"Nothing can defeat you, if you make up your mind to fight and nothing can save you, if you have accepted defeat."
The weighing game
When looking at yourself if you see nothing positive about yourself, remember how much you have and how much less you could have. I used to look at myself and think what could anyone see in me. Then one day I noticed something small about myself that I liked. I have beautiful eyes and a beautiful smile. When you look at yourself, every day say something to yourself out loud to reassure you that you are beautiful. I have struggled with my weight for years and after 2 kids I have finally realized that I am beautiful no matter what anyone else thinks, and so are you. Each and every person is beautiful in a different way. Some of you have beautiful eyes, some it's their smile, others it's their personality but you are beautiful in your own way. I am going to try and help you see past your flaws and see your beauty.
Since I have already said to compliment yourself everyday, that is just the first step. When you are having a bad day, do your make up and hair and take pictures for no reason. I used to do this many times a month and it helped me tons. If you are brave enough, do it without make up and maybe even in a bra and panties. Some women find it hard to love their bodies especially if they have gained weight for any reason. If you have stretch marks, remember how you got them. For some it is from children, for others they are from either a weight gain or a weight loss. No matter how you got them, you earned them for whatever reason. Look at them in a positive light. See past them. If you don't like how your body looks, tell yourself you can and will change it. I know losing weight is hard, but not as hard as some may think. Doing the simplest things burn calories. Turn some music on and dance for 15 minutes everyday. You will sweat and have fun. Pole dancing is something I have recently gotten in to and it's fun, makes me feel sexy and it burns calories. No you won't be a pro right away but you can just have fun and dance and melt off some of the extras you don't love. If you stay positive about your body image, you will start feeling better about it.
Sex with weight issues is never an easy thing to do or talk about. If you have issues about how you look, my picture idea will help with that. Also if you are brave you can try to wear something sexy for your significant other. A sexy night gown will cover areas that you are not comfortable with. There are many to choose from on Eden Fantasys and they are very affordable. The packaging is always discreet and they have size charts to make sure you get the right fit for your body. Also, rather than having lights on all the way or completely off, you can use candles to give a very romantic feel to the room. Another way to add a little spice without baring everything is a blindfold for your partner. I also believe in talking to your partner about your comfort level when trying new things. If you communicate more with your partner, you will both be more happy about your sex life. Trying new things may also help with your body image issues. If you are open with your partner about your feelings, you may be pleasantly surprised with the outcome.
Once you have gotten to know yourself better and you start feeling comfortable with your body, start to do little things for yourself that will make you feel even better. Building your self esteem may take a little while, but in due time you will feel as beautiful as you look inside and out. Remember, you are beautiful even if you don't see it now. Some day my hope is everyone will feel as beautiful as they look.