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  • Vice: Love in Japan

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them

  • Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheat

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them.

  • Keeping those distracting thoughts out of the bedroom.

    We've all got stuff. Sometimes it gets in the way of supersexyfuntimes. Come with me and explore one, very effective for at least one couple, way of dealing with distractions.

  • Perspectives on Polyamory

    I’m not on the same level as the characters of Big Love, but I do consider myself polyamorous. If you have ever been interested in the lifestyle, here are a few key concepts that have popped up in my everyday life with my two (sometimes three) partners.

  • Confessions of a Friend-Zoner

    You know how it goes. Man meets woman, man befriends woman, man expects that friendship to blossom into something sexual, and when it doesn't, man complains that he's been friend-zoned. This scenario can play out between any two people, regardless of gender...but it seems that man versus woman is most common, and in each situation, it seems to be the same complaint: "I was so nice to her. She led me on." But how often do we really hear her side of the story?

  • The Monosexual’s Guide to Dating Someone Flexible

    There are many of us who identify as queer, bisexual, pansexual, or other identities that are flexible in the sex and gender of our partners. This is often difficult to understand for people who are not flexible, whether they are gay or straight. This is a guide for monosexual (cliff notes version: someone who is either straight or gay) partners of sexually flexible people to be a better partner to those of us with these unique identities.

  • Thinking about Taboos

    Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.

  • How Phone Sex Can Improve Your LDR

    Being of the internet generation, I’ve had my share of online, and long distance, relationships. When my husband was in Germany for a few weeks, Skype sex was a wonderful treat that we got to have every couple of days, and it kept us going until we were able to see each other again. Here is the secret that can help you the next time your significant other (SO) is out of town.

  • BDSM Punishments

    In my previous article, How to Submit, I mentioned that it is important to be able to take punishments as a submissive. After my article was posted, it received a comment which left me stunned. Then it hit me. I had never explained the various types of punishments, and it was assumed that all BDSM punishments were purely physical. This article will explain the various forms of punishments often used and why each one may be selected and put to use.

  • Turn Your Thinking Off: Running a Thought-mile During Sexual Activities

    What am I going to cook for dinner? Did I leave the stove on? Why did Harold say that thing about my wife? Will they ever cum?

    We all know that during sexual play time, there are those days (far many than few) where we cannot turn our minds to completing the fun at hand, to enjoy our sexual experiences fully. Is it possible to turn your thinking off? Can you quiet your mind? Is it even a realistic thought?

  • A Sexless Adventure

    I think we all can agree that having a long term relationship is a great thing. As the relationship continues on, you gain a close friendship and a great sex partner, possibly for life. Spending a long time with someone can create challenges in the bedroom. Many couples feel that as they spend more time together, their sex lives get a little dull. So recently my partner and I have decided to go sexless for the next 3 months. Join me on my journey of revamping and restarting my sex life.

  • Confessions of a Reluctant Rope Top

    You can be normal and still love and respect a woman enough to blindfold her, tie her to a wall, and make her scream.

  • Happy MILF Day?

    So, with Mother’s Day behind us (that would be the second Sunday of May) but the month in which it falls still with us, perhaps we need to roll out a MILF Day? Or make plans for one beginning next year? I mean, we have special days for just about everything now, including “Talk Like a Pirate Day,” so why isn’t there a MILF Day? Or am I just slacking on my online searching game this month?

  • BDSM 101—Understanding Masochism

    Today I want to look at masochism and help those who are not masochists potentially understand why someone might enjoy pain.

  • BDSM 101--Orgasm Denial

    Today we are going to discuss orgasm denial. What is it? How do you do it? Why do people like it?

  • Vibrator Envy

    Today’s article focuses on a problem that many men face with the introduction of a toy, and that is envy and feelings of inadequacy in the face of a vibrator. We will discuss how to overcome this and why you will never be replaced by a vibrator.

  • Define This: GGG

    GGG is a term first coined by sex writer Dan Savage. Not only is it a good road map for healthy relationships, but those that follow it report a higher level of satisfaction in their love life.

  • Sex Signals

    Stop relying on horoscopes, bio-rhythms, or Facebook to figure out if someone likes you. Instead, turn to science!

  • How to Submit: A Basic Guide

    Submission is all the craze now, ever since Fifty Shades of Grey hit the shelves last year. But what many people don't know is how to submit. Submission is so much more than being tied up and being spanked. Submission is, simply put, yielding to another, but sometimes that’s harder than it appears.

  • How Orgasm Focus Almost Ruined A Relationship

    Today’s article focuses on how sex focused around an orgasm can put a lot of stress on both parties, and even lead to break ups in some cases. We will discuss what the goal of sex really should be.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 8

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 7

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 6

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 2

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 1

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • From Prude To Lewd

    Our adventure from sexual repression to complete openness.

  • Bipolar and Sex

    I am diagnosed Bipolar II and my medication, like most antipsychotics, has caused me to lose my sex drive. This article is about my experience and how I handle the lack of desire with my live in boyfriend.

  • The Guide to Moving in Together

    So you think you're ready to move in together? I don't mean to be your mom, but are you sure? Check out this guide to make sure you've crossed your Ts and dotted your Is!

  • Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 4

    Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

  • Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 3

    Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong

  • Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 2

    Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

  • He can beat me, but I'm not a masochist.

    Roles, we are all assigned them. Even when we are playing with kink and fantasy, it still seems that we end up in roles that are assigned to us. I love my kink, and I love my dynamic. I let my Dom beat me until I am black and blue. I am not a masochist.

  • Letting Your Guy Go Down On You

    Oftentimes I have heard women talk about how they are very self-conscious when it comes to oral sex. Today I want to reassure a lot of people that men like giving cunnilingus and help you let your man go down on you.

  • Ways to Get Your Partner In The Mood

    Today we are going to discuss ways which you can increase you and your partner’s sex drives for those times when one of you isn’t feeling that horny.

  • Kink From Afar: Dealing With Long Distance In A BDSM Relationship. (Part 2)

    We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you're in for a wild ride! Here is part two on how to keep the kink alive when you're apart.

  • Sending Dirty Photos

    Today we discuss sending dirty photos, some tricks to it, and how to feel comfortable doing it.

  • Talking Dirty to Your Partner

    Today I want to talk about some tips and tricks for talking dirty to your partner. I want to share some personal experiences and how I think we successfully integrated it into our sex lives.

  • BDSM 101 -- Finding a Partner Part

    Today I want to talk about how I found my partner. My partner was originally not kinky at all; I introduced her to the world of kink. I want to discuss some of the tips and tricks that I discovered while doing this.

  • BDSM 101—Erotic Humiliation

    Today we are going to discuss erotic humiliation, what it is, how lots of people go about it, why people like it, and what are some safety considerations you should have.

