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What Makes A Girl Feel Sexy? (“?” Being the Operative Punctuation)

What Makes A Girl Feel Sexy?  (“?” Being the Operative Punctuation)
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The sofa was pleather. And so were the girls.

  SEXY LIST:

• The minutes and hours immediately following a great workout…the kind that leaves you so sweaty and sore and exhausted you’re sure you’re going to have to ask the neighbor to brush your teeth tomorrow
• That concaveness in the place where your stomach and stems meet. Or the first time you see your collar bone in a strapless dress. Or cheekbones. Ah, cheekbones.
• That moment when you laugh so hard with your boyfriend/best friend/mom that you don’t even care if you sound like Muttley the dog
• Big Texas Hair

Then I realized why I’ve never identified with the word “sexy.” Unfortunately, we live in a world that equates s-e-x-y with percentage of skin shown. And, more often than not, it hinges precariously on the opinion or presence of a second party. Don’t believe me? Ask yourself: If a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? If a woman spends nine months getting ready for her high school reunion and nobody shows, does she feel validated?

Don’t get me wrong…I’m not that friend with the “great personality.” But the times when I’ve felt sexiest in my life had nothing to do with my body…and they always seem to take place in the proverbial forest with no one around to witness the occasion.

  SEXY IN THE FOREST LIST:

• When I learned how to drive a stick shift
• The time I dropped out of Pleather High - only to return a year later, face my fear of all things synthetic, and graduate with a college scholarship
• Grad school
• Every time I clean out a closet or leave something better than I found it
• Cleaning, period
• The year I packed my bags and moved 1,100 miles away from everything I knew and loved, sobbing most of the way and fighting every impulse to turn around
• And starting a writing career

What I didn’t know then, and what I’m still learning now, is that I was living in a home with Texas’s version of The Pussycat Dolls, circa 1980. The most influential women in my life were always teaching me to be the best version of myself…nudging me towards a fate of becoming the most confident, fearless, inspired, alive woman the world had ever seen. Or the Jones family, at least. And that…is sexy.

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Bubba29  

ok, this is from a mans prospective. for women, you may care less about a man's perspective. if that is the case, don't read this.

part of feeling sexy for anyone is seeing how your partner responds to you. regardless of what you look like, here is what is sexy imo. be confident, be assertive sexually, and be kinky/dirty in bed. my wife does not look like a porn star but when she fucks like one it is about the sexiest thing i could ever imagine. to look sexy and be sexy are very different things.

07/25/2012

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