What I Missed
I like to look back over my articles from time to time to look at how my writing, or feelings on the subject, have changed. When I wrote my article, Sex and College Stress, I thought I had covered everything. I talked about the benefits of orgasms, the feel good chemicals that are released with sex, all that good stuff. But when I looked it back over, I realized that I failed to talk about the most important part!
In college, especially in your later years, it seems that there is always a due date looming over your head. You have to be ready for every little assignment as it pops up. When can you find time to even think about having sex? And let's face it, your stand-in vibrator and flirty texts with your significant other only go so far.
What's the Time?
Do you and your partner have crazy schedules? I feel your pain. My boyfriend is at his internship from 6am until 5pm or later. Me? I have classes all day and then there's my homework. Add in activities, jobs, and, most importantly, sleep? Forget about finding time for sex! I'm worried about finding time to eat!
So what do you do? Talk about it. Plan ahead. I know sex seems more romantic when it's spur of the moment, but there can be something sexy about a schedule, too. The anticipation alone is enough to make you tingle. So sit down and make a sex schedule. Decide the when and where and make it a date. This will give you both time to plan and to make sure that you are leaving yourself time to keep up with those crazy homework due dates.
Setting the Mood
Making things romantic on a time crunch isn't easy. I'm sure we would all like to come home to candles and roses, but let's face it, this is the real world. So make it simple, but still sexy and romantic. Little gestures can go a long way. Here are some ways that you can get things started without spending all your time on foreplay.
1) Rub Down - They don't need to be long to be sexy. It's a good way to get your partner relaxed and ready without keeping them waiting. Plus, massages release the same chemicals as sex, so it's like an added bonus.
2) Shower Together - No time for cuddling afterwards? No problem! Take a shower together. It saves time because you're getting clean and you're still being intimate. Physical contact is key.
3) Order In - Don't have time to make dinner AND have sex? Order in from their favorite take-out place and have it waiting for them. Cuts out the cooking time, leaving you more time for fun.
4) Quiz Me - Have time for a game? Study together. Ask them to quiz you and every time you get a question right, they have to take off an article of clothing. If you get it wrong, they put something on. The quiz is over when they are naked.
Overall, it's about spending time together. That's really what releases those stress relieving chemicals. Sex on a schedule can still be fun, sexy, and romantic. You just have to sit down with your partner and figure out how.
Maybe over a pizza...