  • BDSM 101—Blindfolding

    Today we are going to discuss blindfolding your partner, what you want to look for in a blindfold, why anyone would blindfold their partner, and what are some things you can do to your blindfolded partner.

  • "Is She Wearing A DOG Collar?" (How To Maintain Some Of Your Kink In A Vanilla Setting, Without Scaring People, Part One)

    Wouldn't life be grand if all the kinksters of the world could run around in latex catsuits and spiked leather corsets, flogging each other and kneeling at their Master's feet under the table at McDonalds without worry? Unfortunately, the world is not quite ready for that; however, it IS possible to keep some of the kink alive, even when your local church group may be watching. Here are some tips to "vanilla-ize" your kinky relationship when necessary.

  • Making Friends With the Ladies Downstairs

    I've lived my life perpetually jealous of women who have an easy going relationship with their clit or g-spot. I always felt like I was in some kind of cold war with my body. I have decided to try to accept what my body likes instead of trying to trick it into liking what others do.

  • Being Super Mom, and a Super Spouse

    There are never enough hours in the day to accomplish all the tasks of being a mother. It's harder still to have the energy to be a pleasing spouse after the tasks are complete. It can be done, though!

  • Sex Toy Envy

    Men masturbate. Women masturbate. That's just the way it is...

  • The Cuddle-Sutra: 7 Common Sleeping Styles

    Have a partner who takes up all the bed space? Or steals all the blankets? What about whacking you (by accident) in your sleep? Here are 7 common sleeping styles you or your partner may have and how to handle them.

  • Returning To Intimacy When Cancer Has Changed Your Body Image

    What happens after the diagnosis and the treatments? You have to find a new normal. That includes accepting your body changes. Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, things will be different. HOW different depends on YOU.

  • Another How-To Guide for the Aspiring Deep Throater

    Lesson one: Throw away the how-to guides.

  • Alone Time

    Having a partner is great, but sometimes you need alone time for yourself.

  • A Rekindling

    My boyfriend and I found ourselves in a bit of a rut, and this is how we worked our way out of it.

  • It's All In The Mind

    Many of us love to fantasize about our favorite celebrities while making love with our real life partner. But is it okay if we remember past lovers in the same way?

  • A Sexless Relationship

    Is it possible for a sexless relationship to last?

  • BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 2: Attending a Munch

    Today we will explore munches. What is a munch? What is the etiquette surrounding them? How can you get involved in one?

  • BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 1

    One of the common things I see people asking about is where they can find a kinky partner. People say that "it is really hard and difficult to find someone who is into the same things" as they are. So, in today’s article we are going to discuss some of the common places where you can find a partner who has similar interests as you.

  • Don't Just Lie Back And Hope You'll Enjoy It

    You want your man to learn how to eat pussy? First, you should learn how to be eaten.

  • It's Only Premature If He Cums Before You Get There

    Taking the sting out of premature ejaculation

  • Marriage Equality

    Gay Marriage; it's such a hot topic today. However, have we forgotten the rights written in our own Constitution? have we forgotten that "all men are created equal," and the fact that we all have the right for our own pursuit of happiness?

  • College Sex Revisited

    A while back, I wrote an article about sex during times of stress in college. As I come to the end of one of my busiest years of college, I have a little bit more to say.

  • Understanding Love

    "Love conquers all." Its a phrase that we have all heard one way or another. Even our favorite fairy tales give us all the idea that love is perfect, flawless, and everlasting. Yet, reality can be a bit more shocking. By understanding basic concepts of how relationships work, known as "The Family Systems Theory," we all can make sense of our relationship histories and make choices that will lead to a more satisfying, intimate relationship with the ones we love.

  • I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

    Just a few short decades ago, women had no choice but to depend on others, but as the years go by, more and more women are breaking the mold of the past and standing on their own two feet. Independence is important for us all, especially since there won't always be someone there to provide for us.

  • Using the Warm Weather to Your Advantage

    Now that it's starting to warm up in the Western Hemisphere, how can you use the season change to your advantage? There are plenty of little ways the warm weather can not only help you refresh, revive, and renew your general state of mind, but your sex life as well!

  • Affair: In Cheating, Everyone is Cheated

    It is my opinion that when someone cheats, everyone involved is cheated. When you cheat, you're cheating yourself, as well as your partner from the full relationship you deserve. When you cheat, you're creating an environment in your life that's not conductive to a healthy life. You're losing opportunities, and playing emotions. It isn't fair to anyone, but it also isn't fair to you. In the end, everyone is going to get hurt. When you play with fire, everyone gets burned.

  • Please Pass The Salt

    Life brings about inevitable change. No matter how much we detest it, it doesn't matter. People change, situations change, and feelings change. No good relationship isn't without its own set of issues. A perfect relationship doesn't exist, but there's a lot you can do to reintroduce some seasoning to your bland intimacy.

  • The Nice Girl's Guide to the One Night Stand - Part Three: He Gets It Up

    In the final part of the nice girl’s guide to getting laid by a stranger, we pick up at that magic moment where you’ve just let him know that you’re not a nun. Now, the fun really begins.

  • The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part Two: The Hook-up

    We left our lovers on the dance floor, on the verge of their very first kiss. You’ve decided to go through with it... actually, you decided before the first dance even started, but now it’s time to let him know. Read on!

  • Great Expectations (part three)

    In the third part of our series, we look at some of the reasons a nice girl might say "no."

  • Great Expectations (part two)

    In part one, we looked at how expectations about blowjobs differ between male and female participants, and who expects what from the experience. This time we look at the experience itself, and the preconceptions that naturally arise.

  • Great Expectations (part one)

    “The problem I have with blowjobs,” a friend once confided, “is that guys expect to get them.” But do they really? Or are girls just conditioned to expect them to expect them? This is the first of four articles looking at the role of fellatio in the modern relationship, from a variety of viewpoints... pro and con.

  • Don't Worry, I'll Finger It Out Later!

    Fingering was a term I recall hearing as a young teenager that sparked my curiosity about what it must entail. My gentle and innocent ways prevented me from asking the burning questions that I so desperately needed to know.

  • Shame Free Sex and Spicing Things Up

    Introduce a little whimsy into your sexual encounters,and find out where your true passions lie. Come in, leave your worries and your cares. Exploring your sexuality is natural and healthy, so let's find out what suits you, from toys to partners. Be yourself; I won't judge...

  • Don't Tell Me What to Do

    Freedom from possession, jealousy, and control by my partners is a really important part of my relationships. I value my personal independence in making decisions about my body, finances, and life, even down to what I wear.

