Do you feel inadequate in the bedroom? Are you worried about not having orgasms during sex with your partner or not having them "fast enough?" Well, you aren't alone and there is probably a scientific reason as to why you feel the way you do. No female reproductive system is wired the same and that means that no female can be aroused exactly the same as another. What turns you on might not do it for the next girl.

You know the feelings you get when your body is caressed? When your lover kisses you or puts fingers in your vagina? These simulations are felt by your nervous system, which then sends signals to your brain about what is going on with your body. You have a very intricate nervous system throughout your whole body and it is very complex in the pelvic area of females. There are nerves branching out in the vagina, clitoris, perineum, and cervix, but they are usually more prominent in a certain area based on the individual. No two females have the same branching of nerves in each part of their reproductive system.

I was ecstatic when I found out about the nervous system in female bodies. It just made perfect sense to me! This is why some women can have vaginal orgasms at the drop of a dime but other women have to have extreme clitoral stimulation or even anal stimulation to have an orgasm. This is why something that your partner did with a past "lover" got them off but won't do a thing for you. Please, don't let it get you down.

There is nothing wrong with you if you have a hard time reaching orgasm. Perhaps you just do not know what really turns you on. You can't be afraid to experiment with different things to find out what you really enjoy. For example: maybe you have more nerves branching out in your perineum and at the top of your rectum than you do in your vagina or clitoris but you have always been afraid to try anal sex. Well maybe since you have never had any kind of anal stimulation you have not been able to really experience your sexuality to the fullest. Maybe you need that extra stimulation to reach orgasm. Don't be intimidated or scared; just play with yourself first in order to tell your partner or potential partner what it is that you like.

The whole idea of the nervous system being different for every female really makes me rethink everything about sex. Just because your lover was able to get a past sexual partner off in a certain way doesn't mean that he/she will be able to do the same for you because you are anatomically different. This means that every relationship we enter has to have an open mind for everything sexual. We (as females at least) can't compare ourselves to each other! I know that it is very easy to compare and judge ourselves against other women, but we are just hurting ourselves in this process. We are not wired the same as the girls we watch in a porno or our best friends or the actresses that we look up to, so it's just not fair to compare ourselves in such a way. We need to see ourselves (and our vaginas) as individuals and start treating ourselves like such.

If you want to know more on this subject and your anatomy I suggest that you look it up. You are free to know yourself and your own body. It is every woman's right to know what she enjoys and what gets her off. If you want to see an image of your nervous system in relation to your vagina just Click Here.

I hope that this information will inspire you to learn more about your anatomy and the history of female reproduction and oppression. There is a reason that this information is not publicly known and I think it is because sexually free and empowered women are so powerful that they (we) can change this planet! So if you are with me read up on the history of women and try to love your fellow female instead of comparing and judging yourself against her. She's probably doing the same to you so we are all just killing each other slowly... it's sad. We're the creators of life! We deserve to be happy and to be comfortable and all women should be allies because we have such a strong bond. Yes, men help us create life by fertilizing our eggs, but they will never know what it is like to grow a seed into a child and then deliver that child into the world.

Perhaps I'm being idealistic, but I believe that all women should be allies! We need each other! We have to stick together to make sure this planet is a suitable and loving place for our children. If this were paper I'd be shedding tears on my ink because I feel so strongly about the female connection. I've been through so much abuse just like I know that most of you have as well. I wish that I could make your pain go away. I wish that I could make you love yourself, but I know how hard it is. I know how much of a struggle self-acceptance is. We have been made to believe that we are in competition with each other, but we will not survive this life and this planet until we are helping and loving each other! I love my fellow females and I wish so deeply for you all to find peace and happiness in some way. I can assure you that I have shared your pain, judgment, and discrimination for as long as I have been alive and I want to stop it now. I just want to tell every woman out there that I love you! No matter who you are or what you do or how many problems you have in your life. I love you and I believe in you. We can be strong together and we do not have to feel the pain that we carry around each and every day. We CAN make a change in this place. I believe in us. I believe in YOU! Lets help each other, lets help our children, let's be what we were designed to be and MOTHER this planet back to life!