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  • VlogBrothers: Human Sexuality is Complicated

    With Valentine coming we ask ourselves all these questions about love. And because internet is huge it is possible to find some answers to your questions. That's why in this channel we are posting some useful, funny, explanatory information about love that we stumbled upon. We hope you will enjoy it!

  • Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheat

    In anticipation of Valentine Day we decided to post videos about love from a variety of sources we consider note worthy. We hope you will enjoy them.

  • Review: The Art of Erotic Writing

    A review of contemporary author Jess C Scott's "Art of Erotic Writing" eBook.

  • Define this: CBT

    CBT? Cat Bondage Time? Cool Body Temp? Cock and Ball Torture is more than high heels and winched faces. Power play and love go hand in hand.

  • Our Lives Are Who We Are

    I never noticed how events that have happened in my life influenced my life in bed.

  • Keeping those distracting thoughts out of the bedroom.

    We've all got stuff. Sometimes it gets in the way of supersexyfuntimes. Come with me and explore one, very effective for at least one couple, way of dealing with distractions.

  • Sex is a moving target

    No matter how much we know ourselves or each other our sex lives are like sharks, they have to keep moving or they die. So we've got to be open to changing what we think about sex, especially when you're trying to keep a relationship going longer than a week.

  • Confessions of a Friend-Zoner

    You know how it goes. Man meets woman, man befriends woman, man expects that friendship to blossom into something sexual, and when it doesn't, man complains that he's been friend-zoned. This scenario can play out between any two people, regardless of gender...but it seems that man versus woman is most common, and in each situation, it seems to be the same complaint: "I was so nice to her. She led me on." But how often do we really hear her side of the story?

  • The Monosexual’s Guide to Dating Someone Flexible

    There are many of us who identify as queer, bisexual, pansexual, or other identities that are flexible in the sex and gender of our partners. This is often difficult to understand for people who are not flexible, whether they are gay or straight. This is a guide for monosexual (cliff notes version: someone who is either straight or gay) partners of sexually flexible people to be a better partner to those of us with these unique identities.

  • Thinking about Taboos

    Taboos are powerful things. Anything that has power over our minds and imaginations can either imprison us or be used to make us happier. Maybe it's time to think about harnessing your taboos and using them to keep a long term relationship healthy and exciting.

  • BDSM Punishments

    In my previous article, How to Submit, I mentioned that it is important to be able to take punishments as a submissive. After my article was posted, it received a comment which left me stunned. Then it hit me. I had never explained the various types of punishments, and it was assumed that all BDSM punishments were purely physical. This article will explain the various forms of punishments often used and why each one may be selected and put to use.

  • Medicalizing Queer Identities

    How does the medicalized discourse surrounding queer identities shape the way that queer people are represented? Is this better or worse for the individual experience? Medicalizing a cultural notion, such a sexual identity, a construct that exists in only certain socio-political arenas, works to harm individuals more than empower them. Rather than embrace sexuality and trans*gender expression, our society's language is framing queerness as similar to a disease.

  • Anal Sex: How To Get Started

    Okay, so let’s say you and your husband are into anal play, and you want to take it a step further. You are both comfortable with the idea of anal sex, but you feel like you need some pointers to help you get started.

  • BDSM Relationships and Mental Health

    When it comes to mixing BDSM dynamics with mental health and adverse reactions to medicines, it can be enough to frustrate most.

  • Beginning in Bondage

    Restraining your partner can be fun, bonding and loving, and it can be as much or as little drama, dogma and homework as you like. There are sources on the internet that make it seem impossibly complicated, incredibly specific and terribly difficult. It doesn't have to be. Sometimes it starts with a single tie.

  • Confessions of a Reluctant Rope Top: Part 3

    Contrary to what you might think because of media portrayals, bondage can be an incredible tool for intimacy in an otherwise perfectly normal relationship. You don't have to collar your spouse, wear crazy leather gear or inflict bruises to really reap the benefits of a little power exchange.

  • Confessions of a Reluctant Rope Top: Part 2

    Just thinking about new things (or even old things in new ways) can completely rewire how you think about sex. Seriously, just give it a go.

  • What appealing DADT didn't do

    What we forgot when President Obama repealed Don't Ask Don't Tell.

  • A Sexless Adventure

    I think we all can agree that having a long term relationship is a great thing. As the relationship continues on, you gain a close friendship and a great sex partner, possibly for life. Spending a long time with someone can create challenges in the bedroom. Many couples feel that as they spend more time together, their sex lives get a little dull. So recently my partner and I have decided to go sexless for the next 3 months. Join me on my journey of revamping and restarting my sex life.

  • Are Depression and Bipolar Disorder Ruining your Sex Life?

    Depression and Bipolar disorder are not the same, but both can do serious damage to your love life. As a sufferer from depression, I intend to help explain the differences between these two common disorders, explain what they are and how they work, how they can be messing up your bedroom routine, and how to get back on top.

  • Confessions of a Reluctant Rope Top

    You can be normal and still love and respect a woman enough to blindfold her, tie her to a wall, and make her scream.

  • Happy MILF Day?

    So, with Mother’s Day behind us (that would be the second Sunday of May) but the month in which it falls still with us, perhaps we need to roll out a MILF Day? Or make plans for one beginning next year? I mean, we have special days for just about everything now, including “Talk Like a Pirate Day,” so why isn’t there a MILF Day? Or am I just slacking on my online searching game this month?

  • BDSM 101—Understanding Masochism

    Today I want to look at masochism and help those who are not masochists potentially understand why someone might enjoy pain.

  • BDSM 101--Orgasm Denial

    Today we are going to discuss orgasm denial. What is it? How do you do it? Why do people like it?

  • Vibrator Envy

    Today’s article focuses on a problem that many men face with the introduction of a toy, and that is envy and feelings of inadequacy in the face of a vibrator. We will discuss how to overcome this and why you will never be replaced by a vibrator.

  • Communication and Sexual Satisfaction

    Those that talk about sex outside of the bedroom are more likely to talk in the bedroom. Those that talk in the bedroom are more likely to have a satisfying sex life. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to open up.

  • Define This: GGG

    GGG is a term first coined by sex writer Dan Savage. Not only is it a good road map for healthy relationships, but those that follow it report a higher level of satisfaction in their love life.

  • Kink: A History

    Let's discuss the history of kink, as well as some ways that you can implement some kinky practices into your own life.

  • BDSM 101—Facesitting

    Today’s article is going to focus on an activity called facesitting. We are going to learn what it is, how to do it, why people like it, and some safety concerning it.

  • It's a Myth! The Fallacy of the Sexual Peak

    It's common knowledge that women and men have their sexual peaks at very different times, but is this idea heavy on the common and light on the knowledge?

  • How to Submit: A Basic Guide

    Submission is all the craze now, ever since Fifty Shades of Grey hit the shelves last year. But what many people don't know is how to submit. Submission is so much more than being tied up and being spanked. Submission is, simply put, yielding to another, but sometimes that’s harder than it appears.

  • Gendered Technology: Sex Toys and the Perpetuation of Feminine/Masculine Ideals

    On EdenFantasys.com, a search of the word “pink” yields 48 pages of content while a similar search of the word “blue” only produces 26. Traditional gendered ideals are upheld not in the functionality of sex objects, women’s toys are insertable while men’s come in the shape of disembodied torsos and vaginas, but even in their color and design.

  • The Virginity Paradox

    The term "virgin" is thrown around with a lot of confusion and legalism. What, technically speaking, constitutes a virgin? Does it matter?

  • Date Night Ideas Part 11

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 8

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 7

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 6

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 10

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 9

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 5

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 4

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas

  • Date Night Ideas Part 2

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • Date Night Ideas Part 1

    One of the hardest things to do is come up with ideas for date night. Where can you go, what can you do, and how can you do it without breaking the bank? Today we discuss some ideas.

  • From Prude To Lewd

    Our adventure from sexual repression to complete openness.

  • The Guide to Moving in Together

    So you think you're ready to move in together? I don't mean to be your mom, but are you sure? Check out this guide to make sure you've crossed your Ts and dotted your Is!

  • BDSM 101: Erotic Asphyxiation

    Today’s guide is going to discuss erotic asphyxiation, what it is, and the major safety concerns it has.

  • The Feminist Submissive

    All too often on forums, social networking, and blogs, I hear the same question over and over again. "How can I be a feminist if I am a submissive?" Feminism and being a submissive are nor mutually exclusive. I am quite happily both things.

  • Why are kinky people kinky?

    I'm interested in why BDSM appeals to some people and not others. There isn’t any conclusive reason available but I consider theories related to pathology, genetics, and early development.

  • Celebrating Her Sexy Spirit--10 Ways to Make Her Feel Sexy

    Today’s article focuses on ways you can keep your partner feeling hot and sexy. Just a note this is a male’s perspective on how to keep a female feeling sexy.

  • Summer helped me find myself!

    Those of us who are above size average know all to well what kinda of emotions this time of year can bring to us. All of a sudden the few extra pounds we've gained over the winter, how un-tan we are and the memories of our last pedicure all come back to haunt us.

  • He can beat me, but I'm not a masochist.

    Roles, we are all assigned them. Even when we are playing with kink and fantasy, it still seems that we end up in roles that are assigned to us. I love my kink, and I love my dynamic. I let my Dom beat me until I am black and blue. I am not a masochist.

  • In Praise of Fisting

    There is nothing about fisting that doesn't sound terrifying, but it has become one of my favorite treats during sex. It is safer than you may think, and it is incredibly intense (physically and psychologically) on so many delicious levels. Don't write it off without at least doing a little research first!

  • Letting Your Guy Go Down On You

    Oftentimes I have heard women talk about how they are very self-conscious when it comes to oral sex. Today I want to reassure a lot of people that men like giving cunnilingus and help you let your man go down on you.

  • Giving more the you receive. A man's perspective.

    So here I sit, the middle of the night after a long walk on a cold breezey night. Just a little too chilly to be out there in a pair of shorts with no shoes. I know right now many of you are asking yourselves why I would do this and why it is of importance. I assure you it is but we will get to that part shortly after I set the scene a bit more, but let me start a few hours before the walk.

  • Ways to Get Your Partner In The Mood

    Today we are going to discuss ways which you can increase you and your partner’s sex drives for those times when one of you isn’t feeling that horny.

  • How to handle conversations of sexuality: A Guide for the not so open girl

    Have you ever met someone that is SO comfortable with his/her sexuality that YOU feel uncomfortable? I have and I'd like to share my experience with you.

  • Kink From Afar: Dealing With Long Distance In A BDSM Relationship. (Part 2)

    We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you're in for a wild ride! Here is part two on how to keep the kink alive when you're apart.

  • Talking Dirty to Your Partner

    Today I want to talk about some tips and tricks for talking dirty to your partner. I want to share some personal experiences and how I think we successfully integrated it into our sex lives.

  • BDSM 101—Wax Play

    Today I want to talk about what wax play is, what you need to do it, how to clean up after it, and some safety concerning it.

  • BDSM 101 -- Bondage Hoods

    Today I want to discuss bondage hoods. We will talk about what bondage hoods are, and we will discuss some safety issues surrounding them. We will also discuss how you can incorporate them into your play sessions.

  • BDSM 101 -- Finding a Partner Part

    Today I want to talk about how I found my partner. My partner was originally not kinky at all; I introduced her to the world of kink. I want to discuss some of the tips and tricks that I discovered while doing this.

  • BDSM 101—Mummification

    Today we are going to discuss what mummification is, what you need to do it, and some safety tips you should know about.

  • BDSM 101—Erotic Humiliation

    Today we are going to discuss erotic humiliation, what it is, how lots of people go about it, why people like it, and what are some safety considerations you should have.

  • BDSM 101—Blindfolding

    Today we are going to discuss blindfolding your partner, what you want to look for in a blindfold, why anyone would blindfold their partner, and what are some things you can do to your blindfolded partner.

  • BDSM 101 -- Self Bondage

    Today we are going to talk about self bondage. We will discuss what it is and how to go about it, as well as the risks that are associated with it.

  • Spicing up your sex life!

    If you want to learn new ways to make your sex life better, then read my article. I have more than one suggestion that may help you.

  • "Is She Wearing A DOG Collar?" (How To Maintain Some Of Your Kink In A Vanilla Setting, Without Scaring People, Part One)

    Wouldn't life be grand if all the kinksters of the world could run around in latex catsuits and spiked leather corsets, flogging each other and kneeling at their Master's feet under the table at McDonalds without worry? Unfortunately, the world is not quite ready for that; however, it IS possible to keep some of the kink alive, even when your local church group may be watching. Here are some tips to "vanilla-ize" your kinky relationship when necessary.

