Threesome - book discontinued by Triad Press - review by Lynx Lady

I purchased and read this book hoping I might gain some insight to a more realistic understanding of threesomes in practice. I did not find it in these pages. In fact, I had to force myself to finish reading it with much effort.
The book is coauthored by a woman and man with an original copyright dated in the late nineties. From the sexist bi-female glorifying tenor of the writing I would have been certain it was written by a male in his late teens had I not known this.

This book encourages telling a variety of lies to potential thirds, including a married couples ensnaring a single male by having the wife approach him and ask if he'd being willing to join forces with a supposedly unknown male to satisfy her. There is also a passage that suggests plying a woman with alcohol to make her more willing to engage in a threesome.

Besides the many morally suspect, or downright distasteful, pointers in this book there, is a strong subset of a gender bias that I find does a great disservice to all genders and orientations. The bisexual female is treated as currency to be valued and acquired however possible. Males other than straight are treated with disregard, while straight males are set as less valued and needing to convince and lie to get the previously mentioned bi female to have a threesome with them. The section on two female one male threesomes spends all of it's pages talking about it's superiority to a two male one female threesome because, of course all men are affection-less minutemen who will be threatened by another male in their bed. Meanwhile the section on two male one female threesomes insists that all a woman has to do is seek such as arrangement to achieve it, because men are easy of course.

Also noteworthy is the fact that the only mention of birth control contained in the book references vasectomy as a preferred method and makes no mention of protecting ones self and partners from STIs by using condoms, dental dams, or any barrier methods at all. Instead is advises not to let a female's fear of pregnancy deter her from jumping into bed with you and your spouse. Finally, despite the edition I have being one republished in 2003, the information on means of seeking a partner are incredibly out of date. The discussed modes of search include coded mail personal ads and pagers, with no mention of any online form of pursuit is made.

A brief google search will yield more useful, insightful, practical, and up to date information than this book.

When I originally read this book I had not yet had a threesome. I had idealistic and nervous views of what it might be like and how to make it happen. I had an over-eager male partner who displayed the token behavior of being somewhat possessive, yet encouraging by "exploration" of my sexuality with another woman with him involved.

At the current time I have had several two female one male threesomes, in the situation of three single individuals, being the third to a married couple, and sharing a splendid lady with my own partner. Not a single word from this book has or would have proved useful to any of those situations.

I started to read this book, put it down for a long time and then finally forced myself to reread it mainly to write a review. It was rather painful to slog through but I felt I should at least help someone else avoid spending good money as I had to own such a book.

There is as much sexism in glorifying the bisexual females interest in females and disparaging the male's sexuality as there is to be found anywhere; dehumanizing and objecting a woman based on her interest in both sexes (and her husband as a mere visual animal in turn) is unsettling to me. For an relationship, no matter how brief, dishonesty is toxic and inexcusable. This book's endorsement of such practices spells disaster for anyone foolish enough to try to follow the advice it presents.

Also, in 2003 I had friends in Singapore, Australia, and various other places whom I kept in constant contact with when our time zones aligned for us to both be awake at the same time. The internet possessed a forum for everything and online personals were viewed as somewhat unusual ways to find mates, but were none the less widespread. For a book that decrees itself so authoritative and needed, I would expect a mention of the existence of the internet in the revision.