I'm a 24 year old man that lives with his parents and takes care of his sister's children. I've been using sex toys for years, and just recently started reviewing them. I also happen to enjoy anal play (as both the receptive and penetrative partner). I don't go out often, and was always having to schedule packages around the family schedule to try to make sure that no one ever found out about what was coming here for me. I was ashamed, afraid of what my friends and family would think, and worried that they wouldn't understand.
The Catalyst Of Sexuality Based Freedom With My Friends
As I mentioned in the introduction, I don't get to go out often. Well, I did on Wednesday of last week. We have a bar in town that has $0.25 beers and I got a little drunk. Normally, this wouldn't be a big deal, but one of the ladies at our table brought up Ben-Wa balls. She had read about them in that best-selling "erotica" series that so many stay at home mom's and soccer wives ate up like crack infused cookies. I let it slip that I've been reviewing sex toys. After ten minutes of constant teasing by the guys, the table got very quiet... and then the questions started.
"What kind of sex toys?"
"Are Fleshlight's any good?"
"Can you help me find a good vibrator?"
"Do you stick things up your ass?"
As I waded through the ocean of questions, I realized that while they thought it was funny at first, they all wanted to know more. They wanted to know more about their own anatomies. They wanted to know more about sex toy, and, they wanted my help. I had went from being made fun of to being asked all kinds of things about various toys; I was now teaching my friends how to be safer, and how to have better sex.
The Catalyst of Sexuality Based Freedom With My Parents
After the night out with my friends, I was feeling pretty wonderful about everything (even got a few new phone numbers out of the deal). So, Friday night, one of my good friends calls to tell me that he is having a keg party and that he's already on his way to come get me. I showered, got ready, and went to his place. Naturally, being 24 years old and at a keg party, sex came up again. One of the guys had to throw it out to everyone that I am using and reviewing all sorts of sex toys, and I ended up lecturing a whole party on safety for a while. Some of the party goers walked out when the single big guy in the room started explaining all kinds of sex toys, techniques, and fetishes to people. Most of them, however, pulled up a chair and started asking questions. The night ended rather early, but all in all, it was a good evening.
I ended up staying at my friend's place until Sunday morning, when my Mom text'd me and said that she needed me to come home to help out with the kids for a bit.
Well, I came home to help out, and within about an hour my Dad asked me if I had seen the new cock ring that came in for me while I was gone. I hadn't checked the shipping notice and he opened it (his house, his rules.. we don't even argue that point). He was laughing. Then, he just looked, and asked what I was doing with all of the sex toys I have (which gave away that he had indeed been in my room and dug through things). I looked at him as an adult and simply told him:
"Dad, I've been using and reviewing sex toys for almost 6 months. I have dildos, butt plugs, masturbation sleeves, vibrators and a cock pump."
He looked at me for a moment, trying to figure out if I was serious.. and then the laughter started.
"So, you use all of these sex toys on yourself, huh? You should get a paid job using them, and then film yourself while you use them and make money from that, too. Then, you could get paid twice for shoving things in your ass and getting off!"
I realized, because of my big mouth and simply forgetting to check a shipping e-mail, that my friends and family will love me, regardless of any "kinky" habits or sexual tendencies I may have. My Dad laughed about things, and told me I could make money off of it. I'm fairly certain that a few of my friends probably discovered their prostates with their girlfriends because of me. I've taught my friends more about sexual health and sex toys in a few days than some adults will ever know, and I love it.
Your mileage may vary, but when it comes down to it: Your friends and family are probably going to love you regardless of what kind of inanimate objects you stick inside your body, and may even come to you for help and advice. Having a very healthy sexual relationship with one's self or one's partner isn't something you should be ashamed of, and chances are that your friends and family are doing similar things themselves.
Remember: Your sexuality is your sexuality. Don't let what others think stop you from trying to have a happy, healthy, and adventures sex life with your self or your partner(s).