Why is Sex an Integral Part of Married Life?

Sex is an act of making love to your partner, it an expression of affection, and a medium to build deep physical intimacy with your partner, and it is also a way to reproduce.

Sex toys aren't a replacement for real sex!

When it comes to first getting into using sex toys, sometimes there's a few concerns that may come into people's minds. You may worry that it will lower your desire to have real sex, your partner may worry it means they are inadequate. I thought I'd try to help clear some things up.

I love penis, but I don’t like guys?

I’m going to tell you about one of many encounters that I’ve had with the only guy that I’ve ever messed around with. How there was forepay but it wasn’t kissing or anything like that. How the anticipation built from the beginning until the end; from before his dick came out of his pants until he pulled it out of me. How turned on I was looking at it, touching it, putting him in my mouth and then inside me.

Toxic Lube

A personal lubricant is just that... personal. But with all the options out there, it's important to make an informed decision and know what is safe for you and your partner.

Pole Dancing: Not just for the club anymore!

"Pole-dancing" is a phrase that used to incite images of scantily-clad strippers swinging around a pole with wads of cash sticking out of their underwear. Maybe for some people it still does, but pole-dancing has been growing in popularity among women seeking to get in shape, be sexy, and pick up a cool new skill all at once.

My Experience With the IUD and How it Improved My Life

If you've ever experienced heavy flows, severe menstrual cramps or forgotten to take your pill, the IUD might just be the answer to your contraception needs!

Our Lives Are Who We Are

I never noticed how events that have happened in my life influenced my life in bed.

Keeping those distracting thoughts out of the bedroom.

We've all got stuff. Sometimes it gets in the way of supersexyfuntimes. Come with me and explore one, very effective for at least one couple, way of dealing with distractions.

Teens and Sex

We all know how hard it is raising teens. This stage is where communication is so very difficult, yet so essential. Sex is certainly going to be a struggle during their teenage years, but this is the time when you are needed the most.

Seeking Help as a Survivor of Sexual Violence

Rape, abuse, and sexual assault are crimes that overwhelmingly target women, so I will be speaking primarily about women who have survived these things, and from my own experiences as a woman who has been assaulted. Through this series of articles, I hope to provide survivors and their supporters with resources, wisdom, and understanding, using myself as an example.

The Monosexual’s Guide to Dating Someone Flexible

There are many of us who identify as queer, bisexual, pansexual, or other identities that are flexible in the sex and gender of our partners. This is often difficult to understand for people who are not flexible, whether they are gay or straight. This is a guide for monosexual (cliff notes version: someone who is either straight or gay) partners of sexually flexible people to be a better partner to those of us with these unique identities.

Thinking about Taboos

Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.

Turn Your Thinking Off: Running a Thought-mile During Sexual Activities

What am I going to cook for dinner? Did I leave the stove on? Why did Harold say that thing about my wife? Will they ever cum?

We all know that during sexual play time, there are those days (far many than few) where we cannot turn our minds to completing the fun at hand, to enjoy our sexual experiences fully. Is it possible to turn your thinking off? Can you quiet your mind? Is it even a realistic thought?

Stimulating the Prostate to Orgasm (III): Dildos and Thrusting

This series of articles discusses how to stimulate the prostate so as to achieve prostate orgasms. In this, the final article in the series, I talk about the use of dildos and other "thrusting" toys.

Are Depression and Bipolar Disorder Ruining your Sex Life?

Depression and Bipolar disorder are not the same, but both can do serious damage to your love life. As a sufferer from depression, I intend to help explain the differences between these two common disorders, explain what they are and how they work, how they can be messing up your bedroom routine, and how to get back on top.

"Sex Addiction" is a Real Thing

You may jokingly say “Yea, I’m addicted to her, the sex is just so great!” but for some people it is a real problem. It’s called “Hypersexual Disorder” and it is tearing apart people’s lives as you read this.

Bartholin Gland cyst or abscess, i.e. The Newlyweds or Honeymoon Disease

We’ve all read many articles on our more erotic pleasurable spots, those many spots down there in our nether region that pleasure us so well, but what about the one that can get infected and cause pain? I’m talking about the Bartholin Gland, which is located on the outside folds of the labia. These glands lay mostly in discreet places and out of harm's way during our lifetimes but occasionally they can become irritated, even inflamed, and if not treated, infected.

BDSM 101--Orgasm Denial

Today we are going to discuss orgasm denial. What is it? How do you do it? Why do people like it?

Vibrator Envy

Today’s article focuses on a problem that many men face with the introduction of a toy, and that is envy and feelings of inadequacy in the face of a vibrator. We will discuss how to overcome this and why you will never be replaced by a vibrator.

Myth Busters: "Females will always know when they are having an orgasm"

In movies and magazines and on tv and websites, I've heard this idea of orgasms being the most obvious thing in the world. Sometimes they are so mind blowing that they are impossible to miss: my body seizes, pleasure surges through me blinding and deafening. Afterwards, I am so high off of oxytocin and endorphins that I am giddy and giggle, slightly drowsy. Then it is the most obvious thing in the world, but not all orgasms are alike, not for me and certainly not from one person to another.

How Orgasm Focus Almost Ruined A Relationship

Today’s article focuses on how sex focused around an orgasm can put a lot of stress on both parties, and even lead to break ups in some cases. We will discuss what the goal of sex really should be.

The Virginity Paradox

The term "virgin" is thrown around with a lot of confusion and legalism. What, technically speaking, constitutes a virgin? Does it matter?

Date Night Ideas Part 2

One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

From Prude To Lewd

Our adventure from sexual repression to complete openness.

Bipolar and Sex

I am diagnosed Bipolar II and my medication, like most antipsychotics, has caused me to lose my sex drive. This article is about my experience and how I handle the lack of desire with my live in boyfriend.

Courage in Kansas

Wichita has been without abortion services since the horrible murder of Dr. Tiller. But now, nearly four years later, Julie Burkhart and others step forward to fight the protesters to reopen the doors of the clinic and once again provide the constitutionally protected service.

BDSM 101: Erotic Asphyxiation

Today’s guide is going to discuss erotic asphyxiation, what it is, and the major safety concerns it has.

How Dangerous Is It To Be Messy?

I’ve seen some concern about the safety of various related activities: anal to oral, anal to vaginal, drinking urine, and urinating in the vagina. These sorts of activities are exciting and pleasurable for a minority of people. But I think most people’s natural repulsion lead them to over-state the dangers.

Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 4

Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 3

Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong

Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 2

Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

He can beat me, but I'm not a masochist.

Roles, we are all assigned them. Even when we are playing with kink and fantasy, it still seems that we end up in roles that are assigned to us. I love my kink, and I love my dynamic. I let my Dom beat me until I am black and blue. I am not a masochist.

Sexual Myths: Debunking Them

Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

Urinary Tract Infections

Today I want to talk about urinary tract infections, because they can arise after you have had sex. I want to discuss treating them and preventing them.

Something I Wish I’d Known: A Woman’s First Penetrative Sex Shouldn’t Be Painful

I’m annoyed that I didn’t know about this before I had sex for the first time. I had no reason to be afraid.

Letting Your Guy Go Down On You

Oftentimes I have heard women talk about how they are very self-conscious when it comes to oral sex. Today I want to reassure a lot of people that men like giving cunnilingus and help you let your man go down on you.

First Time Tips

Sex can be a wonderful experience that allows us to bond, explore, ignite and surrender to a person in ways nothing else can. It can also be the cause of heartache, regret, disappointment and life altering choices that leave us questioning why we did it in the first place.

My Changing Image

I have been looking into trying to change my inner views about what a body should look like. I want to be more positive and inclusive rather than sticking to the narrow guidelines that the media touts.

Maintaining a Healthy Body Weight

Today I want to look at how you maintain a healthy body weight. We will look at the psychology behind it and discuss fad diets.

Masturbation doesn't have to be alone

For me, I find masturbating with someone else, whether it be in-person or in the virtual world, to be a much more fulfilling experience than being solo. There is a thrill and shared intimacy in sharing the build-up and climax of an orgasm with another person.

Making Friends With the Ladies Downstairs

I've lived my life perpetually jealous of women who have an easy going relationship with their clit or g-spot. I always felt like I was in some kind of cold war with my body. I have decided to try to accept what my body likes instead of trying to trick it into liking what others do.

Whose responsibility is sexual education?

The state and church have (sometimes competing) interests in educating children about sex. Ultimately, however, the responsibility of sexual education falls on the parents.

Making A Meal Of It

How safe, or otherwise, is the average man's ejaculate?

Enjoying The Joy Of Sex

One of the most influential books ever published celebrated its fortieth birthday last year - and its sequel hits the same age in 2013. A personal celebration of Alex Comfort's "The Joy of Sex."

Sexual Education: Who is the teacher?

Saying who is responsible for educating the youth about sex is not as simple as it seems. There isn't one right or wrong answer, but I feel the best course of action is a united front between the home and school.

Define This: The Frenulum Delta

Finding the sweet spot that is a penis' neatest secret.

Blowjobs Aren't Sex, and I'm a Monkey's Auntie

A fact of life or a cheater's charter? Some thoughts on an argument that I just don't understand.

Don't Just Lie Back And Hope You'll Enjoy It

You want your man to learn how to eat pussy? First, you should learn how to be eaten.

It's Only Premature If He Cums Before You Get There

Taking the sting out of premature ejaculation

Road Head!

A lighthearted guide to how not to do something you should never contemplate doing.

Boy, Girl, or Both?...Part 2

In my last article, the topic of intersexuality was broached with a brief description of the term and its various conditions. In this article, I will explore the issues intersexuals are facing today, along with the strides they have made in the past century. I will be exploring one man’s experiences growing up as intersexual, along with our medical, cultural, and religious views on the topic. Read on for more.

Healing Depression Through Sex

Depression is a widespread mental illness that is often treated with chemical supplements such as antidepressants. What if medications don't work? What are you supposed to do when the depression just won't go away? Let me tell you how I found healing through love and sex.