  • BDSM 101 — Household BDSM Toys

    Today we are going to look at various household items that be used for some BDSM fun. These are items that you likely have sitting around your house right now, too. We will discuss what you can use, and the pros and cons of each item.

  • Being Large and in Charge!

    This article is for all the "big girls." Whether you're shy and withdrawn or really loud and proud of who you are, I think all girls should see themselves as beautiful. It took me a very long time to like myself, but I did learn that self-confidence can grow overnight!

  • Ideas for a Sexually Satisfying Lesbian Relationship

    I'm 21 and in a lesbian relationship. It's also the first completely sexually satisfying relationship in my life. Every relationship has ups and downs. Here are some of the ways we keep our sex life exciting. Straight couples can benefit from this as well!

  • Sex Toy Envy

    Men masturbate. Women masturbate. That's just the way it is...

  • Define This: Cuckolding

    Cuckolding is a term that I have heard a lot of people discussing lately. As someone who engages in this fetish, I would like to shed some light on it.

  • Define This - That Marvelous Moment Right before He Cums

    It doesn't have a name and it doesn't last long. But there's that sudden moment where you know it's going to happen - and paying attention can make you feel great!

  • Enjoying The Joy Of Sex

    One of the most influential books ever published celebrated its fortieth birthday last year - and its sequel hits the same age in 2013. A personal celebration of Alex Comfort's "The Joy of Sex."

  • Another How-To Guide for the Aspiring Deep Throater

    Lesson one: Throw away the how-to guides.

  • Losing Faith In Words

    How what we say and the way we say it can make all the difference in the world.

  • BDSM Roller Coaster: Subspace to Sub-drop

    STOP! Before you delve into the world of BDSM power plays, there’s something you should know. Whether you're subbing or doming, you should know about the emotional and sometimes physical roller coaster that is the scope from subspace to sub-drop. The extreme highs and lows have risks of their own and can be incredibly intense for all persons involved.

  • You Always Remember The First Time

    There's a first time for everything, and it may not be the greatest. But it's always the time you remember the best....

  • A Rekindling

    My boyfriend and I found ourselves in a bit of a rut, and this is how we worked our way out of it.

  • BDSM 101 — Forced Feminization

    Today we are going to look at forced feminization; we will see what it entails, what the attraction is, and how people commonly enact it.

  • It's All In The Mind

    Many of us love to fantasize about our favorite celebrities while making love with our real life partner. But is it okay if we remember past lovers in the same way?

  • A Sexless Relationship

    Is it possible for a sexless relationship to last?

  • BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 2: Attending a Munch

    Today we will explore munches. What is a munch? What is the etiquette surrounding them? How can you get involved in one?

  • Blowjobs Aren't Sex, and I'm a Monkey's Auntie

    A fact of life or a cheater's charter? Some thoughts on an argument that I just don't understand.

  • Flogging 101: Choosing the Right Leather

    Not all leather is created equal. Shopping for a flogger requires knowing the differences between the wide variety of leathers available. Whether you like a sting, thud, or all of the above, this guide will teach you some of the important essentials about different leathers, and is an important first step in finding the flogger that's right for you!

  • BDSM 101 — Finding a Partner Part 1

    One of the common things I see people asking about is where they can find a kinky partner. People say that "it is really hard and difficult to find someone who is into the same things" as they are. So, in today’s article we are going to discuss some of the common places where you can find a partner who has similar interests as you.

  • BDSM 101 — Aftercare

    Today’s article focuses on what do you do once you have finished playing a partner; it's something called aftercare. We will look at what aftercare is, as well as how you do it.

  • The Joy of Journaling

    Have you ever thought of sitting down and recording your most intimate moments on paper? You should - you might be surprised at how much you discover.

  • Making Friends With Your Fancy-Man's Fleshlight

    Many guys enjoy watching their partner playing with her favorite toys. One woman reports on watching her partner playing with his.

  • Tell me what brought you here? Therapeutic ink and the stories that get them there.

    Being a tattoo artist I hear the life story of so many people. It touches me deep to my soul, and sometimes even scares me. I can now say I can see why memoirs are written, and may even write one of my own some day. Sometimes it is a pain junkie, sometimes a person with a heart wrenching story. The list goes on and on.

  • Don't Just Lie Back And Hope You'll Enjoy It

    You want your man to learn how to eat pussy? First, you should learn how to be eaten.

  • It's Only Premature If He Cums Before You Get There

    Taking the sting out of premature ejaculation

  • Road Head!

    A lighthearted guide to how not to do something you should never contemplate doing.

  • Penis Appreciation Day

    Our taxes are filed and spring is in the air. Let's make today a special day - for everyone.

  • Marriage Equality

    Gay Marriage; it's such a hot topic today. However, have we forgotten the rights written in our own Constitution? have we forgotten that "all men are created equal," and the fact that we all have the right for our own pursuit of happiness?

  • Two Gays and A Girl

    My childhood was that of a straight family with a foot in religion. It was tumultuous and two-faced. It wasn't until after the divorce and my father coming out, that I realized what a real loving family was.

  • Domestic Violence: The story of my mom and I

    My mother had me at a young age, and my father was a deadbeat who thought he was going to be a rockstar. When my mom finally worked up the courage to walk away, she met "Jeff" and entered into a whole new nightmare.

  • College Sex Revisited

    A while back, I wrote an article about sex during times of stress in college. As I come to the end of one of my busiest years of college, I have a little bit more to say.

  • Understanding Love

    "Love conquers all." Its a phrase that we have all heard one way or another. Even our favorite fairy tales give us all the idea that love is perfect, flawless, and everlasting. Yet, reality can be a bit more shocking. By understanding basic concepts of how relationships work, known as "The Family Systems Theory," we all can make sense of our relationship histories and make choices that will lead to a more satisfying, intimate relationship with the ones we love.

  • So You Want to Make a Baby? A Guide to Conceiving

    How hard can it be? Have lots of unprotected sex and it's bound to happen, right? Not always!

  • Define This: Popped Cherry

    Often used as a term to indicate that one's virginity has been lost or taken, this term has brought about many misconceptions about the hymen. This irrefutably sexist term has grossly led to shame and anxiety about first-time sex. But wait, there’s more to it than that...

  • How to Raise Your Pain Tolerance

    If you're into S&M, or have a partner you fancy who is, having a higher pain tolerance can definitely be beneficial. So here's some information on how to raise your pain tolerance.

  • I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

    Just a few short decades ago, women had no choice but to depend on others, but as the years go by, more and more women are breaking the mold of the past and standing on their own two feet. Independence is important for us all, especially since there won't always be someone there to provide for us.

  • Size Only Matters If He's Too Damned Big

    It wasn’t the angle, it wasn’t the mood, it wasn’t any of the things we normally blame. The fact is, he was just too huge. Some thoughts on why you shouldn’t click the Penis Enlargement links on that website.

  • The Years of Living Dangerously

    We all did things in our youths that we are now slightly alarmed by (or, at least, I hope we all did!) And now, in adulthood, maybe we'd like to again. A look back at the years of "I just wasn't thinking," and how not thinking again could be the best thing you've done.

  • Using the Warm Weather to Your Advantage

    Now that it's starting to warm up in the Western Hemisphere, how can you use the season change to your advantage? There are plenty of little ways the warm weather can not only help you refresh, revive, and renew your general state of mind, but your sex life as well!

  • The Loneliness of the Long Distance Sex Writer

    A lot of us here have written something that other people disagree with. All of us have read things that make us see red. Some thoughts on the nature of criticism, and why sex writers make such a popular target.

  • What is Sexual Healing?

    Sexual healing encompasses three
    broad, interrelated categories of work.

  • Erectile Dysfunction and the Infidelity Cure

    The pills don't work, nor does the therapy, or the lifestyle changes. He even gave up smoking. But, a quick kiss and cuddle with a comparative stranger.... What would you do next?

  • The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part Two: The Hook-up

    We left our lovers on the dance floor, on the verge of their very first kiss. You’ve decided to go through with it... actually, you decided before the first dance even started, but now it’s time to let him know. Read on!

  • The Thoughtless Kind

    It is surprisingly easy to go through life without ever realizing that something is seriously out of alignment and relationships often top the bill. A cautionary tale for everyone who assumes that things are just perfect.

  • Confessions of a Sex Worker

    Having worked as phone sex operator and a professional dominant, I have had many unusual experiences.

  • Why Would You Want To Do That?

    There are a lot of surveys out there asking for our thoughts and feelings about giving head. But what sort of answers do our interrogators expect?

  • The First Lie

    What is the first lie a guy ever tells his girlfriend? “I promise I won’t cum in your mouth."

    And what is the first lie she tells him? "Good”.

  • Meeting Master

    It’s that moment; you’ve come a long way, whether physically, emotionally, or both. You're now standing outside the door, the door that will lead you to meet your dominant or submissive cyber-partner for the first time. You take a deep breath, try to calm your nerves, and go through the door. This moment of the first face to face meeting can potentially make or break your relationship from this point on. Handling this moment is a huge deal.

  • BDSM 101-- Advanced Predicament Play

    Today we will talk about more advanced predicament play scenarios. Most of these require some additional equipment, planning and set up, but you will be rewarded with complex and interesting scenarios.

  • BDSM 101--Predicament Bondage

    Today we talk about what predicament bondage is and I will share some example scenarios that you can place your sub in.

  • BDSM 101 -- Pet Play

    Today I want to talk about Pet Play. This is a type of role-playing seen within BDSM, in which one individual takes on the persona of an animal and the dominant becomes their owner/trainer/controller. Today we will discuss why people like pet play, and the toys most commonly used with this type of play.

  • BDSM 101—Electrosex Part 2

    This article is going to focus on the different types of electrodes and where on the body they are used.

  • Learning to Be Dependent

    While being independent in certainly important, the ability to allow ourselves to depend on others is also just as vital.

  • BDSM 101—Electrosex Part 1

    Today we talk about a new type of play called electrosex. Electrosex uses electrical stimulation to cause pleasurable sensations.

  • Buying Nipple Clamps

    Today we look at nipple clamps. What are the differences between the styles? How does the intensity between them change? And what other features do clamps have?

  • BDSM 101 –Collaring

    Today, we look at collars, and the value and meaning that they have to many individuals.

  • BDSM 101 –Learning to Hit Your Partner Part 2

    In part 1 of learning to hit your partner, I discussed how you mentally prepare for some impact play if you are uncomfortable with it. Today, I want to talk about some strategies about actually implementing it.

  • BDSM 101 – Learning to Hit Your Partner

    The act of learning to hit your partner, when they ask for it, can be difficult for some people. This article helps explain why someone might enjoy it, and how you can learn to be okay with fulfilling your partner's sexual desires.

  • BDSM Shopping – Bondage Cuffs

    BDSM equipment can often be quite pricey, and there are often too many choices and it makes it very hard to decide what you want to buy. Today we will discuss the different features of bondage cuffs and hopefully help you pick what suits you best.

  • BDSM 101 – Negotiating Limits

    Today we discuss what are limits, why should I talk to my partner about limits, what is the difference between a soft and hard limit, and what are some ways you can discuss your limits.

  • Influential Women: Charlotte Moorman

    How a classically-trained cellist, and Yoko Ono's former roomie, challenged and changed one writer's world

  • BDSM 101-- Safewords

    Today we are going to discuss what is a safeword, do I need a safeword, and how do I used a safeword. This will in turn allow you have better and more fun role playing sessions with your partner.

  • How Gidget's Lesson Is A Thing Of the Past

    For me, independence isn't something I ever thought about. It was a natural consequence of being surrounded by independent women, who taught me the importance of doing things oneself and to take pride in being able to take care of myself.

  • BDSM 101 -- Impact Play

    The art of hitting a person with an instrument can create a large array of pleasant, erotic, and unique sensations. Today we will talk about the different types of toys, and how they vary in each category, and what effect that has on the experience they create.

  • BDSM DIY -- Wooden Paddle

    Today we explore how to make a wooden paddle. This articles talks briefly about how and why people spank, before discussing in detail how you can create your very own paddle and fulfill all of your spanking dreams!

  • BDSM 101 – Pegging

    Today we will talk about pegging. We will discuss: what it is, how to go about doing it, why people do it, and the different toys you can use for it.

  • Sub-Space: How it felt for me.

