Screw The Roses, Send Me the Thorns - bdsm toy by Mystic Rose Books - review by Cinnamon

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This book is absolutely a must-have for those interested in or just getting started in S/M. You simply will not be able to put it down once you open it up! I have to say I was rather disappointed that they described Master/slave relationships as dangerous and pretty much unattainable, comparing it to mainly fantasy fiction.
Published:
Pros:
Really helpful for starters, great layout, easy to follow, timeless.
Cons:
It is kinda outdated, especially on the internet, sites and safety issues.
Rating by reviewer:
4
useful review

About author

This was the first BDSM book I've read. The authors of this book, Phillip Miller and Molly Devon are amazing and very easy to follow. Their dynamic is apparent throughout every section of the book. They are hilarious in every sense of the word, you can tell they do not take themselves too seriously, which makes the book a great read.

Content / Style / Audience

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns has everything that a person would need just starting out in BDSM. The foreword written by Dr. William A. Granzig, is a great to start the book, especially for those that may be skeptical of the lifestyle.The book itself is divided into 13 Main parts, complete with Glossary and 6 appendixes. The writing style is very tongue in cheek, and it gets very hard to put it down. By the end, you really feel as if you have been visiting some new friends and all along they've been explaining it to you in your own living room. You really get the sense you know them. It is definitely geared toward the inexperienced, however I would recommend it to the experienced as well.

The first few parts make up an introduction to your "hosts" and to the art of sadomasochism. There are a lot of explanations and definitions in these sections. The first section has everything you would need to know about the people in the lifestyle, and a little about what they do. The second section is more about communication, trust, and be involved in a S/M relationship. I would not hesitate to even give out the second part to my vanilla friends. There is a major wealth of information to help any relationship. The third section discusses finding that special someone to have an S/M relationship with. It covers a lot of dating safety and where to look.

The fourth section covers a lot on negotiating and the different levels of D/s (that's Dominance/submission, for you nilla folks). I kinda hit a snag here, since some of what they spoke did not sit too well within me, but hey if one paragraph is all we disagree on, we're still doing great! The fifth section covers letting go of society's views on sex.

The next five sections cover various primers on sexual "torture" (YUM!), such as clamps, ice, bondage and bondage techniques, electro play, flogging, spanking, and a myriad of others. I read these sections numerous times as they do go over a lot safety precautions to take when playing, especially when you are still new.

There is a small section on "flying" that is very interesting. The next covers humiliation, embarrassment, and the mind fucks, which was also a great section to read several times. I've gotten lots of ideas from this part of the book for scenes. The last section goes over how to furnish your own dungeon. It has lots of information on how to build your own equipment, which saves money, and who doesn't want that?
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  • Kinky Kitty
    Kinky Kitty  
    Great review without spoiling it...thanks!
  • Cinnamon
    Cinnamon  
    Thanks, I was nervous, it was my first review. I'm glad to know someone enjoyed it.
  • Adriana Ravenlust
    Adriana Ravenlust  
    What qualifies the authors to write this sort of book? H?ave you read SM 101? I'm wondering how they compare
  • Cinnamon
    Cinnamon  
    They have more than 20 years BDSM experience between the two of them, and have trained under some internationally recognized BDSM artisans.
    I haven't read SM 101, but that is definitely on the list of books I that I am coveting, so I couldn't give a comparison.Smile
  • Maiden
    Maiden  
    I'm a bookworm, so I love book reviews! Thanks!
  • Cinnamon
    Cinnamon  
    Thanks Maiden.Big smile
  • Thegrownandsexy
    Thegrownandsexy  
    having a curious nature I didnt even know that had a book on this fetish, thanks alot for your review.
  • Cinnamon
    Cinnamon  
    Thanks for your comment, it is a great book to read. I would recommend it even to vanilla folks, it's definitely not so far out there that anyone couldn't enjoy it! Big smile
  • Kmonkey
    Kmonkey  
    Great review, thanks for putting it up so I have even more to add to my wishlist.
    As Dom/sub goes, I think a lot of the "rules" and the different relationship dynamics are all based on each individual couple. Though I've come close to taking offense at a misrepresentation of the lifestyle my self .
  • Cinnamon
    Cinnamon  
    Thanks so much Kmonkey! Everything, and when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING, is subjective in this lifestyle! Glad to see your wishlist grow, it's certainly a great read.
  • sithchick
    sithchick  
    Very helpful review! I just have one question-- in my relationship, I'm the driving force behind pursuing BDSM scenarios, the one most interested in subbing, and I have much more sexual experience. It sounds like this might be a good book to give my boyfriend to help him get more ideas for Domming it up, as it were. So do you see this book as more of a primer, a guide (I'm looking for the latter!) or both?
  • Cinnamon
    Cinnamon  
    Absolutely! Our M/s started the exact same way you describe! We each read the book as our first BDSM book, and I'm happy to tell you, Master learned a lot from this book! It has lots of instruction and scenarios.
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