Define This: Oral Compulsion

Oral Compulsion is defined as the habitual insertion of foreign objects into the mouth for reasons other than feeding. Thumbs, toys, fingernails...and yes, other things as well. But let's look at the wider picture first, and if you ever bit the head off your Ken doll, then you'll probably know what I mean.

Is Sex Addiction Real?

Most definitely yes! I was reminded of this subject over the weekend, while hearing a judgmental indictment of Tiger Woods' infidelity and divorce.

Who's responsible for sex education for kids?

Where should the burden fall? The schools? The parents? The Church? The internet?

So You Want to Make a Baby? A Guide to Conceiving

How hard can it be? Have lots of unprotected sex and it's bound to happen, right? Not always!

Boy, Girl, or Both?

You're sitting in your ob-gyn's office holding your partner's hand. Your womb is full with your unborn child, and you're happy to finally get to see your baby on a monitor. It's your ultrasound, your doctor smiles and begins rubbing that cold sticky gel onto your stomach. Then they of course ask, "Are you hoping for a boy or a girl?" Like any good parent you reply, "So long as it's healthy." But is this really the truth? 1 in 1,500 people is born intersexual.

Contraception Part 3 --Barriers, Permanent, and Fertility Awareness

Today's article focuses on three other types of contraceptive methods. We will discuss their efficacy, any special features, and their side effects.

Contraception Part 2 -- Hormonal Birth Control

Today's article focuses on contraception using hormonal means. We will talk about the types, how you use them, and the side effects they have.

The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part Two: The Hook-up

We left our lovers on the dance floor, on the verge of their very first kiss. You’ve decided to go through with it... actually, you decided before the first dance even started, but now it’s time to let him know. Read on!

Contraception Part 1 -- An introduction

Contraception (preventing pregnancy) can be very confusing as many forms exist out there. This three part series will focus on how they work, their effectiveness, and the side effects they come with.

Unexpected Stalkers

Stalkers, is a dangerous and frightening word. Instantly one pictures a man or woman in their mid-twenties to thirties, standing outside in the bushes late at night. In this picture the stalker is usually unkempt in appearance, with baggy clothes, and unwashed hair. They have some secret creepy shrine of their victims and a dangerous obsession. The frightening truth is that almost anyone you meet can become your stalker. At twenty-four, I learned this the hard way.

Erectile Dysfunction... Sweet!

ED has a lot of possible causes, and you can spend a fortune on drugs and doctors trying to figure out what they are. Or, you could just stop using artificial sugar substitutes. There’s a libido-killer in your larder, and you need to get it out.

Tracking Your Ovulation for Fertility

The act of trying to get pregnant can become stressful if it is not happening within the time frame that you want it to happen. This article is going to focus on how you can track when you ovulate and use that to help you become pregnant.

Sex and Babies: Can the two co-exist?

Oh. My. God. Right there, that's the spot, keep going, keep going...oh god, I'm going to - OLD MACDONALD HAD A FARM, E-I-E-I-O

12 Things That Increase Fertility

Since writing about my miscarriage, some of you have asked if I knew how to increase the chances of fertility. Soon after that, I began writing a few of the things that I had stored in my mind. Now, I've finally found the time to sit down and share those thoughts.

Oral Sex and Swallowing: How good is it?

Many girls love to blow their boyfriends or partners before intercourse, or just for the sake of the activity. But sometimes guys cum during oral, and the question is: should the girl swallow or not?

Define This: Bugchasing and the Quest to Acquire HIV

Bugchasing: the quest to acquire HIV (human immunodeficiency virus). That's right, it's a thing! Are you asking, "But why would someone ever want to get HIV?" Read on and find out...

Sexuality and Christianity: My journey to finding peace and reconciliation.

This article is an account of my experience with my journey through sexuality and the church.

Menstruation: “Red Days” - A Jewish Perspective

Although, it is a natural process of the body, the topic of a woman’s period is often off limits. In this day and age, with sex education in school, sexuality in virtually all television programs, all the progress in women’s rights, why are women still plagued by the old age stigma of being “unclean” or “dirty” during their ?time of the month'?

Tired of Sex? Try Having It

More and more married couples are falling into sexless ruts in recent years, but it doesn't have to be that way.

Could you have HIV/AIDS?

Symptoms of HIV can take up to 12 years to appear, allowing some people to have it without being aware. Understanding the virus, modes of transmission, and precautions can help us prevent the spread of HIV/AIDS as well as know what to do in case of exposure.

How to prepare yourself before anal sex or anal play

Many girls want to try anal sex but are afraid that "something" might happen that will embarrass them. Here are some things, that you can do before anal sex, to help you feel more prepared.

Anti-Depressants and your sex life.

Being bi-polar took a toll on my sex life, so I got on medication and that took a toll on my sex life. I came to the realization that there is just no winning.

Mutual Masturbation is a wicked alternative to going "all the way"

Looking for something new to do in bed? With a new partner and not ready to do the penetration route just yet? Having trouble figuring out exactly how your lover likes it? A bit of an exhibitionist or voyeur? Mutual masturbation may be new to some people, but it can be one of the hottest, simplest acts for both foreplay or the main attraction.

Kegel Workouts and Importance (for males!)

Kegels aren't just for ladies! Did you know that working out your kegel muscles can lead to improved urinary continence, better prostate health and even multiple orgasms? It's time to learn your facts and start your workout!

Visually Enhanced Psychosexual Therapy (VEST)

Everyone knows about sexual dysfunction, and those who have experienced it may have tried a score of medical “solutions” with less than fruitful results. For those who have found other “non-medicinal” interventions that have worked, perhaps this article may not be news for you so much as proof that getting reacquainted with your own body, and that of your loved one, can do more for you than any medicine can.

Becoming More Proactive In Healthcare

Birth control is a personal choice, but how can we, as women, make the right choices for ourselves when vital information is kept far out of our reach and, when most of the time, we don't even know to go looking for it until something goes wrong? Thanks to the internet and some digging, we can learn to be more proactive in our own healthcare choices.

Getting the Snip, Part Three: Another Option

After deciding as a couple to get a vasectomy (part 1) and discovering that complications would prevent this from happening quickly (part 2), we had to look again at our birth control options.

The Highs and Lows of it

Most nights when the lights go off, there is that moment where sex is a possibility before drifting off to sleep. My heart races and I can feel the blood rushing to my lady bits in a wonderful wave. As my fingers wander around her skin, hoping to catch something, there's always the thought in the back of my head "Will this happen tonight?"

A Sexy Guide: Enjoying Oral Sex (More)

Disclaimer: This is written by a cisgender female, and is biased toward a vulva-bearing reader. It is intended for people uncomfortable with oral sex as opposed to those who don't like the sensation itself. I use the term "partner" throughout this article as a stand-in for person who is giving you head, lover, boyfriend/girlfriend, significant other, hottie from the bar, etc.

S-T-I Can't Believe This Is Happening To Me!

How can a piece of latex change your life? In more ways than I had considered. It took catching something to make me realize that the few seconds it takes to wrap it can make all the difference in the world.

Healing through Masturbation

Life is full of ironies. This is how to have better sex with others by having sex with yourself.

Why Are Some Forms of Attraction Deemed "Sexualities," while Others Are Philias?

Pedophilia, necrophilia, zoophilia. What do all of these words have in common, and why do they often evoke a reaction of "ugh?" As someone whose biggest fetish is pregnancy and who fits much of the criteria of maiesiophilia, the terms "philia" and "paraphilia" interest me. Why are some forms of attraction deemed "sexualities" (such as homosexuality, demisexuality, pomosexuality), while others are philias?

In Praise of the PAP Smear

There are few other things most women hate having to do. Despite its necessity, the PAP smear is a procedure only half of women in the United States schedule annually during the peak ages of HPV exposure. Yet, it’s the only definitive test for cervical cancers.

The Clitoris: The Tip of an Iceberg

Did you know that the size of the clitoris is comparable to that of an average penis? The large majority of the clitoral network is internal, we only get to see the very tip on the outside. There's so much more than the little man in the boat!

Little-Known Side Effects of Birth Control

Hormonal birth control like the Pill, the patch, a shot like Depo-Provera and Nuva-Ring all provide your body with the kinds of and similar levels of hormones produced in the early stages of pregnancy in order to control fertility. Yet, certain side effects are not revealed because they were determined to be "irrelevant" to your experience of the drug.

Master Debater: Why People Shouldn't Masturbate

Aristotle said "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." Intrigued by that challenge, I’ve decided to write an article to defend some ideas that I normally disagree with. What better place to start than with an idea so antithetical to my nature that voicing support for it would cause me to be engulfed in flames of hypocrisy. That’s right, we’re going to discuss why people shouldn’t masturbate.

Our Agreement or How I Learned to Stop Stressing and Enjoy Sex Again

My fiancé and I have an agreement about sex. Our agreement is that we will not engage in sex of any kind unless I am the one who initiates it. I know, it sounds a little bit strange, doesn’t it? Maybe even a little bit draconian? I thought so too at first, but this agreement has changed not only our sex life, but our relationship as whole for the better. But maybe I should back up a bit and start from the beginning.

MrWilly's Guide To Anal Adventures

Not sure how to proceed with anal? Read on, and get my tips for a more awe inspiring anal adventure!

New Year, Same Me

Almost every year, I decide not to make a New Year's resolution. This is mostly because of cynicism, and watching other peoples' resolutions- mainly my mother's goal every year to lose weight- fail over and over again. This year is slightly different though, because I actually want a change, and am going to bring it about.

Masturbation: It is Perfectly Fine!

Flicking your bean, flogging the dolphin, jerking the gherkin...Whatever you call it, it is perfectly safe. It's also healthy!

Losing innocence while gaining perspective.

I was young, impressionable and I just really didn't wanna be the last virgin in a group of supposed Sex Goddesses (my friends).

Losing Your Libido At 35

I hear people complaining about becoming 40 all the time. Hell, they made a movie about it for God's sake. I'm not 40 yet, but I still feel the strain of my libido slipping away. I feel the urge for sex slowly fading. My energy is not there. I'm here to tell you turning 35 kind of sucks! However, it doesn't have to.

