"Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature."
Communication is key.
Not all couples are open-minded to the idea of introducing sex toys into the bedroom. There is always the thought inside of a guys mind that they are being "replaced" or they aren't satisfying you and meeting your needs. But that isn't always the case. Nobody knows your body like you do. When you masturbate, you know exactly what you need to do to get yourself there. Allowing your lover to use toys on you can be a learning experience for both of you as well as beneficial. It gives both of you a chance to get to know each other's body and how to please one another. When I first told my fiance that I wanted to use a bullet while we were having sex, he seemed a little hesitant. But after giving it some thought, he was all for it and completely open-minded. Since then, we've worked numerous toys into our regular routines.
Not all men and women think alike when it comes to sex toys. Some are open to the idea and think that it can be kinky and exciting while others may think that it is completely absurd. Whether or not you have experience and you're ready to take your sex life to the next level, there are some things to consider to prevent getting any negative reactions from your lover. Don't be afraid to bring up the topic. Here is a little bit of help on how to get the conversation started.
Know when to do it. There is a right time for everything. At dinner or during a game when they just went into overtime probably isn't the best time. Right before bed or while you're playing around in bed will be the best time as you have his full, undivided attention and he will know that this is important to you.
Just be honest. Letting your needs be known may not only benefit your sex life but your relationship as well. Communication translates into the bedroom as well. Make sure you acknowledge the fact that your lover satisfies you and you just want to explore a little just to try it out. Chances are your lover will be just as curious as you are. Start with a non-intimidating toy. If the idea of trying the toy out with your partner for the first time makes you nervous, then try the toy out in a solo session. If your lover isn't on board 100%, eventually they will probably be curious and want to see it in action.
Be comfortable. Give him a preview. If you want to try BDSM for example: Try holding his hands down behind his head during foreplay or use his necktie to cover his eyes so you'll know how he would feel about handcuffs or a blindfold. If it goes well, then go ahead and proceed. If not, then you haven't really lost anything. Once your lover sees how much you enjoy using the toy during sex, they'll become more open-minded and comfortable with the idea.
Try different things. Remember that ecstasy is the goal. Only you know what you like and what works. And being open and honest means you are building a strong foundation for your relationship to grow. It is up to you whether that means going forward with or without a sex toy, but experimenting can't really hurt anyone.
Words from my fiance: "When my fiance informed me that she wanted to introduce toys into our sex life, a few questions invaded my thoughts. Wait, am I not enough? What are you trying to say? Am I not doing it right? A few thoughts that scrambled my brain at first. But I didn't let my insecurities take over. I never want to be the stick in the mud and I'm open to new things so I didn't mind bringing a toy into the middle of our fiery sex life.
The first toy we used was a little bullet by Doc Johnson along with a vibrating cock ring. The experience was interesting for both of us because it was the first time that either of us had ever used a toy. It may sound crazy, but I learned a few techniques by watching porn. My fiance had never used one at the time so we took it slow at first. It was fun to use the bullet during foreplay to start and her body definitely responded to it during oral. The cock ring was mainly used for clitoral stimulation and it made my orgasm about 8 times stronger. A very exciting experience if I had to say so myself.
After our first experience with sex toys, my fiance became very interested in Eden Fantasys, and maybe that was a good thing for our sex life. I can't see myself introducing any toys into our sex life though. I find myself solely satisfied making love to her alone, but it is fun to use toys with my lover. It's always good to have an open mind in your sex life. Just be open to trying new things. Shutting down everything that you lover suggests could drive a wedge between the two of you."
Thanks for reading!!