    If you're kinky, you may have heard of sub-space, or a sort of euphoric state that subs occasionally cross into during a scene. When I first found my kinky side, I thought just being part of a scene was causing me to dip into sub-space, but then I actually fell flat into it, and it was amazing.

  • BDSM DIY -- Spreader Bars

    So you're interested in BDSM and you go to buy some gear. You see prices of 100, 150, and 200 dollars and your heart sinks a bit. There's no way you can afford that, but have no fear. Below is a guide on how to make a very effective, but also very cost efficient, spreader bar.

  • BDSM 101--Rope Bondage

    There are many implements you can use to tie someone up. One of the most versatile of these is rope. Today's article will focus on the different types of rope and positions associated with rope bondage.

  • BDSM 101 -- Chastity

    Chastity play is a type of BDSM that denies a person the ability to have sex and masturbate. Today, we will talk about it, what toys are used to enforce it, and why someone would enjoy the experience.

  • BDSM 101--Cock and Ball Toys

    Today's article will focus on cock and ball toys. These are male toys that focus on the penis and testicles. We will learn about the different types of toys that exist, the sensations they provide, and why people might want to try them.

  • BDSM 101 -- What is it?

    Many couples are looking to add something new to their sex lives and with the recent advent of BDSM becoming more mainstream, many look towards it as an activity, but are unsure where to start or what it is. Or you may have an interested partner, but do not really know what BDSM is about. So, in the following articles, I want to explain what it is, why someone would like that, and how to safely do it. Today's articles just understanding what it is.

  • The Anatomy of a Dry Spell

    The anatomy of a dry spell, and why you and everyone else's outlooks need to change.

  • Independence or Death… or plan B.

    The world is ever changing and everyone has different approaches to life. However, no matter what you think, it’s paramount to be able to rely one number one. Here’s why:

  • BDSM 101 -- Gags

    BDSM play often involves a lot of toys, and deciding on the one that suits you best can be difficult. This article focuses on why people use gags, what the different types are, and how to safely use them.

  • BDSM DIY -- Rope Flogger

    When it comes to BDSM equipment, it can get very costly very fast, and you may not even be sure if your fantasies will line up with what you truly like. So here is a guide to make a very cheap yet fun rope flogger. So you can both have a flogger with which to have fun and do a test run to see if you want to invest in the future.

  • The Last Dirty Little Secret

    The Man Who Won't Eat Pussy - Fact or Fiction?

  • BDSM 101 - Step 1 Communication!

    So you have decided you want to try out the big world of BDSM, but where in the world do you start? You start with talking to your partner. It is the fundamental aspect of BDSM and I will tell you why.

  • Don't Tell Me What to Do

    Freedom from possession, jealousy, and control by my partners is a really important part of my relationships. I value my personal independence in making decisions about my body, finances, and life, even down to what I wear.

  • To the Anti-Porn Brigade; it's Always 1984

    The specter of porn legislation has raised its head again in Europe, and this time they mean it

  • Forget Taste and Texture... Forget the Guy as well. Swallowing Cum is FUN FUN FUN

    Sex is not a duty, it should not be task. And a blowjob should not be hard work. Some thoughts on getting the most out of giving head, and getting even more from his orgasm.

  • Sex and Babies: Can the two co-exist?

    Oh. My. God. Right there, that's the spot, keep going, keep going...oh god, I'm going to - OLD MACDONALD HAD A FARM, E-I-E-I-O

  • Woman's Magazines: The Modern Man's Guide to Women

    Attention Men Listen Closely: If you really want to know what women want, read what she reads. Women's magazines are a great way to get insight into the female mind.

  • Reclaiming Independence

    Independence can be very difficult to get back once you've lost it, but finding yourself again is worth every bit of effort.

  • Girls v. Grown Women

    Many people say that girls are less mature than grown women and that grown women have better relationships. But who defines maturity here? Is maturity the only factor in a relationship's success/failure?

  • Oral Sex and Swallowing: How good is it?

    Many girls love to blow their boyfriends or partners before intercourse, or just for the sake of the activity. But sometimes guys cum during oral, and the question is: should the girl swallow or not?

  • Single vs. Involved

    The grass isn't always greener, whichever side of the fence you are on, though it often may appear it is. It's all a matter of perspective.

  • Long-Distance Relationships and How to Make Them A Little Bit Easier

    Long-distance relationships are always difficult. Without any sort of physical contact, it can be easy to feel lonely, no matter how often you and your partner communicate. However, there are many things you can do to feel a little bit closer to your significant other, even when he/she is hundreds of miles away.

  • Get it While It's Hot: The Romantics of Cooking

    There's very little more attractive to me than cooking a meal with my man. And we don’t even have to be naked to do it! Here are a few reasons why I get hot from a hot meal.

  • Girls and Porn

    Every guy has at least seen one porn movie in his life, but many argue that women don't watch or enjoy porn. That's total BS! Here's why:

  • Rough sex and domination

    Many people like sex to be rough and vigorous, to be dominated and taken over by someone else. But to what extent?

  • Transitioning to Male (Naturally), and the Adventures Along the Way.

    Have you ever wondered why some transguys "pass" so much better than others? Well, here are my tips for how you can confidently walk into any place and be seen as male, all before starting hormones.

  • No Ruts Allowed: Tried and True Tips for Unlilting Passion

    Has your sex life succumbed to the dreaded 3-letter word: Rut? Here are some tips to help keep your relationship in a permanent honeymoon phase!

  • Broaching the Subject: Introducing Your Girl to the Joys of Prostate Play

    Do you love the tingling, wavelike feeling of prostate play? Do you want to include your significant other but don't know how to bring it up? In this article I will discuss the way I broached the subject and reinvigorated our sex life.

  • Sexuality and Christianity: My journey to finding peace and reconciliation.

    This article is an account of my experience with my journey through sexuality and the church.

  • Valentine's Day Can't Beat Spontaneity

    Valentine’s Day is just never as good as any other day my partner and I spend together, which is part of the reason I have never celebrated it. Each of my partners over the years have asked me, “So what do you want to do for Valentine’s Day?” and I’ve never known what to say. I ask them what they want to do, to turn it on them. If they seem really excited about it, I’ll go forth with whatever they want to do. I personally don’t care about Valentine’s Day unless my partner does.

  • Medi-Kink: Wanna Play Doctor?

    As children we've all played doctor at some point, and there are so many 'naughty nurse' costumes available on the market it's no wonder some people have a medical fetish. That urge to be examined and taken care of is almost a basic need. For others the role is reversed and they can't help but relish in the power that goes with playing doctor, nurse, or dentist. But what is medical fetish, who does it, and what do they do?

  • Valentine's Day: Not Just One Day

    Valentine's Day should not be the only day we show our loved ones we care because our love should be expressed daily.

  • I am a Sister Wife

    I am a sister wife, and here is the why and how!

  • Define This: Petplay

    Here, kitty, kitty! Come and take a glimpse into the world of Petplay. Know what it is and what it isn't.

  • Tired of Sex? Try Having It

    More and more married couples are falling into sexless ruts in recent years, but it doesn't have to be that way.

  • I <3 Me! How to Spend Valentine's Day Alone and Love It!

    Being alone on any holiday can put us in a terrible mood, but being single on Valentine's Day is sometimes the worst. Happy couples can make you want to retch when you’re single. So how do you enjoy a day notoriously for couples when you're not in a relationship?

    Nobody wants to be alone on V-Day but sometimes it can't be helped. That's no reason not to enjoy the day and show your love for the most important person in your life: You!

  • Mind Kink: Exploring Consensual Non-Consensual

    Consensual non-consensual (C.N.C.) is sometimes thought of as 'rape-play.' When done correctly and with respect for your partner, C.N.C. can be a very passionate and enjoyable thing. We've all had fantasies of being home alone and suddenly our partner dressed as a burglar comes in and 'burgles' us. The very idea of a trusted partner taking us forcefully and making us enjoy it can be highly erotic. C.N.C is a way to safely explore these fantasies and enjoy them fully.

  • Sometimes Father Does Know Best

    Although I am not great at writing I decided to put my story out there because I hear so many people complaining about their parents setting them up on dates. I want to show everyone that sometimes it can be a good thing, too!

  • Define This: Female Copulatory Vocalizations

    Is there more to your moans and groans than you thought? Let's see what the science says about sounds and sex.

  • What Do Women Over 50 Look For When Buying Sex Toys?

    Many women over 50 can tell you their sex drive is anything but dead, but many times there are circumstances which may prevent them from exploring and enjoying sexual freedom. Sometimes their partners are unwilling or unable to perform, other times the partner is simply absent. This doesn't mean a woman should deny herself pleasure. So what does a woman over 50 look for when buying a sex toy?

  • The “Traditional” Family? Anything but.

    The argument for "One Man. One Woman." Is anything but traditional. Looking back at human history, you'll be surprised that that so-called "traditional" family is the farthest thing from traditional.

  • The Trials of a Long Distance Relationship

    Long distance relationships can be insanely difficult. Without constant interaction in person, you can easily come across a variety of issues. However, it can be done. Let me show you how!

  • How to prepare yourself before anal sex or anal play

    Many girls want to try anal sex but are afraid that "something" might happen that will embarrass them. Here are some things, that you can do before anal sex, to help you feel more prepared.

  • The Process Of Understanding

    I know that most people look at a new and different relationship style that seems to be functional and wonder how on Earth this began. I will attempt to answer that question as fully as I can.

  • Anti-Depressants and your sex life.

    Being bi-polar took a toll on my sex life, so I got on medication and that took a toll on my sex life. I came to the realization that there is just no winning.

  • Mutual Masturbation is a wicked alternative to going "all the way"

    Looking for something new to do in bed? With a new partner and not ready to do the penetration route just yet? Having trouble figuring out exactly how your lover likes it? A bit of an exhibitionist or voyeur? Mutual masturbation may be new to some people, but it can be one of the hottest, simplest acts for both foreplay or the main attraction.

  • My Coming Out

    Coming out of the figurative closet tends to be a difficult path for many people. It’s not just working up the will to tell everyone else, but admitting it to yourself.

  • Does Size Really Matter?

    Many people are hyped up over the idea that the size of your penis affects your sexual performance. Is that really true and if not why do people think this way?

  • The New Year is Going to Bring More Intimacy to My House!

    With 2013 in full swing, I wanted to make this year more memorable than all the years preceeding it.

  • The rights of a father in terms of abortion.

    When it comes to abortion rights, you know where you stand. However, do you know where you stand when it comes to the rights of the father of the unborn child?

  • A Beginner's Guide to Online Dating

    I have done my share of blind dates and internet dating over the past 20 years on and off. I am happily taken now and thought I would share some of what I learned. I've tried most of the popular sites and some off the beaten path too with mixed results. There have been disasters, some great successes, and everything in between, but I'd say the good experiences definitely outweighed the bad. You just have to use a little common sense, have tons of patience, and be true to yourself.

  • Getting the Snip, Part Three: Another Option

    After deciding as a couple to get a vasectomy (part 1) and discovering that complications would prevent this from happening quickly (part 2), we had to look again at our birth control options.

  • The Highs and Lows of it

    Most nights when the lights go off, there is that moment where sex is a possibility before drifting off to sleep. My heart races and I can feel the blood rushing to my lady bits in a wonderful wave. As my fingers wander around her skin, hoping to catch something, there's always the thought in the back of my head "Will this happen tonight?"

  • Clutter vs Convenience: Books in the bedroom?

    From the ubiquitous 70's offering of The Joy of Sex through Madonna's 'Sex' tome and almost every issue of Cosmopolitan, there was always a certain appeal in having 'coffee table' books & magazines that not only showed our open-mindedness to select friends, but also meant we could just grab a title and take it off to bed with us. But do we still need books for that, or can we get the same reading enjoyment out of our Kindles & Tablets?

  • NGS: "Nice Guy Syndrome"

    Folks, it’s time we all sat down and had a serious talk about “Nice Guy” syndrome.
    Don’t know what I’m talking about? Then you have probably had the good fortune to never come across a man suffering from this specific psychosis. Or maybe you have, and just had no way of describing what was actually going on with the guy until now.

  • Men: Don't Feel Worried About Your Woman's New Sex Toy

    Many men feel anxious and uncomfortable when their woman gets a toy. I am here to tell them why they shouldn't feel that way.

  • Shame & Masturbation

    Most of you would agree that masturbation is A-Okay! But did you have to overcome a self-imposed reluctance? Or worse, an idea of societal shame? This article looks at how two people, a male (Kenneth) and female (Michele), dealt with their insecurities (and those of others) and eventually became (mostly) comfortable with their self-lovin’.

