My husband and I use this quite often, we change up our sex life here and there by not actually having intercourse. We will perform oral sex and use toys and etc to get each other off. My husband likes to use this bullet during those times, as well as I do. While bullets are for clitoral stimulation, since this does have cord my husband likes to insert it while performing oral. I will say it definitely heightens the mood and feels amazing. Most of the time he will take the controller and use it to his advantage which also feels great, since I never know what he has planned, however there are times where he will let me control my pleasure. Either way, this bullet definitely adds to our game and feels amazing. We both hate that is had a loud buzzing sound on the more higher vibrations, but we figured that if inserted my womanhood kind of drowns out the loud buzzing to it.