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  • VlogBrothers: Human Sexuality is Complicated

    With Valentine coming we ask ourselves all these questions about love. And because internet is huge it is possible to find some answers to your questions. That's why in this channel we are posting some useful, funny, explanatory information about love that we stumbled upon. We hope you will enjoy it!

  • Vice: Love in Japan

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them

  • Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheat

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them.

  • Floggers

    So you want to buy a flogger....It can be pretty intimidating with all the different types out there! Hopefully this guide will clear up any concerns

  • The Married Mom’s Guide to Toy Hiding

    Running out of places to hide your toys? You children, roommate, or pet find them no matter where you put them? Don't fret! Here is a list of possible places to hide your precious toys.

  • It's My Body... and I Finally Love Everything About It!

    Media images are constantly thrown at us about how to look, how to dress, and what we should look like to be lusted after… I defy all of those media stereotypes day after day. Every day, you see newsstand articles that read “Lose 20 lbs in 20 weeks!” and articles on how to do the latest superstar workout or Hollywood diet trend. Who needs it? I sure don’t!

  • Jess C Scott: On Sex and Writing

    Author/artist/non-conformist Jess C Scott talks about sex, writing, and writing about sex.

  • Erotica at jessINK

    An article on jessINK—the publishing company of author/artist/non-conformist, Jess C Scott.

  • Interview with Jamie Maclean at Erotic Review

    Interview with Jamie Maclean, editor and founder of Erotic Review: a website committed to giving sex a good name.

  • Review: The Art of Erotic Writing

    A review of contemporary author Jess C Scott's "Art of Erotic Writing" eBook.

  • Fan Fiction: As Good as Porn?

    While fan fiction is widely accepted as being something that only geeks do, writing themselves into elaborate sci-fi scenarios, or something that twelve year old girls write (badly) about their favorite male characters kissing, some people would rank it above live action porn as far as masturbation material goes. Why?

  • Pole Dancing: Not just for the club anymore!

    "Pole-dancing" is a phrase that used to incite images of scantily-clad strippers swinging around a pole with wads of cash sticking out of their underwear. Maybe for some people it still does, but pole-dancing has been growing in popularity among women seeking to get in shape, be sexy, and pick up a cool new skill all at once.

  • Bikinis after Babies

    Summer is fast approaching. Time for beaches, the sun, and swimsuits. But if you're like me, then you don't feel comfortable in a swim suit.

  • Define this: CBT

    CBT? Cat Bondage Time? Cool Body Temp? Cock and Ball Torture is more than high heels and winched faces. Power play and love go hand in hand.

  • My Experience With the IUD and How it Improved My Life

    If you've ever experienced heavy flows, severe menstrual cramps or forgotten to take your pill, the IUD might just be the answer to your contraception needs!

  • Our Lives Are Who We Are

    I never noticed how events that have happened in my life influenced my life in bed.

  • Sex is a moving target

    No matter how much we know ourselves or each other our sex lives are like sharks, they have to keep moving or they die. So we've got to be open to changing what we think about sex, especially when you're trying to keep a relationship going longer than a week.

  • Perspectives on Polyamory

    I’m not on the same level as the characters of Big Love, but I do consider myself polyamorous. If you have ever been interested in the lifestyle, here are a few key concepts that have popped up in my everyday life with my two (sometimes three) partners.

  • Teens and Sex

    We all know how hard it is raising teens. This stage is where communication is so very difficult, yet so essential. Sex is certainly going to be a struggle during their teenage years, but this is the time when you are needed the most.

  • Confessions of a Friend-Zoner

    You know how it goes. Man meets woman, man befriends woman, man expects that friendship to blossom into something sexual, and when it doesn't, man complains that he's been friend-zoned. This scenario can play out between any two people, regardless of gender...but it seems that man versus woman is most common, and in each situation, it seems to be the same complaint: "I was so nice to her. She led me on." But how often do we really hear her side of the story?

  • The Monosexual’s Guide to Dating Someone Flexible

    There are many of us who identify as queer, bisexual, pansexual, or other identities that are flexible in the sex and gender of our partners. This is often difficult to understand for people who are not flexible, whether they are gay or straight. This is a guide for monosexual (cliff notes version: someone who is either straight or gay) partners of sexually flexible people to be a better partner to those of us with these unique identities.

  • Thinking about Taboos

    Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.

  • Positive Versus Prohibitive: Why Sex Positive Spaces are Beginning to Experience Backlash

    The notion of "Sex Positivity" is one that we are all familiar with: it encourages an accepting, celebratory attitude toward sex and sexuality. There are times, however, when sex positive spaces can turn sour for their participants. Some feel pressured, while others feel ignored, and with these mounting concerns going largely unaddressed, there is a real need to band together, combat this "elephant in the room" and keep our spaces and ideals safe and welcoming for all.