  • Old-Fashioned Dating Etiquette for Modern Times

    Some say that chivalry is dead, but perhaps its rules have just evolved so that we can use them easily in today's world. Old-fashion dating etiquette can still hold up in modern times, even though our lifestyles and culture have changed.

  • A New Year For Eden Lit

    Changes are the order of the day for 2013! Eden Lit is embracing the new year with passion and we are having a great time. We are 3 years old this year and it seems like time to make a few changes to the way we do things.

  • S-T-I Can't Believe This Is Happening To Me!

    How can a piece of latex change your life? In more ways than I had considered. It took catching something to make me realize that the few seconds it takes to wrap it can make all the difference in the world.

  • DINKs: Double Income, No Kids

    "First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes The Baby In The Baby Carriage." Many of us have sung this little song as children and come to accept this as just basic common sense of how life is supposed to be. But is it really? Isn't having children a choice? Is having children really a choice if it's expected of you? That doesn't seem like a fair description of the word choice.

  • Stuck in the Friend Zone

    The idea of the "friend zone", at least the way many men use it, is one of the most subtly misogynistic relationship concepts we have. Here's why.

  • Naughty Teacher Nixed Over Pornographic Past Will Not Be Allowed To Teach Anymore

    A 32 year old female teacher was fired for performing in porn, during a lull in her career and due to financial hardship. Learn more about the ordeal here.

  • Why Are Some Forms of Attraction Deemed "Sexualities," while Others Are Philias?

    Pedophilia, necrophilia, zoophilia. What do all of these words have in common, and why do they often evoke a reaction of "ugh?" As someone whose biggest fetish is pregnancy and who fits much of the criteria of maiesiophilia, the terms "philia" and "paraphilia" interest me. Why are some forms of attraction deemed "sexualities" (such as homosexuality, demisexuality, pomosexuality), while others are philias?

  • My Journey to Submissive Bliss

    This is my journey in submission and finding who I really am. Self-discovery can be a long, hard road with many bumps along the way. How do you tell your partner that you desire more in your relationship? Is it hopeless if you are married vanilla?

  • A Gentlemen Always Lets The Lady Cum First.

    Call it common courtesy. Call it being a gentlemen. Call it whatever you like. If you're allowing your lady to cum first, you, my friend, are a prime example of the refined, exquisite gentlemen of sex etiquette. Alas, many men out there refuse their lady this fine privilege. Hell, some don't even know if their partner has cum. This, my readers, can not go on any longer. Not in the year 2013!!! We outlived the Mayans for Christ sakes! Surely this too shall pass. I hope...

  • Your Cheatin’ Heart … Or Is It?

    Life is lived almost exclusively in the gray zone. Things are rarely completely black or white, right or wrong, good or bad. Yet despite the very obvious fact that almost nothing is absolute and “morality” is often very much in the eye of the beholder, there is a very strong tradition of looking askance at “extracurricular” sex by married folks or other heavily committed couples.

    Monogamy is considered the rule. The gold standard. The “right” way to go.

  • You don't have to be gay to enjoy anal play.

    This article is less of a "how-to" and more of a demonstration that the enjoyment of anal penetration or stimulation has no bearing on one's sexuality. It is a common misconception by many hetero females and males alike that any man who likes his ass penetrated is "gay" or at a minimum, bisexual. That is simply untrue.

  • In Defense of Monogamy: It's Not Selfish

    In modern society, many people think monogamy is outdated, restrictive, and most of all, selfish. But is it really?

  • A Beginner's Guide To Safewords: What Is A Safeword And Why Do I Need One?

    What do you do when "YES, YES, YES" turns into "NO, NO, NO?" Safewords are an invaluable tool to have when you are involved in rough play. In this guide, I will explain what a safeword is and why they are good to have, because in the BDSM world "No" doesn't always mean "No."

  • Our Agreement or How I Learned to Stop Stressing and Enjoy Sex Again

    My fiancé and I have an agreement about sex. Our agreement is that we will not engage in sex of any kind unless I am the one who initiates it. I know, it sounds a little bit strange, doesn’t it? Maybe even a little bit draconian? I thought so too at first, but this agreement has changed not only our sex life, but our relationship as whole for the better. But maybe I should back up a bit and start from the beginning.

  • Is It The Father's Choice Too?

    If you are deciding to have an abortion while in a relationship, shouldn't the father have a say?

  • The Struggle Over Choice

    It's never an easy choice to make, but when the mother and father cannot reach an agreement, how is a plan of action eventually reached?

  • The Fine Line Between "Wanna F@ck?" and "F@CK ME!!!"

    I make it no secret that I have had many sexual encounters in my lifetime. Some of them were more memorable then others. This is largely due to the things that were said during coitus. I wish I could tell you that it was all hot, sexy and really got my motor running, but alas, I can not. Nine times out of ten it was pure rubbish. I'm here to tell you now that talking dirty is an art form.

  • Define This: Looning

    It comes in many colors. It's smooth and fun to play with. If you put your mouth on it and blow, it'll get big. What is it?

  • Masturbation: It is Perfectly Fine!

    Flicking your bean, flogging the dolphin, jerking the gherkin...Whatever you call it, it is perfectly safe. It's also healthy!

  • Pregnancy and Trans People

    When you say, "Should the father have a say in the pregnancy?" what do you mean by "father" and do you mean it cis-sexistly? What about trans* people?

  • Asexuality

    In a world full of sex (this site!), an unrecognized portion of the population identifies as asexual. In all ways, they are normal, well-adjusted people, yet profess no interest in sexual acts. All they want is to be understood.

  • New Years Resolutions ~ Sexually Speaking

    My sexual resolutions for the New Year are...

  • A Father's Rights Don't Trump A Mother's

    While I do acknowledge that a father has rights, I simply can't view a scenario in which they trump a woman's rights.

  • Being Spanked

    I like to be spanked. Why? Several reasons, all of which I talk about here.

  • It Takes a Village

    While it's tempting for single mothers to view their contribution as the only one that really matters, it's important to acknowledge the role of father to a child.

  • Old-Fashioned Guide for Modern Lovers

    Is there a place for the quaint rules of old-fashioned courtship in the hook-up generation?

  • Should His Opinion Count?

    The choice to have an abortion is one of the many things that empowers us as women. The right to make a choice for our own bodies. However, a child is not created by just a woman. Should the father have a say in the case of an abortion?

  • SexIs Subjective: Gentleman's Choice?

    Should men be included in the decision making choice for abortion?

  • The Tale of a Lesbian Lolita

    Being a Lolita is tricky enough. Combining an alternate sexuality with that can sometimes make your peers give you some pretty odd looks!

  • Cis People, Read This If You Plan on Dating Someone Who Is Trans* or Queer

    Are you cis and dating or considering dating a person who is trans* or queer and you're not sure how to handle the relationship? Even if you don't feel very sure, being in a relationship with someone who's trans* or queer can be a pretty complicated thing, because they may actively question things you otherwise don't. So read on, even if you're feeling confident that you can handle the relationship, because trust me, even if you think you know it all, you don't!

  • Long Distance Relationships and Sexual Desire

    Many people may experience a long distance relationship but how to deal with sexual desire and lust is a problem that many face.

  • Ho, Ho, Hoe?

    Opening a sex toy you purchased can feel exciting and decadent; opening a sex toy gift can make you feel wanted, wanton, and maybe a little dirty...

  • Abortion. Rights of the Father?

    Being pregnant is already a difficult thing. However in life, nothing is simple and abortion is possible. Abortion complicates things enough in itself, but the right to choose exacerbates debates and blurs lines. What about the rights of the father? I posit that his rights only extend so far, but as usual the answer is not entirely clean cut as the one I suggest.

  • Online Dating: The Cyber Search For Real World Love

    Learn a little bit about online dating and see if it might be right for you!

  • Porn For the Rest of Us: Top 5 Reasons to Read Fanfiction

    The phrase “porn for women” is thrown around a lot these days, sometimes mockingly accompanied by a photo of a man doing the dishes, but you might be surprised to learn that there is a massive community of porn – real, explicit, kinky, delicious porn – created by women, for women. I'm talking about fanfiction.

  • Donated Sperm? Now Donate Your Paycheck.

    A Kansas man who donated his sperm to a childless lesbian couple has now been sued – successfully – for child support.

  • The First Time [With a Man] (AKA I Was Young and Stupid)

    I always imagined my first time being special. I never expected it to be like this...

  • I Had Sex With My Bestfriend

    I've always been told sex with friends should be avoided at all costs or it will ruin the friendship. That's just not always the case...

  • Bustin’ My Balls: Or How A Vasectomy Hits A Man Where it Hurts

    When I had my vasectomy, it wasn’t merely physical discomfort I had to deal with.

  • Lolita Anti-Sexuality

    In the minds of some girls, Lolitas should never have so much as a sexual thought. It's a common happening in the communities to even begin to think like this. Why? Are they right? Hell no!

  • Anaphrodisiacs

    While you can read a lot about libido-enhancing aphrodisiacs and what to give your significant other to eat if you want an exciting night, there is little talk about natural anaphrodisiacs, foods and herbs that blunt the libido. So, here is everything to know about them.

  • Who has the right to decide?

    Being adult means we are responsible for our actions and their consequences. We have the ability to create and destroy lives – but such power comes with huge responsibility. Who can make such decisions? Who can shoulder such responsibility? Who can have a say over a life created by two people that would belong to two?

  • He With the Clean Internet Profile May Cast the First Stone.

    Sexting, package shots, World of Warcraft??? As politicians get blamed for more of their online activities, what happens to regular people who enjoy the same activities?

  • Breastfeed Your Man

    Would you breastfeed your man? Breast milk is extremely nutritious. There are many couples who enjoy an adult breastfeeding relationship everyday. Between adults, it can be a very rewarding, pleasurable, and intimate act.

  • The Juvenile Long-Haulers: What Young Love Can Be.

    To many, college is a time of exploration- but how do you fit that into a long-term, completely monogamous relationship? People tend to assume that "young love" is frivolous, romantic fun, but can't it be real? Let this introductory story warm your heart and remind you of the love that you feel for your honey.

  • Cock-Stuffing

    In this article, you will learn about cock-stuffing, or urethral play, and the risks associated with it. While urethral play can be a gratifying sexual experience, it can also harvest unseen dangers.

  • Letters to myself

    When I was still a teen, I think around 14 or 15, I red a book series where the main character girl would write letters to her older self, to be opened and red ten years later. I liked the idea and decided to follow her suit and started writing for myself. Here I would like to share same excerpts with you that have any relevance to sexuality.

  • Porn Desensitization

    While porn is a fun and exciting experience in aiding sexual intercourse or masturbation, there are some harmful elements to watching an excess of it. In essence, our brain's reward center is the culprit. Unfortunately, many people suffer from porn addiction. Recognizing what causes porn addiction is the second step in recovery. The first is realizing there is a problem.

  • How To: Be a Camgirl

    For those who have contemplated webcamming for money, here is a quick and easy guide to get you started. Webcamming can have some major financial benefits, but like any job, it requires hard work.

  • SexIs Subjective: Careful Who You Give To! (And Have Fun!)

    Be careful how you gift people with sexy gifts. Overall, though: Do it! Gift your partner with something sexy! You BE that sexy Santa!

  • SexIs Subjective: Giving Sex Toys as Gifts

    If there are people on your shopping list, who you know could benefit from a few sex toys and a few good orgasms, open up your mind to the idea. You may just become their favorite gift giver!

  • Making Marriage Work

    Many marriages that end in divorce can be saved by ultimately targeting any issues the union may have and making a strong effort to openly communicate with their partners. Some marriages are irreparable but there are some that require a bit of TLC. So here is some advice on having a better relationship with your spouse and overall benefiting the relationship.

  • BDSM 101: Aftercare

    When you start planning your first scene, you want to do everything you can to make it as perfect as possible. What you might forget is to plan what will happen after the scene is over.

  • Can't Stand to Attention?

    Having trouble getting your friend up? No worries! Many men may experience this problem once in a while and I'll give you some tips on how to get your friend standing up at attention!

  • My Cam Girl Experience

    I was just a broke college girl who needed some extra cash. I discovered I also needed some extra kink. A Master took me as his Sub and I learned a few things. I also lost a Master in the process.

  • BDSM 101: What websites to join and which ones to avoid

    When you first find the world of BDSM, one of the things that you probably want to do is learn as much as you can. A good way to do that is join a fetish website so that you can connect with like-minded individuals. But like with everything else, there are both good and bad websites.