  • Woman's Magazines: The Modern Man's Guide to Women

    Attention Men Listen Closely: If you really want to know what women want, read what she reads. Women's magazines are a great way to get insight into the female mind.

  • Girls and strip clubs.

    Many guys think that strip clubs are just for men, and that is very untrue. There are strip clubs for women, as well, and here is the interesting part: some women enjoy going to a strip club with their partners and buying them a dance.

  • Girls v. Grown Women

    Many people say that girls are less mature than grown women and that grown women have better relationships. But who defines maturity here? Is maturity the only factor in a relationship's success/failure?

  • Conventions may be the right dating spot for you!

    Let’s face it: getting into the dating game sucks, and sometimes you just don’t feel like letting people set you up. Sometimes you’re looking for a more meaningful connection, but dating websites don’t appeal to you, and you don’t quite feel desperate enough to post to the personals section. What can you do? Well, you may have not considered it, but if you enjoy going to anime and comic book conventions, you might be surprised to learn that they are great places to meet new people!

  • Single vs. Involved

    The grass isn't always greener, whichever side of the fence you are on, though it often may appear it is. It's all a matter of perspective.

  • Long-Distance Relationships and How to Make Them A Little Bit Easier

    Long-distance relationships are always difficult. Without any sort of physical contact, it can be easy to feel lonely, no matter how often you and your partner communicate. However, there are many things you can do to feel a little bit closer to your significant other, even when he/she is hundreds of miles away.

  • Fantasy and Reality

    Many of us fantasize about a certain person, sexual activity or anything that makes us get turned on. But is fantasy the same as reality?

  • Broaching the Subject: Introducing Your Girl to the Joys of Prostate Play

    Do you love the tingling, wavelike feeling of prostate play? Do you want to include your significant other but don't know how to bring it up? In this article I will discuss the way I broached the subject and reinvigorated our sex life.

  • Sex While Fat: How I Learned to Accept my Body and You Can Too

    Being a fat chick can mean having a hard time feeling sexy and confident in the bedroom at times, or all the time, for some. Instead of trying to hide from your weight in hopes your man will ignore the elephant in the room (pun intended) here’s how I learned to get over my body issues and you can too.

  • Valentine's thoughts

    Valentine's Day: Love it or hate it? Read on to see how my opinion has changed over time!

  • I am a Sister Wife

    I am a sister wife, and here is the why and how!

  • Tired of Sex? Try Having It

    More and more married couples are falling into sexless ruts in recent years, but it doesn't have to be that way.

  • Mind Kink: Exploring Consensual Non-Consensual

    Consensual non-consensual (C.N.C.) is sometimes thought of as 'rape-play.' When done correctly and with respect for your partner, C.N.C. can be a very passionate and enjoyable thing. We've all had fantasies of being home alone and suddenly our partner dressed as a burglar comes in and 'burgles' us. The very idea of a trusted partner taking us forcefully and making us enjoy it can be highly erotic. C.N.C is a way to safely explore these fantasies and enjoy them fully.

  • The Trials of a Long Distance Relationship

    Long distance relationships can be insanely difficult. Without constant interaction in person, you can easily come across a variety of issues. However, it can be done. Let me show you how!

  • The Process Of Understanding

    I know that most people look at a new and different relationship style that seems to be functional and wonder how on Earth this began. I will attempt to answer that question as fully as I can.

  • Anti-Depressants and your sex life.

    Being bi-polar took a toll on my sex life, so I got on medication and that took a toll on my sex life. I came to the realization that there is just no winning.

  • Mutual Masturbation is a wicked alternative to going "all the way"

    Looking for something new to do in bed? With a new partner and not ready to do the penetration route just yet? Having trouble figuring out exactly how your lover likes it? A bit of an exhibitionist or voyeur? Mutual masturbation may be new to some people, but it can be one of the hottest, simplest acts for both foreplay or the main attraction.

  • A Beginner's Guide to Online Dating

    I have done my share of blind dates and internet dating over the past 20 years on and off. I am happily taken now and thought I would share some of what I learned. I've tried most of the popular sites and some off the beaten path too with mixed results. There have been disasters, some great successes, and everything in between, but I'd say the good experiences definitely outweighed the bad. You just have to use a little common sense, have tons of patience, and be true to yourself.

  • The Highs and Lows of it

    Most nights when the lights go off, there is that moment where sex is a possibility before drifting off to sleep. My heart races and I can feel the blood rushing to my lady bits in a wonderful wave. As my fingers wander around her skin, hoping to catch something, there's always the thought in the back of my head "Will this happen tonight?"

  • Daddy Issues: What Do You Do When Daddy Leaves You?

    I know plenty of people that have had issues with their father growing up. And, when they grew up to be an adult, a lot of their issues-including their love life were said to be the result of having an absent father. While I do believe a "dead beat" parent can certainly have an effect on your psyche, I do not believe that you cannot shape yourself to be a better you from it.

  • Marriage and Divorce: My Perspective on Commitments

    Recently, I was involved in a heated argument with a friend who misquoted me about divorce. Specifically, he implied that my acceptance of divorce meant that I didn’t know the true value of commitment. So, to clarify my feelings on the topic, I am expressing my opinions on commitment, marriage, and divorce.

  • NGS: "Nice Guy Syndrome"

    Folks, it’s time we all sat down and had a serious talk about “Nice Guy” syndrome.
    Don’t know what I’m talking about? Then you have probably had the good fortune to never come across a man suffering from this specific psychosis. Or maybe you have, and just had no way of describing what was actually going on with the guy until now.

  • A Sexy Guide: Enjoying Oral Sex (More)

    Disclaimer: This is written by a cisgender female, and is biased toward a vulva-bearing reader. It is intended for people uncomfortable with oral sex as opposed to those who don't like the sensation itself. I use the term "partner" throughout this article as a stand-in for person who is giving you head, lover, boyfriend/girlfriend, significant other, hottie from the bar, etc.

  • Control Yourself During Sex

    Many guys suffer from premature ejaculation. Here are a few tips and tricks I've picked up from my personal experiences with my boyfriend.

  • My Story: Recognizing and Preventing Rape

    This a bit heavy for a first article, but as someone who has been a victim, rape is a serious issue that men and women need to stay informed about. I admire the magazine Cosmopolitan for making a monthly article about the issue of campus rape and actually doing something to raise awareness of the problem. In this article you will learn about my experience and ways to be aware and safe.

  • Old-Fashioned Dating Etiquette for Modern Times

    Some say that chivalry is dead, but perhaps its rules have just evolved so that we can use them easily in today's world. Old-fashion dating etiquette can still hold up in modern times, even though our lifestyles and culture have changed.

