MEN (and lesbians): Do you like boobs? How about vagina? (Sorry to all my gays and girls out there, sit this one out.)
Boobs and pussy are probably your favorite things about your girl, even if you would never admit it. So, what would you say if I told you that by playing with your favorite things, you could actually make the lady in your life feel great without even making her orgasm? I know I sound like a commercial, and you probably think that I'm crazy, or that I'm some god with my hands. Neither of those is true. I'm an average guy who stumbled across this secret while spending a lazy day watching a movie in pajamas with my girl; and now I’m going to keep it in my bag of tricks, and I’m giving it to you absolutely free.
At one point during our movie day, my girlfriend mentioned to me that her back was hurting, and she asked me if I could give her a massage. This is a common, nonsexual request for her; she has some serious tension most of the time. I said yes, being the excellent boyfriend and proceeded to start rubbing her shoulders and back. Then; just as a joke, I pinched one of her nipples. She yelped; glared angrily at me, then started rubbing her breast in pain, but then realized that it felt like a different type of massage. She then asked me to do what she had just been doing. So she lay down and I started carefully massaging her boobs, getting more than the top skin and really working the glands. All her responses were positive, occasionally asking me to be gentler. At one point, I was working her nipples specifically, and this was a fantastic success. She came up with the idea that because the massage was working on those erogenous zones, it might work on her clitoris. Lo and behold, it had the same effect. Gently massaging her clit, not trying to get her to orgasm, turned this shoulder rub into a real "full body massage".
Why does this really matter to the guy?
Well, you love having your hands all over her body right? And she’s probably said that she would appreciate it if you were a little more caring and understanding, right? Well, combine the two! This is fun for you (also great foreplay) and shows her that you not only know, but also are willing to work on her needs. You get the great boyfriend/husband card and get to play with her.
Also, this could potentially be used as a massage on her G-spot.
For anyone who has not been able to find, or doesn’t believe in, the G-spot; here is the easiest way to find it. When fingering her, curl your fingers toward the front of her, hooking around what at first really feels like her pelvic bone. There will be some harder, more muscle-like tissue for a little bit. Congratulations, you found one of her G-spots.
That’s it. No real secrets, just discovering your lady’s body. The only thing I have different than you (potentially) is constant communication with my girlfriend about how her body is feeling. She is your greatest resource, so why waste that information?
Now go forth and have fun!