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Are Kids' Dolls Becoming Sex Toys?

Are Kids' Dolls Becoming Sex Toys?
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The "Today" show seems to think so. We're not so sure.

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Darn, I was hoping this article would be about kids using the dolls to act out sexual situations. That's what we did (rubbing the dolls together, having them make out, not knowing what sex was yet), and it didn't matter what the dolls looked like. Although the Jem doll was the evil stepmother, because her pink hair looked almost grey, and the Jordan Knight (New Kids on the Block) doll was the pervert macking on all of the girls. Little did we know...

While I can't say if the dolls now are sexier than my formative years since I don't shop in the toy section, my friend's daughter likes these, and I think they're hot!

03/14/2011

So Cassandra, I'm going to take that as one vote for "Dolls are not too hot/TODAY show being prudish worrywarts" ?

03/14/2011

Hi Jeff,
Good question.
Here's the thing: I'm sex positive. I'm a mom. I'm a sex blogger. I want the whole world to enjoy safe, consensual, mind-blowing pleasure to their heart/soul/bodies content. I'm a huge fan of age-appropriate sex education that goes beyond the mechanics of procreation. And I believe that the toys/clothes/marketing for kids have gotten very sexy. I think your question is about 10 years too late. It's not just that breasts of these dolls are bigger, or they are sporting come-hither expressions that are seductive. As a mom, this problem boils my bunny in a huge way. So, without having seen the Today Show episode, I can say that they are coming at this way too late too. This isn't being prudish worrywarts; this is saying let our kids be kids and introduce them to grown up play in a way and process that's safe and respectful.

So far, what we've accomplished from my perspective is giving kids two extreme options: prudishness and purity balls and virginity as a commodity or GGW and sexualized imagery/toys/marketing/etc. And Cassandra's comment that these dolls are hot is more evidence. Why do we want our kids, or little kids, playing with hot dolls? Why do we want them dressing sexy, swiveling their hips, giving blow jobs to boys at 9 years old? (I'm referencing "Oral Sex is the New Good Night Kiss' documentary from 2009).

If we as a sex-positive community don't acknowledge that this aspect is a problem, we aren't serving ourselves or anyone else for that matter. Let's be smart about this, recognize that early sexualization is a problem, it's happening, it's been demonstrated time and again by social scientists, and it's hurting our ability to promote better sex education in schools. Why do I thing that? Because the ultra-conservative communities will use this as a means to shut down sex-positive efforts to teach our children about healthy sexuality. So, as a culture we end up sexualizing our kids without teaching them all the amazing nuances about sexuality? What's up with that?

Oh, I could go on! (Can't you tell? ) But I'll volutarily get off my mommy soap box now. Thanks for letting me air my angst on this!

03/15/2011

Thanks, MLM. I was looking for some additional perspective on this, and you delivered.

I've also had people tell me that we're much more than 10 years late on this (Barbie having been around forever, and being just one precursor) ... and I've been told that this is all harmless fun, as well.

I may just wallow in the gray area of it all and try to figure out what I really think. But my instinct is that yours is the opinion I feel closest to.

03/15/2011

Thanks Jeff. I feel closest to it too.
It's about moderation and education. If We own our sexuality, then we can fully pass this knowledge on to our children in ways that raise them to be loving, sexually responsible and confident adults. If fear owns our sexuality, you see what we get today.


Peace out. T

03/16/2011

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