Anaphrodisiacs

While you can read a lot about libido-enhancing aphrodisiacs and what to give your significant other to eat if you want an exciting night, there is little talk about natural anaphrodisiacs, foods and herbs that blunt the libido. So, here is everything to know about them.

Sex Myths in Our Schools

Educating our children about sex is one of the most important lessons we can teach them in life. High school is a breeding ground for misinformation and peer pressure. Get to your kids first before their peers do.

The power in your feet - A guide to giving a fantastic foot job

Did you know that the most common fetish in the western world is the foot fetish? Odds are good that your significant other likes your feet too. Or maybe you already know he does and you want to knock his socks off with a hot surprise. Or he asked if you would do it. If so, here are some tips for you to make your man moan and groan!

The Hardships of Coming Out as Non-Vanilla

Most people seem to associate coming out as an exclusively gay thing. Yet experience has shown me that there are several other aspects of our sexuality that most people keep to themselves, even when being open about almost everything else, not because what we do is a bad thing, but actually because we face countless hostilities whenever people find out. I’m talking about letting people know that we’re not vanilla, in or out of the bedroom.

Contraceptive Series Part 7: Ortho Evra, the Birth Control Patch

This is the seventh installment of my contraceptive series, in which I will provide accessible information about Ortho Evra, the only available transdermal contraceptive in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of Ortho Evra— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Letters to myself

When I was still a teen, I think around 14 or 15, I red a book series where the main character girl would write letters to her older self, to be opened and red ten years later. I liked the idea and decided to follow her suit and started writing for myself. Here I would like to share same excerpts with you that have any relevance to sexuality.

Feminish: Sex Pozzies

Think feminists don't like sex? Think again. One feminist's discovery of sex positivism.

Porn Desensitization

While porn is a fun and exciting experience in aiding sexual intercourse or masturbation, there are some harmful elements to watching an excess of it. In essence, our brain's reward center is the culprit. Unfortunately, many people suffer from porn addiction. Recognizing what causes porn addiction is the second step in recovery. The first is realizing there is a problem.

How To: Be a Camgirl

For those who have contemplated webcamming for money, here is a quick and easy guide to get you started. Webcamming can have some major financial benefits, but like any job, it requires hard work.

Contraceptive Series Part 6: NuvaRing, the Vaginal Ring

This is the sixth installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about NuvaRing, the only vaginal ring available in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of NuvaRing— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Can't Stand to Attention?

Having trouble getting your friend up? No worries! Many men may experience this problem once in a while and I'll give you some tips on how to get your friend standing up at attention!

No, You Can't Treat Breast Cancer by Squeezing Your Breasts

The headlines were unbelievable. Simply squeezing the breasts could treat cancer, or prevent it, depending on where you got your source. Hey, it's science! Men (and some women) had fantasies of going to work in the new field of therapeutic breast massage. But while the story is based in truth, you have to go to the source to find it.

The Prostate and You

The prostate is a big deal. Learn more about it!

Bipolar: Living upside down

The world is hard enough to figure out without the instability of bipolar. Up and down, insanity and complete clarity. My mind is constantly betraying me. My emotions- are they real or are they exaggerated? Normal situations become a puzzle, always wondering what's reality and what is strictly emotional. This is my story of finding BALANCE in an otherwise upside down world.

Have You Been Naughty?

Are you dreaming of a naughty Christmas? You are not alone. Thanks to the "50 Shades of Grey" trilogy, 2012 has officially become the year of kink. Moreover, women seem to be the driving force behind this sexual explosion. LELO, a leading designer of personal pleasure objects, recently released their yearlong global survey. With 19,000 women respondents from 8 countries, the results may surprise you, unless you already have your grey silk tie.

Giving and receiving oral!

Are you a little iffy about trying oral or even giving it? Well read my article and I will try to help you the best I can.

Kinky University - College Campus BDSM Clubs

With "50 Shades of Grey," the once hidden world of kink, fetish, and BDSM has stepped out of the dark shadows of society and is now front and center in the limelight. Not only in book stores, but also on many university campuses across America, the world of BDSM is coming out of the closet and its practitioners are finding acceptance.

How crabs saved my life. Well...sort of.

The best thing about being young and sexually active is that sooner or later you might just stumble across an STD or two. If you're lucky, you may escape some of the very major ones we all know are out there, so please play it safe. With that said, even if you do get an STD, sometimes, and very rarely now...they can help fix the path you're on.

Contraceptive Series Part 4: Implanon, the Hormonal Implant

This is the third installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about Implanon, the only hormonal implant option available in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of Implanon— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Understanding The Female Orgasm.

If you've been having trouble reaching the big "O," it may not be your partner's inability to please you. It may be a misunderstanding as to what part of your lady bits needs to be manipulated for an earth-shattering climax.

The nail that sticks out

The absolute extreme - being average. That's right - the most extreme thing is being average. I do not mean belonging to the mass of people who are similar in a way. No, I mean being halfway between groups of people.

It's hard out there for a sex toy lover, especially if you're straight.

Why on God's green earth is it hard for people to grasp that straight men can love sex toys too? Or why do they think you must be gay?

To Circumcise or Not to Circumcise?

My wife and I have just had our first child. With his arrival, the biggest question besides "is he ok?" was, "are you getting him circumcised?" Yes, but was it medical relevance or just our preference behind the choice?

How to influence the taste of your semen

Ever wondered what it would be like if your partner swallowed your cum? Maybe even tried it? And did you ever wonder what it would be like for your partner to swallow it?

The power in his hands - a guide to fingering a girl

So you decided you wanted to treat your girlfriend better and enhance the experience for her – good decision! Women like to be pampered and appreciated, and they are able to reach several orgasms during one act – so yes, why not?

Letter from the Editor - World AIDS Day 2012

I never know what to say when it comes to World AIDS Day. You'd think a topic so broad as HIV/AIDS awareness would give a writer idea-overload, but it always leaves me speechless. So I default to "Use protection. Get yourself tested. Tell someone."

Define This: Cocktail

Regarding AIDS and HIV: World aids day is December 1st

Understanding Premature Ejaculation

Learn a little about premature ejaculation as well as some possible ways to remedy the situation!

Contraceptive Series Part 3: Mirena, The Hormonal IUD

This is the third installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about Mirena, the hormonal IUD option. This article will provide information about the basics of Mirena— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Define This: Dyspareunia (Painful Sex)

Do you ever experience pain during sexual penetration? Have you ever thought about why you feel that pain? Well there is a name for painful intercourse. It's called Dyspareunia.

You Want Me To WHAT?!

I'm sure many of us remember the introduction of toys and possibly porn into our current relationships. For some of you it may have been a fun adventure, others a continuation of your life as a single person, but for those like myself who were a bit naive, it was...an experience. Luckily, I had a patient husband who did not give up on me and I think we know the end of the story, but let me tell you how we got there.

Natural Pregnancy Prevention Methods

Most of us are familiar with the standard, everyday birth control methods such as the pill, Depo Provera injection, condoms, IUDs and more. However, did you ever find yourself wondering what people used before these methods were widely available, or what the people who have religious or other reasons not to use the doctor-administrated methods use? If so, you may find these natural birth control methods pretty interesting.

Here's What Not To Do.

It seems as though sex and rocket science are on the same level of complexity. Yes it is fun, pleasurable, and exciting but without the right knowledge it could also be tricky. To avoid awkward silence and enjoy sex to the fullest, here is what NOT to say and do in the bedroom.

Eat. Make Love. Repeat.

We all know that eating certain foods can put you in the mood for a bit of love-making. But after having done some research, you may be surprised the effect that some of these edibles will have on your sex life.

The Extra Pleasure Spot: Cervical Orgasms

While some of us are busy still trying to achieve orgasm during penetration, there are the few, blessed rest of us who have found a whole ‘nother type – the cervical orgasm, also known as the X-orgasm. In this article, I want to share with you the X-orgasm, what it is, how it happens, and even better, my own experience.

How I Deal With Holiday Stress

My family get-togethers are few and far between. I don't look forward to them. My blood pressure goes up just thinking about it. Fist fights, arguments, down right mean behavior and that is all before we even eat!

Sex - the absolute and relative availability of information

Today we live in the age of sexual freedom as well as the age of information and the internet. Anything you might want to learn or know about is pretty much a click away. But is it, really?

The power in your hands - part II

So you already know the basics of a handjob, and maybe even have a few techniques you can vary, but you're looking for more options? Read on to learn how to make your guy smoking hot for you.

Introducing porn into a relationship!

Are you trying to get your partner to watch porn but don't know how? Well read my article. I'm here to help you.

Five Reasons I Do My Kegels, and Why You Should, Too!

You've been hearing about Kegel exercises for years, but if you've never actually done them, now's the time.

Breast Cancer: It's not *just* about the breasts!

Breast cancer awareness is all well and good, but in order to do the most for awareness, the focus needs to be more on the women affected by it, and not just the isolated body parts associated with it.

Contraception Series Part 2: Paragard, the Non-Hormonal IUD

For those of you who read the first installment of my contraceptive series, this is the second installment, in which I will provide accessible written information about Paragard. Paragard is my favorite contraceptive to talk about because, well, I use it! This article will provide information about the basics of Paragard— everything you need to know when making your decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

SexIs Subjective: Sexual freedom starts with us

Although society puts pressure on us to confirm to the "norm" sexually, we can not expect change until we are willing to set aside our own inhibitions and embrace all safe, sane, and consensual sex. Only then can true sexual freedom be achieved.

Is Purity Hurting Girls?

What happens to a girl when she isn't "pure" anymore? She's a whore, she's a slut, and guys toss her around like a dirty rag doll.

I Am a Woman Who Has No "Window"

As I get older, I find that more and more women are disinterested in sex. I however, have the opposite issue.

The Male Birth Control Pill: Fantasy Becoming Reality

Research of a cancer drug has led to the discovery of a male birth control pill, which is gearing up to be tested in humans.

Why AIDS is Still a Big Deal

I've heard a lot of people say, "AIDS just isn't a big deal anymore." Thinking on this, and the approximate 34 million people who are living with it worldwide (and that's just the people who KNOW they have it), I want to know why anyone would say it's not a big deal anymore. It is to the people who have it, and it will be a big deal for those who don't know when they find out. And it would be a big deal for those who don't have the money or insurance to cover the expensive costs of AZT.

