"What are you wearing?"
This is the era of the internet. There is a plethora of avenues for our sexual outlets. Chat rooms, porn, erotica, blogs, and dating sites. Whether you are looking for information, some casual fun, or something more serious, the options abound. One thing I haven’t been able to find is very much how-to information.
How do you decide where to look for what you are wanting? What is the best way to communicate your interests? My big question was how do I have Cybersex? What about webcams? Oh my! What I really wanted to find was a script to the words that were said or typed during an online sexual encounter. I did run across a sad example on YouTube. It was not helpful.
Trial and error is fine, but keep in mind that every person is different in what turns them on. It is no different than in RL. However online gives you the opportunity to explore scenarios that you may or may not actually want to try in the flesh. The anonymity helps many people open up.
Many men AND women are very visual. There is something to be said for webcams. Also, the one handed typing is very annoying. When its chat it’s usually just easier to take turns. I’ll type and help you get off, and then it’s my turn. With camming, it’s more realistic. Seeing and hearing what each other are doing makes for a much better orgasm. Let’s face it, if you are looking for cybersex you want to get off.
Unless you are looking for a one time quickie, don’t bother with the chat rooms. The typical line is “do you wanna cam?” Followed by what are you wearing and what are your measurements. It’s just not my thing. In such a brief encounter there is no time to understand what excites the other person.
If you are placing an ad or perusing forums try a site that caters to your particular interest. There are many sites focused on GLBT, BDSM, or swingers. Ask yourself what are you looking for? Do you want online, in person, perhaps just an exchange of naughty pics and email? Most people are upfront with what they are looking for which makes it much easier to find a match. Don’t be surprised though if what you think you want ends up changing. You may be very surprised.
Safety and privacy is the most important thing. I won’t go into that because that is the one thing I could find numerous articles on. I do have a few words on anonymity. If you don’t want to miss out on the visuals, you can still exchange pics and indulge in the webcam experience. One option is to wear a disguise. You can find masks on Eden Fantasys that will at least partially obscure your identity. Another option is webcam software that blurs or otherwise hides your face. It does this in real time even when moving around. (You’re not going to just sit there are you?)
A big joke about cybersex has always been that you never really know who’s on the other end. I would never chance this. Even emailed pics aren’t enough proof. If neither of you aren’t yet comfortable with cam, one idea is asking for a specific picture. If you get a picture of someone holding a sign with today’s newspaper you’re fairly safe.
Watching porn together can be fun. Eden even has a couple of internet enabled toys. There is the rabbit vibe that the other person can control from wherever they are. For men there is a hands free masturbator that ties in with porn. The sensations mimic the actions in the porn video. That definitely takes porn to a whole new level.
So were you hoping for that script? I was too. Is anyone offering one up? Fictional or actual account. If it's an actual account be sure to get the other participants permission. An audio clip would be even better. I’ll have to ask around for some volunteers.