  • BDSM DIY: Creating Dungeon Furniture

    In this third segment of my BDSM Do it Yourself column, I will discuss how I have made several pieces of dungeon furniture in the past and how you could, easily, learn to craft these transportable pieces yourself. The finished pieces can each be made for under twenty dollars and are mobile, so that you can bring and show off your furniture at play parties...or easily hide it under your bed if the in-laws come snooping.

  • A Sexless Adventure

    I think we all can agree that having a long term relationship is a great thing. As the relationship continues on, you gain a close friendship and a great sex partner, possibly for life. Spending a long time with someone can create challenges in the bedroom. Many couples feel that as they spend more time together, their sex lives get a little dull. So recently my partner and I have decided to go sexless for the next 3 months. Join me on my journey of revamping and restarting my sex life.

  • Happy MILF Day?

    So, with Mother’s Day behind us (that would be the second Sunday of May) but the month in which it falls still with us, perhaps we need to roll out a MILF Day? Or make plans for one beginning next year? I mean, we have special days for just about everything now, including “Talk Like a Pirate Day,” so why isn’t there a MILF Day? Or am I just slacking on my online searching game this month?

  • Massage 101: Choosing Your Oil

    If you are trying to plan something special for you and your partner, or you just want to help your partner relax, you may want to give them a massage. This article will cover how to choose the right oil for you and your partner.

  • Whips Vs. Floggers

    Have you ever wondered exactly what the difference is between whips and floggers? Well here is your answer, along with examples of each.

  • It's a Myth! The Fallacy of the Sexual Peak

    It's common knowledge that women and men have their sexual peaks at very different times, but is this idea heavy on the common and light on the knowledge?

  • Sex Signals

    Stop relying on horoscopes, bio-rhythms, or Facebook to figure out if someone likes you. Instead, turn to science!

  • Is your body bikini ready? Does it really matter?

    Summer is officially here, but is your body ready for summer? How to handle the expectations of summer swimsuits and clothing.

  • How to Submit: A Basic Guide

    Submission is all the craze now, ever since [italic| Fifty Shades of Grey] hit the shelves last year. But what many people don't know is how to submit. Submission is so much more than being tied up and being spanked. Submission is, simply put, yielding to another, but sometimes that’s harder than it appears.

  • How Orgasm Focus Almost Ruined A Relationship

    Today’s article focuses on how sex focused around an orgasm can put a lot of stress on both parties, and even lead to break ups in some cases. We will discuss what the goal of sex really should be.

  • Play Party Guidelines

    BDSM play parties can be extremely fun. I highly suggest learning a little about how to respect yourself and others, in a scene, before you attend your first party.

  • Summer helped me find myself!

    Those of us who are above size average know all to well what kinda of emotions this time of year can bring to us. All of a sudden the few extra pounds we've gained over the winter, how un-tan we are and the memories of our last pedicure all come back to haunt us.

  • Abercrombie & Fitch's Body-Neagative Attitude Lands Them in Hot Water with Consumers

    Abercrombie's CEO Mike Jeffries made it very clear that only cool, beautiful, popular, skinny people should be shopping in his stores. Not part of the cool crowd? He'd prefer you stay out.

  • Move Over Big Brother, Big Business Is Here

    One of the largest internet credit card processors in the world has recently announced a policy of zero tolerance regarding the use of certain words on sites it represents. How long will it be before all the others follow?

  • Basic Tips for Giving Great Hand Jobs

    Here are a few tips to spicing up the average, and sometimes boring hand job. All it takes is a little imagination, combined with these tricks of the hand!

  • The Cuddle-Sutra: 7 Common Sleeping Styles

    Have a partner who takes up all the bed space? Or steals all the blankets? What about whacking you (by accident) in your sleep? Here are 7 common sleeping styles you or your partner may have and how to handle them.

  • I'm Never Going to be White Girl Skinny, and I'm okay with That

    There are some battles you're going to win, and some you're going to lose. Learning to pick your battles and accept what you can change about yourself really is a key to happiness.

  • Enjoying The Joy Of Sex

    One of the most influential books ever published celebrated its fortieth birthday last year - and its sequel hits the same age in 2013. A personal celebration of Alex Comfort's "The Joy of Sex."

  • Alone Time

    Having a partner is great, but sometimes you need alone time for yourself.

  • BDSM Roller Coaster: Subspace to Sub-drop

    STOP! Before you delve into the world of BDSM power plays, there’s something you should know. Whether you're subbing or doming, you should know about the emotional and sometimes physical roller coaster that is the scope from subspace to sub-drop. The extreme highs and lows have risks of their own and can be incredibly intense for all persons involved.

  • You Always Remember The First Time

    There's a first time for everything, and it may not be the greatest. But it's always the time you remember the best....

  • A Sexless Relationship

    Is it possible for a sexless relationship to last?

  • Flogging 101: Choosing the Right Leather

    Not all leather is created equal. Shopping for a flogger requires knowing the differences between the wide variety of leathers available. Whether you like a sting, thud, or all of the above, this guide will teach you some of the important essentials about different leathers, and is an important first step in finding the flogger that's right for you!

