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#ExpressLove - Into the Deep End in Our Open Swim

#ExpressLove - Into the Deep End in Our Open Swim
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So, how does an open relationship begin? And is it just a case of “Hi, we’re swingers.” and you’re having sex with someone else? Here’s Smokedawg’s story.

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.KK.  

As interesting as this article was, there was a line that deeply troubled me:

(including being involved in a three-way with another person—man or woman—which of course was an early sign of her need for an open marriage)

I am a bisexual woman currently engaged to a very understanding & loving man. The above has always been a fantasy of mine from my teenage years, I have expressed it to every boyfriend I have had, including my soon to be husband & it is a fantasy yet to be fulfilled, but he is open to the idea & trying to help it come to fruition. By no means in my mind does me wanting a threesome indicate that I am unhappy & will want an open marriage when we get married. To me this is plain & simple - I love my man very much & would like to take our playtime a step further, if even just one time. This is something I just need to get out of my system.

So for the above writer to state so matterof-factly that anytime a person indicates a want for a threesome equals open relationship upset me greatly because that is not the case for me. It was for him & I feel badly about that, but I feel he should not have generalized it, because it sent me into paranoia about my wants for an entire weekend, wondering what that truly meant.

04/24/2012

I don't get notifications of replies, so sorry for the late response on this (if indeed you check back). For some, the idea of three-ways and such is just a lark...a one or two time only thing. But I'm not talking about people curious to try something different, but rather people for whom it is a strong desire for something regular or semi regular, as is the case with my wife.

But, even in your case, I have to say that ANY time you invite someone else in, either with your partner involved or not, the relationship has been opened. It might not be a fully open relationship, but it's certainly not a closed one. There are many degrees along the spectrum and even a one time only situation still requires some kind of mindset about opening the relationship. In your case, it could be an example of trying out swinging, really...as a sample but not necessarily as a lifestyle.

07/16/2012

Love is so ingrained into who we are as a society that it fits into just about every aspect of our lives. From television, to technology, to our bedrooms, we express love and tout its existence in so many different ways.

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