It's hard being someone who is shy or reserved in the bedroom. Your imagination can run wild, but your voice won't say the words to express what you want. These are some tips and tricks for bringing even the shyest women (or men) out of their shell. It's easy to tell your friends how amazing your sex life is, but if it's just a sentence in a conversation, what is it really worth? There are steps you can take to spice it up in the bedroom, bathroom, or even the occasional PDA (public display of affection) situations.
Sex is like a recipe; you have your base, which, of course, is intercourse. What is a good recipe without some cooking, though? Adding a little heat (or cold) can make the outcome so much more pleasing. Before your next oral rendezvous, try popping in piece of ice, or even a cough drop, into your mouth. The difference in temperatures can be very exciting! This simple little trick seems relatively simple, but it provides great reactions!
Doing a sexy photo shoot isn't always appealing to everyone, but no one said you have to be completely nude in one! Whether your partner is taking the pictures, or you are setting up a pleasant surprise for them, pictures can be fun. Think burlesque; take a few teasing pictures, and give them to your partner. They'll be very appreciative of your efforts and time! You can even print a couple of your favorites off (on your personal printer, of course, so no one but you and your partner get to see them), and then place them in a sock drawer, or any other place that your partner is sure to see them. Doing a photo shoot with your partner can also be a ton of fun. Start off just taking pictures of one another, and undress one piece at a time, while having them take the pictures of you. I promise, the reaction you get from your partner will give you just as much excitement as your poses are giving them.
Adding toys to the bedroom is another way to liven things up a little. It can be something as simple as a small vibrating bullet, or a light bondage kit. You don't always have to go for the biggest and baddest toys out there. As a matter of fact, there are things around the house that you can use for a blind fold, or even for soft restraints. Scarfs and bandannas work great for both, actually! Blindfolding your partner and placing soft nibbles and kisses on their body is sure to drive them crazy. Vibrators and bullets don't always have to be used in an invasive way, either; they can be used for personal messages, or teasing during nipple play. There are a wide variety of toys and bedroom accessories to fit the wants and needs of anyone. Sometimes it does take a little trial and error, but the results can be phenomenal.
Roaming out of ones comfort zone can be nerve wracking and embarrassing at some points, but it can be totally worth it. When your partner is excited and wanting more of what you just did, there is no reason to feel embarrassed. Trying new things can be amazing, and it can be just what you've been needing in your sex life!