  • Is Sex Addiction Real?

    Most definitely yes! I was reminded of this subject over the weekend, while hearing a judgmental indictment of Tiger Woods' infidelity and divorce.

  • How to Raise Your Pain Tolerance

    If you're into S&M, or have a partner you fancy who is, having a higher pain tolerance can definitely be beneficial. So here's some information on how to raise your pain tolerance.

  • Size Only Matters If He's Too Damned Big

    It wasn’t the angle, it wasn’t the mood, it wasn’t any of the things we normally blame. The fact is, he was just too huge. Some thoughts on why you shouldn’t click the Penis Enlargement links on that website.

  • The Years of Living Dangerously

    We all did things in our youths that we are now slightly alarmed by (or, at least, I hope we all did!) And now, in adulthood, maybe we'd like to again. A look back at the years of "I just wasn't thinking," and how not thinking again could be the best thing you've done.

  • Using the Warm Weather to Your Advantage

    Now that it's starting to warm up in the Western Hemisphere, how can you use the season change to your advantage? There are plenty of little ways the warm weather can not only help you refresh, revive, and renew your general state of mind, but your sex life as well!

  • Share and Share Alike

    Or: if you're so convinced that I should swallow your cum, let's see you have a taste of it too.

  • Please Pass The Salt

    Life brings about inevitable change. No matter how much we detest it, it doesn't matter. People change, situations change, and feelings change. No good relationship isn't without its own set of issues. A perfect relationship doesn't exist, but there's a lot you can do to reintroduce some seasoning to your bland intimacy.

  • When a Mommy and a Daddy Love Each Other Very Much...

    The talk. Birds and the bees. We've all heard of it one way or another. It once was the sole responsibility of a child's parents to educate their son or daughter on sex, and eventually schools picked it up into the curriculum. There have, however, been some recent protests by parents and schools alike on sex ed. So, here's the question: Who should be educating our kids on sex?

  • The Loneliness of the Long Distance Sex Writer

    A lot of us here have written something that other people disagree with. All of us have read things that make us see red. Some thoughts on the nature of criticism, and why sex writers make such a popular target.

  • What is Sexual Healing?

    Sexual healing encompasses three broad, interrelated categories of work.

  • Clitoridectomy -- a Form of Female Genital Mutilation

    In this article, I discuss a form of female genital mutilation -- one that is still practiced today around the world -- clitoridectomy. I wanted to share things I learned while doing research, and what led me to learning about clitoridectomies. The details are horrific, but I keep it light here. After learning what I have about FGM and clitoridectomies, I felt strongly about bringing the topic up in order to share, and perhaps raise more awareness.

  • Contraception Part 1 -- An introduction

    Contraception (preventing pregnancy) can be very confusing as many forms exist out there. This three part series will focus on how they work, their effectiveness, and the side effects they come with.

  • The First Lie

    What is the first lie a guy ever tells his girlfriend? “I promise I won’t cum in your mouth." And what is the first lie she tells him? "Good”.

  • Meeting Master

    It’s that moment; you’ve come a long way, whether physically, emotionally, or both. You're now standing outside the door, the door that will lead you to meet your dominant or submissive cyber-partner for the first time. You take a deep breath, try to calm your nerves, and go through the door. This moment of the first face to face meeting can potentially make or break your relationship from this point on. Handling this moment is a huge deal.

  • Learning to Be Dependent

    While being independent in certainly important, the ability to allow ourselves to depend on others is also just as vital.

  • BDSM 101 –Learning to Hit Your Partner Part 2

    In part 1 of learning to hit your partner, I discussed how you mentally prepare for some impact play if you are uncomfortable with it. Today, I want to talk about some strategies about actually implementing it.

  • BDSM 101 – Learning to Hit Your Partner

    The act of learning to hit your partner, when they ask for it, can be difficult for some people. This article helps explain why someone might enjoy it, and how you can learn to be okay with fulfilling your partner's sexual desires.

  • How “Teaching Men Not to Rape” Won't Prevent Another Steubenville

    Last week, Trent Mays and Ma’Lik Richmond were sentenced for the rape of 16-year-old “Jane Doe” at an alcohol-fueled party in Steubenville, Ohio. In the aftermath of this horrific crime, pundits are calling on the country to “teach men not to rape” to prevent a repeat of this obscenity – but that message is utterly ridiculous.

  • Tracking Your Ovulation for Fertility

    The act of trying to get pregnant can become stressful if it is not happening within the time frame that you want it to happen. This article is going to focus on how you can track when you ovulate and use that to help you become pregnant.

  • 6 Realistic Ways to Increase Confidence

    I think most of us have, at some point in time, lacked confidence. We've read plenty of tips to increase our confidence, but the lack didn't subside. The typical confidence tips are: get a haircut, do something wild, have your makeup done professionally, and look in the mirror and repeat "I am beautiful." Those "tips" never quite cut it for me, so I thought I'd share some things that have.