Why So Squeamish About Sex Ed?

We have the freedom in America to choose how we educate our children, but many schools and parents avoid educating children about sex. Of course, we have to teach kids about sex in an age appropriate fashion, but why are we so squeamish about sex? Why ignore the fact that schools are saying "abstinence only" and getting away with it? We're choosing to stay in the dark in a nation where we have the freedom to learn, and quite frankly, it's unacceptable.

Out of Lies, Truth

Is it possible that out of all the lies I told to pursue an extramarital affair, truth was revealed?

Achieving Great Sex: All of Your Relationships in Life Need To Be Re-evaluated.

We all know that great sex is more than just physical- it is mental and emotional as well. Most of us cannot enjoy sex as much when we are not mentally and emotionally satisfied. Sexual satisfaction can be tied to a lot of aspects within our lives. Read my story and apply it to your own life. Take the steps that I took to achieve the freedom and satisfaction you deserve.

Someone Stole My Vibrator And It Wasn't The Dog

Teenagers are horrible. I have two that I'd like to exchange, but they are extremely expensive and in this economy, I haven't had any takers - especially for the badly behaved ones. I know that teens go through a roller coaster of emotions, but I want mine to be able to come and talk to me about their sexuality, not just take money from my purse.

Getting the Snip, Part Two: Complications

Sometimes you do everything right and things still go wrong. In Getting the Snip, Part One, I told the story of how my boyfriend and I made the decision that vasectomy was right for us. This is what happened when he went for his vasectomy appointment.

Group Sex For Monogamous Couples: The Devil Is In The Details

When my wife and I were offered a foursome by a couple of very close friends, it brought up more questions than I ever thought possible

Foods That Make You Horny

Ever wonder what foods will get you going or turn you on? Better yet did you ever wonder why they do that...?

Knock Knock. Who’s There? Herpes.

At 21, I was diagnosed with an STD. Though I have happily found someone who accepts me and doesn't judge me for my past, society still says it's OK to make jokes about diseases that are killing people. You wouldn't make a joke about cancer, so why is it OK to joke about syphilis?

Peer Pressure: How our friends impact our sex life

We all may think that we're adults, and therefore no longer affected by peer pressure, but the influences of our friends can impact our sex life in both positive and negative ways.

Accepting My Kink

How can submitting to a spanking possibly build confidence?

Your Shape Shifting Vagina!

Everyone knows that penises change shape when they're aroused, but did you know that your vagina changes shape too? Penises aren't the only body parts that grow!

When the Vibe Went Missing

A tale of woe from the Emergency Department Nurse's perspective.

Our Young Teen Girls. How Young Is Too Young?

Girls today are going through puberty so early. When do you start talking to them about grooming? What grooming is okay at that age?

Strange Sex?

I know you're going to look at the title for this and wonder what the hell I'm going to be writing about. But this isn't about things I've done or seen people do. It's about a TV show called Strange Sex.

Talking About The First Time

I think we all remember the first blowjob we ever gave. But do we remember why we gave it?

One Lump Or Two??? Oh, How About 28!!

It was just one small lump, the size of a pea. Who knew what that innocuous little bit of tissue in my breast would lead to...and the surprising results of all the testing.

Getting the Snip, Part One

This series of articles will detail the experience of getting a vasectomy. In this part, I discuss how my boyfriend and I decided that vasectomy was the right form of contraception for us. The next part will cover his experience of the procedure itself, and then I will write about how the procedure is affecting our relationship and our sex life.

Miscarriage -- My Experience and Journey to Healing

I don't remember ever hearing anybody actually share what it's like after a miscarriage. When I miscarried, and the months that followed, I didn't know if I'd ever come out of it. But I did, eventually. I realized what was hindering me from carrying to full term, I went through depression, and I slowly emerged out of it, and I want to share with you guys just what it was like for me.

Winter Cold Causes Pain. How to Continue Having Sex.

Winter is cold and uninviting. Most of us have joint pain and back pain. This can be an every day thing. When winter moves in it can be even worse. We want to have sex but pain can keep you from your needs.

Size does matter!

How big is yours? 6 inches? Maybe 10? What about how deep is mine? Have you ever thought of how much dick a girl can really take? No, of course not, so let's discuss.

Opening Up (Or Newer Can Definitely Be Better)

How open-minded are you in the bedroom? One of the Community Choice topics this month deals with how open-minded you are. Being open-minded is a good thing, though not every new thing you try will always be successful. But some of these new things can really add a certain spice to the bedroom.

This Box Is Toooo Small

Starting over at thirty something and forty something with two teen kids, dogs and a lizard.

SexIs Subjective: On A Sexy Halloween

Halloween can be a time to embrace that sexy part of you that you keep hidden the rest of the year. It allows you to become some one new and do things that only they would do.

Sex and Depression

Over my time, I've heard a lot of people talking about how sex and help when you are depressed. Being one who like sex and hates feeling depressed, this very much intrigued me and I wanted to find out more. How does depression affect one's sex life? How could sex possibly help one's depression? Is it all really that simple? So, I decided to start some research and find my answers.

Response to “Enjoying Porn: It's for Ladies Too”

Ladies how do you like your porn?

God Loves Sex Too

We've basically been told sex is wrong all our lives. A lot of us have grown up under the impression that God views all sex -- even between a married couple -- as dirty. Despite the need to re-inform, we shouldn't be spending our love-making time feeling guilt because in our hearts it feels like we're sinning. Guess what? God loves sex too! The idea that God is opposed to sex is false, and I'm here to tell you how I happen to come to this conclusion.

Making A Promise To My Children About Growing Up

As much as I do not want to, eventually I am going to have to give both of my children the talk on sex, and what happens when you grow older. When you are a parent, that is a scary thing to have to do. This is my vow to be upfront, truthful, and knowledgeable when this time comes.

Sex On The Brain

Being a teen-aged male, sex is constantly on my mind. Being a teenage male virgin, however, does not go well with this, and has turned me into a masturbation expert.

Sex in someone else's house

In a moment of passion, would you have sex while in your family's house?

So, You just use your tongue, right?

The yearly trip to the OBGYN's office is nothing but hell for us lesbians, at least us lesbians in a small town. Eventually, half way into the visit, you end up explaining what sex is to your Doctor. HELLLLLOOOO, didn't you go to Medical School, don't you know how people have sex?

Hiding Behind A Mask For The Freedom To Experiment.

What to do when you are a shy exhibitionist with a lot to lose? When you want to be watched--but not recognized? When you want to watch and play, but fear the risk of exposure? What is the one thing that can give you the freedom to release your inhibitions and let it all go?

I Just Received My Penis Pump...Now What?

Penis Pump--a simple looking device used for various purposes. Whether you use this for medical, masturbation, erectile dysfunction or for "growth," you will need to know the basics of using a pump. Misuse, either intentionally or through lack of knowledge, can damage your penis either temporarily or permanently. Before you put your penis on the line, read this article-learn how to use your pump properly-find out what it will and will not do--and have fun with the recreational section!!

The Great Foreskin Debate

These are just my opinions, most of which are backed up by science. If anyone disagrees with me, please don't hesitate to comment. I would just like to share my ideas and help inspire others to do some research for themselves.

Continuing education – The benefits of classes and conferences.

Expanding your knowledge about relationships and sexuality.

CatalystCon: More than just a sex education conference

An overview of CatalystCon, a sex education and sexuality conference.

The Cock Ring

Put a ring on it and make it go longer! Benefits and some of the types of rings.

Sex and Fitness

There are many benefits to fitness: a healthier body, longer life, lower stress, and a more toned looking body. But what about your sex life? Does fitness provide any benefits to that?

How AIDS Affected My Life

As a child to a parent with AIDS, I had a lot of challenges not normally faced in childhood. I learned to make the most of each day.

Bacterial Vaginosis: "Eww What's That Smell?"

Bacterial vaginosis is common in women of child bearing age and it is not a sexually transmitted disease.

The Spirituality of Sex

Do you like sex? Do you like ambiance? If there's one thing we learned from ice-cream sandwiches, it's that good things are always better combined. (Or, well, usually, at any rate. We received quite a different message from jalapeno jelly beans.)

Sex and Pregnancy.

For many people, sex during pregnancy can be intimidating, scary, or an experience they have been waiting to try. Either way, it should not be something scary, or painful. Questions about it aren't bad or wrong, and are usually welcomed by your doctor.

Beginner's Guide to Anal Play

Anal sex can be an exciting addition to your bedroom. And although it may seem overwhelming, with a little preparation and patience, it can be an enjoyable experience, perhaps one that you'd like to make a regular occurrence.

All The Crap That Can Go Wrong With Our Cooches

STD testing: a necessary evil that all sexually active people must partake in at least once in their lives. Fortunately I am disease free today at 36 years of age. But that's because of my horseshoes up my arse, so to speak. For females there are a number of things that can go awry in your reproductive system. Some are STDs while others just mimic the symptoms. Here's my personal account of a bunch of issues I and my body have had to face.

Sensual Massage!

You don't know what passionate lovemaking is without the most intimate kind of foreplay. Massages are stress relieving, they enhance immunity, improve circulation and joint flexibility, and can even lessen depression and anxiety.

The sex talk from above?

This is my piece of knowledge I'd like to drop on ya'll and my opinion with it.

Things To Do To Help With Chronic Pain.

Dealing with chronic pain can put anyone off to sex. What do you do if you still have the desire? Here are things to help out with the daily discomfort.

Shhh... I've Got My Period!

Menstruation: it’s natural so why do we find it taboo?

STD Myths: You Can't Really Believe That!

It's amazing the crazy things people believe when it comes to STDs and protection. Here are some of the craziest I've heard, and the real truths that people need to know.

You know your boyfriend's been watching porn when...

Kicking the cliche out of blowjobs

Life of a Virtual stripper: Get a real job

We all love dancing around and being sexy, but is it hard to believe you can have your cake and eat it too?