  • Sexis Subjective: Sex Toys Make Great Gifts... Sometimes

    You may be able to tell who needs the gift of orgasms this Christmas, however, not everyone will be receptive to a sex toy. How can you tell who to grant some sexiness to, and who just gets monogrammed pencils? Follow these simple rules.

  • Sanford and (ex) Spouse

    Remember that governor who disappeared, claimed he was hiking the Appalachian Trail and was really in Argentina with his mistress? He wants another chance at being your latex salesman.

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Five)

    I just realized that I have dragged you all in to a story that has no ending. It's still unwritten. This could have a tragic ending. Or hopefully, God willing, a very happy one. Either way, I'm sorry I lead you to this. I'm sorry you're here for the ride. Just be with me here, that's all I ask. No matter what, please know, I do not want to hurt you. Hopefully it will never come to that.

  • Anal Play

    Are you wanting to try anal but have doubts about you or your partner? If you are read my article and I hope it helps.

  • SexIs Subjective: Toys for Private, Sweaters for Family

    The holidays are about love and family, and family is all about respect.

  • Sex in Triplicate

    Threesomes can be a controversial subject among couples, despite it being a very common fantasy. It’s not hard to see why bringing another person in could cause some serious friction in a relationship; after all, the point of many modern pairings is avoiding cheating or temptation to cheat on a partner. But is jealousy the only reason that the idea of a threesome can rub a couple the wrong way? Could there be some sort of disparity between what SORT of threesome the partners are looking for?

  • Kink vs. Fetish

    You say “toe-may-toe,” maybe I say “toe-mah-toe.”

  • The Science of Love and Heartbreak

    Ever wonder why you fall in love? Why it doesn't last? What you can do about it?

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Four)

    The worst part of our struggle was about to unfold. It would change us forever and leave us wondering if this foolish wish was truly outside our grasp.

  • Simple Fantasies

    Fantasy; where does your mind go? Does it really have to be something unrealistic or improbable in order for it to be defined as a fantasy?

  • Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Three)

    Our battle to become pregnant had a lot of downs and one very special up.

  • Clearing the Hurdles: Our Struggle to Conceive a Child (Part Two)

    We have battled with ourselves, blaming everything from the types of lube we use, the possibility I have a low sperm count, straight down to the positions we use during sex. However in the end, the answer was still not clear. To put it simply, we are caught in the middle of a steeplechase of unknowns. All we can hope for is to clear these hurdles along the way.

  • BDSM 101: Personal Responsibility

    Just because you're a submissive doesn't mean you aren't responsible for your actions.

  • BDSM 101: Not Everyone Needs To Know

    People that are new to kink often ask "how do I explain my kink to my family and friends?" Whenever I see this question, I wonder why they feel the need to tell people.

  • BDSM 101: How to find your limits

    When you're new to the world of BDSM, you might find it difficult to pick out your limits when there are many types of play you've never been exposed to.

  • BDSM 101: BDSM Myths

    There are many things that you may hear when you start researching about BDSM that might make you tilt your head and go "huh?" Here are a few of them that aren't always true.

  • BDSM 101: Pick Your Label

    When it comes to D/s relationships, there are so many labels that it can get a little confusing. Here is a guide with a basic explanation of some of the more common labels.

  • Pushing Sexual Boundaries: When the Lines get Blurred

    If there is one thing that has been blurred for me, it would have to be boundaries. When does something stop being itself, and transform into something completely opposite? In my love life, sex has become one of those things.

  • Define This: Monogamish

    Sounds related to monogamous, and it is - but it's not the same thing.

  • The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Four" THE END

    A year later and things were looking up. We were engaged, I was saving up money for the honeymoon in Vegas, we were looking at houses and planning on having a child. Things were really picture perfect. Despite a few minor shouting matches, I seriously thought we had this beat. On the other end, I alienated myself from my friends. I spent every waking hour with “Tara." She became my world. She was my everything. It would take a a lot to snap me out of it.

  • The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Three"

    The road I was on was looking bleak. I couldn't turn back, I could not give up on her. No matter what my friends had to say, I would stick by her side. Thick or thin, I had a point to prove. No matter how stupid it seemed to anyone else. I would make this relationship work, even if it killed me.

  • You, Your Partner, and Your Kink

    To nuzzle is one thing, but what if you need to tell your partner you prefer a bite? Or handcuffs? Will they accept it, or will they run far away?

  • Push Her Magic Button Just Right

    So you decided you wanted to know more about pleasuring yourself or your girlfriend? Or maybe she simply pulled your hand on her clitoral area? You looked up tutorials and guides, and there came a line: “stimulate her clit”. But it arrived without instructions.

  • Why Real Lesbians Can Love Sex Toys

    Let's get one thing straight: I'm not. In fact, I've never even slept with someone of the opposite sex. However, I love getting pounded when my girlfriend wears a strap-on. Does that mean that I'm not a real lesbian?

  • Not So Progressive – Britain to Make Gay Marriage Illegal

    Advocates for same-sex marriage in America scored some major victories in the fight for marriage equality this election – but their supporters across the pond didn’t fare so well.

  • The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Two"

    "Tara" had become my project. My goal in life. To show the rest of the world around us that a person could be changed for the better through the power of love. She would see how much I cared and loved her, simply by me not giving up on her. Surely it would work. I just had to stay by her side no matter how many trips to the ER it took.

  • Holiday Connection - Half of Them Come in Camouflage, Anyway

    An interesting swing on how no sex can bring a couple closer together.

  • My Discovery Of The Big "O"

    "Oh! I give up trying to achieve orgasm it is too much work!" "My health problems are the reason I cannot achieve orgasm so I am a helpless cause!" "I am to busy to think of sex right now!" Do these sound like you? Do you want answers? I did too. This is how I began my search for the big "O".

  • The Naughty Stocking

    So it's the holiday season, a time of peace, love and joy, right? Or are you more like me, frantically shopping to get everyone on your list done, trying to pacify all the relatives and feeling like your love life goes on the back burner? Here's what I'm doing this year to make sure that doesn't happen.

  • The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend Part One

    For three years I was in a violent relationship. The biggest struggle with it all wasn't the abuse, but rather explaining my situation to family and friends. No one could believe that a 5' 2” 120 pound girl could do that much damage to a 6' 4” 190 pound man. It wasn't until the 3rd visit to the ER that my “awaking” happened. It was then that I realized that even men can be victims of abuse. Mental and physical, and I didn't need to take it anymore!

  • Trigger Warning - Loss of Control

    Loss of control - where the fantasy can take you if you continue allowing it to be a fantasy.

  • SexIs Subjective: My Sister-In-Law wants to give my Mother a vibrator.

    My sister-in-law wants to give my mother a vibrator. I don't think this is a good idea. I swear her doctor's got her on goofballs.

  • Bringing a Fantasy to Life

    Each month, SexIs Social asks us to look at different topics. This month's focus is "Wish Lists" and this week is specifically about "Fantasy." We all have that favorite fantasy that we return to, I know I certainly do. One of my favorite repeat fantasies has helped me expand my own sex life.

  • Have You Been Naughty?

    Are you dreaming of a naughty Christmas? You are not alone. Thanks to the "50 Shades of Grey" trilogy, 2012 has officially become the year of kink. Moreover, women seem to be the driving force behind this sexual explosion. LELO, a leading designer of personal pleasure objects, recently released their yearlong global survey. With 19,000 women respondents from 8 countries, the results may surprise you, unless you already have your grey silk tie.

  • Learning The Ropes: A Guide To Different Bondage Rope

    It is easy to get lost in the knotted jungle of ropes. Here is some help for finding your way out of the forest!

  • Daddy's Home!

    Call me daddy. Ooh yeah, that's the way I like it!

  • Adding toys to your sex life.

    Are you curious about bringing a little bit of spice to the bedroom?

  • Kinky University - College Campus BDSM Clubs

    With "50 Shades of Grey," the once hidden world of kink, fetish, and BDSM has stepped out of the dark shadows of society and is now front and center in the limelight. Not only in book stores, but also on many university campuses across America, the world of BDSM is coming out of the closet and its practitioners are finding acceptance.

  • Euphoric Over Dysphoria

    The APA has decided that being transgendered should no longer be considered a disorder.

  • How to have safe (and yes enjoyable) anal sex.

    This isn't your average "Go after it!!!" mission my friend. If you're going to explore places unknown, then both of you need to be informed. Otherwise it could be messy. No pun intended.

  • Understanding The Female Orgasm.

    If you've been having trouble reaching the big "O," it may not be your partner's inability to please you. It may be a misunderstanding as to what part of your lady bits needs to be manipulated for an earth-shattering climax.

  • Some of the best places and ways to hide your sex toys

    If you have a surplus of toys, this can mean one thing for sure. You may have few places to hide them. Never fear, I'm here to help any way I can.

  • Why Most Men Are Afraid of Sex Toys.

    Even in today’s day and age, most men still shy away from sex toys. They see them as a threat to their manhood, or even worse, a replacement for their god given penis. I'm here to tell all men to shut the funk up! Sex toys are not a dangerous thing that will destroy your relationship with your partner. Sex toys will enhance your love life tenfold. As long as you learn to stop worrying and fall in love with the joy that is a sex toy filled love life.

  • It's hard out there for a sex toy lover, especially if you're straight.

    Why on God's green earth is it hard for people to grasp that straight men can love sex toys too? Or why do they think you must be gay?

  • Five Things Bisexual Women are Tired of Hearing

    Okay, you’ve come out as bisexual. You’re definitely in love with cocks, and you’re definitely in love with vaginas. Sculpted chests and soft breasts are both appealing. So why should you have to choose? You can love both, because isn’t the LGBT*QIA movement all about loving who you want?

  • How to influence the taste of your semen

    Ever wondered what it would be like if your partner swallowed your cum? Maybe even tried it? And did you ever wonder what it would be like for your partner to swallow it?

  • The power in his hands - a guide to fingering a girl

    So you decided you wanted to treat your girlfriend better and enhance the experience for her – good decision! Women like to be pampered and appreciated, and they are able to reach several orgasms during one act – so yes, why not?

  • SexIs Subjective: Hell yes! Oh...hell...no?

    To buy toys, or not to buy toys...that's the question!

  • How My Husband Made Me Sexy!

    He's my husband and from the moment I met him he claimed he saw something special in me; something I couldn't see. He has spent many years patiently teaching me to see myself as he sees me, and this is how it all began.

  • Define This: Peodeiktophilia

    Can you even pronounce it? Learn what it is!

  • SexIs Subjective: What's In The Box?

    Everyone loves receiving gifts, but what about giving or receiving sex toys as gifts?

  • Two Lovers and A Vibrator.

    Have you been wanting to introduce a toy into the bedroom but aren't entirely sure how to do it? If you want to know the benefits of using toys in the bedroom or exactly how to introduce the toy itself...keep reading!

  • I pondered, do most women know if they like cunnilingus?

    Thoughts from myself and other men and women on the joys or lack thereof of women receiving oral sex.

  • Words have power - a guide to talking dirty

    So talking dirty makes your blood boil, but you do not know where to start. Or your partner whispered in your ear to do it. Or simply you’re curious. Then this is the right place for you to start – as words have power and they can spice things up!

  • Coming out as a Cam girl

    When you just can't lie about such a big part of your life anymore...

  • Understanding Premature Ejaculation

    Learn a little about premature ejaculation as well as some possible ways to remedy the situation!

  • Define This: Dyspareunia (Painful Sex)

    Do you ever experience pain during sexual penetration? Have you ever thought about why you feel that pain? Well there is a name for painful intercourse. It's called Dyspareunia.

  • Brr! How To Stay Warm With Your Lover This Winter When It Is Too Cold To Play Outdoors.

    I absolutely dread the winter time, as well as many others! If you're like me and you are tired of the same 'ol "drink hot chocolate and wait for the blizzard to pass," try one of these saucy things to occupy your time.

  • You Want Me To WHAT?!

    I'm sure many of us remember the introduction of toys and possibly porn into our current relationships. For some of you it may have been a fun adventure, others a continuation of your life as a single person, but for those like myself who were a bit naive, it was...an experience. Luckily, I had a patient husband who did not give up on me and I think we know the end of the story, but let me tell you how we got there.

  • Male Anal Stimulation Is Not Gay: An Inspection of the Stereotype

    Learn why all male anal stimulation isn't gay and why it can be amazing!