  • BDSM 101--Cock and Ball Toys

    Today's article will focus on cock and ball toys. These are male toys that focus on the penis and testicles. We will learn about the different types of toys that exist, the sensations they provide, and why people might want to try them.

  • Don't Worry, I'll Finger It Out Later!

    Fingering was a term I recall hearing as a young teenager that sparked my curiosity about what it must entail. My gentle and innocent ways prevented me from asking the burning questions that I so desperately needed to know.

  • A Tale of Many Mikva’ot

    For thousands of years this ritual act of Judaism has been passed down from mother to daughter. However, if you dare to ask a Jewish wife about her mikvah experience, she will often walk away. These moments are very private and never shared openly. Therefore, for the purpose of this article, names and some places have been changed to protect those I spoke to about their experience.

  • Independence Can Be Empowering; But It Does Have A Price....

    Just like any other hard-fought battle, there can be casualties. Most of them are worth it, but some of them... well, that is for you to decide.

  • One Generation to Another: Interviewing Mom

    My mother is a 58 year old woman, who grew up in a very different time. Views on women, on life, and love have changed a lot since she was my age. So how does a woman who’s been married twice, had three children, and lived such a full life view womanhood? I interviewed her recently to find out just what she thinks about women, motherhood, love, marriage, and even sex.

  • Exploring Hentai

    There is so much porn, both on and off the internet. Why would anyone choose to look at drawings over real people? With a guilt free conscience, knowing that there are no reluctantly recruited actors, and no awkward feelings about watching strangers get down and dirty, many people choose hentai as an alternative. Plus, kinks and fetishes have no restrictions in hentai!

  • Get it While It's Hot: The Romantics of Cooking

    There's very little more attractive to me than cooking a meal with my man. And we don’t even have to be naked to do it! Here are a few reasons why I get hot from a hot meal.

  • Define This: Bugchasing and the Quest to Acquire HIV

    Bugchasing: the quest to acquire HIV (human immunodeficiency virus). That's right, it's a thing! Are you asking, "But why would someone ever want to get HIV?" Read on and find out...

  • Sexuality and Christianity: My journey to finding peace and reconciliation.

    This article is an account of my experience with my journey through sexuality and the church.

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet G-N

    The second section in The Wild Kink Alphabet series, covering the letters G (for guro) though N (for necrophilia)! Have you ever heard of macros? Guro? Hypers? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • Prostate Massage (I): How I Discovered Prostate Orgasms

    The first in a series of articles on prostate orgasms, this one describes my long struggle to learn how to have them.

  • Menstruation: “Red Days” - A Jewish Perspective

    Although, it is a natural process of the body, the topic of a woman’s period is often off limits. In this day and age, with sex education in school, sexuality in virtually all television programs, all the progress in women’s rights, why are women still plagued by the old age stigma of being “unclean” or “dirty” during their ?time of the month'?

  • The Wild Kink Alphabet A-F

    The first section of The Wild Kink Alphabet, covering the letters A (for age play) through F (for furry)! Have you ever heard of erotic asphyxiation? What about cum inflation? Furry? Kinks and fetishes go far beyond the well known BDSM spectrum, what's out there in the endless void of fetishism?

  • Editor's Top 3 Last Minute Valentine's Day Picks

    A little birdy told us some of you still haven't picked anything up for your lover. What is it about the gift-giving holidays that turns even the most punctual person into a procrastinator? Never fear! Our Editor in Chief is here with three suggestions of her own...and a naughty bonus.

  • Not All Our Women Are in Refrigerators: Sex Positivism in American Comics

    Comics have undergone a revolution in the last ten years. A new era of creativity is flourishing and with it, new ideas are flowing. Not only are all sorts of issues being tackled in refreshing ways, sexism and caricatured ideas about sex are being challenged.

  • Visually Enhanced Psychosexual Therapy (VEST)

    Everyone knows about sexual dysfunction, and those who have experienced it may have tried a score of medical “solutions” with less than fruitful results. For those who have found other “non-medicinal” interventions that have worked, perhaps this article may not be news for you so much as proof that getting reacquainted with your own body, and that of your loved one, can do more for you than any medicine can.

  • Starting Sex Ed Classes: Maturity Before Age

    Children are hitting puberty younger than ever and are attending sex education classes at an earlier age, but not all children are ready to deal with the information that is being presented.

  • Stuck in the Friend Zone

    The idea of the "friend zone", at least the way many men use it, is one of the most subtly misogynistic relationship concepts we have. Here's why.

  • You don't have to be gay to enjoy anal play.

    This article is less of a "how-to" and more of a demonstration that the enjoyment of anal penetration or stimulation has no bearing on one's sexuality. It is a common misconception by many hetero females and males alike that any man who likes his ass penetrated is "gay" or at a minimum, bisexual. That is simply untrue.