Single and Loving It

When you're in a relationship, there's someone to dress up for, someone to seek admiration from. When you're single, though, what happens when you start to feel less attractive? The solution is a little self love, and it may not be the way you're thinking about.

Looking to try something new? It's not as scary as you think.

Many think about trying new things in the bedroom, especially with the 50 Shades of Grey craze going on throughout the country right now. It's time to stop being afraid of what might be too weird or freaky and give it a shot! Easing into new territory might not be as hard as you're imagining.

Sexbot and Robots, or Coin-Operated Hookers.

I was recently asked (or the question was referred to me) if I thought sex robots were a thing I would see in my life time. I replied simply, "I already have." Granted these are not the robot nymphomaniacs of current movie magic, more like the clunky things you might expect, but they are getting better. However what does that mean, for humanity, and are these for men only? How close to the cool ones? These answers will surprise you.

Syphilis: The Silent One

Syphilis starts with one sore. You may or may not know you have it as it could be internal. Then you develop a rash a month later; it doesn't hurt, it doesn't itch, and it goes away. Years later you may find that you are positive and didn't even know it. Syphilis is not routinely checked for and the treatment in the early stages in one simple shot. If it goes untreated, you may have irreversible damage to your body.

Variety is the Spice of Life

Sex is a huge part of any relationship, whether you're sexually active all the time or tend to be the kind of couple that only gets it on every so often, sex is important. While the cuddly, cute, "let's make love" kind of sex is enjoyable, spicing things up can be just as much fun if not more. I've recently decided to take my sexual relationship and turn up the volume a few notches, and DAMN is it making a lot of noise.

Anal play!

This is just a quick guide for anyone who's interested in anal play or penetration, with some tips I've picked up on through personal experience.

Common Myths About Sex Toys

There I was standing in front of the glass case of beautiful toys for the first time. The lingerie we originally came there for was forgotten. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. They looked more like works of art than sex toys. Could my negative opinions about them have been wrong? I was in heaven, and determined to test my theories.

Touch your dang wiener, or how am I writing this if I'm blind?

I certainly hope that any male browsing through SexIs knows the joys of masturbation, if not you should be masturbating. Male masturbation has many physical, emotional, and even sexual benefits. You can trust me on this, I've been doing it since I was twelve. I've practically got a PhD in waxing the dolphin. (Warning this article will contain several euphemisms for spanking the monkey.)

Mysteries of the Male Ejaculate: A Matter of Taste

There is so much that goes unasked and unspoken between a man and woman. Since orgasms really begin and end in the mind and so much of sex is psychological, understanding each other's sexual needs, wants, fantasies and expectations can be a wonderful turn-on, and create a deeply passionate connection.

Making Noise

Who doesn’t like positive feedback? I mean, when you are working hard, it’s really nice to know that you are making a good impression. For some, it is hard to vocalize their enjoyment. I have oscillated from being a talker, moaner, and silent companion depending on what my relationships are like. I have found that the more feedback I give and receive; the better the sex is for everyone.

My "No Sex" Education

Is abstinence really the best way? Find out how the Abstinence Only approach to sex education has impacted my life and what I'm doing about it. Get my tips on your recovery and how to teach your teens about sex.

20 Fun Sex Facts

We all enjoy sex but it's always nice to hear the fun facts about it.

Why I Prefer Masturbation

On most days given the option between masturbating and having sex, even with a previous partner that I've had lovely times with, I would pick masturbation.

Advocating Circumcision

In recent years, the American tide has turned against circumcision. "Inactivists" speak out against what they call an unpunished form of genital mutilation and more and more states health coverage is refusing to cover the procedure. Yet, inn all the discussions of the negative side effects, these inactivists often gloss over the pro's of circumcision.

Where in the world are the dental dams!?

Condoms have become standard practice in sexual education, but dental dams remain something rarely discussed. Why is it that sex education is so often told through old fashioned terms?

Sex Is Like a Drug

Sex is fantastic, we all know that. But sex has helped me deal with mental issues that have haunted me since I was a teenager. For me, sex is really like a drug, but a nice prescription one, not one you buy on the corner from some shady guy.

What's wrong with me?

After years of feeling down and depressed, wondering what was wrong with me, I've finally come to terms with the fact that my body doesn't work quite the way I would like it to.

Summer's here! What to do?

I always get insecure when summer hits. The fat that I’ve been building up over the winter has to go.

What's In A Name?

You are what you eat - reclaiming the word "cocksucker" for the people who really deserve it.

Thank You, EdenFantasys

How has EdenFantasys changed my life? I would love to say that I have always been sex positive, open, free and knowledgeable but the truth is the person I am today is a direct result of the community at EdenFantasys.

Understanding Desire and Love in the Brain

In Egyptian mythology, ib or heart portion of the soul was placed on a scale balanced against the Feather of Ma'at. The feather a symbolizing truth, in the judgment of the dead. All of our deeds, sins and contributes laid in the weight of the heart and if heavier then the feather the heart was gobbled by Ammit.

The Birds and the Bees: Why the Sex Talk Isn't Always Necessary

There is always a lot of pressure on parents to have "the talk" with their children, but it might not be as big of a deal as you've been told.

To wait, or not to wait, that is the question.

The coverage of Olympic athletes and virginity makes me wonder about an important aspect of sex education. How do I advise my daughter when making the choice to lose her virginity?

The Poly Male, or Rational Polyamory

How do two men share a woman without killing each other? It's much more about respect, and love, and less about animalistic furry and marking of territory. I want to explain how my friend and I share a woman without murdering each other.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: The Unveiling

So you want to know what a successful cam girl looks like? You wanna see just what I am made of? This is the line of questioning I have been getting lately, So, Why not. Ok then, Lets get down to the glitter and glam of... ME.

In Praise of Uncut Cocks

One girl, one fetish, and her quest for enlightenment. Am I alone in my love of uncircumcised penises?

Why fetishes are a good thing

In today's society, fetishes have a very negative connotation. On a very special episode of "rants by Mine Fujiko," we discuss why fetishes can actually benefit people.

Let Me Go Get My Rubbers

I hate that people think that condoms are an option for birth control. The only time you should be using condoms as your birth control method is if you wouldn't mind a birth or two in your future.

Our Lazy Afternoon

During a lazy afternoon in, my boyfriend and I figured out a new way to make each other feel good.

In Praise of Lingerie

It seems for most men that what they want most is to see a woman fully nude and ready to do all sorts of unspeakable to them. I'm a bit different. I want a woman to do those unspeakable things to me and with me, but I want her wearing something more than her birthday suit.

Seeing Red in the Bedroom

The idea of having sex during my period always freaked me out. After some research, I decided to give it a shot.

An Understanding and Introduction to Porn

Porn is very hit-or-miss for a lot of people. If you'd like to find out some ways you could engage in it more (and like reading rants), read on!

Orgasms: You're not a freak.

No one ever told me what a normal orgasm was like, and so I spent years feeling like a freak for the way(s) that I orgasm.

Sex and College Stress

How to use orgasms as a weapon against those stressful college days and days to come.

Own Your Body—All of It

These days, a great number of people will probably say it takes a huge fool of a man to tell women what to do with their bodies. Ladies, I'm going to be just that kind of fool right now.

50 Shades of a Cam Whore in love with a Vampire?!?!?

Warning : This is more of a rant opposed to a stimulating article!

Is High School Sex Ed Going Too Far Or Not Far Enough?

With the rate of teen pregnancy escalating, I have to wonder... are high schools doing their part to prevent it?

Long Distance Love: Sex Without Contact

Do you remember the first time you spent an extended period of time away from your partner? How do you maintain intimacy when you're thousands of miles apart?

So, what's so bad about phthalates, anyway?

Before coming to EdenFantasys, I was left in the dark about all things related to sex toys. I didn't know anything about what materials the toys were made of, what phthalates were, or why some materials are better and safer for the body than other materials are.

And They Called Me Whore

Waking up the next morning, grabbing my panties off of the floor and pulling my clothes together, I realized what had happened. I bow my head, make my way to my friends car, and silently wait for what I know is coming. Laughing, they tell me how wild I got last night, and then I disappeared.

Tokophobia: Fear of Childbirth

Tokophobia: (As defined by Wikipedia) described the fear of childbirth or pregnancy as a psychological disorder, when it had previously received little to no attention as such, in addition to introducing the term tokophobia (from the Greek tokos, meaning childbirth and phobos, meaning fear). Tokophobia is also widely ascribed to the fear of pregnancy, and may also be called "maieusiophobia."

Pregnant Submissives Need Fun, Too.

As a submissive who has been pregnant three times and a childbirth doula, I can tell you without a doubt you can still enjoy a power exchange relationship even during the highest risk pregnancies! Keeping the spice in your sex life during pregnancy can even lead some of lucky few to have the elusive orgasmic birth!

Teenage Sex With A Dose Of Heartbreak

Teen angst at its best. I wrote this when I was nineteen years old. He was my first love. He broke my heart. I broke his right back, and in the worst way. He ended up marrying the girl in the end, but that is how many of my fairy tales work out. He was my first true love, but he wasn't my last. He was her last true love. They are happily married with a baby, and another on the way. I thank the higher power that I didn't end up with him and found my own fairy tale.

11 Different orgasms? Who knew?

We orgasm to release tension, we orgasm to feel euphoric, and we orgasm because it's the most incredible feeling in the world. We live to orgasm, at least some of us do. What could be more fun than learning more ways to orgasm?

Sexy dysfunctions that can destroy your life: Part One -- Sexsomnia

Sexual conditions that sound sexy but could destroy your life.

From Another Perspective

Living through sexual abuse is extremely difficult, but what if you're not abused in the way others would think? What happens if that person lives with you and is close to you?

Blossoming Through EdenFantasys.

My experience with EdenFantasys has boosted my confidence in many areas of my life and has helped me blossom as an individual.

Masturbation or a Lack Thereof

I’ve always read that the key to knowing what turns you on is masturbation. You won’t know what you’ll enjoy with a partner until you masturbate and find it on your own. What happens when neither partner in a relationship is interested in masturbation?