  • Here's What Not To Do.

    It seems as though sex and rocket science are on the same level of complexity. Yes it is fun, pleasurable, and exciting but without the right knowledge it could also be tricky. To avoid awkward silence and enjoy sex to the fullest, here is what NOT to say and do in the bedroom.

  • Eat. Make Love. Repeat.

    We all know that eating certain foods can put you in the mood for a bit of love-making. But after having done some research, you may be surprised the effect that some of these edibles will have on your sex life.

  • How Has Your Spouse Changed You?

    This month's theme here at SexIs Social is sexual freedom. We are free to express ourselves sexually, but we are all influenced by different people. When it comes to sex, your spouse or significant other can definitely play an influential and large role in your sexual life and identity.

  • How I Deal With Holiday Stress

    My family get-togethers are few and far between. I don't look forward to them. My blood pressure goes up just thinking about it. Fist fights, arguments, down right mean behavior and that is all before we even eat!

  • Happy Holidays From Eden Lit!

    The holiday season is upon us once again and we at Eden Lit are feeling very festive. We are dropping Eden Lit Lessons and just about everything we normally do and we're gonna party. We're gonna play games and write happy, hot or maybe even healing stories. Join us for an earlier meeting on Tuesday December 4, 2012 at 3 pm on our forum for a writing party!

  • Getting what you really want out of sex.

    I know a lot of couples who have fallen into the boring sex life routine, I was one of them! Finding your way out can be a hard road, but it can be done!

  • Top 25 Most Popular Articles in September 2012

    Sex education, orgasms and BDSM were on the minds of our readers and contributors in September, this year. And who could blame them, what with the release of 50 Shades of Grey, and the alleged "war on women" waging in the United States presidential and state campaigns?

  • Fantasies and Friends with Benefits: an Exploration in Communication

    Does casual sex have to change the way that you communicate fantasies with your partner? This is a look into answering that question from the perspective of a girl who thought she was the kinkiest girl in her cornfield town, and the friend-with-benefits who proved her very, very wrong.

  • The power in your hands - part II

    So you already know the basics of a handjob, and maybe even have a few techniques you can vary, but you're looking for more options? Read on to learn how to make your guy smoking hot for you.

  • Sex & Religion: The Beautiful and the Damned

    People have touched upon Sex & Religion in a variety of ways. However, I think there is more talk about "don't feel guilty" and less about why people feel guilty despite all "logic." This article is partly personal in nature, but for those who still feel guilty despite all the sermons and debunking, perhaps the answer is that most of us cannot quite put our finger on where the guilt is coming from – and it might be a whole lot more than just religion in the water.

  • Want to see my D?

    Nowadays it seems like showing your D is easier than saying hi.

  • Is anal really worth it?

    The answer is Yes.

  • Introducing porn into a relationship!

    Are you trying to get your partner to watch porn but don't know how? Well read my article. I'm here to help you.

  • The power in your hands - What makes a good handjob good?

    A hand job can be just a quick jerking off and release - but it can be a sexy, hot experience if done well. With blowjobs becoming more common and less the exclusive treat, hand jobs have lost some of the appeal. But with a little concentration your hands can gain power again!

  • BDSM 101: Sadists and Masochists

    When it comes to pain lovers there are two types of people: the givers and the receivers.

  • BDSM 101: Safe Words

    Especially if you're new to BDSM or even just playing with a new partner, it's a good idea to have a safe word.

  • BDSM 101: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink

    RACK is the counterpart to SSC in the BDSM world. In some ways they are very similar and in other ways they are very different.

  • Sexism in Science Still Lingers

    Women have made amazing progress from where we once were. We run the family and bring home the bacon. We are now the majority of college students. However, there is one area in which women are still horribly behind: science.

  • Dealing With My Kink

    How does a person figure out that they like sex differently from what is thought of as "typical"? The stories are as unique as the people who enjoy BDSM. Each person takes their own path. Some paths are scarred with abuse. Surviving an abusive relationship leaves many wounds. All too often, it affects many areas of life for years to come. One area that was difficult for me after leaving my ex, was intimacy. For me, it has taken years to accept my own kink; to let go and let myself enjoy it.

  • Mental Abuse is Abuse, too! - My Story

    When people think of "Abuse," they usually think of physical abuse, such as beating. Physical abuse is common and dangerous. Many men, women and children are beaten and injured, and a large amount are losing their lives. These are the cases we hear about. We wonder, "Why won't they leave?" and tell ourselves that we'll never be in that situation. People think that's the only type of abuse. If they aren't hitting me then they aren't abusing me, right? Wrong. Mental abuse is abuse, too.

  • Thanksgiving: Why I Thought Of Eden Fantasys Today

    When sitting around the table with your family, sharing all the wonderful things you're thankful for, it's not often that someone would actually pipe up with 'I'm thankful for the best online sex shop!'. But it popped into my mind several times today; though not openly shared with my guests. Here are a few reasons why it came to my mind on this great holiday.

  • Balancing sex and family...Or how my mother-in-law came to hate me.

    This is the story of the girl who traveled four hours to stay at her boyfriend’s parents’ house after dating him for just around a month and how after two weeks of nonstop sex, succeeded in making the aforementioned parents despise her. So if you’re looking for tips on how to ensure you leave your significant other’s house with more than a little condemnation, you’re in the right place!

  • Getting Down In Public: 5 Locations to Have Sex

    Do you want to experience the thrill of getting caught without actually getting caught? In this article we talk about 5 potentially fun places to have sex in public.

  • Homosexuality: The Nature vs Nurture Debate

    We've all heard of this debate. Were you born gay? Or did your environment nurture you to be gay? My answer to those who ask me is, "I chose to be gay the moment you chose to be straight." I've always known. The only choice I had was if or when I chose to "come out of the closet." This article is about sexual orientation and my opinion on whether or not sexual orientation is based on nature, nurture, or both.

  • Coming Out, Letting Out

    There are reasons to put things in bottles. Really, there are. But usually, we're talking about something to drink, or a message to send out on the waves and tides, or multicolored layers of sand to make a pretty decoration for a child's room.

  • The Shaky Bridge Experiment and How It Relates to Your Life

    If you've ever wondered "What did I ever see in him/her?" this might be the answer.

  • Sticks & Stones May Break My Bones, But Words Will Never Hurt Me....Or Will They?

    We all grew up with this schoolyard saying, using it in defense when others would say something that hurt us or called us names. How accurate was that little saying and has it played a part in society's lack of acknowledgement of mental and verbal abuse? As an adult, do you know the signs and the result of mental abuse? Are you an abuser, either intentionally or accidentally?

  • How to start dating again after an epic breakup or really any breakup.

    Have you ever gotten out of a relationship only to find that you feel like you got run over by a truck? Struggled with crying yourself to sleep at night? Tried to go out on dates but only ended up talking about your ex? Then read on...

  • A Relationship Based On Cheating: Deal Breaker or Not?

    This story is far from typical, it does have cheating spouses, betrayal, triumph and wrenching decisions. It also has a huge twist... and a unique perspective. This is the other woman's story and its ending- well, I will let you read it for yourself.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual Freedom, It's not just for young people anymore!

    It's 8 pm, do you know where your grandmother is?

  • Make sex a priority this year...

    If the intimacy in your relationship is seemingly absent then it may time to take the initiative and reignite that spark.

  • Not Gay, Not Straight

    As a queer person who is not strictly lesbian, it can be difficult to fit into a gay community, and impossible to fit into a straight one.

  • Anxiety and Submission

    How being a submissive Daddy’s little girl has helped me work on my anxiety.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual freedom starts with us

    Although society puts pressure on us to confirm to the "norm" sexually, we can not expect change until we are willing to set aside our own inhibitions and embrace all safe, sane, and consensual sex. Only then can true sexual freedom be achieved.

  • I Am a Woman Who Has No "Window"

    As I get older, I find that more and more women are disinterested in sex. I however, have the opposite issue.

  • Defeating Succorbenoth- The Demon Of Jealousy

    We agonize over it, we hide from it, we even build walls and defenses against it, but the only time we ever defeat this bastard emotion is when we turn and face it. You cannot fight what you refuse to see.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: The Champagne Room Unveiled - Part 3 - The rest of the story.

    Day after day and year after year, I went to work. Each night, I ran the same hustle on a different man. For years, I was their play toy and took their money; it all began to grow old. There was no big light bulb that went off in my head. However, there was one night when my thinking began to shift; when I found myself standing at a cross road. This was the night that I was slapped in the face with the reality of what my actions had caused. That night will be burned in my mind forever.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual freedom--It is found in the last place you would ever look.

    Sexual freedom. Two words that, when paired together, mean many things to people. Once I realized what sexual freedom honestly meant to me, I felt liberated and truly free. Sexual freedom has nothing to do with legal issues, moral battles or input from other people. Sexual freedom comes from within. It is an important and overlooked truth about who you are as a person and how honest you are with yourself.

  • Communicating about sex

    Do you think it's good to talk during sex or even about sex? Most people are too embarrassed to talk during sex. It helps you get to know what each other likes better, and can even help you in the long run.

  • An Open Letter To My Mommy Friends

    You have kids. I don't. I accept your choice -- so why can't you accept mine?

  • Out of Lies, Truth

    Is it possible that out of all the lies I told to pursue an extramarital affair, truth was revealed?

  • SexIs Subjective: Jesus Loves You, Unless You Have Butt Sex

    Society has come a long way in terms of sexual freedom, but as a part of the Catholic Church, I find myself shaking my head at all of the sexual ignorance harbored within my own faith. Some Catholics say everyone should have sex the same way or you're straying off of God's path. But sex is part of our identity! How we do it makes us unique! Sexual experimentation is not against natural law; what is unnatural is the obsession with only having sex one way, exactly the same way as everyone else.

  • Don't Get Into A Fight With A Penis Pump...

    We have all had that moment, the deal breaker... but what do you do when the moment lingers? Well, just ask me. I seem to have, well, weird luck. Not good luck or bad luck; just weird luck. So, how does a penis pump enter into this? Keep on reading...

  • Achieving Great Sex: All of Your Relationships in Life Need To Be Re-evaluated.

    We all know that great sex is more than just physical- it is mental and emotional as well. Most of us cannot enjoy sex as much when we are not mentally and emotionally satisfied. Sexual satisfaction can be tied to a lot of aspects within our lives. Read my story and apply it to your own life. Take the steps that I took to achieve the freedom and satisfaction you deserve.

  • BDSM 101: Safe, Sane and Consensual

    SSC is probably the most common principle followed in regards to safety in the BDSM "world."

  • SexIs Subjective: Why is Everyone Obsessed with Policing My Sex Life?

    As a kinky lesbian poly woman, it seems like everyone wants a say in how I get it on. From the federal government to religious groups to well-meaning friends, apparently I'm just not doing it "right." Why does anyone even care?

  • Nothing's Cozier Than a Web of Lies.

    The story of how revealing your love to the world made everything perfect forever is popular. What about all the other times though? What about when the truth makes everything worse and perpetuating a web of lies would have made everyone happier?

  • BFF - Pinky Promise

    I may have different types of friends, but they all have something unique about them. Each person, kinky or not, has something to offer. It's up to me to open up and be myself with everyone I love and trust.

  • Maine Backs Same-Sex Marriage

    On November 6th, 2012, Maine voters agreed that the state should issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples. This is a huge win for the LGBT community and Maine as a whole. But not everybody thinks so.

  • The Man Who Told Me He Hated Me

    I spent almost two years of my life in a relationship with a man who told me that he hated he hated me often, explicitly detailing what a horrible person I was and how I had ruined him. This is my story, how I got out, and what you can watch out for (for yourself and your friends) to avoid the same thing.

  • Getting the Snip, Part Two: Complications

    Sometimes you do everything right and things still go wrong. In Getting the Snip, Part One, I told the story of how my boyfriend and I made the decision that vasectomy was right for us. This is what happened when he went for his vasectomy appointment.

  • Long distance and D/s relationships

    Long distance and D/s... it's like someone went looking for a complicated style of relationship to be a part of. But with the right emphasis on communication and patience with common issues, they can be a breeze.

  • Stopping Smoking Can Increase Your Sex Drive

    I am trying to quite smoking. There are a a number of reasons; the awful smell and taste, health reasons, the promise I made to myself and my kids, but the biggest reason is that I want to have better sex.

  • Long Distance: Keeping Passion Alive

    When you're in a long distance relationship, it might be difficult to keep the passion in the relationship, but it can be done when you are willing to work hard.

