The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex

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The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex review

If you are looking for a book about the basics of strap-on sex and need humor to get you through it, this is the book for you.
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Pros:
Funny and intelligent, meant for a wide audience, very broad, a good basic book.
Cons:
Some content seemed out of place, some information out of date, promotes particular products.
Rating by reviewer:
3
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The book begins with a chapter on debunking myths about strap-on sex. It also claims to be a guide for heterosexual folks and gay men as well as lesbians and other folks with whom strap-on sex is generally associated. Fairy Butch stays true to form in making it an accessible book for everyone.

She spends the next few chapters discussing the pros and cons of dildo materials and construction, harnesses, and lubricants. While most of the information she provides is relevant, at some points it seems like the book is trying to sell you a product. And while this book was published in 2000, there isn’t much information on products like the Nexus|Sex toys reviews: Nexus Sr. or Feeldoe|Sex toys reviews: Feeldoe stout—double ended dildos that can make strap-on sex more enjoyable for both partners but also much more complicated. The chapter on lube definitely felt the most like a catalog—I would have preferred a short discussion on the various materials within lubricant and how to read the ingredients list rather than a repetitive directory of lubes.

Chapters six through eight are the bulk of the matter of my concerns for strap-on sex—positions, how the penetrator can be stimulated, and tips for taking the show on the road by packing.

Chapter nine intricately details the process of clit pumping. While extremely interesting, FB does little to link clit pumping with strap-on sex and how the two can be used in conjunction. It was quite weird to have a chapter on something a whole other book could be devoted to stuck in the middle of a guide to strap-on sex.

The last few chapters discuss how male folks can get involved in strap-on sex, strap-on sex from an anal perspective, and communicating sexual needs with your partner. At the end there is also a detailed bibliography and list of resources for those looking for more information.

Overall, this is a good basic book for those looking to start strapping it on, as well as beginners who don’t feel comfortable with their strapping abilities yet.
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  • Cock Wrangler
    Any good tips for packing hard (with a harness on)?
  • Quiteneil
    A good deal of the packing chapter is about packing hard--she gives three different ways to do it, one even involving no harness for folks who don't have one (involving a pair of button-fly jeans).  I think that the packing chapter is actually one of the most helpful in the book.
  • Essin' Em
    Essin' Em  
    What would you add to update it? Have you read any other strap on books you feel are better?
  • quiteneil
    quiteneil  
    I haven't read a lot of books that a better--mostly just general books that gloss over strap-on sex when they talk about a lot of other sex topics.

    As far as updating it, I think (especially in terms of the lube chapter) talking about the qualities of certain ingredients or materials and how to find them when you're out shopping would be better than a list of products.
  • Sleeping Dreamer
    Sleeping Dreamer  
    If given the opportunity, what would you have added to chapter 9 to better link clit pumping and strap on sex together?
  • Lady Neshamah
    Lady Neshamah  
    great review
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