  • What Rights?

    Many people bring up the idea of requesting a father's signature before a woman can get an abortion. These people do not think of the consequences of such actions. These measures are not only undue burdens, illegal under Roe v. Wade, but also horribly oppressive measures that would force women to give birth against their will.

  • Being Spanked

    I like to be spanked. Why? Several reasons, all of which I talk about here.

  • BDSM 101: What websites to join and which ones to avoid

    When you first find the world of BDSM, one of the things that you probably want to do is learn as much as you can. A good way to do that is join a fetish website so that you can connect with like-minded individuals. But like with everything else, there are both good and bad websites.

  • How crabs saved my life. Well...sort of.

    The best thing about being young and sexually active is that sooner or later you might just stumble across an STD or two. If you're lucky, you may escape some of the very major ones we all know are out there, so please play it safe. With that said, even if you do get an STD, sometimes, and very rarely now...they can help fix the path you're on.

  • Contraceptive Series Part 4: Implanon, the Hormonal Implant

    This is the third installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about Implanon, the only hormonal implant option available in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of Implanon— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

  • Holiday Gift Guide: Titillating Tinsel Edition

    Gift kits, gift wrap and free shipping! Oh, my!

  • Idea for the porn industry thanks to Prop B

    Laws can be a benefit. But sometimes they are just stupid and at those times I don't mind suggesting ways to exploit them, as long as you take the time to check on things to make sure it will work first.

  • BDSM 101: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink

    RACK is the counterpart to SSC in the BDSM world. In some ways they are very similar and in other ways they are very different.

  • Balancing sex and family...Or how my mother-in-law came to hate me.

    This is the story of the girl who traveled four hours to stay at her boyfriend’s parents’ house after dating him for just around a month and how after two weeks of nonstop sex, succeeded in making the aforementioned parents despise her. So if you’re looking for tips on how to ensure you leave your significant other’s house with more than a little condemnation, you’re in the right place!

  • Not Gay, Not Straight

    As a queer person who is not strictly lesbian, it can be difficult to fit into a gay community, and impossible to fit into a straight one.

  • Contraception Series Part 2: Paragard, the Non-Hormonal IUD

    For those of you who read the first installment of my contraceptive series, this is the second installment, in which I will provide accessible written information about Paragard. Paragard is my favorite contraceptive to talk about because, well, I use it! This article will provide information about the basics of Paragard— everything you need to know when making your decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

  • Achieving Great Sex: All of Your Relationships in Life Need To Be Re-evaluated.

    We all know that great sex is more than just physical- it is mental and emotional as well. Most of us cannot enjoy sex as much when we are not mentally and emotionally satisfied. Sexual satisfaction can be tied to a lot of aspects within our lives. Read my story and apply it to your own life. Take the steps that I took to achieve the freedom and satisfaction you deserve.

  • Getting the Snip, Part Two: Complications

    Sometimes you do everything right and things still go wrong. In [http://www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/sex-health/getting-the-snip-part-one/|Getting the Snip, Part One], I told the story of how my boyfriend and I made the decision that vasectomy was right for us. This is what happened when he went for his vasectomy appointment.

  • Contraceptive Series Part 1: Hormones and Your Body

    There are a lot of misconceptions about how birth control works and what the options are. As a feminist birth control researcher, I am working to dispel these myths through this series about each form of contraception available on the market in the United States. In this introduction to the series, I am giving an overview of the two feminine hormones and how they work in contraceptives.

  • Body Mods Down Below: Male Edition

    What’s the deal with dick piercings? Do people really split their penises? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that males can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

  • Knock Knock. Who’s There? Herpes.

    At 21, I was diagnosed with an STD. Though I have happily found someone who accepts me and doesn't judge me for my past, society still says it's OK to make jokes about diseases that are killing people. You wouldn't make a joke about cancer, so why is it OK to joke about syphilis?

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexually Caged

    A person's sexuality should be as simple as a person preferring the color blue to pink. We all have preferences, we all have our likes and dislikes. Society doesn't mock me because I would rather drink water than juice; so how is it fair to ridicule someone that is drawn to the same gender they are? Or someone who's turned on by whips and gags? Who are we to look down on someone for any preference they have?

  • One Lump Or Two??? Oh, How About 28!!

    It was just one small lump, the size of a pea. Who knew what that innocuous little bit of tissue in my breast would lead to...and the surprising results of all the testing.

  • Define This: Femme

    As a gay teenager I owned a t-shirt that boldly stated, "Nobody knows I'm a lesbian." Ten years later, the sentiment of that shirt couldn't be more true. Femme identity often fits neither into the expectations from heterosexual society nor queer communities. As I'm finally settling comfortably into my own skin, I've come to realize the importance of femme visibility.

