One of the biggest questions I have been asked is if anal sex is safe. After hearing some people's theories and myths on anal sex I decided it was high time to write on the subject. There are a ton of fear laced myths on anal sex. Although some are partially true and do tend to make a person more cautious when trying anal sex for the first time, others are just plain BS. So let’s get down to it and try to shine some light on how you and your partner can enjoy safe anal sex.
First things first, you need to remember that the anus is not like the vagina. Thus you MUST proceed with caution and take your time. You cannot just go diving in without regard for your partner. Slow and steady wins the race and will no doubt be more pleasurable for you both. Start small and then move up. If at all possible, try fingering first. However make damn sure your partner’s nails are clean and groomed. The last thing you want is to transfer bacteria or scratch the inside of your anus! Trust me you can never be too cautious on this manner. So if you have to drive his or her ass to a nail salon before engaging in any anal play…DO IT!
Play it safe and use caution.
You will need to use plenty of water based lubricants, preferably ones that contain benzocaine. Benzocaine is an agent that numbs the anus and helps with penetration. You see, unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubricant, so the more the merrier. Also, unlike oil-based lubricants, water-based will not destroy latex and is safe to use with condoms. Condoms are a must during anal sex because they greatly decrease the risk of sexually transmitted diseases and make the experience more smooth and enjoyable. Although be careful when deciding what a type of condom to use.
Make sure the condom is not scented or flavored in any way. This may cause an allergic reaction in your partner, so just stick with the ol’ trusty and leave those useless fancy condoms where they belong…in that 75 cent machine at that corner truck stop at the edge of town! And although it is not possible to get pregnant via anal sex (Yes…people ask me this…a lot!) it is possible if semen reaches the vagina. According to some researchers, roughly 8% of women who have engaged in anal sex have become pregnant this way. So fellas, remember to leave your coat on until you reach the bathroom. Play it safe!
Toys are always a good alternative to anal stimulation...
The other great question I get asked is what’s the best and safest anal sex toy out there. I’m glad when people ask me this because I can be literally shocked to the floor sometimes when people tell me what type of toys that have stuffed up there. No, this has nothing to do with “Foreign objects” this is everyday "over the counter of your local seedy porn shop that doesn’t realize what they're selling you" type of anal toys. First and foremost, never use a toy that is made out of jelly material! I would go further and say that you should avoid these types of toys like the plague altogether. Trust me, I learned the hard way, one skin infection was enough for us. Jelly toys are almost impossible to clean due to the large number of pores in the material. These pores collect and essentially hold in bacteria. So after one use you are running a huge risk of contracting a infection. You could cover the toy in a condom and be okay, but it’s too much of a risk for me to even bother with them now. I could go on forever about this.
But be aware on which ones your putting up there!
Also, and this one burns me bad, if you buy anal beads that are connected together with nylon string, then you my friend just wasted your money! Nylon will collect all that nasty goodness and keep it in its fibers forever. So step it up a bit and buy something that does not come with a nylon cord. There are plenty of good anal sex toys out there for you to experiment with. It basically boils down to the user and figuring out what works best for you. Opinions vary from person to person and always will until the end of time, the only thing I can do is share my experiences and try to help out the best I can. I’m learning here too. With that said, I suggest trying out an anal toy with a flared bottom. This way you will be able to pull it out easily and see what depth is right for you. I tend to steer clear of any toy that is not flexible or is curved in any way. You're going for comfort here, so when viewing anal toys, try to imagine where this is going and how it will get there. If you cringe at the thought, then I would take that as a sign that it’s not the right toy for you. Just remember to have fun and be safe. It’s your body so treat it right and take care of it.
The Great "Meat Sock" Mystery!
P.S. As far as I can tell, there is no such thing as a “Meat Sock”!!! I have no idea how this myth got started, but I will continue to look into it, but as of right now I have found no evidence of anyone ever having anal sex and removing their penis only to find they have successfully pulled out their partners anus! I have a lot of College Frat boys who swear this has happened to one of their “Bros” and it still makes me piss myself with laughter every time I hear it! So yeah, I’m on the case and I will hopefully get to the bottom of it soon.