Many couples become less attracted to each other over time. That doesn't not necessarily mean that they're less in love, though. It just means that the spark that they used to have in the beginning has started to fade. It is perfectly natural to feel this way when you're in a relationship. In fact, it is a known fact that part of the excitement in having new sexual partners is because it's new, causing you to feel adventurous and hot. This, of course, does not mean that you cannot make your sexual life spicy and hot with your existing partner. In fact, here are couple of things that you can do to help spice up your sexual life. These tips will make it go VROOOOOOM.
1. Use sex toys during or before sex:
Yes! Sex toys can spice things up. You see, sexual sensations do not only have to be felt during intercourse. For example, you can use a dildo or vibrator on your girlfriend. Tease her with it. Work her slowly, and make her hornier and hornier. Even if she cums while you use the toy on her, that's fine. She is happy and satisfied. Ladies, the same applies to guys, too. You can use male toys to pleasure him with. Try to make him go crazy and wild. There are also sexual toys for couples; vibrating cock rings are a great example of these types of toys. You could also spice things up by using sex swings, and many, many other types of toys. Be creative about it!
2. Try different sexual positions:
Trust me when I tell you, there is nothing more boring than doing the same thing over and over again. Do not be repetitive. Doing the same routine over and over again becomes less exciting over time, and it will make sex less hot and less desirable. Try to do it in different positions that make both you and your partner enjoy yourselves. Make sure that it is both comfortable and danger-free for your partner and yourself.
3. Try a different setting:
Sex in bed is nice; it's cozy and amazing. You can always try and have sex somewhere else, though. Try doing it in the shower, on the sofa, or even outside. Trust me when I tell you: the thrill of getting caught can actually help spice things up. This is from my personal experience, so trust me.
4. Change the power roles:
Regardless of if you're a guy or girl, just understand this: having the same power roles leads to boredom. Try to switch who is in control from time to time; domination and being dominated are both fun. Let your partner take control and drive your world upside down.
Lingerie is a great thing for spicing up your sexual life. Guys, I definitely recommend that you get something sexy for your girl. Not only do you tell her that you desire her by getting her lingerie, you're also make things hotter. Lingerie involves teasing, and teasing is a great thing for spicing up sex. The more you tease, the more you desire your partner. So, get your sexy lingerie out and drive your partners nuts!
6. Don't make it too easy:
Girls, this advice is for you. Even if you like your guy and desire him a lot, do not just jump into bed with him or give him treats quickly. Although guys don't like to admit it, they do like it when you mess with their minds. Tease him slowly; make him think that you are about to do it, then just pull yourself back. Now, I just want to make it clear, do this in a sexy manner. You do not want to turn your guy off. The point here is to drive him wild, making him desire you more. Trust me, it will make you get even wetter when you see his hungry beast-y eyes, all horny and wild.
Before you consider this option, make sure that both you and your partner are open-minded to the idea, and that you're perfectly fine with it. Threesomes can be the perfect thing to spice things up if you are open to it. The idea that someone else is competing with you or your partner does make you try harder to stand out. It makes you do crazier things to please your partner. In return, you will end up satisfying both yourself and your partner. Also, having multiple partners is a turn on for both girls and guys.
In the end, you should never sit down and say that your sex life in boring, and that you can't do anything about it. Everything is in your control if you are determined enough to fix it. Just make sure that whatever you do, you consult your partner to make sure that both of you are comfortable and open-minded.