  • Stuck in the Friend Zone

    The idea of the "friend zone", at least the way many men use it, is one of the most subtly misogynistic relationship concepts we have. Here's why.

  • My Journey to Submissive Bliss

    This is my journey in submission and finding who I really am. Self-discovery can be a long, hard road with many bumps along the way. How do you tell your partner that you desire more in your relationship? Is it hopeless if you are married vanilla?

  • A Gentlemen Always Lets The Lady Cum First.

    Call it common courtesy. Call it being a gentlemen. Call it whatever you like. If you're allowing your lady to cum first, you, my friend, are a prime example of the refined, exquisite gentlemen of sex etiquette. Alas, many men out there refuse their lady this fine privilege. Hell, some don't even know if their partner has cum. This, my readers, can not go on any longer. Not in the year 2013!!! We outlived the Mayans for Christ sakes! Surely this too shall pass. I hope...

  • In Defense of Monogamy: It's Not Selfish

    In modern society, many people think monogamy is outdated, restrictive, and most of all, selfish. But is it really?

  • Our Agreement or How I Learned to Stop Stressing and Enjoy Sex Again

    My fiancé and I have an agreement about sex. Our agreement is that we will not engage in sex of any kind unless I am the one who initiates it. I know, it sounds a little bit strange, doesn’t it? Maybe even a little bit draconian? I thought so too at first, but this agreement has changed not only our sex life, but our relationship as whole for the better. But maybe I should back up a bit and start from the beginning.

  • A Father's Rights Don't Trump A Mother's

    While I do acknowledge that a father has rights, I simply can't view a scenario in which they trump a woman's rights.

  • Should His Opinion Count?

    The choice to have an abortion is one of the many things that empowers us as women. The right to make a choice for our own bodies. However, a child is not created by just a woman. Should the father have a say in the case of an abortion?

  • Losing innocence while gaining perspective.

    I was young, impressionable and I just really didn't wanna be the last virgin in a group of supposed Sex Goddesses (my friends).

  • The Tale of a Lesbian Lolita

    Being a Lolita is tricky enough. Combining an alternate sexuality with that can sometimes make your peers give you some pretty odd looks!

  • Cis People, Read This If You Plan on Dating Someone Who Is Trans* or Queer

    Are you cis and dating or considering dating a person who is trans* or queer and you're not sure how to handle the relationship? Even if you don't feel very sure, being in a relationship with someone who's trans* or queer can be a pretty complicated thing, because they may actively question things you otherwise don't. So read on, even if you're feeling confident that you can handle the relationship, because trust me, even if you think you know it all, you don't!

  • Long Distance Relationships and Sexual Desire

    Many people may experience a long distance relationship but how to deal with sexual desire and lust is a problem that many face.

  • Ho, Ho, Hoe?

    Opening a sex toy you purchased can feel exciting and decadent; opening a sex toy gift can make you feel wanted, wanton, and maybe a little dirty...

  • Online Dating: The Cyber Search For Real World Love

    Learn a little bit about online dating and see if it might be right for you!

  • The First Time [With a Man] (AKA I Was Young and Stupid)

    I always imagined my first time being special. I never expected it to be like this...

  • I Had Sex With My Bestfriend

    I've always been told sex with friends should be avoided at all costs or it will ruin the friendship. That's just not always the case...

  • Anaphrodisiacs

    While you can read a lot about libido-enhancing aphrodisiacs and what to give your significant other to eat if you want an exciting night, there is little talk about natural anaphrodisiacs, foods and herbs that blunt the libido. So, here is everything to know about them.

  • The power in your feet - A guide to giving a fantastic foot job

    Did you know that the most common fetish in the western world is the foot fetish? Odds are good that your significant other likes your feet too. Or maybe you already know he does and you want to knock his socks off with a hot surprise. Or he asked if you would do it. If so, here are some tips for you to make your man moan and groan!

  • The Juvenile Long-Haulers: What Young Love Can Be.

    To many, college is a time of exploration- but how do you fit that into a long-term, completely monogamous relationship? People tend to assume that "young love" is frivolous, romantic fun, but can't it be real? Let this introductory story warm your heart and remind you of the love that you feel for your honey.

  • Letters to myself

    When I was still a teen, I think around 14 or 15, I red a book series where the main character girl would write letters to her older self, to be opened and red ten years later. I liked the idea and decided to follow her suit and started writing for myself. Here I would like to share same excerpts with you that have any relevance to sexuality.

  • SexIs Subjective: Careful Who You Give To! (And Have Fun!)

    Be careful how you gift people with sexy gifts. Overall, though: Do it! Gift your partner with something sexy! You BE that sexy Santa!

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Six)

    Before we get into this, does anyone else see sex toys wherever you go? I think once you're around them long enough, you just naturally start to see dildos and vibrators in every day objects. Going to see a doctor will bring this out ten fold. Everything just eventually looks like a vibrator. Then suddenly the whole thing becomes something pulled from the pages of an erotic novel. Maybe it's just me. Probably. Have I mentioned that I am a little twisted? Anyway...let's move on.

  • The Singletonian’s guide to a happy “Nude Year”

    When the new year hits, some of us will be watching the ball drop in Singleton. For us permanent residents, that's just the right place to be. Here are one Singletonian's resolutions for a happy, healthy, and sexy new year.

  • Making Marriage Work

    Many marriages that end in divorce can be saved by ultimately targeting any issues the union may have and making a strong effort to openly communicate with their partners. Some marriages are irreparable but there are some that require a bit of TLC. So here is some advice on having a better relationship with your spouse and overall benefiting the relationship.

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Five)

    I just realized that I have dragged you all in to a story that has no ending. It's still unwritten. This could have a tragic ending. Or hopefully, God willing, a very happy one. Either way, I'm sorry I lead you to this. I'm sorry you're here for the ride. Just be with me here, that's all I ask. No matter what, please know, I do not want to hurt you. Hopefully it will never come to that.

  • Anal Play

    Are you wanting to try anal but have doubts about you or your partner? If you are read my article and I hope it helps.

  • Sex in Triplicate

    Threesomes can be a controversial subject among couples, despite it being a very common fantasy. It’s not hard to see why bringing another person in could cause some serious friction in a relationship; after all, the point of many modern pairings is avoiding cheating or temptation to cheat on a partner. But is jealousy the only reason that the idea of a threesome can rub a couple the wrong way? Could there be some sort of disparity between what SORT of threesome the partners are looking for?

  • The Science of Love and Heartbreak

    Ever wonder why you fall in love? Why it doesn't last? What you can do about it?

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Four)

    The worst part of our struggle was about to unfold. It would change us forever and leave us wondering if this foolish wish was truly outside our grasp.

