Making the Sexual, Clinical

Mating in Captivity reads more like a supplemental text on sex and relationship therapy, but less application for the normal couple.
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Pros
Some good information, well written examples, great bibliography.
Cons
Heterosexist view, a little cold, not as much application for couples.
Rating by reviewer:
3
somewhat useful review
As a graduate student studying sex therapy, I was curious to examine Mating in Captivity. My first complaint, being a big proponent of GLBT involvement in the sexual health community, is the lack of discussion involving relationships that do not involve the heterosexual man/woman dynamic. I would prefer to see a book about all members in serious relationships instead.

I agree that this book seems almost too clinical for the usual couple who may be stuck in a rut. It would however be a good resource for those exploring why the lust might be gone in a relationship that is still full of love. One would simply need to get past the textbook feel of some of the chapters, though it is peppered with some racier language.

I do however implore all those interested in sex or relationships therapy to grab a copy of Esther Perel's book. I will keep it on my shelf for reference when working with primarily heterosexual couples. There is quality information in Mating in Captivity.

I was happy to see references at the end of this book. References always make me happy when it comes to work in a therapeutic setting. And Esther does talk about sessions she has had with clients. I also enjoyed the bibliography and plan on looking for several of the books to continue my reading.

There is not a lot of "action" for couples I believe. It seems like the text revolves more around the couples and clients of Esther and less about application of her techniques for the individual reading the book. Some topics explored seem more like a repetition of the same ideas in other books.

I think this could be a preliminary read before going to see a sex or relationship therapist to bring ideas and exploration into the relationship.
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  • Contributor: Ciao.
    It's a bummer that most relationship/sex books avoid GLBT issues for the most part (or just leave them to a sidebar or short section)...oh well. Curious if there were any particular sections or passages that you thought really exemplified the good advice the book has to offer? Sometimes a short excerpt helps me decide if a book is worth picking up. Glad to read your review though!
  • Contributor: LucyLemonade
    The Chapter "Democracy Versus Hot Sex" I did find interesting. This chapter discusses BDSM style play in the bedroom and discusses it in a way that doesn't pathologize it. I was happy to see a small section on female empowerment and how being in a submissive role does not mean that the woman has become less than man, but instead talks about power exchange.

    I was happy to see D/s relationships being referred to in a positive light and in a way more than just a light spanking!
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