Tips & Suggestions
Since there is a lot of miscommunication and horrible myths when it comes to butt play, I thought I’d fill you in on a few tips & tricks just to make sure you’re fully in the know before getting busy:
*Although some may feel using numbing agents is a good idea, I have to suggest you refrain from using them. Not only do they limit the amount of control you have, they also place you in a sense of danger as you will likely not be able to feel any pain and therefore not know when you’re going too far too fast. Instead, you may want to consider an anal spray that relaxes the area rather than numbing it.
*Always use a product with a flared base as it will stop the product from being pulled inside, potentially saving you a trip to the doctor. If you’re using beads, make sure to count them after. Yes, they have popped off and been lost in people before.
*No matter what type you choose, I highly suggest the use of a thick lubricant that’s very slippery and maintains its consistency so that you don’t have to stop and keep reapplying. I find silicone lubricants work best (unless you’re using a silicone product, then I’d suggest something else like a good water based lube).
*Be sure that anything you insert is smooth and free of any jagged edges, points or ridges as the internal lining of the rectum/anus could be torn or scratched.
*Although you can go from vagina to anus, I highly suggest you refrain from going anus to vagina. That’s just asking for trouble. If you’re going to be sharing with a partner, I’d advise either using a condom (and changing it between partners) or thoroughly cleaning it between uses.
*On that note, because the anus can harbor bacteria it is always advised that you fully clean each and every product after use (that goes for everything, not just butt toys).
*Finally, when shopping for a butt toy make sure to choose one created out of a non-porous material like glass, steel, high quality silicone, sealed wood or aluminum as they won’t absorb bodily fluids, lube or bacteria.
Because there are so many different butt toys on the market, some that often beget a ‘wtf is that for?’, I figured I’d explain what the most common products are and what they’re used for:
| http://www.edenfantasys.com/ProductComparison.aspx?products=21432,21433,21434,22919 | Pure Plugs by Njoy]Butt Plugs: Butt plugs are designed to be inserted in the butt and held in place by the sphincter muscles. Because the muscles naturally react by clenching and unclenching around the stem and head of the plug, it often gives the impression of being “plugged up," as the name would imply. Basically put, you insert them in your ass and they stay there, providing a pleasurable sensation of fullness and/or pressure. Because many plugs are smaller in size, they tend to be great for those that are easily intimated or afraid of inserting anything in their butt.
*the Tantus Ryder is a good example of a body safe butt plug. Some other great probes include the Vixen Creations Buddy, any of the Crystal Delights Plugs (comes with a genuine Swarovski Crystal in the base), any of the Njoy Pure Plugs.
Anal Probes: While the name may sound somewhat scary, thanks to the association with 'alien anal probing,' this type of product is surprisingly pleasurable. Unlike plugs, which tend to be rather small by comparison, probes usually describe any type of longer sized intimate accessory that offers deeper anal penetration. Very often you’ll find they come in a tapered shape with some form of texture whether it’s ribbing, rippling or otherwise.
*the Fun Factory Cavalier is a good example of a body safe anal probe. Some other great probes include the Tantus Ripple, Anaconda, or the Fun Factory Wanda.
| http://www.edenfantasys.com/anal-toys/anal-beads/fun-factory-flexi-felix | Flexi Felix by Fun Factory ]Anal Beads: Because stimulation of the anus and surrounding areas can offer a surprising amount of pleasure, many people have shed their inhibitions and begun to explore anal play with products like anal beads. As the name would suggest, anal beads consist of multiple balls or spheres of similar or varying sizes which are inserted anally and removed at varying speeds (totally depends on personal preference) during orgasm as the pleasurable feeling of having them pass through the narrow sphincter can help to enhance the experience.
Unfortunately not all beads are created equally, especially when it comes to body safe materials. Things you’ll want to consider when choosing a set of beads are: silicone or non-porous material for both the beads and the ‘cord’ to which they’re attached (nylon, lycra and other fabric materials are all porous and therefore cannot be fully sterilized), beads that are fixed in place – meaning they don’t move up or down the ‘cord’ and are firmly set in place, a sturdy handle for removal and absolutely no seams or sharp edges.
*the Fun Factory Flexi Felix is a good example of body safe anal beads. Some other great probes include the Fun Factory Bendy Beads, Ophoria A Chain, and Tantus Beads.
Prostate Stimulator/Massagers: The prostate, more commonly known as the “p-Spot," is located few inches inside the anal canal of the male body (women don’t have one) and forms a part of the male reproductive system, with the main function of the prostate being to produce the fluid that protects and enriches sperm. Because the nerves that control erections surround the prostate, many have found that applying pressure to the p-spot or stimulating it via massage is highly pleasurable. As such, there are many specifically designed to massage the area and intensify stimulation.
For some it’s the sensation of ‘fullness’ that brings pleasure, for others it’s stimulation of specific areas like the ‘p-spot’ that do it. Regardless of your specific likes or dislikes, so long as you’re being safe and using a product specifically designed for anal play, I say embrace it and enjoy it!
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