  • Body Mods Down Below: Female Edition

    What’s the deal with clit piercings? Do people really get their nipples removed? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that females can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

  • Cross dressing: How it happens, why it happens, and how to come out to those who matter

    I will discuss how cross dressing came into my life, why it grew on me and my advice for coming out to the important ones in your life!

  • My Boobs: Equal Parts Utilitarian and Sensual

    I love my boobs. I didn’t always feel that way.

  • Sleeping With Transboys: A brief how-to on sex with transboys

    So you've got this new boyfriend, and he's a transman! Or maybe you've just always wanted to hook up with one? What do you do when it comes to sex without offending him? What's going on in his pants? Check this out before you jump in bed!

  • The Raw Truth About Infidelity

    Easily considered the most dangerous and destructive occurrence in a relationship, infidelity provokes a range of thoughts and emotions, few of them good, but how often does it really occur? Can you predict infidelity? And why do we cheat at all?

  • Men Get Breast Cancer Too

    Even though male breast cancer rates are low, they are continually rising. Public awareness needs to be increased.

  • Eden Lit Club: October Story Starts and All Things Fall!

    The air is crisp, colors are exploding all over, and school is well into its first semester. We're all gathering up and settling down for the winter. The Eden Lit Club is also settling in and harvesting all the creative energy.

  • Sometimes Adam, Sometimes Eve

    I'm married to a man...and a woman. No, I'm not a member of a religion that believes in multiple marriages. Nor am I in a polyamorous relationship. My spouse is bigender, both male and female in one body.

  • Furry: The Fuzzier Side of Kink

    Maybe you've seen that creepy CSI episode about fursuiting...Maybe you've had a friend that seemed to like to make animal noises just a little too much--or maybe you've just seen it around the internet. The furry fandom is growing by the day, but no one ever seems able to clearly define it or give a straight answer to any question about it. It really makes you wonder...What exactly IS a furry?

  • The Great Foreskin Debate

    These are just my opinions, most of which are backed up by science. If anyone disagrees with me, please don't hesitate to comment. I would just like to share my ideas and help inspire others to do some research for themselves.

  • I will never be you. -Or- I don't understand white people.

    I was recently stuck in a situation with a bunch of members of the normal, which are the most important vote for any presidential candidate: white, upper class, Christian males. As I sat surrounded by these people with my mohawk and hole-filled jeans, I couldn't get over the fact I hated them, I hated every word that spilled from their mouths. Let me share my story about my time at a bachelor party, for my metamour.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: Why Men Are Drawn to Strip Clubs

    After work, Joe and his friends decided to hit a local Gentlemen’s Club for a beer before heading home. Joe and Ernie call their wives to say they will be late. They don’t dare reveal the truth, with a white lie they hang up and its high fives all around.

  • The Steel Clit: A How-To On Dealing With A Stubborn Clitoris

    Not everyone has those wonderfully sensitive, easy clits that can get off from a few light rubs of a finger. Some of us have clits of steel that are so stubborn that sometimes the hours spent attempting just aren't worth the orgasm! What do you do with a clit that just won't give in? You've got options and you're not alone!

  • SexIs Subjective: The Separation of Church and State...When it suits us.

    At 14 years old, I thought the government was never going to let me marry another woman...At 21, I'm fighting a battle to allow myself, my friends, and my family to marry who they want--a battle of human rights that shouldn't even be an issue.

  • Do YOU think it's better?

    Love is an amazing thing. For such a short word, it packs an incredible meaning which differs from person to person. I don't believe two people in the whole world define the word in the same way. It produces the most amazing highs and the most rock bottom lows. Love is a verb. Love is a battlefield. Love is patient. Love is blind. What is love? And is it truly better to to have loved and lost, or to never experience it at all?

  • BDSM 101

    So you're interested in learning more about BDSM or even ready to start going down that road? Read on and I'll describe a few of the things that you might want to try out, without sending you running for the hills.

  • Role Play: Nerdy or Sexy?

    Some people find role play too nerdy for the bedroom, but what's really holding you back?

  • Gays Can Breathe Easy - Porn is the New Threat to Marriage

    Patrick Trueman, President of Morality in Media, claims that watching porn can re-map the brain of young males, causing them to be sexually dysfunctional later in life. And he aims to prevent that. What's worse? He's got the GOP on his side.

  • The T in LGBT

    What do transgender and transsexual mean? What are appropriate terms to use when talking to someone who identifies as trans?

  • Where in the world are the dental dams!?

    Condoms have become standard practice in sexual education, but dental dams remain something rarely discussed. Why is it that sex education is so often told through old fashioned terms?

  • Fantasy Land

    As the parent of a toddler, the greatest place on Earth right now for him seems to be the Magic Kingdom. While researching a trip to the so called “Happiest place on Earth” I started thinking about the name for one part within the theme park, Fantasy Land.

  • Bisexuality in My Own Words

    Why should it be that someone like me can have no fear when calling myself a lesbian, but upon discovering I like both women and men, be so hesitant to call myself bisexual? I hesitate because of all the popular misconceptions and negative connotations that are associated with the word.

