The frenulum delta, or the frenulum of prepuce of the penis as it is rather longwindedly known in medical terms, is the sweet spot.
The frenulum delta is that little patch right below the corona (the helmet! The knob end!!) on the underside of the penis that looks a little like...indeed, a river delta. Or maybe a road map. Three elastic cords, one streaking straight down, the others going off to the left and right, which stretch when the penis becomes erect.
The frenulum delta is one of the regions where a penis piercing can really make a difference.
And the frenulum delta is that little piece of paradise that you want to hunt down when you’re giving him a handjob and your wrist gets tired. Or you’re giving him a blowjob and just want to use your tongue. Basically, it’s the male equivalent of the clitoris, and it reacts in exactly the same way. Just enough stimulation and he’ll be putty in your hands. Too much and he’ll squeak and move away. Not enough, and maybe he’ll just purr.
It’s one of the coolest parts of the entire penis!
Again like the clitoris, some guys can orgasm purely from having their frenulum toyed with. Others need additional stimulation as well, but the frenulum plays its part regardless, being positioned in precisely the right place to feel things once the action gets going.
Which means it’s a shame that it’s often...how do we put this nicely? You know how when a bomb is dropped on a target, and innocent victims of the blast are described as "collateral damage?" Well, when a male is circumcised and his foreskin is sliced away...the frenulum is often collateral damage as well.
This is not an article about the rights and wrongs, and pros and cons of circumcision, and I don’t want the comments to turn into a discussion on them either. The health and hygiene benefits of circumcision are too deeply ingrained into American culture for anybody to care whether the guy has also lost one of the most significant and sensory sexual organs in his body. It is certainly not comparable to the evils of female circumcision, which is perpetrated, after all, for no medical reason whatsoever.
Besides, not every circumcision results in the removal of, or damage to, the frenulum. Studies published in 1990 (by AS Griffin and RS Kroovand) and in Pediatrics magazine a decade later revealed that no more than one third of surveyed circumcised males had actually had the frenulum cut during the initial operation - so hey, that means two-thirds of them still work properly. Hurrah!
It is also likely that the more skilled the cutter, the less prone he might be to cut, break or even crush the frenulum (all three of which will nevertheless render it unusable), and that disturbing though the modern casualty rates (if I may call them that) may be, they were a lot worse in the past, when circumcisions were often undertaken outside of the medical community.
Nevertheless, the fact that 33% of men could read this article and then spend the rest of the evening hunting fruitlessly for those magical millimeters might be worth considering if you are in two minds about having your son circumcised. Good penile hygiene can be taught. A frenulum cannot be replaced.
Ack! I said this wasn’t going to turn into a debate or a lecture. Let’s talk about the fun stuff instead.
Besides, most guys don’t even seem aware they even have the thing. They may be aware that one particular spot on their cock is more sensitive than others, but the penis is very much an “all or nothing” contraption. Hold one, suck one, fuck one, whatever, it all feels good to its owner and I have never, ever, had a lover whisper “oh baby, frig my frenny please.” In fact, the first time I ever found one (on my first-ever uncircumcised lover, but that is beside the point), he seemed even more surprised than I was.
Since that time, yes, I have deliberately sought them out and it’s true, not every guy reacts in the same way when you do find that certain spot - and without a trained eye for such things (what would a crushed frenulum even look like?), I am not going to suggest that they are members of the aforementioned 33%. The sensations might just have not floated their boat.
But when you do locate it and you give it your all, and your man reacts with the glee that you’d hope for, it’s true! The frenulum delta is just as sensitive as the average clitoris, and its owner’s responses are often identical as well - that tensing of the muscles, that frozen “oh-my-god”-iness, and at the end of it an orgasm that can often be spectacular.
It helps, I’ve found, if you hold him down. No, not in a bondage kind of way (although that can be fun as well); I mean hold his penis down, flat against his stomach so it cannot twitch and wave around...you know what those things are like when they really get going.
Go gently. It might take a moment to find the exact spot, but start with either a light fingertip or the tip of your tongue. Don’t go fast, don’t press hard, and don’t expect every man to react ecstatically immediately. Remember the first time another person located your clit and began toying with it. Different people have different sensitivities, and what feels great for one guy might well prove too much stimulation for another. Or not enough.
You may also need to learn to control your own impulse to go faster, harder. If you have never done this before, you’re learning a new way of giving pleasure and, unlike the rest of the penis, which just wants to be played with and likes the rough and tumble, the frenulum often requires a little coaxing. Especially if you’re planning on going for gold, and bringing him off with your fingertip alone.
Like I said, not every guy responds to it. Not every guy, thanks to a medical procedure they had as a child, is even capable of responding to it. But if we go by the statistics that I cited earlier (and which you can double check yourself in the bibliography below), two-thirds of all circumcised men and, presumably, the vast majority of uncut dudes too, are walking around with a special spot that neither you nor they might ever have played with. But you’ll both be thankful when you do.
So what are you waiting for?