I know it’s somewhat taboo, and many women cringe at the idea, but anal play can be a fun addition in your bedroom. With a few tips and pointers, and keeping hygiene a priority, you can enjoy anal sex in no time.
•SAFETY: Don’t rush into it. Take your time and move forward at your own pace.
•HYGIENE: With any ass play, it’s important to keep cleanliness in the forefront of your mind, or you’ll end up with a nasty and painful infection. Cleanse yourself before and after play and if you can, go to the bathroom about two hours before you begin.
•DON’T GO BACK AND FORTH: Once play begins, whether you’re using hands, toys, or your partner’s penis, do not, again, do not penetrate the vagina or mouth after there has been penetration in the ass. The anus is filled with bacteria that are not meant to go into your other orifices. One way to lower this risk is to use condoms, changing them every time there has been anal penetration. This way, you can engage in oral sex, then use a condom during vaginal sex, and move on to anal, change the condom, and go back to vaginal, etc.
•PREPARATION: As mentioned earlier, if you plan on engaging in anal sex, try to use the restroom about two hours beforehand. If you are capable of doing so, there will be less “mess” during the actual sex.
•RELAX: You want to make sure that you’re relaxed and calm. Ass play will not be easy or comfortable if you’re tense.
•GO SLOW: Engage in foreplay and make sure you’re aroused before you venture to the ass. If this is your first time, move forward slowly. Have your partner use their fingers to massage around your sphincter. There are a lot of nerve endings in this area, so manual stimulation can feel very pleasurable. Vary the pressure placed on the anus to discover what feels the best for you.
•LUBE IT UP: Before penetration begins, make sure that you have lubrication handy, and I would highly recommend using quite a bit, after all, rather sloppy than painful.
•START WITH A FINGER: Begin with a finger, but make sure the nails are clipped and don’t have any rough edges. After the finger is lubed, slowly push it in past the sphincter muscle. After a moment or two, you should feel it loosen, accommodating the digit. Now slowly begin to play, moving in and out. As you become more accustomed to the sensations, add a second finger or move on to a toy.
•ANAL SEX: When you’re ready to move on to anal sex, lube both yourself and his penis. A penis will be a much different sensation than a finger or a toy, so take it slow. Have him push in just a small amount, then stop, allowing your body to adjust to his girth. When you’re ready, move forward a little more, repeating the process until he’s fully inside you. Then increase thrusting based on your body’s responses.
•TAKE CONTROL: Instead of having him push into you, you can control the speed and depth of penetration by pushing back against him, a little at a time. This way, you can move forward at your own pace, not his.
•MANY POSITIONS: Most people automatically think doggy style when they think of anal sex, but it doesn’t have to be. Mix it up and get creative about other positions you could use. Traditional missionary is a good option, although it may be helpful to put a pillow under your hips to assist with getting the right angle. Another great one to try is girl on top. Sit a little more forward on him than normal, and lower yourself down on to him.
•PROTECT YOURSELF: Anal sex is riskier than vaginal sex, so if you are not 100% sure of your partner’s history, wrap it up. The walls of the rectum are very thin, so there is a greater chance of bodily fluids coming in contact.
•REPLENISH: The ass does not moisturize itself the way a vagina does, so make sure to lube up again if things start to dry out.
Remember, anal sex can be a fun new experience to add to your sex life. Just remember to take it slow, lubricate, communicate and have fun!