I love my girlfriend; she is my life. Sometimes, however, I need a little alone time. More importantly than that, sometimes I need to have a play session by myself. Yes, having sex with her is amazing; she knows the right spots to turn me on, the sounds she makes make me wetter than ever. There are times that I just want to play and experiment on my own, though. Although I feel bad about asking her for alone time sometimes, it's worth it in the end.
Having play sessions alone, by yourself, gives you the time to experiment. Doing this lets you try something new, and it helps you to see if you enjoy certain things. Alone time also serve to make you appreciate having sex with your partner more and more. It's as if the time you spend on your own is... well, a bowl of vanilla ice cream. It's something you know, and it's something you can change. It's simple; you do what you want with yourself. Sex with a partner, if it's right, is like a triple decker brownie sundae with all the toppings and whipped cream that you want. Yes, both are good and pleasurable, but sometimes that having a taste of plain vanilla ice cream can make you hungry for more. It can also make you appreciate the sundae even more, as well.
My girlfriend was out with a friend of ours the first night that I decided to have a solo session. They wanted to see a movie that I didn't have a taste for, so I told them to go ahead without me. While they were gone, I played. I started out in the shower with a couple of waterproof toys; then, I moved to the bedroom. This night was one of the few times that I squirted on my own. A few days after this, my girlfriend was having a Popsicle, and I pounced. This time we came, screaming together, until we were too sensitive for any touching at all, and we just passed out.
After this, I experimented for the next few weeks, and I began to notice a pattern. The sex that happened after solo sessions was always more intense, and more scream worthy. The nights after solo sessions felt better than anything we had ever done, and as time went on, it got even better.
Another upside to having solo sessions is that it relieves tension. Say you've had a long day at work; you've just got home, and your partner isn't there yet. You don't want to take your stress out on them when they get home, so instead you lock yourself in your bedroom. You strip off your work clothes, and you take a few minutes to play. By the time your partner gets home, you're more relaxed, and more importantly, you're ready for them.
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We were each other’s first female love, and she is the woman I want to one day marry. We’ve been through a lot, both together and separately, and we’ve only gotten stronger.
I believe that our alone time has played a big part in our relationship. We use our alone time to relax and cool our emotions, so that we don't take our stress out on one another.