into the toy. Try to visualize the toy going in. Imagine yourself opening up to it. If it begins to sting, pull it back out and try again. It may take a few minutes, but eventually your butt will accept the toy and it will slide in. Once you're over the bulbous tip of the shaft, you're past the hardest part.

Now the giver can begin to move the toy slowly and gently. You don't want rigorous thrusting right away; it will just make you tenser. Give a lot of feedback to your partner and soon you'll be able to work up to a pretty good rhythm!

The Share is made out of very nice silicone. It is soft but very firm. The texture can cause unwanted friction if you don't use enough lube, but I've never found it to be a problem. The shaft will bend, at maximum, about 30 degrees with the bulb held stationary. This can be minimized by using a harness. Users who are looking for vaginal penetration might want something a bit softer, but I found this perfect for pegging. Of course, this is made by Fun Factory, so it shouldn't come as a surprise that it's an aesthetic and ergonomic wonder.

The tip of the shaft makes insertion a little challenging, but it stimulates my prostate like nobody's business. It helps that the toy is quite big-it's bigger than me! I really like the look of the toy. It is somewhat penis-like, but definitely not so much that it's off-putting. I can't speak from personal experience, but my wife highly enjoys the bulb end as well. It seems to hit her G-spot, and the ridge at the bottom of the shaft is right at clit-level.

Any harness-free double dildo is going to fall out sometimes. The Share, however, does a wonderful job staying in due to the bulb's unique shape and ample size. As always, a little sense of humor and flexibility goes a long way when dealing with this, or any harness-free double dildo.

For some, either end might be too big. It is a rather hefty toy.

I recommend a thick, water based lube for this toy. It's silicone which means you can also use oil-based lubes as long as you're not using a condom on it. Silicone lubes are a big no-no. You can wash it with soap and water, which should be sufficient if you didn't let any part of the toy enter the anal canal. Otherwise, boiling the toy for a couple minutes is a good idea. If it seems a bit bendy when it comes out of the water, don't worry, it'll regain its shape when it cools. There are no tricky creases of crevices which makes the Share a breeze to clean. I would keep it out of the open air just so it doesn't collect hair and dust.

For genderplay, those with vaginas may enjoy inserting the bulb and either jacking off or receiving non-penetrative stimulation on the shaft of toy. It can produce quite intense sensations both internally and externally.

Despite the fact that there is a toy between us, pegging using the Share is an intensely intimate experience for myself and my wife. I don't want to minimize how great pegging with a harness and one-ended dildo can be, but the aptly-named Share feels as mutual and powerful as penis-in-vagina intercouse.