  • Simple Fantasies

    Fantasy; where does your mind go? Does it really have to be something unrealistic or improbable in order for it to be defined as a fantasy?

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Three)

    Our battle to become pregnant had a lot of downs and one very special up.

  • Clearing the Hurdles: Our Struggle to Conceive a Child (Part Two)

    We have battled with ourselves, blaming everything from the types of lube we use, the possibility I have a low sperm count, straight down to the positions we use during sex. However in the end, the answer was still not clear. To put it simply, we are caught in the middle of a steeplechase of unknowns. All we can hope for is to clear these hurdles along the way.

  • BDSM 101: Not Everyone Needs To Know

    People that are new to kink often ask "how do I explain my kink to my family and friends?" Whenever I see this question, I wonder why they feel the need to tell people.

  • BDSM 101: How to find your limits

    When you're new to the world of BDSM, you might find it difficult to pick out your limits when there are many types of play you've never been exposed to.

  • Pushing Sexual Boundaries: When the Lines get Blurred

    If there is one thing that has been blurred for me, it would have to be boundaries. When does something stop being itself, and transform into something completely opposite? In my love life, sex has become one of those things.

  • Define This: Monogamish

    Sounds related to monogamous, and it is - but it's not the same thing.

  • Define This: Father complex - what it is, and what it isn't

    Freud and Jung were the first ones to describe the phenomenon, but the views have since changed. Contemporary psychologists do not quite agree on what is and what is not a father complex – some even argue there is no such thing. In this article, I have tried to collect the most important highlights and features of the phenomenon.

  • The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Four" THE END

    A year later and things were looking up. We were engaged, I was saving up money for the honeymoon in Vegas, we were looking at houses and planning on having a child. Things were really picture perfect. Despite a few minor shouting matches, I seriously thought we had this beat. On the other end, I alienated myself from my friends. I spent every waking hour with “Tara." She became my world. She was my everything. It would take a a lot to snap me out of it.

  • The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Three"

    The road I was on was looking bleak. I couldn't turn back, I could not give up on her. No matter what my friends had to say, I would stick by her side. Thick or thin, I had a point to prove. No matter how stupid it seemed to anyone else. I would make this relationship work, even if it killed me.

  • SexIs Subjective: Stockings For The Naughty List, A Lump Of Coal Or...

    You do not want to be on the naughty list at Christmas...or do you? This can be a good time of year for:
    ~Lovely, sensual surprises!
    ~A fun, sexy and practical way to introduce a few toys to your partner!
    ~Starting a new tradition!

  • You, Your Partner, and Your Kink

    To nuzzle is one thing, but what if you need to tell your partner you prefer a bite? Or handcuffs? Will they accept it, or will they run far away?

  • Labels: Good or bad?

    I've recently been in a relationship that has been more than difficult. The constant ups and downs were overly taxing and we decided to end it and be friends. But now we are still "seeing" each other without the label and things are better than ever. So my question is, can the label of a relationship ruin a relationship?

  • The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Two"

    "Tara" had become my project. My goal in life. To show the rest of the world around us that a person could be changed for the better through the power of love. She would see how much I cared and loved her, simply by me not giving up on her. Surely it would work. I just had to stay by her side no matter how many trips to the ER it took.

  • Holiday Connection - Half of Them Come in Camouflage, Anyway

    An interesting swing on how no sex can bring a couple closer together.

  • The Naughty Stocking

    So it's the holiday season, a time of peace, love and joy, right? Or are you more like me, frantically shopping to get everyone on your list done, trying to pacify all the relatives and feeling like your love life goes on the back burner? Here's what I'm doing this year to make sure that doesn't happen.

  • The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend Part One

    For three years I was in a violent relationship. The biggest struggle with it all wasn't the abuse, but rather explaining my situation to family and friends. No one could believe that a 5' 2” 120 pound girl could do that much damage to a 6' 4” 190 pound man. It wasn't until the 3rd visit to the ER that my “awaking” happened. It was then that I realized that even men can be victims of abuse. Mental and physical, and I didn't need to take it anymore!

  • Bipolar: Living upside down

    The world is hard enough to figure out without the instability of bipolar. Up and down, insanity and complete clarity. My mind is constantly betraying me. My emotions- are they real or are they exaggerated? Normal situations become a puzzle, always wondering what's reality and what is strictly emotional. This is my story of finding BALANCE in an otherwise upside down world.

  • Have You Been Naughty?

    Are you dreaming of a naughty Christmas? You are not alone. Thanks to the "50 Shades of Grey" trilogy, 2012 has officially become the year of kink. Moreover, women seem to be the driving force behind this sexual explosion. LELO, a leading designer of personal pleasure objects, recently released their yearlong global survey. With 19,000 women respondents from 8 countries, the results may surprise you, unless you already have your grey silk tie.

  • Daddy's Home!

    Call me daddy. Ooh yeah, that's the way I like it!

  • He's perfect but I'm just not into him.

    When you settle for the paper perfect person

  • Adding toys to your sex life.

    Are you curious about bringing a little bit of spice to the bedroom?

  • How crabs saved my life. Well...sort of.

    The best thing about being young and sexually active is that sooner or later you might just stumble across an STD or two. If you're lucky, you may escape some of the very major ones we all know are out there, so please play it safe. With that said, even if you do get an STD, sometimes, and very rarely now...they can help fix the path you're on.

  • Understanding The Female Orgasm.

    If you've been having trouble reaching the big "O," it may not be your partner's inability to please you. It may be a misunderstanding as to what part of your lady bits needs to be manipulated for an earth-shattering climax.

  • Why Most Men Are Afraid of Sex Toys.

    Even in today’s day and age, most men still shy away from sex toys. They see them as a threat to their manhood, or even worse, a replacement for their god given penis. I'm here to tell all men to shut the funk up! Sex toys are not a dangerous thing that will destroy your relationship with your partner. Sex toys will enhance your love life tenfold. As long as you learn to stop worrying and fall in love with the joy that is a sex toy filled love life.

  • How to influence the taste of your semen

    Ever wondered what it would be like if your partner swallowed your cum? Maybe even tried it? And did you ever wonder what it would be like for your partner to swallow it?

  • The power in his hands - a guide to fingering a girl

    So you decided you wanted to treat your girlfriend better and enhance the experience for her – good decision! Women like to be pampered and appreciated, and they are able to reach several orgasms during one act – so yes, why not?

  • Two Lovers and A Vibrator.

    Have you been wanting to introduce a toy into the bedroom but aren't entirely sure how to do it? If you want to know the benefits of using toys in the bedroom or exactly how to introduce the toy itself...keep reading!