The First Time

No one's first time is what everyone imagines it will be. We as a society put so much emphasis on the first time that it is nearly impossible to meet the expectations that accompany your first sexual experience.

Where Angels Fear To Tread... Building a Permanent Relationship From the Foundation of Domestic Abuse.

Have you ever heard a heart break? Watch a person's soul shatter during a fall? Looked into the eyes of someone whose flame was callously turned to ash? Did you ever die inside, one piece at a time, at the hands of your abuser? The man who promised to love and cherish you, honor and protect you, until death do you part.

How to deal with different libidos in long-term relationships

Discrepancy in sex drives is one of the most common issues that sexual couples face. Included in this article are not only reasons for why someone may be struggling with low sexual desire, but ways of improving the situation for everyone involved as well.

Kid games for adult purposes

There are plenty of games generally played by kids that have been adapted to adult games. I discuss a few games like this, give one I started using and wonder what would have to be done to others to make them work as adult only games.

Women are not the victims

In the dating game, women nowadays seem to be reaping feelings of entitlement and are left bitter and underwhelmed by their selection pool. Let's put ourselves in the man's shoes for a minute.

You wanna do what?!?

Years ago, before I was serious about anything in my life, I was involved in a relationship that was purely focused on carnal needs. We certainly didn't imply catching a movie when we said, “Hey, you wanna hang out tonight?” The agenda was sex. What's funny to me isthat it isn't the sex that I remember. It's something so insanely simple he said so long ago that dug in and made a home in my mind.

EdenFantasys, how I love thee. Let me count the ways.

Everything that has been positive in my sex life within the last ten months has been because I found a wonderful place called EdenFantasys. EdenFantasys has been the center of my growing sexual confidence, and I am so thankful for stumbling upon them.

Guys, Gays, and Dildos (Not as gay as it sounds)

For about as long as sex toys have existed, there's always been the assumption (by the ignorant majority) that straight guys can't own a toy, specifically a dildo. If you're in the mood to read a rant, read on!

Passionate Sex Educator

When I first signed up for my EdenFantasys account in January 2012, I did not expect very much out of the experience. I had just ended a long term relationship and wanted to try several new things to help me deal with the funk that comes at the end of a relationship. I was interested in finding creative and unique ways to improve on my writing and try to do some self discovery. The fact that I could write reviews in exchange for free or discounted products was a good incentive as well.

A little BDSM finally helps me to orgasm - followed by lots of "self love!"

As an older teenager/young adult, I was sexually dysfunctional due to past issues. In addition to thinking masturbation was "disgusting," I also never understood why men found me attractive. It wasn't until a partner tied me down and "made" me orgasm, that I truly realized what I had been missing.

Good Pain versus Bad Pain: BDSM and Chronic Pain

So, should I start with BDSM or my chronic pain? They are both so intertwined into my being that I don't know how to unknot them from each other.

The Relationship Between Sexual Desire and Romantic Love

Sexual desire and romantic love have often been mistaken for two separate, opposing entities. While reading articles written by great philosophers such as Sartre, Blackburn, and Fromm, I noticed that they all use the two terms as if their meanings were like day and night. This article will explore the interconnecting relationship between desire and love, and consider the fact that Fromm’s writings may not be as accurate as his readers may have presumed.

How to Help Cure DGS (Death-Grip Syndrome)

Do you sometimes not finish in bed? Do you find yourself grabbing yourself quite roughly? Chances are you have DGS, more commonly known as Death-Grip Syndrome. Don't worry, it's curable! If you want to figure out how to help cure this, read this article!

Am I a Freak? (A Formal Introduction)

Nobody can tell you better if your turn-ons make you a freak, than the expert on taboo... Tessa Taboo.

Sex Not Going as Planned? Here are Three Steps to get Back to Pleasure.

It happens to the best of us. You're in the moment, fully enjoying every kiss, stroke, and lick...until you're not. You start thinking about the laundry that needs to get done or that fight we had with whoever or the bills that need to get paid and before you know it, you are just over it. Sex? Not anymore. These three steps are my sure-fire way to move through those moments and back to your pleasure...fast.

So, You Read ‘Fifty Shades’, and Now You Want to be a Sub…

Yes, I get it. You read all three of the ‘Fifty Shades’ books in one weekend, you’ve looked up some stuff on the Internet about BDSM, and now, you’re DYING to be a sub, right? You even typed up a contract just like the one in the book, went and bought a pair of handcuffs, and put a wanted ad in the craigslist personals looking for a Dom. Right?

Respect for the Small Soldier

I am asking you today to give a respectful salute to a soldier who has gone on many a mission, sometimes grueling and even dangerous ones, to bring pleasure to couples, threesomes and moresomes in whatever rooms we may choose to rut and copulate. He’s lean and helmeted, often with a functional but flimsy hood over his helmet, but he has a tough job sometimes. Also, he makes mistakes. But let us treat him with dignity, and allow me to help you understand him a bit better.

From Raped And Repressed, To Rabbit Aficionado: A Tale Of Redemption Through EdenFantasys.

It took me twelve years to mentally and emotionally recover my sexual health after being raped the first time I had sex. It took another six years for me to find a trustworthy man with whom I could explore my newfound sexuality. And the healing all started with an ad in the back of Cosmopolitan magazine and a vibrator from EdenFantasys.

It's Okay to Shout, But if You Want to Whisper That's Okay Too

Coming out doesn't have to be huge. It's different for each person.

Sex and The World

Are you fooling you self by thinking you're a different person behind closed doors?

Broken Education

Did you know that the government has spent 1.5 billion per year, estimated, on abstinence only programs in public schools, only to leave us with the highest teen birthrate in the entire industrialized world? Now consider that teen pregnancy costs taxpayers about 9 billion dollars a year. Are we trying to throw money away? Why do we have such a hard time talking about sex and sexuality with our kids?

Menstrual Sex: It's Not Just For Vampires

Many people are terrified of having sex when they or their partner are menstruating, but it's really not that big a deal! There are plenty of ways to have mess-free sex while one partner is bleeding, even if you get squicky around blood. As long as you have the right equipment and attitude, it shouldn't be a problem.

Exploring Vibrator Use

According to studies, just over half of women and about 1/3 of men have at least some experience using vibrators during sexual play. Up to 35% of women usually don’t reach orgasm during masturbation, and up to 70% of women cannot orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone. However, we know that clitoral stimulation is the key for most women being able to achieve orgasm.

EdenCommunity: Home Away From Home

When first looking into sex toys and sexual health, there's a big, vast world out there. Tons of websites host these products, but none held the sense of security and safety that I found within EdenFantasys. Not only did they welcome me in and make sex toys and sexual health seem harmless and inviting, but they also opened up the door for discussion with other users on the site making me feel more comfortable with my purchases.

Smokedawg’s Adventures in Wanking Part 3: Time to Play With the Toys

Men and toys. Sometimes, they fear them.

Fat: Mind Over Matter?

A recent study on body image shows overweight people who lose weight find themselves still lingering in the “fat” mindset. Another reports people view those who lose a lot of weight in a more negative light than even overweight people who maintain a stable weight. What, then, is the point of losing weight?

Smokedawg’s Adventures in Wanking Part 2: Viscosity’s Better Than Friction

I’m sure someone will cringe at my headline and think, “This man has no idea what the hell viscosity is; it describes the level of friction in a fluid, so it can’t be better than friction. It’s a kind of friction!”

Setting the Mood for a Happy Sexual Existence

Things I WISH I’d been told about sex, but wasn’t.

Sex and Pregnancy: Trimester Two

My second trimester started out with a bang. Two, to be exact.

Society and Female Sexual Pain

When a female has penetrative sex for the first time, it hurts a lot. Right?

Generation Fear: How I Survived HIV Education in the 1990s

9 Strangest Birth Control Secrets from the Ancient World

Did you know April is STD Awareness Month? In honor of this, we asked our writers to talk about sexually transmitted disease and infections, contraception and sexual health. Tucker Cummings found some pretty odd birth control methods. Here are nine of them!

Letter From The Editor — World AIDS Day 2011

As World AIDS Day 2011 approaches, on December 1st, I've been thinking about what I have to say that I have not said before on the topic. My thoughts inevitably turn to my daughter who, each year, as I write about WAD, has just had a birthday, bringing how her life has changed in the last year to the forefront of my thoughts. At her age (now 14) things change quickly.

Almost Half of Kids in School Report Sexual Harassment

Harassers think it's not a big deal or that they're funny.

Sex and Pregnancy: The First Trimester

It's possible there are as many myths and misconceptions about sex and pregnancy as there are babies being born. So what's fact and what's fiction? In this three-part series, Lady J, as a part of her own pregnancy journey, takes us through sex and pregnancy, one trimester at a time.

Denial of Sterilization as a Form of Birth Control: Discrimination or Due Diligence?

Nothing polarizes debate like birth control. Though many high-profile arguments rage on about abortion, the “morning-after” pill, and insurance payments for birth control pills, sterilization is an often overlooked but equally charged form of contraception.

British Youth Warned about Bad Sex Education on the 'Net

Kids are urged to learn to identify trustworthy sites. We have a list, of course.

Dating Site Opens for the ‘Sexually Challenged’

Where there's a will, and love, there's often a way.

New, Simple Blood Test Can Determine Baby's Gender

DNA can reveal sex as early as seven weeks into pregnancy.

Fish Tales

It’s Supposed to Smell Like Pussy

New Strain of Gonorrhea Isolated in Japan

"Superbug" resists antibiotics; vaccine development underway.

The Scarlet Letters: “SE” for Sex Ed

In a perfect world, every child-guardian relationship would be punctuated with down-to-earth, all-your-questions-answered talk about the young person’s emerging sexuality.

The Power of SlutWalk Los Angeles was in its Stories

In January of this year a representative from the Toronto Police Service said “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized” and with that, he created one hell of a shit storm and spurred a new feminist movement.

Does Carpal Tunnel Syndrome Complicate Your Sex Life?

It’s more and more common these days. If you don’t suffer from carpal tunnel syndrome or its familiars, one of your partners probably does. And CTS is a bitch to deal with in the sack. But never fear: as with all other limitations, there are ways to work around the pain.

