Getting the Date Rolling

The old-fashioned way to initiate a date is that the male would be the one to step up and approach the woman for a date. Nowadays, both parties are free to do it and it's more about who is comfortable making that first approach. The old-fashioned approach would also be to do it face-to-face, which could still be seen as the best. But with how busy people can be day-to-day, a phone call can be just as good. However, it is best to avoid texting and email, as it can seem impersonal and can easily be missed by the person whom you are intending to ask out.

Setting the Plans and During the Date

The person who sets the date is the one who traditionally decides where to go. It does help to know what the other person might enjoy, so that you can show you are interested. Though taking them to something that you love, and want to share a passion for, is a good idea. Always listen, with people having various restrictions on diet, it helps to talk to your date and coordinate. As for who pays, our old-fashioned etiquette says that the man should pay for the entire date, which in modern times could translate to the person who set the date. However, splitting the bill or "going Dutch" is also acceptable as well, it means there is another thing to talk about when setting things up. This saves the awkward check dance at the end of the meal, or the one over who pulls out their card at the movies.

What Happens at the End?

Traditionally, it's acceptable to let the date end with a kiss at the door after your date has walked you to it. Now it's normal to give your date the option to come up for a drink before parting ways. This is normally also a good time to ask for a second date. This, of course, is up to those actually on the date still. There is nothing wrong with sleeping with someone on your first date, should you choose. The old-fashioned way has its charm and allows you to lead up to something that can be rather fun, as you can let feelings build up for a few dates or however long you choose to wait.

Reviving a Dead Art?

They say chivalry is dead but really it has just evolved into acts of common courtesy. Opening doors for your date and pulling out their chair are all really just acts to show that you are paying attention to your date. Even something like letting them have your coat if they are cold, during a walk or in a chilly movie theater, can be seen as chivalry. While it's not expected in these modern times, many still find it charming when people do use it. But there it is again, find out from your date if they are okay with this. Some are fine with it all, while others pick and choose. It's all about the person you're with.