  • Words have power - a guide to talking dirty

    So talking dirty makes your blood boil, but you do not know where to start. Or your partner whispered in your ear to do it. Or simply you’re curious. Then this is the right place for you to start – as words have power and they can spice things up!

  • Brr! How To Stay Warm With Your Lover This Winter When It Is Too Cold To Play Outdoors.

    I absolutely dread the winter time, as well as many others! If you're like me and you are tired of the same 'ol "drink hot chocolate and wait for the blizzard to pass," try one of these saucy things to occupy your time.

  • You Want Me To WHAT?!

    I'm sure many of us remember the introduction of toys and possibly porn into our current relationships. For some of you it may have been a fun adventure, others a continuation of your life as a single person, but for those like myself who were a bit naive, it was...an experience. Luckily, I had a patient husband who did not give up on me and I think we know the end of the story, but let me tell you how we got there.

  • The gender equality in sex

    Merely a hundred years ago, women were suppressed and they weren’t supposed to know about sex or enjoy it much. The world since then has come a long way. The age of sexual freedom changed a lot of things, and feminists today are fighting for our equal treatment. Should they? Should they not? What about male rights?

  • Male Anal Stimulation Is Not Gay: An Inspection of the Stereotype

    Learn why all male anal stimulation isn't gay and why it can be amazing!

  • If At First You Don't Succeed...

    Becoming intimate with anyone is a process. You're two different people with one common goal: sharing closeness.

  • Here's What Not To Do.

    It seems as though sex and rocket science are on the same level of complexity. Yes it is fun, pleasurable, and exciting but without the right knowledge it could also be tricky. To avoid awkward silence and enjoy sex to the fullest, here is what NOT to say and do in the bedroom.

  • Eat. Make Love. Repeat.

    We all know that eating certain foods can put you in the mood for a bit of love-making. But after having done some research, you may be surprised the effect that some of these edibles will have on your sex life.

  • Getting what you really want out of sex.

    I know a lot of couples who have fallen into the boring sex life routine, I was one of them! Finding your way out can be a hard road, but it can be done!

  • Is anal really worth it?

    The answer is Yes.

  • Introducing porn into a relationship!

    Are you trying to get your partner to watch porn but don't know how? Well read my article. I'm here to help you.

  • BDSM 101: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink

    RACK is the counterpart to SSC in the BDSM world. In some ways they are very similar and in other ways they are very different.

  • Mental Abuse is Abuse, too! - My Story

    When people think of "Abuse," they usually think of physical abuse, such as beating. Physical abuse is common and dangerous. Many men, women and children are beaten and injured, and a large amount are losing their lives. These are the cases we hear about. We wonder, "Why won't they leave?" and tell ourselves that we'll never be in that situation. People think that's the only type of abuse. If they aren't hitting me then they aren't abusing me, right? Wrong. Mental abuse is abuse, too.

  • Balancing sex and family...Or how my mother-in-law came to hate me.

    This is the story of the girl who traveled four hours to stay at her boyfriend’s parents’ house after dating him for just around a month and how after two weeks of nonstop sex, succeeded in making the aforementioned parents despise her. So if you’re looking for tips on how to ensure you leave your significant other’s house with more than a little condemnation, you’re in the right place!

  • Getting Down In Public: 5 Locations to Have Sex

    Do you want to experience the thrill of getting caught without actually getting caught? In this article we talk about 5 potentially fun places to have sex in public.

  • The Shaky Bridge Experiment and How It Relates to Your Life

    If you've ever wondered "What did I ever see in him/her?" this might be the answer.

  • Sticks & Stones May Break My Bones, But Words Will Never Hurt Me....Or Will They?

    We all grew up with this schoolyard saying, using it in defense when others would say something that hurt us or called us names. How accurate was that little saying and has it played a part in society's lack of acknowledgement of mental and verbal abuse? As an adult, do you know the signs and the result of mental abuse? Are you an abuser, either intentionally or accidentally?

  • How to start dating again after an epic breakup or really any breakup.

    Have you ever gotten out of a relationship only to find that you feel like you got run over by a truck? Struggled with crying yourself to sleep at night? Tried to go out on dates but only ended up talking about your ex? Then read on...

  • Anxiety and Submission

    How being a submissive Daddy’s little girl has helped me work on my anxiety.

  • Is Purity Hurting Girls?

    What happens to a girl when she isn't "pure" anymore? She's a whore, she's a slut, and guys toss her around like a dirty rag doll.

  • I Am a Woman Who Has No "Window"

    As I get older, I find that more and more women are disinterested in sex. I however, have the opposite issue.

  • Defeating Succorbenoth- The Demon Of Jealousy

    We agonize over it, we hide from it, we even build walls and defenses against it, but the only time we ever defeat this bastard emotion is when we turn and face it. You cannot fight what you refuse to see.

  • Communicating about sex

    Do you think it's good to talk during sex or even about sex? Most people are too embarrassed to talk during sex. It helps you get to know what each other likes better, and can even help you in the long run.

  • Out of Lies, Truth

    Is it possible that out of all the lies I told to pursue an extramarital affair, truth was revealed?

  • Achieving Great Sex: All of Your Relationships in Life Need To Be Re-evaluated.

    We all know that great sex is more than just physical- it is mental and emotional as well. Most of us cannot enjoy sex as much when we are not mentally and emotionally satisfied. Sexual satisfaction can be tied to a lot of aspects within our lives. Read my story and apply it to your own life. Take the steps that I took to achieve the freedom and satisfaction you deserve.

  • Nothing's Cozier Than a Web of Lies.

    The story of how revealing your love to the world made everything perfect forever is popular. What about all the other times though? What about when the truth makes everything worse and perpetuating a web of lies would have made everyone happier?

  • Communication Methods & Steps To Avoid Anger

    After writing an article on communicating your feelings via a game with your spouse, I'm on a roll! I had so much more to add, that I went ahead here to share my own learning experiences, how I've managed to change my ways and how we found a little more peace during conflict.

  • BFF - Pinky Promise

    I may have different types of friends, but they all have something unique about them. Each person, kinky or not, has something to offer. It's up to me to open up and be myself with everyone I love and trust.

  • The Man Who Told Me He Hated Me

    I spent almost two years of my life in a relationship with a man who told me that he hated he hated me often, explicitly detailing what a horrible person I was and how I had ruined him. This is my story, how I got out, and what you can watch out for (for yourself and your friends) to avoid the same thing.

  • Getting the Snip, Part Two: Complications

    Sometimes you do everything right and things still go wrong. In Getting the Snip, Part One, I told the story of how my boyfriend and I made the decision that vasectomy was right for us. This is what happened when he went for his vasectomy appointment.