Close Your Eyes and Think of England, and Other Cases of Sex Mis-education

For most people, talking to their kids about sex is awkward.

For sex ed teachers, explaining “the birds and the bees” to someone else’s kids is even more awkward.

And for the kids themselves? Hearing adult authority figures talk about sex is extremely awkward…and more troubling, often filled with lies.

Vaginal Fisting Is Good For You.

Plenty of folks are eager to warn you of the dangers of vaginal fisting: you'll either tear something, be loose forever, or end up desperate to find bigger and stranger insertables until the point of absurdity, right? Wrong! In fact, you might actually find some health benefits to the gentle act of handballing. Let’s check it out.

Vintage Vibe Ads Still Hit the Spot

I’m gonna go out on a limb here and guess that if you’re reading this, you own a vibrator. But how much do you know about the history of these tiny mechanical wonders?

When the Assault on Planned Parenthood Becomes Personal

My relationship with Planned Parenthood is personal. When I was 19, I was in an abusive relationship and when I found out I was pregnant, Planned Parenthood was there for me. I credit the organization with saving my life. They provided me with all of the information I needed to make an informed decision. I am not ashamed or embarrassed; I am simply grateful that I had a choice and a place to turn.

Contraception Without Copay

If your car only started half the time or your computer only worked on alternate days, what would you do? If you found you were only getting half the channels on your cable you’d call up the company and raise holy hell, right?

HIV Cure: Premature, Overstated Optimism or Medical Miracle?

“He loves me. He loves me naught. He loves me. He loves me naught. He loves me…”

Sex Fitness Games: Postcards from a Sex Nerd

You don’t need a gym membership to stay sexually fit. A few simple exercises, performed regularly, can boost your performance, pleasure and orgasm quality! And these routines can be done at work, on your commute, while doing chores, taking care of the kids or even while watching TV.

Weird Sex Science Awards: And the Nominees Are ...

For normal people, sex is an enormously pleasurable act; and then there are the scientists, for whom sex seems to be just another human behavior to scrutinize and analyze.

Dr. Tuppy Owens: The Sensual Patron Saint of the Disabled

Sex Discriminates Against Kink and Queers

We know that sex is beneficial for human health and well being, but it seems that not all sex acts are created equal. Do breeders really beat out non-trad combos for sex bennies? Science signs point to “Yes.” Read on.

Vagina of Steel

Squeeze 1 … 2 … 3, and release

The Sexpert Series: Dr. Patti Britton

When it comes to sex therapy, pretty much anyone with an opinion can hang out a shingle and call themselves an “expert,” but how do you separate the spin doctors from the real deal? In the days ahead, SexIs will be speaking to some of the most respected “sexperts” in the field to separate pros from the poseurs—and get the skinny on how to have great sex.

SexFeed: Swinging Academics Create Artificial Life and Green Light Sex After Heart Attack

SexFeed:Pills to Prevent Pregnancy and Premature Ejaculation Also Lower Sex Drive

Tuesdays With Nina: Nina gives advice to a woman whose husband doesn't want sex, Part 1

Sex Un-Educated

For many who grew up in America public Sex Education did a lot more harm than good. When you’re taught that sex is not a recreational activity—unless you’re a disease-ridden whore—and condoms don’t work (if you have sex, you WILL get pregnant). Let’s just say, it’s a lot to overcome.

Tuesdays With Nina: Clitoral Stimulation and Not Stressing Over Orgasms

The Penis Festival

Chemo Sexual

At 31, she was diagnosed with Primary Mediastinal Large B Cell (Non Hodgkin’s) Lymphoma. Described at times as “diffuse” and “aggressive,” this cancer targets white chicks in their early thirties. Now, 16 months into remission, the author looks back on her road to wellness, including some sexual detours along the way.

Burning for You

UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections) are not “teh sexay”—to some, they are the TMI of sex; but nonetheless they are a fact of life. But when they start showing up more frequently than syndicated episodes of Seinfeld, there has to be a solution.

Junk-Food Science

Most science reporters aren’t scientists; they’re talking heads hungry for site hits, ratings, readership and ad revenue. Even reputable journalists sometimes jump the gun when groundbreaking developments fall into their laps. How the media’s rush to scoop the competition promotes dangerously incomplete data as truth, and puts the public at risk.

Mixed Massages: A Therapist Balances Healing With Sexual Expectations

In every city, hundreds of beautiful men and women are including sexual activity into their massage practice. Alternatively, could it be that they are involving massage in their sex work? Nudity, mutual touch and sexual stimulation are becoming common complementary features to therapeutic touch…. There’s always been a thin line between massage parlors and cathouses—if any distinction at all.

RX Side Effects: When Meds Aren’t Sexy

Who knew that one little pill daily—a mere 20 milligrams of the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) Paxil—would cause my entire world to come crashing down?

Clit Sensitivity & Piercing, and Knowing When it's "Time" To Orgasm

This week, Nina takes on two very different questions. First, she tackles the issue of clit sensitivity. Does it diminish as we age? Can a clit piercing enhance pleasure? Next, a considerate young man wants to please his lover, but is worried that he's climaxing too fast. Find out why Nina says: "There's no such thing as coming to soon."

Diary of a Sex Surrogate: Come One, Come All...But Not So Fast, Gentlemen!

Did you know that the average woman takes about 20 minutes to achieve orgasm? The majority of men, on the other hand, don’t have a problem coming in 5 minutes. If a woman can orgasm during intercourse (though not all do), she’s going to require more time than most men need. Basically, a woman’s orgasm is like a symphony, whereas, a man’s is more like a rock song.

What Does Healthcare Reform Mean, Sexually Speaking?

Q: What’s almost 2,000 pages long, has the head of a donkey, the tail of an elephant, the petrified genitals of a Tyrannosaurus Rex and the scent of something rotten in the state of U.S. Politics?

A: The Affordable Healthcare for America Act

Tuesdays with Nina: Sex Advice Books and Partners with MS

This week, Nina discusses some of the better sex advice books available, from Tristan Taormino to Carol Queen, and even Nina herself! She also gives a few tips on how to enjoy a rewarding sex life with a partner with MS.

The Vasectomy Trajectory

Snip-snip, the Big V, or voluntary sterilization. No matter how you slice it (good one, right?), a vasectomy is a major decision. Fortunately, it’s a minor procedure—and a great excuse to spend the weekend on the couch.

Stirring Things Up: Safer Sex for Women Who Love Women

Compared to heterosexual sex or sex between men, sex between women is generally a lower-risk activity. It isn’t however, a no-risk activity.

Tuesdays with Nina: Cowgirl 101

Today, Nina talks about how to conquer the Cowgirl position—or, to be more precise, how to do the “butt shimmy"—in a way that will make everybody happy!

Tuesdays with Nina: Sexual Attitudes

Today, Nina dishes on the biggest sexual organ of all...the brain!

Unrestrained Hypersexuality: You Can’t Bring a Doctor’s Note to Divorce Court

I can’t count the amount of times a hypersexual mood has convinced me within a breadth that sleeping with someone would make me feel better. Scratch that, rewind—feel something. And then, afterwards—feeling unclean, guilty and manipulative, as the choices I’ve made have not been my best.

Tuesdays with Nina: A Bit of Everything

Nina answers a few viewers’ questions on yeast infections, excessive masturbation, and...Nina dishes on her favorite sex toy!

Being Manic Got Me Screwed...A Lot

My sex life was completely, 100 percent, definitely no question about it attributed to my high and low moods. So, I stepped away from the computer and told a doctor in real life. I was easily diagnosed as bipolar, in part because of the record setting, in addition to the fact that I was unbalanced and moody. Since, bipolar has been written on my metaphorical psychiatric permanent record.

Grading on the Curves: A Report Card on Women’s Healthcare

It’s fair to say that healthcare and women have a complicated history. Let’s take a look at why.

Pan’s Promise: Does Horny Goat Weed Really Work?

Known for his legendary libido, Greek god Pan left a trail of ravished woodland nymphs in his wake. In modern times, does the aphrodisiac that bears his image live up to the horny hype, or is it another myth waiting to get busted?

Size Matters…In Your Head

This week, Sexis' own friendly e-neighborhood sex surrogate takes on a BIG problem—penis size...or, rather, the size of men's anxieties over penis size.

No More Periods: Is This a Good Idea?

Many of today’s newer birth control pills are specifically marketed for a new reason, other than birth control itself: menstrual suppression

Tuesdays with Nina: The Intricacies of Anal

How do adult performers make anal sex look so flawlessly clean? Nina dishes on a few tricks of the trade.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Healing Sexual Trauma through Sensate Focus

One of the most difficult things for me to deal with as a therapist is the aftermath of sexual trauma. And I know that the trouble I have with this is only a tiny fraction of the difficulty my client has as he or she faces his/her past.

Tuesdays with Nina: Kegels

This week, Nina delves into the topics of Kegels—what are they, how to do them, and who should be doing them (hint: they're not just for women)—and, most important of all, what they can do for you!

The Hard and Soft of It: One Sex Surrogate’s Experience with Erectile Dysfunction

Hey, fellas—when’s the last time you sported a boner? Have you ever noticed how annoying spontaneous erections are for teenage boys, and how annoying lack of erections are for older men?

Come as You Are

An education in orgasms, from beginner to expert.

Tuesdays with Nina: Sexual Breathing

This week, Nina expounds on the art of proper breathing techniques during sex, in order to open up the body to maximum pleasure.

Tuesdays with Nina

The old saying goes, “Them that can, do; them that can’t, teach,” but sometimes there’s that one in a million who can do both—and SexIs has her. Each week, adult actress, activist, auteur and legend Nina Hartley answers your questions on all things sexual. Vlogging will never be the same.

Diary of a Sex Surrogate: Who’s Your Sex Surrogate?

One woman’s up close and personal mission to help others work the kinks OUT.

The World AIDS Day Project: No Dominion

When a novice swimmer dives head-first into the deep end of gay culture and emerges illuminated, her path to sexual emancipation via safer means becomes stunningly clear.

