I will start off by saying I am assuming cunnilingus is great fun. I find that most posts I have read where people talk about not wanting to let their man go down on them is because they are self conscious. They have fears of their boyfriend/husband not liking it. They are worried what he will see, and taste, and like. This article is written when a man asks if he can go down on you and you deny him that honor (yes I said honor). Not all men like to perform oral sex, so I cannot speak for them, but what I can speak for is men who want to, but in situations where you have reservations.
Taste
As weird as it may sound, a lot of men say they enjoy the taste of their woman. There is something intimate and exciting about tasting your juices. When I really get my girlfriend wet and hot and horny, I absolutely love it. There is a nice salty and sour taste that I honestly enjoy. I want to talk about hygiene here for a minute. The vagina is a self cleaning and self regulating organ. You do not need to douche, or use soap, or do anything to it. It will clean itself. It maintains a normal and natural balance of bacteria (mostly lactobacillus) and adding products can disrupt that, cause irritation, and sometimes infection even. So do not worry about the vagina. It is fine without ever doing anything to it. That being said, you still need to wash, but just a quick hand down there with some water is all you need to do. You do not even need soap. It is okay if there is a bit, but avoid letting the soap get in contact with the opening of your vagina. It is best to have it just in contact with the outside of your vulva. So men like how you taste, and it can be an enjoyable experience to eat you out.
Psychological Satisfaction
There is a huge psychological satisfaction in pleasing your partner. I feel great; it stokes my ego to know I can make my girlfriend have an orgasm and have pleasure with my tongue. And the best part is that I have a great view when I am down there. During sex it can be distracting, because you are having an orgasm. When I am going down on my girlfriend I can focus all my attention on her face, on her body, on her expressions, and on the sounds she makes. And that is a huge ego boost and an even bigger turn on. By the time I am done giving her head, I am so ready to go. I am just put in the mood by watching her squirm and wiggle as I perform cunnilingus.
Change of Pace
Sex is hard work. Being on top can be quite difficult and strenuous at times. So sometimes when I am horny and want to have intimacy, but do not want to put in all that effort, I would rather just give my girlfriend oral. I still get the experience of intimacy and closeness and love, but without any of the thrusting. It can be a nice and easy change of pace to perform oral instead of having penetrative sex. Or it can be fun for something new. I like to change things up in the bedroom with new positions, new toys, and new experiences. Novelty is just fun in the bedroom, and performing oral can bring that.
So I hope you realize now there are a wide number of reasons men love performing oral sex. And hopefully that makes you feel more confident in receiving oral sex.
I have a couple of tips too, to help yourself feel comfortable receiving. The first is to get to know your genitals and feel comfortable with them. A lot of people are averse to their vagina and clitoris. They like stimulation, but they do not like seeing it. They are somehow worried about it. I say take out a mirror and look at it. Realize that it looks nice actually. Your genitals are sexy and men find them attractive. There is a reason why vaginas are shown so much in porn, because men like how they look. So get used to it, know what it looks like, and own it, love it, and feel comfortable with it.
Finally some people worry about what to do when they are getting oral sex. There are two big things you can do, body movements and make sounds. The first is easy. Feel free to grind into his face, feel free to squirm, feel free to squeeze your legs together, feel free to reach down and grab his hair. These are all great signals that you are enjoying it, and it provides men with the certainty they are doing it right and really adds again to that ego and pride and makes them feel good. Also provide audio feedback. Say “oh fuck,” say their name, just moan and groan. All of these sounds again provide good feedback and make him feel comfortable. All of these will also come off as extremely sensitive and he will love seeing you like that
If you have any questions feel free to ask them. Or if you have any fears or stories you want to share go ahead too and I will respond to them.
Taste
As weird as it may sound, a lot of men say they enjoy the taste of their woman. There is something intimate and exciting about tasting your juices. When I really get my girlfriend wet and hot and horny, I absolutely love it. There is a nice salty and sour taste that I honestly enjoy. I want to talk about hygiene here for a minute. The vagina is a self cleaning and self regulating organ. You do not need to douche, or use soap, or do anything to it. It will clean itself. It maintains a normal and natural balance of bacteria (mostly lactobacillus) and adding products can disrupt that, cause irritation, and sometimes infection even. So do not worry about the vagina. It is fine without ever doing anything to it. That being said, you still need to wash, but just a quick hand down there with some water is all you need to do. You do not even need soap. It is okay if there is a bit, but avoid letting the soap get in contact with the opening of your vagina. It is best to have it just in contact with the outside of your vulva. So men like how you taste, and it can be an enjoyable experience to eat you out.
Psychological Satisfaction
There is a huge psychological satisfaction in pleasing your partner. I feel great; it stokes my ego to know I can make my girlfriend have an orgasm and have pleasure with my tongue. And the best part is that I have a great view when I am down there. During sex it can be distracting, because you are having an orgasm. When I am going down on my girlfriend I can focus all my attention on her face, on her body, on her expressions, and on the sounds she makes. And that is a huge ego boost and an even bigger turn on. By the time I am done giving her head, I am so ready to go. I am just put in the mood by watching her squirm and wiggle as I perform cunnilingus.
Change of Pace
Sex is hard work. Being on top can be quite difficult and strenuous at times. So sometimes when I am horny and want to have intimacy, but do not want to put in all that effort, I would rather just give my girlfriend oral. I still get the experience of intimacy and closeness and love, but without any of the thrusting. It can be a nice and easy change of pace to perform oral instead of having penetrative sex. Or it can be fun for something new. I like to change things up in the bedroom with new positions, new toys, and new experiences. Novelty is just fun in the bedroom, and performing oral can bring that.
So I hope you realize now there are a wide number of reasons men love performing oral sex. And hopefully that makes you feel more confident in receiving oral sex.
I have a couple of tips too, to help yourself feel comfortable receiving. The first is to get to know your genitals and feel comfortable with them. A lot of people are averse to their vagina and clitoris. They like stimulation, but they do not like seeing it. They are somehow worried about it. I say take out a mirror and look at it. Realize that it looks nice actually. Your genitals are sexy and men find them attractive. There is a reason why vaginas are shown so much in porn, because men like how they look. So get used to it, know what it looks like, and own it, love it, and feel comfortable with it.
Finally some people worry about what to do when they are getting oral sex. There are two big things you can do, body movements and make sounds. The first is easy. Feel free to grind into his face, feel free to squirm, feel free to squeeze your legs together, feel free to reach down and grab his hair. These are all great signals that you are enjoying it, and it provides men with the certainty they are doing it right and really adds again to that ego and pride and makes them feel good. Also provide audio feedback. Say “oh fuck,” say their name, just moan and groan. All of these sounds again provide good feedback and make him feel comfortable. All of these will also come off as extremely sensitive and he will love seeing you like that
If you have any questions feel free to ask them. Or if you have any fears or stories you want to share go ahead too and I will respond to them.
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