The Joy of Erotic Massage - dvd by Ultimate - review by leatherlover

The Joy of Erotic Massage was made by the Sinclair Intimacy Institute. When you put it in, it goes to the main menu, which features play video, chapter selection, behind the scenes, no greater love #2, bonus short video, and sexual health information.

No greater love #2 is nothing special, just a little ad telling you to use protection.

The bonus short video is a video about Tantric sex. It was a good short that my wife and I both enjoyed, and we probably will look into buying a fuller length video and try to learn some more of the techniques that were discussed.

When you start the main feature, the narrator, who has a deep soothing voice, goes first into talking about touch and how important touch is. Next we meet French sexologist and TV host Louise-Andree Saulnier, who talks about couples complaining about losing sexual feelings between each other. She emphasizes the power of the hands and how they can show what kind of lover that you are. She also talks about touch, how you can make it sexual, and that by doing so, you can make an orgasm stronger. After this, the feature goes into the preparation for erotic massage.

For preparation, the narrator tells you to be relaxed, choose some soothing music, and turn off all forms of noise that could distract you. Also, take off jewelry, have a nice place prepared like a bed or massage table, towels, and two different kinds of lube: oil-based for the body, and water-based for the genitals. He gives you amounts of oil you should expect to use in a massage, and he even makes the point multiple times to use more oil if your partner is hairy. You don't want to ruin the massage by pulling out hair, ouch!

While he is talking during this time, there are two average couples being shown who will be demonstrating what he talks about. He also gives tips on what areas to focus on that are highly erotic like the mouth, lips, fingertips, ears, neck, inner thighs and nipples.

After applying oil-based massage oil to your hands, he tells you to start with the back and to work on removing muscle tension. He gives you tips on where to stand, and how to move your hands. He emphasizes taking your time and enjoying each other. After working on the back, the legs then get attention before the demonstrator flips over. The narrator also touches on how nice a foot massage can be, and how certain parts of the foot are tied to the health of certain organs. He also tells you to work on the hands as well as the neck, scalp, and the face. I know from personal experience that my wife absolutely loves when I massage her scalp.

A little over halfway into the video, they get to the point of massaging the genital areas. The first point the narrator makes is to make sure to remove any residual oil-based lube from your hands and to switch to a water-based lube. They first focus on the female's, and the narrator directs you to start with just massaging the lips. He then slowly directs you on how to find and massage the clitoris before having you move for the insertion of your fingers.

Next up is the male genital massage. The first thing the narrator emphasizes is to make sure that as the male you allow your partner to give you pleasure, and don't try to pleasure her at the same time. During the male massage, after applying the lube, the couples demonstrate different ways to pleasure the penis with the hand, instead of just stroking the penis.

After this, the couples finish with different "holds" using their hands which are erotic and relaxing for both partners. The last tip that the narrator gives is to maybe go "re-enter" the daily world by going to take a shower.

The video concludes with Louise again, and this time she is emphasizing that for sexual pleasure, couples need to do more than just have intercourse. Explore your partner's body in different ways, make sure to be prepared and willing to accept changes as you get older, and don't stop sexual activities just because you can not have intercourse.

Overall, my wife and I are very pleased with this DVD. It provided a lot of useful information in an easy-to-watch format, and after having watched it again a year or so after our purchase, I still relearned some good tips for massages. A nice thing about Sinclair videos is that they always use real couples for demonstrations. My wife and I have six or seven different DVDs from them, and we have enjoyed each one. Just like the other DVDs, we always have sat down on the couch and watched the DVD from start to finish. After it has finished, we then go into the bedroom and apply what we just learned. The pace is set where it would be difficult to do what they are demonstrating at the same time.

We have had this video for a few years now, and we have watched it together I think twice. It is not at all boring to watch, and it isn't just about massaging someone's back. Massage the penis, massage the legs, and massage your partners vagina. I am sure we will watch it again in the future to give ourselves a refresher.