*Note: Before I begin this article, I would like to say that this article conveys my personal experiences and opinions. The thoughts conveyed may not apply to everyone.
Not all women are unwilling to go to strip clubs and watch a stripper dance on a pole. In fact, for some, this is a turn on; it makes them feel bad and naughty, and then the sex later that night is usually wild. Also, I believe that guys will be guys. By this, I mean that no matter how attached and committed guys are, they still love seeing boobs being flashed. They still love seeing a hot chick going up and down on a pole. You see, in their brain, the quantity matters the most. It's not because he doesn't care for the quality of his woman, but because the stimulation of the penis is very easy, so he can enjoy sex quickly. For women, it isn't the same. The quality of the sex is better than quantity for women. That being said, women (not all) don't really prefer many partners, as long as their partner is good at what he does.
Another thing is this: some women think it's smarter to go with their guys to a strip club. Some even like getting him a dance, and watching him enjoy it. That is not because she is worried that he might wanna cheat on her, and so she want to watch his every moves; it's actually quite the contrary. Women want to show their partners that they understand their sexual needs, fantasies, and that they want them to have it. They also want to hang out with their partners and spend time together, which in return builds more trust. This also shows understanding and love between the two of them. It also helps them spice up things between them, changing the pace a bit. Some women that have open minds about the idea of multiple partners are even willing to do threesomes afterwards. I know one of my girlfriends paid a stripper in Texas to have sex with her and her boyfriend, and she told me it was hot.
Additionally, girls like to go out to strip clubs for women. Watching a guy strip down slowly and tease the audience is also a hot thing for women. This is where you can fantasize and dream, you know? Women also like getting lap dances and being teased, just like men. That is all natural, and so it is not a crime, ladies, if you decide to go with your girlfriends to a strip club for a night out. Just have some fun.
I am not trying to generalize here; I know many of you might read this article and say, oh this is just another "Cosmo-type" article, but it is not. I have seen and heard many people who say that girls should not go to strip clubs, that it is bad for girls to go there, and finally, that girls don't like strip clubs. Personally I am a fan of strippers; in fact, I do wish I could pole dance. It's just so hot. It is true that some girls and women might find it uninteresting or unappealing to watch a male or female stripper, but you cannot generalize that way about everyone. Another thing is that there are different kinds of strip clubs. My personal advice is to watch different types of stripping videos on the internet, see what attracts your attention, and find out which one you seem to like the most. You can watch more videos to get yourself in the mood, and then if you are willing to step it up a notch, look for a strip club in your vicinity that has that kind of stripping you like. You could go with a friend, girlfriend or boyfriend, or even alone. It's all about experimenting and getting to know yourself. Fid out what you like. There is no shame, and there's nothing wrong with that.
My final words are this: I am not encouraging anyone to go, or to not go, to strip clubs. I am also not saying whether strip clubs are good or bad. All I am saying is this: guys: if your girl offers to go to a strip club and buy you a dance, it doesn't mean that she is testing you. It also doesn't mean that she doesn't trust you. You should go on, and take that offer.
Ladies, it is perfectly natural to have fantasies and desires. Some of your fantasies definitely won't be satisfied through your partner, and that is 100% natural and normal. So, don't feel bad if you went with your friends and enjoyed some sexy stripping. After all, you only live life once, so make it count.
Not all women are unwilling to go to strip clubs and watch a stripper dance on a pole. In fact, for some, this is a turn on; it makes them feel bad and naughty, and then the sex later that night is usually wild. Also, I believe that guys will be guys. By this, I mean that no matter how attached and committed guys are, they still love seeing boobs being flashed. They still love seeing a hot chick going up and down on a pole. You see, in their brain, the quantity matters the most. It's not because he doesn't care for the quality of his woman, but because the stimulation of the penis is very easy, so he can enjoy sex quickly. For women, it isn't the same. The quality of the sex is better than quantity for women. That being said, women (not all) don't really prefer many partners, as long as their partner is good at what he does.
Another thing is this: some women think it's smarter to go with their guys to a strip club. Some even like getting him a dance, and watching him enjoy it. That is not because she is worried that he might wanna cheat on her, and so she want to watch his every moves; it's actually quite the contrary. Women want to show their partners that they understand their sexual needs, fantasies, and that they want them to have it. They also want to hang out with their partners and spend time together, which in return builds more trust. This also shows understanding and love between the two of them. It also helps them spice up things between them, changing the pace a bit. Some women that have open minds about the idea of multiple partners are even willing to do threesomes afterwards. I know one of my girlfriends paid a stripper in Texas to have sex with her and her boyfriend, and she told me it was hot.