  • Long distance and D/s relationships

    Long distance and D/s... it's like someone went looking for a complicated style of relationship to be a part of. But with the right emphasis on communication and patience with common issues, they can be a breeze.

  • Long Distance: Keeping Passion Alive

    When you're in a long distance relationship, it might be difficult to keep the passion in the relationship, but it can be done when you are willing to work hard.

  • Nice Guys Finish Last: A Young Man's Perspective

    Here I will take a humorous outlook on this myth, what I've seen it do, and why it sucks.

  • Group Sex For Monogamous Couples: The Devil Is In The Details

    When my wife and I were offered a foursome by a couple of very close friends, it brought up more questions than I ever thought possible

  • Do you want a Daddy?

    A lot of people seem to be kind of "grossed out" by the thought. There's definitely a taboo around calling your partner Daddy. If you're someone who wants a Daddy Dom and little style dynamic, this can make it hard to tell your partner about wanting this. But it doesn't have to be hard.

  • Forget Time Outs And Counting To Ten, Here's How We Fight

    Being with my partner for six years does not make me an expert, by far, but I've learned many useful ways to communicate during a mini upset, an argument and a full-on fight. I've been able to make big changes in the ways I was programmed to communicate my anger and sadness. So I want to share what works for us during the light situations and the heated, angry ones too. Maybe these will be of help to you.

  • Love Is in the Air

    Sometimes love is in the air – literally. Long distance relationships always existed, but with our accelerating world, those distances can stretch out to thousands of miles, and all that connects the lovers is the net or a few telephone calls. Some relationship wilt under such duress, and some live through it to flourish. But what is the secret to that?

  • Knock Knock. Who’s There? Herpes.

    At 21, I was diagnosed with an STD. Though I have happily found someone who accepts me and doesn't judge me for my past, society still says it's OK to make jokes about diseases that are killing people. You wouldn't make a joke about cancer, so why is it OK to joke about syphilis?

  • Peer Pressure: How our friends impact our sex life

    We all may think that we're adults, and therefore no longer affected by peer pressure, but the influences of our friends can impact our sex life in both positive and negative ways.

  • Accepting My Kink

    How can submitting to a spanking possibly build confidence?

  • Sex Feed: Teenage abstinence might be related to happiness

    If you lost your virginity later in life, you may have a better shot at a successful relationship.

  • Daddy Doms: They're Not What You Think

    When you hear the words Daddy Dom, you probably internally (maybe even externally) cringe and think "Ew gross." What you probably don't know is that a Daddy Dom has nothing to do with incest or pedophilia. It has to do with wanting to take care of your partner like a Daddy does.

  • Twincestual Discrimination

    Sure, you hear often of discrimination against people who are not given their rightful marriage privileges, but are those you hear about the most often the only ones denied?

  • Makin' A Baby

    We all know that sex has another purpose other than just being fun. But what happens when you decide to start trying to get pregnant instead of avoiding it?

  • You were jealous!

    My boyfriend thought I was obsessed with a sex site until he saw the benefits that EdenFantasys brought into our bedroom. I had to reel him in with lingerie before I introduced a sex toy. The toy of my dreams became his nightmare. At first, he liked it, but then he decided that I was addicted to it! It was a shock to me that not all men enjoy the idea of having an extra tool in the bedroom.

  • Talking About The First Time

    I think we all remember the first blowjob we ever gave. But do we remember why we gave it?

  • Getting the Snip, Part One

    This series of articles will detail the experience of getting a vasectomy. In this part, I discuss how my boyfriend and I decided that vasectomy was the right form of contraception for us. The next part will cover his experience of the procedure itself, and then I will write about how the procedure is affecting our relationship and our sex life.

  • A BDSM Contract

    You want to get into a 24/7 BDSM relationship, but don't know where to start? A contract is a great place to state what you expect to give and receive, and a great way to keep the lines of communication open.

  • Collars and Pets OH MY!

    I recently spoke with a friend of mine who was having trouble with her "Owner." She's a pet, an actual pet, a Nekko, as it is standard to be called. However, when her Owner started dating a new woman, things around her house changed rather quickly. The relationship that they had has degraded.

  • Fang-tasy: Vampire, Werewolf, and Supernatural Play!

    Are you Team Fangs or Team Claws? Either way, spook-tacular fantasy play has been everywhere from Renaissance Faires, Cons, and now most recently, the bedroom! Here will be some tips to let your claws out during intimate moments.

  • Roleplaying as a Way to Discovery

    Roleplaying is a healthy and exciting way to explore new avenues in your sexuality. Once you get used to being someone different you can have all sorts of fun and explore your desires in a safe environment.

  • The “O” Isn’t Always All

    I’m a huge fan of orgasms. Huge. Hell, I’m a damn groupie. I’ll pursue orgasms like deadheads used to follow the Grateful Dead—and then Phish after Jerry Garcia died. You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who likes the “big O” more than me (though admittedly, you’ll find plenty of people who like them just as much as me).

  • Why I Don’t Care About Gay Marriage (And Why You Shouldn’t Either)

    Gay marriage is a huge political issue now, with states overturning DOMA and the institution of gay marriage in several states in the last few years. Don't get me wrong--that's great. But we queers need to get our priorities straight.

  • Being Who You Are (The Lesbian In You)

    Being a "First timer" is harder that you would think. These are my thoughts and experiences in being who I am.

  • The Invasion of the Body Snatchers

    Close your eyes and imagine this: you are standing in front of the mirror expecting to see this perfect figure, but instead you see this strange figure standing in front of you. This person is the opposite of how you imagined yourself to look. Now if you open your eyes you see yourself. It must be nice to be the person you knew in your mind you were all along. Note that 3% of the world’s population is not that lucky.

  • Sex After Having Kids

    Well if you’re anything like me you start to forget what sex is. I have two kids under 5 and I use these steps to make it easier for me to get to have sex.

  • Love without boundaries

    A guide to dating a trans man

  • Preventable Damage

    In every relationship there are a few must-have qualities that both partners must possess in order for the relationship to thrive. These qualities vary by couple and everyone has their own interpretations of each. Still, one of the few universally necessary qualities is being honest and trustworthy.

  • Benefits and Downfalls of Different Communication Methods

    Communicating with other humans is vital, and the more ways to do so, the better. I feel there are some relationships best kept more intimate than text-only. The truth is, it's so easy to fall into text or social media only lifestyle, but we need real human interaction sometimes, right? That's why I want to share the benefits and my personal preferences for each type of communication.

  • No Love Without the Glove: Forget That!

    I've always been the type of girl to strictly believe that condoms were the best way to go. Birth control has too many side effects and I never wanted to take the risk. But oh was I pleasantly mistaken!

  • The How To Guide to Lesbianism

    To avoid confusion, questionable Google searches, and to manage the minefield of other people's questions.

