It all started one day when I was simply surfing the internet for a little something sexy to wear and look nice for my husband. After a few clicks, I stumbled upon the site. Liking what I saw, I placed a small order, nothing major, just a few pieces of lingerie. Since both of our kids are grown and moved out, I thought it would be a welcomed change from my typical t-shirt and undies.
Because EdenFantasys’ website feels classy and inviting, I saw no harm in visiting a few times to peek around and see what all it had to offer. Little did I know, at the time, this would awaken a sleeping tiger inside of my husband. Shortly after our first order arrived, I found Hubby engrossed on the computer reading prostrate massager reviews. The first thing I thought was, “Has he lost his mind?” Keeping my thoughts to myself, I went on with my chores as if I had no clue as to what he was looking at.
That same night, I found my reserved Husband watching porn and masturbating. This was a side of him I had never seen. I was in shock. What was going on in my house? Not in my house, I thought. I was not happy at all, and he knew it.
Later after talking about it, I couldn’t help but think this must be some sort of midlife crisis. From the conversation, it was clear that he was determined to try new things including anal play. I was thrown for a loop. I didn’t know what to say or think. With persuasion, I agreed to at least think about trying it.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I am no goody two shoes. No, not by any means. In a past life, twenty-one years ago, I was a stripper on Bourbon Street. It was a good life at the time. I made a ton of money and had fun. When I decided to quit, I made the life changing decision to separate myself from anything that resembled my past lifestyle. As a result, my bedroom became what some would refer to as good and wholesome fun, while others would say I was a prude. Define it as you desire, but in reality, I shut down sexually. Over time, all the fun was lost and sex had become a chore. It was a woman’s duty to her husband and not much more.
For a few days, I pondered what to do and took some time for inner reflection. One thing kept coming to my mind; sexual un-fulfillment must be why many forty something couples find themselves in divorce court. There was no way I was going to let my eighteen years of marriage become a statistic. I decided that it was time to derail my husband’s midlife crisis, even if that meant giving him what he wanted in the bedroom.
Once I came to this realization, despite my past, I knew this was a whole new world for me. Over the years, I have told myself that certain things were not natural and wrong to experience. Knowing that I needed help in all areas of sex, I jump into EdenFantasys head first. Thankfully, it is packed full of wonderful resources that I could turn to for answers. At first, I felt out of place and awkward posting in the forums. So, I stuck to the numerous guides and Sexls articles about anal play. I even found a few videos and interviews to help along the journey. Before long, I found myself relaxing and reaching out to other community members who were experienced in the area. I discovered that p-spot stimulation is not only pleasurable but also it can be beneficial for prostrate health. Most of all, I found out that, unlike my first thoughts, this type of sexual play has nothing to do with homosexuality. What a relief that was! To be honest, in the back of my mind, that bad little thought had been trying to creep in. Fortunately, it was not long before I was comfortable with the idea of playing. To be honest, I was even a bit intrigued myself.
Before I knew it, we were placing more orders. Shortly after, I joined the mentor program and began to write reviews. I found three amazing mentors who encouraged me along the way. Not only did they show me the ropes of writing reviews and help me brush up on my writing skills, they became new friends. Desiring to somehow help other couples who are like us, I began to open up in my reviews and share our personal experiences. I began to research every aspect of the items I was reviewing and gaining knowledge along the way. This gave me a sense of empowerment and control over my experiences.
With time, I found myself feeling freer and open to experimenting with different types of products. For the first time in my life, I was learning about my own sexuality. Surprisingly, it began to redefine everything I had thought in the past about sexual pleasures. As we experiment with things that perk our interest and share our grand experiment through reviews, we have found ourselves talking more. With ease and comfort, unlike ever before, we are talking openly sharing our most intimate thoughts and feelings with each other. Surprisingly, we feel comfortable experimenting in all sorts of kinky areas during our playtime. It is amazing. No longer is our bedroom thought of as a place to perform a chore. It is now a free and safe place to delve into the areas which were taboo and forbidden for way to long.
EdenFantasys’ motto of Rediscover Sex is exactly what we are doing. And through EdenFantasys, we are not only on a journey of rediscovering sex, but we are rediscovering ourselves. Most of all, we are rediscovering each other. With another anniversary recently behind us, I am sure we will have a long, happy, and sexually filling lifetime ahead of us. As for 50 Shades of Gray, no I still haven’t read the books. I don’t feel drawn to because with EdenFantasys’ help we are living our own story and loving every minute of it.