Have you ever sat and watched little children at a park? They just play. They don't care if the other kid is black, white, thin, fat or even polka-dotted, they just have fun. Then, somewhere along the way, they change. When, where, and who is influencing them to do so? The influences are aplenty, but they include magazines, actors, music, moms and dads.

We can blame magazines all we want, but they’re just pictures. Music stars and actors, who doesn't want to be like their idols? I noticed something that just made me wonder and a little mad.

See, guys brag to other guys about all the hot ass they get, right? For some dumb-ass reason, we women flock to these guys thinking they got something we want, right? We do some sexual things we may have never done otherwise. We are like “yes I got this guy who really is into me, if I only play my cards right” but then he turns around and dumps you. After he gets what he wants and we get attached.

Then we get all down on ourselves when they don't want us for one reason or another. Then we think we have to change. We begin to think that we are fat, too thin, ugly, whatever, right? We go on a diet, exercise more, change hair styles, and make-up. This starts in early teens nowadays.

As time goes on we change so much about ourselves that we may not even know who we are any more. We do things we may not normally do. Sometimes we may slip into depression. When things can go really bad for us we swear off men. We become more reliant on our vibrators, which is not all bad, at times. The more you know about yourself the more you build confidence.

When talking with other women they will all have something they hate about themselves, they can answer it within a second. Ask them what they like about themselves and they have to think about it. What the heck ladies? We need to stop. We are smart, we are the ones that work, raise kids, take care or homes sometimes with or without men in our lives. We are powerful, strong and we have vibrators if we need them.

When guys are asked, they say really don't want the totally perfect girl. They don't want to marry the one-night stand. So, we don't need to throw ourselves at them. In fact, there are articles to that support this. Being ourselves is the best route; we don't have to sleep with them on the first date unless we want to. We have a choice.

Something I have discovered is that women are the hardest on each other. I don't know why, but we judge each other in every way. From hair, clothes, all the way to how we raise our kids, women blog and follow blogs a lot and if they don't like what they see, they attack. They are downright mean. We have seen parents on youtube cheering their children on and even bullying others in email or on Facebook.

We as women have started to take control of our bodies, our sexual beings. Not only are we taking control in our lives, we take control in bed as well. By doing this, we tell the people in our lives that we are confident and we love who we are. Even that muffin top. Stare in the mirror at yourself, run your hand over your body and get to know your body. Every inch. You need to know your body in every way.

As women, we can change this in ourselves and in our children, if we start now. We can make our girls strong, confident women. To love their bodies no matter what. We can teach our boys to respect girls as the equals that they are.