A New Years resolution worth sticking to.
The New Year is approaching and soon it will be time to start thinking of a New Years resolution. Although they've received the stigma that they are made to be broken, this one could improve the relationship I have with my fiance', as well as your own relationship. We, as adults, have chaotic schedules. Schedules that consist of having demanding jobs, chores that need to be taken care of, errands that can't run themselves, and a seemingly never-ending to-do list. We don't exactly always have "alone time" to engage in sexual activities like we did in our earlier days of dating and scheduling time to have sex takes out the spontaneous element. Being intimate with your partner is important as it helps keep your relationship strong. Below are some simple strategies to help you make time with your lover this upcoming year.
Set specific time to have sex with your partner and let nothing remove it from your agenda. It may be not spontaneous or romantic, but if you dedicate the time and put in the effort it will work. Unfortunately, Not everyone has the time to be spontaneous so scheduling something like sex has to be done to keep the relationship going.
Brew up some anticipation. The more you look forward to having sex with your partner, the more likely it is for both of you to make it a priority. Call your partner at work and tell them how you can't wait until tonight or make the time to send them a flirty text saying how you've been thinking about making love to them all day long. Giving both your partner and yourself something to look forward to can also add to the intimacy when you do make it to bedroom.
Speak up! Telling your partner exactly what you want in the bedroom can spark more interest in spending time in the bedroom. The worst that can happen is awkward conversation- but don't let that steer you clear of speaking up. This gives both of you a chance to express some fantasies you may have brewing up but never had the guts to come out with. Chances are that both of you will learn something new about one another that you never even knew before.
Make romance a center-piece. Buy lingerie for that night. Make plans to go out to dinner. Leave the minivan filled with soccer balls and cereal parked in the driveway. Take the car, and go somewhere where you two can just sit, talk (not about the kids), and enjoy each other's company. It doesn't have be a 5-star restaurant that 'll break the bank but don't get fast food either.
Do it! Be the initiator and get the ball rolling. You know what you want by now, if you set time aside to have sex with your partner, then I'm certain you've taken some time to daydream. If you wait for your partner to make the first move, chances are they are waiting for you to do the same. Then it will lead to never-ending nights of nothing and you'll have to keep rescheduling until it is no longer a priority between the two of you.
Maybe being bold isn't your thing but it is a new year to try new things. If your partner rejects your advances, be sure to talk to them about it. If in the end there is no desire then there is a bigger issue in the relationship that needs to be resolved first. Just be open, talk to your partner and get the intimacy back into your bedroom.
Set specific time to have sex with your partner and let nothing remove it from your agenda. It may be not spontaneous or romantic, but if you dedicate the time and put in the effort it will work. Unfortunately, Not everyone has the time to be spontaneous so scheduling something like sex has to be done to keep the relationship going.
Brew up some anticipation. The more you look forward to having sex with your partner, the more likely it is for both of you to make it a priority. Call your partner at work and tell them how you can't wait until tonight or make the time to send them a flirty text saying how you've been thinking about making love to them all day long. Giving both your partner and yourself something to look forward to can also add to the intimacy when you do make it to bedroom.
Speak up! Telling your partner exactly what you want in the bedroom can spark more interest in spending time in the bedroom. The worst that can happen is awkward conversation- but don't let that steer you clear of speaking up. This gives both of you a chance to express some fantasies you may have brewing up but never had the guts to come out with. Chances are that both of you will learn something new about one another that you never even knew before.
Make romance a center-piece. Buy lingerie for that night. Make plans to go out to dinner. Leave the minivan filled with soccer balls and cereal parked in the driveway. Take the car, and go somewhere where you two can just sit, talk (not about the kids), and enjoy each other's company. It doesn't have be a 5-star restaurant that 'll break the bank but don't get fast food either.
Do it! Be the initiator and get the ball rolling. You know what you want by now, if you set time aside to have sex with your partner, then I'm certain you've taken some time to daydream. If you wait for your partner to make the first move, chances are they are waiting for you to do the same. Then it will lead to never-ending nights of nothing and you'll have to keep rescheduling until it is no longer a priority between the two of you.
Maybe being bold isn't your thing but it is a new year to try new things. If your partner rejects your advances, be sure to talk to them about it. If in the end there is no desire then there is a bigger issue in the relationship that needs to be resolved first. Just be open, talk to your partner and get the intimacy back into your bedroom.
Great article! We luv it! More couples should do these things.
You are very right!