  • So, what's so bad about phthalates, anyway?

    Before coming to EdenFantasys, I was left in the dark about all things related to sex toys. I didn't know anything about what materials the toys were made of, what phthalates were, or why some materials are better and safer for the body than other materials are.

  • Why does Gender matter?

    A three part examination of Gender Identity in the 21st Century. Or as I like to think of it, I'm going to take your concept of normal and toss it out the window.

  • The 5 Hallmarks of Feminist Porn

    For decades, pornography has been the domain of men - it was made by and for horny guys, with no regard for what women might like and what might be upsetting to them. But in recent years, there has been a surge of new feminist porn, created by female pornographers for women's enjoyment. It's a very diverse genre, but there are some defining features that most feminist porn films possess.

  • When A Website Changes It All

    We didn't expect our life to be thrown for a loop after having a baby. What we expected even less was for a website to turn it all around for us.

  • My Transformation Into A Super Soaker

    EdenFantasys has done many things for all of us. Most of us can agree that Eden has improved our sexual well being. This is my story!

  • How EdenFantasys Saved My Sex Life

    Eden Fantasys is more than just an online sex store. It is a sex positive online community that has changed my life.

  • Beginner BDSM on a Budget

    Have you ever wanted to try out BDSM without spending tons of money on supplies you don't know you want? Whether you're crafty or not I have compiled a simple list of DIY tools that everyone should try at least once!

  • No Inhibitions on Vacation

    What is it about going on vacation that can totally unleash something in you and your significant other?

  • Keeping It Hot Without Melting

    I live in Arkansas. Not only does it get hot in the summer, but it's suffocating with the humidity. You can’t walk outside for more than a few minutes at a time before you’re ready to go inside. The heat just gets to you. And don’t even think about going outside at noon. Fortunately, my husband and I grew up here and have learned ways to keep cool in the summer while still enjoying each other.

  • Touch Me There

    Having a partner that will experiment with you is one of the greatest things in a relationship. Having someone that you trust implicitly is essential for any truly great relationship. And letting that person do things with you that you wouldn’t let anyone else do can be incredibly sexy.

  • Unselfish Hands

    I looked into coming back to write some new articles for EdenFantasys and saw that Touch is the theme for this month. More specifically, how hands relate to touch. I couldn’t wait to write this article.

  • #ExpressLove - Love is a complex and many-splendored thing.

    Its meaning to us, as individuals, is as unique as snowflakes. No one person’s definition of it is going to be exactly the same. In the same way we think about and define love, we also have diverse ways of showing it.

  • #ExpressLove - Selfless Acts

    Sometimes it’s the simplest things in life that bring about the greatest joy, and I consider selfless acts of love to be the best expression of love that anyone can ever receive.

  • #ExpressLove - Ecosex: Healthiest Habit(tat) and Highest Expression of Love

    What does Ecosex have to do with sexual health and expressing love?

  • Buyers Guide: Be Playful! Express Your Love with Toys!

    How do you express your love? Do you buy your lover something cute you know they’ll enjoy? Maybe you take them out on a date and come prepared? Perhaps you express your love by taking care of the environment? Whatever the form of expression you use, we’ve got something for you.

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  • The AIDS Awareness Project

    In the interest of raising awareness about HIV/AIDS, SexIs presents a series of essays that speak to the innate mistakes and inherent kindnesses of the human animal, our spirit of community, the necessity of anger—and the absolute power of hope.

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    by Rayne Millaray
  • The Green Project

    Sexis asks: How do our sex lives—and the industries that support them—affect the earth? Starting with the basics, we present an open-ended dialogue on how our sexual choices impact our relationship with the planet and its ever-dwindling resources.

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    by Dorian Darque
  • The BDSM Project

    BDSM—kink—fetish: what are they? How does one do it? And, most importantly, who’s doing it? The answer might just be staring back at you in the mirror.

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    by TheDP
  • The Safer Sex Project

    What is safer sex? We bring together clinical and practical data on STDs and their prevention, including information on identification and treatment, as well as social/cultural significance and stigmas.

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    by darthkitt3n
  • The Naked Reader Book Club

    Join venerated erotica publisher Cleis Press, EdenFantasys and SexIs in an ongoing online book club for inquiring minds who love to read about all things sexual—from the politics of pornography to the erotically evocative boundaries of desire. News, meeting announcements, reviews, book readings and more can be found on [http://www.nakedreaderbookclub.com|The Naked Reader Book Club Blog]. [underline|[bold|Featured Books from Cleis Press]] To find out about upcoming featured titles, visit [http://www.nakedreaderbookclub.com/the-books/|The Naked Reader Book List] for a listing of books to be featured in the coming months. [bold|[http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-community/stores/the-naked-reader-book-club/|The Naked Reader Book Club Store]] Visit the official NRBC store to purchase past, present and future featured book titles. [underline|[bold|Reviews]] 2- 4 books are featured each month and reviewed by a select group of Eden Fantasys Contributors. Reviews are highlighted on the [http://www.nakedreaderbookclub.com/category/reviews/|NRBC Blog]. [bold|[http://www.nakedreaderbookclub.com/nrbc-calendar/|Book Club Meetings]] The Naked Reader Book Club meets twice a month to discuss a selected book. Visit the [http://www.nakedreaderbookclub.com/|Naked Reader Book Club Blog] for a calendar of scheduled meetings. If you are interested in more information on the Naked Reader Book Club, please email [mailto:NakedReaderBookClub@gmail.com|The Naked Reader].