The World AIDS Day Project: Live Through This

The July 2, 2009 ruling of Naz Foundation v. Government of NCT Delhi decriminalized homosexuality in India, and the world declared this a groundbreaking victory for the Indian gay rights movement. While India going gay made for sensational news, the issue that caught the world’s attention wasn’t actually the primary focus of the ruling. The issue at its heart of was HIV/AIDS.

The Bloggess: AIDS isn’t really that funny

The World AIDS Day Project: AIDS through My Days

My first exposure to someone with AIDS happened in my late teens. My friend John, the man who both demystified gay male sexuality for me, and helped me understand what it was like to be a sexual minority, introduced me to a friend of his: a handsome young man who was in hospice care, waiting for the inevitable.

The World AIDS Day Project: Boogeyman Logic—A Requiem for Matthew

Seeing the future doesn't mean you can change it. Remembering the past won't keep it the same. But sometimes, though separated by long years and even death, a friendship can endure.

The World AIDS Day Project: Learning Out Loud

Two decades as an HIV educator and counting.

The World AIDS Day Project: An Inside Look at the AIDS Service Center NYC

Director of Business Development and Communications Anne West Church provides an up-close and personal glimpse into the heart of ASC-NYC’s Union Square facility.

The World AIDS Day Project: On the Frontlines of the Forgotten War

For Executive Director, Sharen I. Duke and the dedicated staff at the AIDS Service Center NYC, the battle rages on. In this video interview, she provides an overview of ASC's ongoing mission.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Human Rights, Sexual Rights and World AIDS Day

World AIDS Day brings into focus the micro-strategies needed to combat a macro problem.

Rebel Belle: How the Bible Belt Isn’t Always a Chastity Belt

Sage sexuality south of the Mason Dixon? Boy, howdy!

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Sex Positive Doctrine

Have you ever wondered about the term sex positive? If you’re like me, you see it all over the place, especially on sex-related sites. I confess I use it way more often than I should. It’s become one of those industry buzzwords that has, over time, become so fuzzy around the edges that to some, it’s now virtually meaningless.

Little Plastic Rings: The Ethos and Eros of Foreskin Restoration

On the L in Chicago, an average thirty-something man sits quietly in his seat. Suddenly a little plastic ring falls out from his pant leg and rolls along the floor. There are thousands of men all over the country walking around secretly rigged up with devices in their pants—made of plastic, metal, tape and other items that yank the skin of the penis. And no, this isn’t some sexual fetish or kink.

Turning Off the Turn Offs: How to Find Detours around Sexual Roadblocks

The things that turn us on are determined not only by our individual preferences, but by the culture in which we live. The same holds true for those things that effectively turn us off.

The Talk

Why is talking to our progeny about sex so awkward? Does it have to be?

Dr. Dick on Demand: Virginity, Part 2

Let’s pick up where we left off last week, on the perils young people face as they navigate the expectations of virginity and sex, and begin to consider their first forays into partnered sex.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Virginity

Virginity is a very touchy issue in just about every culture on the globe. Curiously enough, it’s almost always exclusively about female virginity. This sad double standard gives rise to emotional conflicts for both genders. But again, it is young women and girls who bear the brunt of it.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Sex and the Aging Male

I’m receiving a startling number of correspondences lately from older men and their partners, highlighting the sexual difficulties of the aging process. It’s not surprising that these people are noticing the changes in their sexual response cycle as they age, but it is astonishing that they haven’t attributed the changes to andropause.

Faking the Big “O”

News flash, folks: You may think you’re a powerhouse in bed who can get any partner off, but according to a University of Kansas study, of students they interviewed who were sexually active, 67 percent of women—and 30 percent of men—faked orgasms.

Getting “Wet” – Understanding Why and How Women Do and Don’t

Although in the United States, a woman’s ability to get wet is often valued as a sign of her sexual interest in her partner, appreciation for women’s self-lubricating potential (we are the original self-lubricating beings…) is not universal. In some cultures it is dry sex that is held up as the ideal, and women become smooth about avoiding becoming slick.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Sexual Mythbusters, Part 1

No matter your experience level, no matter what you know (or think you know)—there is need for a little remedial sex-ed from time to time. The one and only Dr. Dick has a surprise or two for you this week, as he sets about a little sexual mythbusting of his own (sans handlebar moustache and/or beret).

Smoke After Sex? (You’re probably just doing it too fast.)

And certainly these days, since almost no one smokes anymore. For years, smoking and sex have been tied together. Literature, cinema and television have celebrated the post-coital cigarette to the point of cliché for eons. And now, unless you’re French or Quentin Tarantino, smoking is outré—in a big way. Is the image, moreover the act, even relevant anymore?

Menopause and Andropause: Living with it

Entering your 50s doesn’t mean the end of your sex life. It does however present two new wrinkles with which to deal: the double-miasma of menopause for women, and andropause for men. Newme21 shares her story.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Fighting Fair—a Tutorial

I have just the thing for all you folks out there who are in a relationship. If you’re like every other couple I know, you have your share of tension. And let’s face it—tension leads to fighting. And fighting, if not done fairly, can lead to hurting your partner—even if that’s not your intention.

Fat Lips & Other Smack Talk: The Language of Fat

No matter how you say it, it seems everyone is talking about body size—either their own or someone else's. Fatspeak is a national obsession. So much talk is meant to belittle that it’s easy to give offense where none was intended. Here's a quick lexicon on Fat Language. Consider this a travel phrase book to the land of Fat where the roads are often dangerous, unmapped and slippery when wet.

Sexercise Your Way to Ecstasy

Elizabeth Black takes a look at different exercise techniques designed to improve your sex drive—and sexual gratification.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Heartbreak of Male Performance Anxiety

One of the real bugaboos for anyone, regardless of gender, is living up to our own expectations of sexual performance. So many things can get in the way, literally and figuratively, of fully enjoying ourselves and/or pleasuring our partners.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Sex Addiction, or Too Much of a Good Thing?

This week, the one and only Dr. Dick takes on the issue of sex addiction—and his take may surprise you.

Sex and Disability 101

You sprain your wrist playing basketball, or get carpal tunnel twinges from too much typing. Your partner is battling depression or post-traumatic stress. Sooner or later, the question is likely to come up: how do you make sex work when someone involved is temporarily or permanently disabled? Our goal here is to provide you with tools for finding solutions that work for you and your partners.

The Great Douche Debate

It turns out that Gladys’ husband wasn’t impotent, after all. And June’s wasn’t in the closet. Nope. The problem, duh, was FEMININE ODOR. Think about it: What red-blooded American male could manage to think about pussy after a hard day’s work when it smelled like, um, PUSSY?

Dr. Dick on Demand: What’s Up with Me, Doc—Am I Gay or Straight?

Can we talk about sexual orientation for a bit? I sure hope so, because I’m gonna go ahead and launch into it here, if you’re ready or not.

Observations of a Sex Positive Gypsy: There’s no such thing as a stupid question

I get a lot of questions. Some are good, some are bad—some just get asked over and over and over. Let's run down the top five...

Oh, the Agony! The Perils of Advice Column Addiction

I have a dirty little secret: I used to work as an advice columnist. Here’s another dirty little secret: Most of the advice columnists aren’t any more qualified to tell you what to do with your life than I was. Some of them are even less.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Amputee Devotee

This week, Dr. Dick investigates acrotomophilia; or, in other words, the amputee fetish.

Living with Infertility

With a media that pushes pregnancies of 8 or families of 18, it can be difficult to accept the reality that simply having a first or second child may be extremely difficult or ultimately, never happen at all.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Self-Sexological Exam

What if—you, a healthy, otherwise happy woman—had gone through your entire life...without having experienced the joys of an orgasm?

Lower Education: Why STDs are Making a Comeback on College Campuses

Ah, college. It’s where teenagers go to learn—about themselves, about the world, how to do body shots, and pick up strangers in bars. For many young people, it’s the first time they’ve been away from parental authority. They are treated and are expected to act like adults, but for many the taste of freedom is embraced as license to explore the siren songs of sex, drugs, and rock ’n’ roll.

Dr. Dick on Demand! The Anal Sex Guide: Giving and Receiving

As promised, here’s Dr. Dick’s highly anticipated seminar on being a great ass-fuckin’ top. This is a companion piece to an earlier tutorial for you novice bottoms out there — Liberating the BOB Within. This tutorial is for anyone who is considering being a top, regardless of whether the meat injection is 100% prime, or a beef substitute (a strap-on dildo), these words of wisdom are for you.

Observations of a Sex Positive Gypsy: Sex and Shame

Playing with fire, sex, and shame.

A Day Trip to the STD Testing Clinic

Free testing clinics are fantastic—but they’re not infallible, and they’re not always the most informative places in the world to get your safer sex information. The old saying, “you get what you pay for”, is, sadly enough, usually true.

The Green Project: Herbs for Sex

Long before the days of Viagra, vibrators, and streaming porn videos, we humans pursued new and better ways to heighten our sexual pleasure through every imaginable means. From dildos made of animal hides to dildos shaped like animals—no stone, nut or rock was left unturned by our fore-mothers and –fathers.

Sex Therapy—What Is It and Who Needs It?

I’m often asked about my work as a sex therapist. I’m surprised at how few people have any sense of what we actually do. While I can’t speak for all my fellow therapists, I can tell you a bit about my own practice.

HIV and the Porn Industry: Testing, Condoms and Trust

On June 4, Patient Zero was tested for HIV. She worked on June 5, and her results came in positive for HIV presence in the bloodstream on June 6. At that point, all hell began to break loose.

You Are What You Eat – Foods That Improve Your Sex Life

Did you know that the food you eat affects not only your sexual desire and stamina; it also affects the taste of your semen and pussy? Regardless of your sexual orientation and gender, you will only benefit from eating and drinking the kinds of foods that will give you the sexual pep you desire. Here is a pyramid scheme you can get into—the Hot And Sexy Food Pyramid. Check it out below.

One Pill Makes You Smaller: How Common Medications May Affect Your Sex Life

Americans take a lot of prescription medications. But how can they affect your sex life?

Sex IS...

Sex IS...everything you want it to be, and more.