Being a mother is one of the most rewarding jobs that life can throw at someone, yet it is also busy and stressful. With an ever-growing list of things to do, sometimes you feel like you'll never get to have a sex life again, as it is usually the first thing to get thrown off of the list. I have learned that timing is everything! Having a healthy sex life is a must in anyone's life, marriage, or partnership; it can't be tossed away and forgotten forever. Here are some tips to keep the fires burning, instead of letting the sexual flame fizzle out.
Finding the time and energy for foreplay can be a task when you have kids or a baby. Little teases throughout the day can double as foreplay. A nibble here, a kiss there, or even some sneaky touching and grabbing can send you and your partner in the mood to get down and dirty. Whether it seems like it at the time or not, the baby will eventually go to sleep, even though it seems like you've been up for three days straight. However, when the baby finally goes to sleep at night, you probably just want to hop into bed and catch up on some zzz's, too. This is when naps come in handy! Sex doesn't always have to be at night; you can do it at anytime, of course. Try coordinating your child's nap so that it lines up with your partners lunch time, if they come home for lunch. I'm sure they will be pleased to have something more than lunch to eat on their break! You can also set aside some time in the morning for quickie (or two). Children generally get up around the same time every day, so set your alarm an hour or so before you know the kids will be up.
If you or your partner work long hours before coming home to each other, send a quick text. It doesn't have to be anything extra dirty; just a quick "I can't wait to feel you," or something simple like that, will do. Letting your partner know you're in the mood can spur some excitement and anticipation for your alone time later. Keeping things fresh and exciting is also a key in keeping a healthy sex life. Anyone can just go do the deed and get it over with, but losing the excitement and anticipation of sex with your partner isn't something that you want. You can even do something as easy as leaving a note for them in their car, on the dresser, or just any spot they will find it (and no one else will).
Did you know that kissing burns around 68 calories an hour? Now, I know you and your partner probably aren't going to sit there and kiss for an hour, but if you add a little tongue in, you can burn around 238 calories in half the time. Just taking off your clothes burns 8 calories, and sex itself burns about 114 calories or more in a half hour. Who needs to go to the gym with all the calories you can burn by just having fun with your partner?
Finding time in the day (or night) to have some sexual fun with your partner is sometimes difficult (especially when you have children), but it can be done. A healthy and active sex life is very important to keep up with, and you shouldn't let it slide down the drain. Using some of these tips, as well as a few of your own, will help you find time to play. These tips will also liven things up if things have started to become less exciting already. If they have, keep your head up and don't give up!