  • Submissive's Guide to Giving Head

    Although most of us know how to give a good blow job, there are certain things you can do to bring your submission into your technique. Try one or try all, but giving head will never be the same.

  • You're as Unique as Your Vagina

    I bet you don't know that your vagina is one of a kind. You are made up of an intricate network of nerves that is unique to you and your reproductive system. No two females are the same.

  • Sharing is Caring

    You talk to your friends about a lot of things, is sex one of the topics? And how much of your sex life do you discuss with them? I'm still trying to figure out how much to talk about with my friends, but I want to figure it out.

  • Nice Guys Finish Last: A Young Man's Perspective

    Here I will take a humorous outlook on this myth, what I've seen it do, and why it sucks.

  • Questions and Curiosity: Things NOT to ask transwomen and transmen!

    Many people have a lot of questions for transpeople. It's an interesting subject that doesn't come up too often in most people's lives. What questions are ok and what questions are offensive? It's fine to be curious, just don't be rude!

  • Intimacy - You Can't Fake it

    Bombarded by imagery of sex and death, politics and disaster, life - like the movies - sometimes feels like it's lost all grip on what matters. Some ruminations on the meaning of intimacy, seen through the lens of a forty-five year old subtitled Swedish movie.

  • Love Your Body! Out Of The Image Box!

    I never had anyone tell me I was pretty growing up. I never had any support from my family. My body self image was horrible. I hated myself so badly that I have no pictures. I didn't look in a mirror. I believed that no one could love me or even look at me.

  • Do you want a Daddy?

    A lot of people seem to be kind of "grossed out" by the thought. There's definitely a taboo around calling your partner Daddy. If you're someone who wants a Daddy Dom and little style dynamic, this can make it hard to tell your partner about wanting this. But it doesn't have to be hard.

  • Voters Support Gay Marriage in 4 States

    This election was a winning streak for same-sex marriage.

  • Passing under the Trans*-Dar: a definition of "Passing" and how it relates to those in the trans* community

    Passing is great for those trans* people who do, but for those who can't manage to look how society expects, people using the term "passing" can leave them feeling like Pinocchio-- wooden and fake and without a fairy to make them *real*.

  • Love Is in the Air

    Sometimes love is in the air – literally. Long distance relationships always existed, but with our accelerating world, those distances can stretch out to thousands of miles, and all that connects the lovers is the net or a few telephone calls. Some relationship wilt under such duress, and some live through it to flourish. But what is the secret to that?

  • SexIs Subjective: Free to be Me

    What is the point of having sexual freedoms when the choices we make and the things we do are still so taboo? No one should feel condemned for what they do in the privacy of their own home.

  • Knock Knock. Who’s There? Herpes.

    At 21, I was diagnosed with an STD. Though I have happily found someone who accepts me and doesn't judge me for my past, society still says it's OK to make jokes about diseases that are killing people. You wouldn't make a joke about cancer, so why is it OK to joke about syphilis?

  • Peer Pressure: How our friends impact our sex life

    We all may think that we're adults, and therefore no longer affected by peer pressure, but the influences of our friends can impact our sex life in both positive and negative ways.

  • Accepting My Kink

    How can submitting to a spanking possibly build confidence?

  • Sex Feed: Teenage abstinence might be related to happiness

    If you lost your virginity later in life, you may have a better shot at a successful relationship.

  • Confessions of a Stripper – The Champagne Room Unveiled Part 1

    Long before VIP rooms were added to virtually every adult club across America, the champagne flowed in the French Quarter and the ladies were hot and thirsty. What really happened in the dark corners of those clubs? Why did so many men try to pay for lunch and find that their credit card was maxed out? After years of keeping the stories from my days as a stripper on Bourbon Street a guarded secret, I’m sharing what really went on back then. Join me as I tear the veil back on the Champagne Room.

  • More Than Boys and Girls: C-boys, Dickgirls, Traps, Transvestites, and Transfolk

    You've heard terms like "dickgirl" and "trap" throughout the internet when referring to specialty porn, but who and what are these people, and what's the difference between them all? There's more than just the man-woman/boy-girl binary!

  • "Muffing" Your Man (or Woman!)

    The term muffing has two common meanings: one is oral sex on a female; the other is something you probably haven't even thought of before! Do you know where your man's inguinal canals are? You're about to find out!

  • Daddy Doms: They're Not What You Think

    When you hear the words Daddy Dom, you probably internally (maybe even externally) cringe and think "Ew gross." What you probably don't know is that a Daddy Dom has nothing to do with incest or pedophilia. It has to do with wanting to take care of your partner like a Daddy does.

  • Sex Feed: $1,000 Shot Promises Better Sex for Months

    The hottest new trend on the coast is the G-Shot, a $1,000 shot that promises longer and more intense orgasms for up to 4 months. With plenty of rave reviews, the real question is--Is this $1,000 "G-spot Shot" worth it?

  • Twincestual Discrimination

    Sure, you hear often of discrimination against people who are not given their rightful marriage privileges, but are those you hear about the most often the only ones denied?

  • You were jealous!

    My boyfriend thought I was obsessed with a sex site until he saw the benefits that EdenFantasys brought into our bedroom. I had to reel him in with lingerie before I introduced a sex toy. The toy of my dreams became his nightmare. At first, he liked it, but then he decided that I was addicted to it! It was a shock to me that not all men enjoy the idea of having an extra tool in the bedroom.

  • SexIs Subjective: Sexual Freedom and You

    Even just a few short years ago, a simple mention of the word "sex" made people cringe and quickly change the subject to something else. Times change and now we stand up proudly for our sexual freedoms.

  • BDSM and Sex Positivity: Unsafe vs. Unhealthy

    In the frame of sex positivity, can BDSM be described as healthy, while still recognizing that it can be unsafe?

  • Getting the Snip, Part One

    This series of articles will detail the experience of getting a vasectomy. In this part, I discuss how my boyfriend and I decided that vasectomy was the right form of contraception for us. The next part will cover his experience of the procedure itself, and then I will write about how the procedure is affecting our relationship and our sex life.

  • A BDSM Contract

    You want to get into a 24/7 BDSM relationship, but don't know where to start? A contract is a great place to state what you expect to give and receive, and a great way to keep the lines of communication open.

  • Collars and Pets OH MY!

    I recently spoke with a friend of mine who was having trouble with her "Owner." She's a pet, an actual pet, a Nekko, as it is standard to be called. However, when her Owner started dating a new woman, things around her house changed rather quickly. The relationship that they had has degraded.

  • My orgasm/squirting experience

    These are just my experiences with squirting and different types of orgasms.

  • Roleplaying as a Way to Discovery

    Roleplaying is a healthy and exciting way to explore new avenues in your sexuality. Once you get used to being someone different you can have all sorts of fun and explore your desires in a safe environment.

  • The “O” Isn’t Always All

    I’m a huge fan of orgasms. Huge. Hell, I’m a damn groupie. I’ll pursue orgasms like deadheads used to follow the Grateful Dead—and then Phish after Jerry Garcia died. You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who likes the “big O” more than me (though admittedly, you’ll find plenty of people who like them just as much as me).

  • We Are Not Part of a Circus Freak Show

    You see that I am different and you want to stop and stare? Have you no respect? Is it your goal to be as blunt and as rude as possible? I am not your personal side show. I am not something you can just gawk at, stare at and belittle. I am a person just like you: I have feelings, a heart, and a family. I may be different. I am a transman.

  • Winter Cold Causes Pain. How to Continue Having Sex.

    Winter is cold and uninviting. Most of us have joint pain and back pain. This can be an every day thing. When winter moves in it can be even worse. We want to have sex but pain can keep you from your needs.

  • My hero

    My best friend knew he was gay at the age of 12. What he went through was horrible but today he is one of the most amazing people that I have ever met.

  • Why I Don’t Care About Gay Marriage (And Why You Shouldn’t Either)

    Gay marriage is a huge political issue now, with states overturning DOMA and the institution of gay marriage in several states in the last few years. Don't get me wrong--that's great. But we queers need to get our priorities straight.

  • Size does matter!

    How big is yours? 6 inches? Maybe 10? What about how deep is mine? Have you ever thought of how much dick a girl can really take? No, of course not, so let's discuss.

  • Define This: Femme

    As a gay teenager I owned a t-shirt that boldly stated, "Nobody knows I'm a lesbian." Ten years later, the sentiment of that shirt couldn't be more true. Femme identity often fits neither into the expectations from heterosexual society nor queer communities. As I'm finally settling comfortably into my own skin, I've come to realize the importance of femme visibility.

  • Being Who You Are (The Lesbian In You)

    Being a "First timer" is harder that you would think. These are my thoughts and experiences in being who I am.

  • The Invasion of the Body Snatchers

    Close your eyes and imagine this: you are standing in front of the mirror expecting to see this perfect figure, but instead you see this strange figure standing in front of you. This person is the opposite of how you imagined yourself to look. Now if you open your eyes you see yourself. It must be nice to be the person you knew in your mind you were all along. Note that 3% of the world’s population is not that lucky.

  • Sex After Having Kids

    Well if you’re anything like me you start to forget what sex is. I have two kids under 5 and I use these steps to make it easier for me to get to have sex.

  • Love without boundaries

    A guide to dating a trans man

  • Are We Being Overexposed to Sex?

    Are we all becoming sex addicts or are we just really hung up on getting, having, and experiencing sex?

  • Cross dressing: How it happens, why it happens, and how to come out to those who matter

    I will discuss how cross dressing came into my life, why it grew on me and my advice for coming out to the important ones in your life!

  • Extremely Conservative Judge Backs Gay Equality

    Advocates of gay rights gained an unlikely ally today, as conservative Chief Judge Dennis Jacobs ruled against the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in the federal appeals court.

  • SexFeed: Ban on Ex-Gay Therapy For Minors already under attack

    Ban on Ex-Gay therapy for minors is already under attack by two religious groups that plan on suing in federal court before it can go into effect on Jan 1.

  • Benefits and Downfalls of Different Communication Methods

    Communicating with other humans is vital, and the more ways to do so, the better. I feel there are some relationships best kept more intimate than text-only. The truth is, it's so easy to fall into text or social media only lifestyle, but we need real human interaction sometimes, right? That's why I want to share the benefits and my personal preferences for each type of communication.

  • No Love Without the Glove: Forget That!

    I've always been the type of girl to strictly believe that condoms were the best way to go. Birth control has too many side effects and I never wanted to take the risk. But oh was I pleasantly mistaken!

  • The How To Guide to Lesbianism

    To avoid confusion, questionable Google searches, and to manage the minefield of other people's questions.

  • A Stripper’s Guide to Seduction

    Men are visually stimulated and predisposed to longing to spread their seed. This appeal is on a purely instinctual level. Women are sexual creatures who are instinctual exhibitionists who are aroused when a man desires them. Often times, by playing a sexual charged game of cat and mouse, she explores her own lusts and temptations.

    With these tips you can open the door to new experiences during your playtime that both you and your partner are sure to love.

  • Sleeping With Transboys: A brief how-to on sex with transboys

    So you've got this new boyfriend, and he's a transman! Or maybe you've just always wanted to hook up with one? What do you do when it comes to sex without offending him? What's going on in his pants? Check this out before you jump in bed!

  • Opening Up (Or Newer Can Definitely Be Better)

    How open-minded are you in the bedroom? One of the Community Choice topics this month deals with how open-minded you are. Being open-minded is a good thing, though not every new thing you try will always be successful. But some of these new things can really add a certain spice to the bedroom.

  • The Raw Truth About Infidelity

    Easily considered the most dangerous and destructive occurrence in a relationship, infidelity provokes a range of thoughts and emotions, few of them good, but how often does it really occur? Can you predict infidelity? And why do we cheat at all?

  • This Box Is Toooo Small

    Starting over at thirty something and forty something with two teen kids, dogs and a lizard.

  • Cum, Jizz, Semen, Whatever

    A plea on behalf of those of us who ejaculate semen to all those who don't: Please don't make us feel as if there's something wrong about the way our bodies orgasm.

  • Define This: Fag Hag.

    What is the first thing that comes to mind when the term "Fag Hag" is used? No matter what comes to mind, the connotations are usually negative. Let's take a moment to explore this relationship and what it means.

  • Three Is Company

    Polysexuality is an alternative to polyamory. Instead of having emotional and romantic feelings for many partners (polyamory), you have just a sexual relationship with more than one partner.

  • Isn't That You On The Screen?

    You can find anything on the Internet. Including, apparently, footage of your friends having sex.