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    by Cherry Trifle
  • The Man Project

    Famed humorist Will Rogers once noted: "There are three kinds of men: The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves." But, just what the hell does it mean to be a man, anyway? In this series, SexIs turns the spotlight on the male of the species to explore where our culture stands regarding male sexuality, what’s lacking from the conversation—and how the questions we aren’t asking effect us all.

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    by Rachel Rabbit White
  • AIDS–the Arts and the Legacy of Activism

    Nowhere have the effects of HIV/AIDs been more strongly felt than in the arts. But even in the face of devastating loss, AIDS also inspired an enduring array of works destined to become the masterpieces of our time, and spawned a new breed of activists, whose art both offered hope and raised funding for research, outreach and education. SexIs spotlights the pioneers who polarized the movement, as well as those who carry the torch today, passing it forward, until a cure can be found.

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    by Renee Veronica Lucas
  • The Appetites Project

    Lust. Hunger. Thirst.   More than just basic human needs designed to perpetuate the species, these complex motivations can lead us to the edge of obsession or euphoria, fulfillment or torment, despair or ecstasy. Without satisfaction, these desires can consume our lives. SexIs takes a closer look at the intersection between food and sex. What makes us lust for food? What foods increase our hunger for sex? In what ways do we creatively and compulsively feed our appetites? It’s food for thought.

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    by PuddlePuppy
  • Porn Club

    EdenFantasys and SexIs have teamed up to create Porn Club, the hottest online adult video discussion club. Each month, two porn releases will be discussed in a live public conversation on the Eden forums, often with porn stars, directors, and producers in attendance! Join us for fun and lively conversations every month, as dozens of real people share their perspectives on the many genres of pornography we’ll be reviewing. These discussions are a no-holds-barred look at everything from the set up to the money shot. In addition to interviews and articles on SexIs, the Club also has a calendar of events, news, commentary and contests on the [http://www.edenpornclub.com/|Eden Porn Club Blog]

    Last article:
    by TinaV
  • The Breast Cancer Awareness Project

    October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Sexis presents a series of stories that highlight those who have fought, those who have survived and and those who continue to bring inspiration, hope and strength to everyone who faces the battle against breast cancer.

    Last article:
    by Kat Shanahan
  • The Sexual Challenges Project

    Not everybody is created equal. That is, we each face unique challenges in life, some more difficult to overcome than others. From disability to dysfunction to emotional disconnection, the impediments to enjoying sex are many and varied. The Sexual Challenges Project aims to examine, discuss and educate our readers about these issues that some, if not all of us must overcome to achieve a fulfilling and satisfying sex life.

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    by Miss Nessa
  • Sexy YOU

    We asked our writers and community what is sexy to them. As you can imagine, the responses were diverse. From losing weight, to wearing sexy lingerie, to going out dancing with a partner, the possibilities are endless. So tell us. What’s sexy to you?

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    by Elizabeth Darling
  • Define This

    Defining sex-related terms in our own words.

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    by balletwhip
  • Set the Mood

    How do you set the mood for romance? Communication? Being someone other than "Mommy" for a little while? Our contributors have some ideas.

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    by AHubbyof2SexualMinds
  • The Sex Worker Appreciation Project

    We support all types of sex workers, from sexual surrogates, to cam girls, to "ladies of the night." Here, they'll tell you their stories.

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    by karlitamakita
  • SexIs Subjective

    Every month, we'll ask a question, and we want your honest opinion in 500 words or more. These articles are purely the opinions of our contributors. While we support their right to express them, we do not necessarily agree with or stand by their opinions.

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    by No-nita
  • EdenU: The Sex Ed Project

    Educating you about sex, sexual health, sexuality, and much more at SexIs Social. Take control of your sex education. [http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-forum/edenfantasys/sexis-suggestions/-sexis-september-sexis/|Find details on contributing here.]

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    by oneeyedoctopus
  • The Sexperiment Files

    Sharing our sexual experiences in the name of education. Find out how to participate by reading [http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-forum/edenfantasys/sexis-suggestions/-sexissocial-project/|this thread].

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    by angel42539
  • Love Channel

    The Valentine's Day is coming and we decided to create a project with everything about love, romance and relationships.

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