We are all searching for the perfect guy or girl, but what happens when you already have met them but you just aren't into them? I have been one of those women who has waited to see if I could fall in love with him. I mean, if a man is that perfect, why would you leave him? I think the bigger question is why settle for someone who you know you don't feel the same for? I believe the real reason is fear, fear of growing old alone, fear of what if there is no one better.

Fear of the unknown. We all have a comfort zone and it is very easy to predict your relationship. It might make you feel safe but is comfort worth unhappiness? I personally felt afraid because I have been in mentally abusive relationships and I was afraid of ending up in another. I guess I felt as if I were playing real life blackjack and it is easier to settle and hope it is enough than keep trying and lose. I think the biggest thing is to learn to be comfortable with yourself. Live a single life, that way when you are in a relationship, you don't settle for less than what your heart wants.

Sometimes love isn't logical. Just because it sounds good on paper doesn't mean that sparks will fly and you will want to be with this person. You see it all the time. We all at least once fall in love with the wrong person or someone who doesn't deserve our love. You can't force yourself to love someone. If you don't love him, you will most likely be embarrassed to be seen with him in public. Kisses will seem forced, more of an obligation than a want and desire.

I personally know it leads to being annoyed with them at the smallest things. If you aren't happy, you can't make them happy. It is also not fair for the other person because you will never truly love them. Even if at first they knew you didn't like them and all they wanted was a chance in the long run, this will not make them happy. Don't ever make yourself unhappy just to make someone else happy.

Maybe we should stop being afraid and start taking chances. Yes, heart break hurts but I know first hand it doesn't kill you. Sometimes we settle for that guy who seems perfect because we are afraid to get hurt. Maybe in your past you had someone cheat and lie.
Whatever the reason may be, you don't want to gamble your heart and you may think that not taking a risk will make you feel happy and safe. But you need to gamble your heart. Remember, nothing ventured nothing gained.

We are all worth it. Stop thinking you will never find someone better, and don't settle for the paper perfect guy or girl. Go for the crazy. It's not logical love. Either way, put yourself first and make yourself happy and everything will find its place.