Additionally, girls like to go out to strip clubs for women. Watching a guy strip down slowly and tease the audience is also a hot thing for women. This is where you can fantasize and dream, you know? Women also like getting lap dances and being teased, just like men. That is all natural, and so it is not a crime, ladies, if you decide to go with your girlfriends to a strip club for a night out. Just have some fun.
I am not trying to generalize here; I know many of you might read this article and say, oh this is just another "Cosmo-type" article, but it is not. I have seen and heard many people who say that girls should not go to strip clubs, that it is bad for girls to go there, and finally, that girls don't like strip clubs. Personally I am a fan of strippers; in fact, I do wish I could pole dance. It's just so hot. It is true that some girls and women might find it uninteresting or unappealing to watch a male or female stripper, but you cannot generalize that way about everyone. Another thing is that there are different kinds of strip clubs. My personal advice is to watch different types of stripping videos on the internet, see what attracts your attention, and find out which one you seem to like the most. You can watch more videos to get yourself in the mood, and then if you are willing to step it up a notch, look for a strip club in your vicinity that has that kind of stripping you like. You could go with a friend, girlfriend or boyfriend, or even alone. It's all about experimenting and getting to know yourself. Fid out what you like. There is no shame, and there's nothing wrong with that.
My final words are this: I am not encouraging anyone to go, or to not go, to strip clubs. I am also not saying whether strip clubs are good or bad. All I am saying is this: guys: if your girl offers to go to a strip club and buy you a dance, it doesn't mean that she is testing you. It also doesn't mean that she doesn't trust you. You should go on, and take that offer.
Ladies, it is perfectly natural to have fantasies and desires. Some of your fantasies definitely won't be satisfied through your partner, and that is 100% natural and normal. So, don't feel bad if you went with your friends and enjoyed some sexy stripping. After all, you only live life once, so make it count.
I definitely agree with "making life count" and having fun! I like that you don't forget fun. It is of huge importance in a relationship, even though it's easy to become too stressed to even have time for fun. That's something I always enjoy about your articles -- you remind me not to let stress overcome my inner playfulness and that's something I really appreciate.
I must point something out... near the end of your article, you say "It is true that some girls and women might find it uninteresting or unappealing to watch a male or female stripper, but you cannot generalize that way about everyone."
However, in previous paragraphs, when referring to men and their feelings on strip clubs, you say this "By this I mean that no matter how attached and committed guys are, they still love seeing boobs being flashed. They still love seeing a hot chick going up and down on a pole."
Is that not "generalizing a specific idea of everyone?" Well, by "everyone," I mean men. You make it sound as if all men will enjoy viewing multiple private parts of multiple women, but when it comes to women viewing men, you state that not all of us women are interested.
Then, you say "My final words are this: I am not encouraging anyone to go, or to not go, to strip clubs. I am also not saying whether strip clubs are good or bad." But you then go on to say "...You should go on, and take that offer," when speaking about a spouse encouraging their spouse to visit a strip club, so in reality, you are in fact saying what people "should" do, which would definitely fall under the category of "encouragement."
Just wanted to point those things out. I'm not being rude, though. I just feel like you were a little restrained in what you really wanted to say here & it made it hard for me to tell what you were trying to get across to your readers. It came across as you praising strip clubs and visiting them, but also the inconsistencies made it hard to tell if you were simply saying "look, all men are going to want to do this type of thing, whether people like it or not, but women on the other hand may or may not." More in-depth info on the topic would be really fun to read. I did enjoy this article as I do most of your articles. I really like the way you express different ideas and how you explain things to better make sense & I have gained a lot from reading your articles. I'd definitely be interested in learning more about your points on this topic though. I can tell in most of your articles, you're kind of raw and unrestrained, if that makes sense, so it helps me to understand exactly what you're saying and how you feel. This one was just a bit new to me.
Not at all, I actually wrote this article about 3 months ago and it just got published. Personally I don't think this is a great article, I admit I barely started writing back then and did not know how to express my ideas the right way. Well I did go to strip clubs, and in fact I found it more fun than I thought. I used to think that the strippers are selling their bodies and they are helpless. Although this is factually true to many strippers, It does not apply to all. What I am trying to say here is that you are free to do whatever you want with your body, and some women want to strip and there absolutely nothing wrong with that. All I wanted to convey in this article is that you can not judge something based on what it looks from the outside. I still believe I could have written this article way better though, but then again i am learning and the more and more I write the better my writing style and technique will become.
Personally I prefer female strippers over male strippers. For female strippers they are curvy and sensual but with male their bodies are shaped like vertical rectangles and only use pelvic thrusts while the female strippers uses their WHOLE BODIES for their art.