  • SexIs Subjective: On A Sexy Halloween

    Halloween can be a time to embrace that sexy part of you that you keep hidden the rest of the year. It allows you to become some one new and do things that only they would do.

  • God Loves Sex Too

    We've basically been told sex is wrong all our lives. A lot of us have grown up under the impression that God views all sex -- even between a married couple -- as dirty. Despite the need to re-inform, we shouldn't be spending our love-making time feeling guilt because in our hearts it feels like we're sinning. Guess what? God loves sex too! The idea that God is opposed to sex is false, and I'm here to tell you how I happen to come to this conclusion.

  • The Triumph Of A Human Punching Bag.

    Have you ever watched someone practicing their punching and speed on a small punching bag that is dangling on a chain hanging from the ceiling? The little bag flying back and forth, never veering from its path as it goes back time after time for another punch? Have you ever wondered what would happen if only one time that little punching bag veered off course and actually fought back? Once upon a time I was a little punching bag, and I veered off course and fought back. This is my story...

  • So, You just use your tongue, right?

    The yearly trip to the OBGYN's office is nothing but hell for us lesbians, at least us lesbians in a small town. Eventually, half way into the visit, you end up explaining what sex is to your Doctor. HELLLLLOOOO, didn't you go to Medical School, don't you know how people have sex?

  • Hiding Behind A Mask For The Freedom To Experiment.

    What to do when you are a shy exhibitionist with a lot to lose? When you want to be watched--but not recognized? When you want to watch and play, but fear the risk of exposure? What is the one thing that can give you the freedom to release your inhibitions and let it all go?

  • Experimentation vs. Appropriation

    My lifestyle and business have become a fad. One would think that I should be jumping for joy, but I am not. I feel disgust and shame. I don't want to be a Halloween costume. It's not a pleasant feeling.

  • Swallow

    A word to make guys go weak at the knees... and some girls to go weak in the stomach. A look at the cultural and societal background to the power of seven little letters.

  • Before You Spread the Rumor, Learn the Facts

    October is also Domestic Violence Awareness month, and while domestic violence is a horrible thing, I want to share my story of why you should always know ALL the facts before reporting anything. This isn't the same for every case, but it's something I had to deal with, and I'd like to share my story.

  • Putting It In Drive

    People don't have the same sex drive. Some have extremely high ones, some not so much. A Community Choice topic this month is what do you do when your partner's sex drive doesn't match up with your own. I'm here to talk about a relationship with two different speeds as far as sex drives go.

  • Eden Lit Club: October Story Starts and All Things Fall!

    The air is crisp, colors are exploding all over, and school is well into its first semester. We're all gathering up and settling down for the winter. The Eden Lit Club is also settling in and harvesting all the creative energy.

  • Shut Up and Kiss Me

    I have undeniable sexual chemistry with my boyfriend. We can’t lay next to each other without going at it like bunnies. I never want to lose that, but sometimes I just want to enjoy kissing without worrying about what happens next.

  • My Boobies: Oh The Adventures They Have Had!

    My boobies and the adventures they have had over the years: from children to life saving.

  • In Landmark Lesbian Custody Battle, Court Rules: “Best Interests of the Child are Paramount.”

    In the lead up to the election, it often seems like equality is in the firing lines. But in the midst of an anti-gay agenda by militant Republicans, it looks like one small victory has been won in New York City.

  • Make Me Want It

    I am never impressed by sheer brutality in BDSM. I AM impressed when someone can evoke a DESIRE for sheer brutality in BDSM.

  • Take a Dance With Chance

    Sometimes taking a leap of faith and just allowing things to happen can be a scary thing. Let's face it, the unknown is scary, but we live every day facing the endless possibilities. So why are we so afraid to knowingly take a dance with chance?

  • Sometimes Adam, Sometimes Eve

    I'm married to a man...and a woman. No, I'm not a member of a religion that believes in multiple marriages. Nor am I in a polyamorous relationship. My spouse is bigender, both male and female in one body.

  • Continuing education – The benefits of classes and conferences.

    Expanding your knowledge about relationships and sexuality.

  • CatalystCon: More than just a sex education conference

    An overview of CatalystCon, a sex education and sexuality conference.

  • I will never be you. -Or- I don't understand white people.

    I was recently stuck in a situation with a bunch of members of the normal, which are the most important vote for any presidential candidate: white, upper class, Christian males. As I sat surrounded by these people with my mohawk and hole-filled jeans, I couldn't get over the fact I hated them, I hated every word that spilled from their mouths. Let me share my story about my time at a bachelor party, for my metamour.

  • Out Of The Ashes May Rise A Phoenix

    There is nothing more beautiful or more awe inspiring than the power and conviction of a naked woman.

  • Breaking Out Of The Box IS Hard!

    After over seven years of dealing with blood sucking lawyers, it's over now and I am left with nothing. Who is to pay for what has happened? Getting out of this box is getting harder and harder. I just want to go back.

  • First Time Tips

    While many feel society falsely portrays ‘the first time’ as magical and are consequently disappointed, I was led to believe the opposite and was happily surprised. I am here to tell you that giving away your virginity can be a positive experience if it is with the right person and if you prepare properly.

  • Sex Toys: How Do You Introduce Them to a Partner?

    It can be difficult to introduce toys into a new relationship. What if your partner isn’t open to the idea? What if it freaks them out? Will you have to choose between them and toys?

  • BDSM Or Just Curious?

    So you read 50 Shades of Grey and now you're looking for a dom? Think again!

  • Evolution of the Menses: A Bloody History

    What are you wearing right now? Do you have a tiny tampon in, a huge monster pad, or are you lucky enough to not be surfing the crimson wave? Whether you are currently shark bait or not, you may find it interesting to revisit some rags of the past.

  • Sex and Pregnancy.

    For many people, sex during pregnancy can be intimidating, scary, or an experience they have been waiting to try. Either way, it should not be something scary, or painful. Questions about it aren't bad or wrong, and are usually welcomed by your doctor.

  • Dealing With A Non-Affectionate Partner

    As a very physically affectionate person, being in a relationship with someone who isn't was a new thing for me! Here's some tips on how I dealt with it.

  • Do Men Fake It Too?

    When I think of faking orgasms I think of Meg Ryan in "When Harry Met Sally," not a man faking it.

  • Confessions of a Stripper: Why Men Are Drawn to Strip Clubs

    After work, Joe and his friends decided to hit a local Gentlemen’s Club for a beer before heading home. Joe and Ernie call their wives to say they will be late. They don’t dare reveal the truth, with a white lie they hang up and its high fives all around.

  • You Know Your Girl Is A Virgin If...

    Ever think you can tell if a woman is a virgin just by looking at her? Some people think you can.

  • Shrinking The Gender Gap One Taboo At A Time

    You’ve probably all seen it by now, the remarkable study that reveals how the more sexually aroused a woman becomes, the more willing she is to swallow her scruples. Well, in case no one had noticed, men are no different.

  • A society’s binary lens on bisexuality

    American, and more generally western, culture is a binary one, but certain people fall outside the binary. There are all types on non-binary people in human sexuality, but for this article let's discuss bisexuality and how it really isn't binary despite pop culture.

  • Beginner's Guide to Anal Play

    Anal sex can be an exciting addition to your bedroom. And although it may seem overwhelming, with a little preparation and patience, it can be an enjoyable experience, perhaps one that you'd like to make a regular occurrence.

  • Look Ma! I'm Pansexual!

    Life, Love, and Pansexuality. What happens when you come out to your family? Will they accept you, or will they toss you out into the street?

  • Light and Sex

    Does turning off the lights actually contribute to us being turned on? This article is all about how light affects our bodies, our mood and by extension, our sexual experience.

  • My Dear Kira

    Back when I was in high school I got to a point where I said, "Screw boys, I'm batting for the other team!" That's when I met Kira, an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old girl who was into girls. Kira was the girl that got me to see other girls in a whole different way.

  • SexIs Subjective: The Separation of Church and State...When it suits us.

    At 14 years old, I thought the government was never going to let me marry another woman...At 21, I'm fighting a battle to allow myself, my friends, and my family to marry who they want--a battle of human rights that shouldn't even be an issue.

  • Sensual Massage!

    You don't know what passionate lovemaking is without the most intimate kind of foreplay. Massages are stress relieving, they enhance immunity, improve circulation and joint flexibility, and can even lessen depression and anxiety.

  • Shhh... I've Got My Period!

    Menstruation: it’s natural so why do we find it taboo?

  • A beginner's guide to Sexting

    Panic-stricken social commentators tell us it's the latest evil craze to be turning our children into sex-mad monsters. But not only has sexting always been with us, it doesn't care how old you are, either. So, a noobie's guide to getting it on in three or four characters, tops.

  • Staying Married For The Kids

    When is divorce the best option?

  • Role-Playing – probably not the kind you’re thinking.

    Plenty of couples have tried their hand at role-playing – anything from a sexy nurse to a police officer. But have you ever tried acting as a specific character? Don’t laugh yet – it can be a lot more fun than you think!

  • Kink: Convenient and Cost-Effective

    So we talked about household items that can stand in for kink toys. But what about the festishes you can't replace with a ping pong paddle?

  • I'm horny and drunk. Wanna F@ck?

    How much alcohol is too much?

  • Chlorhexidine. It’s in your Eden Wipes and many of the toy sprays. What is it?

    Chlorhexidine is a hospital grade antimicrobial. It is used for treatment and prevention of infections. It's very impressive that it is used in our toy cleaners.

  • The Dichotomy of Me

    My daily and bedroom personalities don't match. What does that say about me? Does it say anything at all?

  • Huge Mood Killers

    There are so many things that affect our moods in the bedroom, so many of them under our control.

  • Submissive Journals: A How To Guide

    As promised, this is part 2 of my previous post on submissive journals. In this section, I will focus on how to start and maintain your own Sub journal. As well as a starting guide, I will include helpful tips and tricks for writing and formatting your journal, things to consider when choosing a site, important posts to include in your journal, writing prompts, suggestions, and ideas to help you get started.

  • Do YOU think it's better?

    Love is an amazing thing. For such a short word, it packs an incredible meaning which differs from person to person. I don't believe two people in the whole world define the word in the same way. It produces the most amazing highs and the most rock bottom lows. Love is a verb. Love is a battlefield. Love is patient. Love is blind. What is love? And is it truly better to to have loved and lost, or to never experience it at all?

  • Submissive Journals: The Benefits Of Having Your Sub Keep A Daily Journal

    In one of my previous articles, I briefly talked about having a sub journal. I've decided to expand on the subject a bit more, since I received some questions. This is part one of a two part series. In this section, I will focus on why journals are important and also address some common ways they are used. Part two will be a how to guide on writing, and some helpful tips and tricks I've learned.

  • Beginner's BDSM: What It Means To Be Submissive

    You love sex, particularly kinky sex. But how do you know if you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, and become truly submissive?

  • Kink From Afar: Dealing With Long Distance In A BDSM Relationship.

    We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you're in for a wild ride! How to keep the kink alive when you're apart.

  • BDSM 101

    So you're interested in learning more about BDSM or even ready to start going down that road? Read on and I'll describe a few of the things that you might want to try out, without sending you running for the hills.

  • It's Not Easy Being Green

    Jealousy. We've all experienced it and it can do permanent harm to a relationship. How do you handle jealousy like an adult and keep it from harming your relationship?

  • SexIs Subjective: Marriage Inequality

    Partners cannot be afforded the same rights as married couples in Health Care.

  • The Seven Stages Of Breaking Up

    Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. There are always compromises to be made and ways to advance further into a deeper state of intimacy and togetherness with your partner. However, there are some times when no matter how many compromises you make or how hard you try, it just isn't working. Ending a relationship is probably one of the most difficult things to do, especially when you're married or have children together; trust me, I would know.

  • SexIs Subjective: Equal Rights For All!

    I believe if one group of people has a certain right, everyone else should too. It’s only fair.

  • SexIs Subjective: Marriage Equality

    As a married woman, I find marriage to be about commitment and willingness to work together, regardless of how "traditional" your relationship is.

  • SexIs Subjective: Marriage Equality

    Marriage equality is a big issue and I wonder, why wouldn't we allow people to get married, and why would it affect my marriage?

  • When "Doing Your Wifely Duties" Becomes a Chore

    When I first discovered EdenFantasys, I hadn’t read or even heard of the 50 Shades of Gray series. Now seven months after placing my first order, who would ever imagine I would be living my own series; that my whole sexual being would be change.

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