  • A Stripper’s Guide to Seduction

    Men are visually stimulated and predisposed to longing to spread their seed. This appeal is on a purely instinctual level. Women are sexual creatures who are instinctual exhibitionists who are aroused when a man desires them. Often times, by playing a sexual charged game of cat and mouse, she explores her own lusts and temptations.

    With these tips you can open the door to new experiences during your playtime that both you and your partner are sure to love.

  • Sleeping With Transboys: A brief how-to on sex with transboys

    So you've got this new boyfriend, and he's a transman! Or maybe you've just always wanted to hook up with one? What do you do when it comes to sex without offending him? What's going on in his pants? Check this out before you jump in bed!

  • The Social Lover: Your Guide To Having More Communicative Sex

    Your partner spanked you for the first time the other night and you loved it, but now they ask you how far you want to take things— You struggle with your response.

  • Opening Up (Or Newer Can Definitely Be Better)

    How open-minded are you in the bedroom? One of the Community Choice topics this month deals with how open-minded you are. Being open-minded is a good thing, though not every new thing you try will always be successful. But some of these new things can really add a certain spice to the bedroom.

  • The Raw Truth About Infidelity

    Easily considered the most dangerous and destructive occurrence in a relationship, infidelity provokes a range of thoughts and emotions, few of them good, but how often does it really occur? Can you predict infidelity? And why do we cheat at all?

  • This Box Is Toooo Small

    Starting over at thirty something and forty something with two teen kids, dogs and a lizard.

  • Cum, Jizz, Semen, Whatever

    A plea on behalf of those of us who ejaculate semen to all those who don't: Please don't make us feel as if there's something wrong about the way our bodies orgasm.

  • Three Is Company

    Polysexuality is an alternative to polyamory. Instead of having emotional and romantic feelings for many partners (polyamory), you have just a sexual relationship with more than one partner.

  • SexIs Subjective: On A Sexy Halloween

    Halloween can be a time to embrace that sexy part of you that you keep hidden the rest of the year. It allows you to become some one new and do things that only they would do.

  • The Triumph Of A Human Punching Bag.

    Have you ever watched someone practicing their punching and speed on a small punching bag that is dangling on a chain hanging from the ceiling? The little bag flying back and forth, never veering from its path as it goes back time after time for another punch? Have you ever wondered what would happen if only one time that little punching bag veered off course and actually fought back? Once upon a time I was a little punching bag, and I veered off course and fought back. This is my story...

  • Sex in someone else's house

    In a moment of passion, would you have sex while in your family's house?

  • Depression and its affect on the partner

    Depression does not just decrease sexuality, sometimes it can increase it. I will tell you about my personal experience with hypersexuality and how my partner was affected.

  • Before You Spread the Rumor, Learn the Facts

    October is also Domestic Violence Awareness month, and while domestic violence is a horrible thing, I want to share my story of why you should always know ALL the facts before reporting anything. This isn't the same for every case, but it's something I had to deal with, and I'd like to share my story.

  • Putting It In Drive

    People don't have the same sex drive. Some have extremely high ones, some not so much. A Community Choice topic this month is what do you do when your partner's sex drive doesn't match up with your own. I'm here to talk about a relationship with two different speeds as far as sex drives go.

  • Shut Up and Kiss Me

    I have undeniable sexual chemistry with my boyfriend. We can’t lay next to each other without going at it like bunnies. I never want to lose that, but sometimes I just want to enjoy kissing without worrying about what happens next.

  • Take a Dance With Chance

    Sometimes taking a leap of faith and just allowing things to happen can be a scary thing. Let's face it, the unknown is scary, but we live every day facing the endless possibilities. So why are we so afraid to knowingly take a dance with chance?

  • I will never be you. -Or- I don't understand white people.

    I was recently stuck in a situation with a bunch of members of the normal, which are the most important vote for any presidential candidate: white, upper class, Christian males. As I sat surrounded by these people with my mohawk and hole-filled jeans, I couldn't get over the fact I hated them, I hated every word that spilled from their mouths. Let me share my story about my time at a bachelor party, for my metamour.

  • First Time Tips

    While many feel society falsely portrays ‘the first time’ as magical and are consequently disappointed, I was led to believe the opposite and was happily surprised. I am here to tell you that giving away your virginity can be a positive experience if it is with the right person and if you prepare properly.

  • Sex Toys: How Do You Introduce Them to a Partner?

    It can be difficult to introduce toys into a new relationship. What if your partner isn’t open to the idea? What if it freaks them out? Will you have to choose between them and toys?

  • Dealing With A Non-Affectionate Partner

    As a very physically affectionate person, being in a relationship with someone who isn't was a new thing for me! Here's some tips on how I dealt with it.

  • Do Men Fake It Too?

    When I think of faking orgasms I think of Meg Ryan in "When Harry Met Sally," not a man faking it.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: Why Men Are Drawn to Strip Clubs

    After work, Joe and his friends decided to hit a local Gentlemen’s Club for a beer before heading home. Joe and Ernie call their wives to say they will be late. They don’t dare reveal the truth, with a white lie they hang up and its high fives all around.

  • How to court a poly person

    Pursuing a poly person is different from pursuing a single monogamous individual. There are more people involved than just the two of you that are going to impact whether you are successful or not. Here are some pointers about how to approach things.

  • My Dear Kira

    Back when I was in high school I got to a point where I said, "Screw boys, I'm batting for the other team!" That's when I met Kira, an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old girl who was into girls. Kira was the girl that got me to see other girls in a whole different way.

  • Advice you should NOT take from your mother!

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  • Huge Mood Killers

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  • Do YOU think it's better?

    Love is an amazing thing. For such a short word, it packs an incredible meaning which differs from person to person. I don't believe two people in the whole world define the word in the same way. It produces the most amazing highs and the most rock bottom lows. Love is a verb. Love is a battlefield. Love is patient. Love is blind. What is love? And is it truly better to to have loved and lost, or to never experience it at all?

  • Learning To Love Me

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  • Getting Comfortable With My Sexuality

    Finding out that you’re gay, bisexual or lesbian isn’t always easy. Finding your way to yourself takes a lot of going out the box and your comfort zone. I have been through it. Here's my story.

  • You know your boyfriend's been watching porn when...

    Kicking the cliche out of blowjobs

  • Stepping Out Of Our Boxes To Live a Life Without Regret

    After a very rocky childhood with a mother that told me I was not pretty and that I wrecked her life, one controlling marriage, two marriages total, two kids, jobs, and oh wait, did I mention I almost died? A diagnosis that stopped it all, a life changing job, and one murder.

  • It's Not Easy Being Green

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